It can be disappointing when no one believes in or supports you or your vision. It can be hurtful when those same people choose to do so only after your vision comes to fruition. Beware of those people for they often come with a saboteur spirit and a crab in the barrel mentality. They are energy vampires and dream killers. They are a cancer.
People love to talk about “Red Flags” but they, themselves, fail to see them. Red Flags, by definition, are warning signs that indicate danger, unhealthy, or manipulative behavior. There are always flags in every relationship and the red ones were signed, sealed, and delivered the moment they doubted you and failed to give you the support you wanted from them.
First, stop expecting any and every one to understand you, your dreams and goals, and your mission/vision and using their response, or lack thereof, to affect your forward momentum. But instead, do REQUIRE any and every one in your inner circle ⭕️ to believe in and support YOU! Period. We have a tendency to idolise people and rationalize their actions and behaviors, often regulating things to a "phase," or "that is just the way they are." To rationalize is to accept; is to tolerate. We send the signal that is ok to handle us without care and that we are willing to tolerate the unhealthy treatment we are given. We send these signals then get depressed, mad, and sad when we are treated exactly the way we gave permission to others to treat us. We cry, yell, and scream at the unfairness of it all and do not stop to acknowledge the role we play in these toxic relationships. We are not accountable for how people treat us. We are accountable for how we move after the treatment.
If you have people in your inner circle that do not believe in you, support you, cheer for you, assist you or do anything that pours love and light back in to you, then they do not belong in your inner circle and should be exiled immediately before they poison you with self doubt and sabotage your growth. Their presence will infect your life leaving a poisonous trail of destruction that can potentially have lifelong and generational effects. These people can be your mother, father, sister, brother, child, friend, or lover. It could anyone. We forget that all of those people are people too and that people do people things! Don’t be surprised when people act like people do. Labels and titles do not exempt someone from being human and doing all the ugly things that humans do and they definitely do not stop someone from acting and behaving in the ways that they want to.
Your inner circle should SOULly (solely) be comprised of people who root for you, lift you up, hold you accountable, and desire to plant good seeds in the garden of your mind (amongst other things). It should be based on agape love. Do you know what agape love is? It is a Christian principle that considers it to be the highest form of love characterized by being "sacrificial, unconditional, and selfless." Agape love is expressed clearly through acts of kindness, compassion, and service. Do the people in your inner circle make sacrifices for you? Love you without terms and conditions? Focuses less on themselves and pours into you? Do they do kind things for you simply to put a smile on your face? Do they exemplify compassion, empathy, and understanding when your life be lifing? Do they have a "service mindset," recognizing your needs, serving others in need, and do their part to improve your world, theirs, and others? If you answered no to one or more of those questions, then answer me this, why are they in your inner circle so close to your body, mind, and spirit...your temple? Why do they have an all access pass to that sacred place?
You may have considered your circle(s) and found that you have no one at all within those rings; nobody that cares about you or is invested in you. If so, do not be discouraged! You forget that your inner circle contains another. One that is filled in without space ⚫️...YOU! Your ring of circles start with YOU! You are the first and most important circle. Consider yourself. Do you believe in YOU? Do you support YOU? Do you love YOU? Do you hold YOURSELF accountable? Do you lift YOURSELF up? Do you cheer for YOU? Do you motivate YOURSELF?
These are things you should be doing for yourself off top and doing so regardless if anyone else is doing it or not! People are fickle. They can shapeshift and switch up. If you put all of these actions and behaviors in one basket, what will you do when it is broken, stolen, or mishandled? Where will you get the cheers, love, motivation, and support from then? If what you seek is not already in you, how can you expect to receive, maintain, and retain those things? You can't because your dependence was placed on outside rings and not your own. You do not know how to do these things for yourself and will continue living life chasing and seeking it from others. If you want unlimited access to and an abundance of these things, plant them yourself, tend to your garden, and grow them within. Do not depend on no (wo)man for things that you can give yourself.
Understand that everything that comes from you and your innermost circle will radiate outward and attract like energies to your rings. It is simple mathematics. If you want better, be better. Invest in yourself and cease searching for sponsors. Show yourself, and others, agape love and watch how your life changes for the good. Take time today to really reflect on your ring of circles and ask yourself about what is being poured in as well as what is being poured out. If it doesn't align, you must decline.
The choice is yours and we all have choices.
I pray you choose YOU!
Peace ✌🏽
@Blakkmomba
