The Double-Edged Sword of Social Drinking in LGBTQ+ Culture Social drinking has long been intertwined with LGBTQ+ culture, tracing back to the era when gay bars served as vital safe havens for queer individuals seeking connection and community in a…
I Deserve an Oscar for Pretending to Be Straight for All Those Years The portrayal of LGBTQ+ characters on television has evolved significantly over the years, from the early days of stereotypical gay best friend roles to more nuanced and diverse r…
“If I Have the Choice Between Disappointing You and Myself, I'm Probably Gonna Pick You.” Many gay men pour a tremendous amount of effort into looking “attractive.” We hit the gym religiously, splurge on stylish clothes, per…
Survival of the Fiercest? In the world of dating, particularly within the gay community, it’s common to find oneself comparing to others, especially potential partners. Thoughts like “Is he more muscular?” or “Does he seem m…
Okay, Gays, Now Let’s Get in Formation ACT UP emerged in the late 1980s as a fiery and unapologetic response to the AIDS epidemic, a crisis that was devastating communities while being met with indifference from the government and broader soc…
Got Loneliness? Growing up gay in a predominantly straight world can have a profound impact on how gay men experience loneliness. The lack of representation and absence of gay role models often leave us feeling invisible, isolated, or as if we don&…
Gays May Have More Disposable Income, But Therapy Bills from Growing Up Gay Add Up There’s a common stereotype that gay men are cultured, fabulous, and flush with cash—jet-setting across the globe with seemingly limitless resources. Thi…
Men May Let You Down, But Succulents Never Disappoint In recent years, a growing trend on social media has sparked conversations around the rise of the "plant daddy" and "plant gay" identities. Whether it's a Millennial phenomenon, a queer cultural…
"Good or Bad, It's Just a Piece of My Past Now" Breakups can be emotionally overwhelming, often leaving people questioning their sense of self and the path forward. For many gay men, this experience can be compounded by societal pressures and inter…
Say Bye Bye Bye to Abandonment Issues When people hear the term abandonment issues, they often associate it with instability in childhood homes—scenarios where neglect or a lack of support created lingering wounds in adulthood. But for many g…
