Make the Yuletide Gay with These Movies
Holiday films have long been a staple of the season, offering warmth, joy, and plenty of sentimentality. However, for LGBTQ+ audiences, traditional holiday movies often lack the representation needed to reflect their unique experiences. Over the years, the emergence of queer holiday films has provided a refreshing take on the holiday genre, offering not only representation but also authentic stories that resonate with many individuals in the community.
Beyond the joy of seeing characters that reflect our lives, many LGBTQ+ viewers find these movies more relatable than their traditional counterparts. Queer holidays often come with their own set of challenges—family dynamics, societal pressures, and personal expectations can complicate the season. While mainstream holiday films often paint an overly cheerful picture, queer holiday movies tend to tackle these complexities, albeit with a lighter touch.
Holiday in Handcuffs: My Surprising First Encounter with Queer Holiday Themes
My first introduction to a queer character in a holiday movie was unexpected, especially considering it was a made for tv movie. "Holiday in Handcuffs" (2007), an ABC Family original starring Melissa Joan Hart and Mario Lopez, isn't necessarily a gay story. Yet, it includes a memorable subplot involving Trudy’s brother, who casually comes out to his sister in a candid, heartfelt conversation.
This scene was groundbreaking to me, offering a subtle but significant moment of representation. For many closeted queer individuals watching, like I was at the time, it was an affirming experience. The casual, nonchalant acceptance of the brother’s sexuality by his sister stood out in contrast to the shame or dramatic revelations often associated with coming out in the media. It presented a hopeful narrative that you can be gay and still have a loving, supportive family and a serious, long-term relationship.
The Family Stone: Tackling Complex Family Dynamics
"The Family Stone" (2005) is another holiday classic that, while not centered around its gay characters, includes a significant queer storyline. The movie follows a liberal family, and one of the sons, Thad, is gay and deaf. Thad and his partner are in the process of adopting a child, and the couple is fully embraced by the family.
However, the film doesn’t shy away from uncomfortable moments, particularly during a dinner conversation about nature vs. nurture. Sarah Jessica Parker's character, Meredith, clumsily questions whether bringing a child into a same-sex household might affect their sexual orientation. The scene, while cringeworthy, highlights the real tensions and misunderstandings that can arise even within progressive families. The family’s protective response to Meredith’s insensitivity feels authentic, emphasizing the importance of standing up for loved ones.
Happiest Season: Navigating the Pressures of the Perfect Holiday
Jumping forward to 2020, "Happiest Season" offers a more modern take on queer holiday storytelling. Starring Kristen Stewart as Abby and Mackenzie Davis as Harper, this movie blends the humor and heart of holiday films with deeper emotional struggles. Abby, who has been out for years, is forced back into the closet when Harper admits she hasn’t come out to her conservative family yet. What follows is a tension-filled holiday where Abby must navigate a complicated dynamic, feeling like an outsider once again.
This movie resonates with many in the LGBTQ+ community, particularly those who have struggled with the decision to come out. Harper’s internal battle to present a “perfect” image for her family, despite knowing it comes at the cost of her relationship with Abby, is all too familiar for many queer people. Dan Levy’s character, Abby’s best friend, delivers a poignant line about the terror of coming out and how everyone’s journey is different. This recognition of the unique challenges faced by queer people trying to balance familial expectations and their own identity is what makes "Happiest Season" so impactful.
Single All the Way: A Lighthearted Love Story
For those who prefer a lighter holiday romp, "Single All the Way" (2021) provides the perfect balance of humor and heart. Starring Michael Urie as Peter, the film follows him as he returns home for the holidays with his best friend, Nick, in tow. What starts as a ruse to avoid his family’s questions about his love life quickly turns into a genuine love story between Peter and Nick.
This film is notable for its depiction of a queer love story that doesn’t revolve around trauma or the struggle for acceptance. Instead, it celebrates love and family without the typical conflicts often seen in LGBTQ+ narratives. Jennifer Coolidge’s iconic comedic performance adds another layer of delight, ensuring this movie will become a favorite for years to come.
The Duality of the Holidays for LGBTQ+ People
These films, whether serious or lighthearted, tap into the dual nature of the holidays for many LGBTQ+ individuals. While the season is often associated with joy and togetherness, it can also bring stress, loneliness, and the pressure to conform to societal expectations. Queer holiday movies explore these themes in ways that resonate deeply with LGBTQ+ audiences. The stories of characters navigating family expectations, failed relationships, and career struggles reflect the realities that many within the community face.
Ultimately, these films remind us that the holidays are about more than just gifts and decorations—they’re about connection, acceptance, and finding joy in being true to oneself.
So, if you’re looking to add a little more queer cheer to your holiday movie marathon, these films are a great place to start. Whether you’re seeking heartfelt stories or laugh-out-loud moments, there’s an LGBTQ+ holiday movie out there for everyone.
And remember. Every day is all we have, so you've got to make your own happiness.
For more information on this topic, listen to Episode 36. Make the Yuletide (Movies) Gay.
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