Hi, I'm Rob Loveless, and I’m here to share my journey as a formerly jaded gay man. Well, maybe still jaded sometimes. It really depends on the day. But let's start from the beginning.
I’m a 31-year-old cisgender gay man with blue eyes, standing 5'8" (or 5'9" in my Timbs). But let's skip the stats and get real.
I came out ten years ago and have been through the dating wringer. I've seen the good, the bad, and the downright ugly. Whether or not I was dating or in a relationship, loneliness was a constant companion. Looking back, I understand my codependent tendencies were a big part of the problem.
Recognizing these patterns, I've worked hard to become more mindful of my dating behaviors and those of the men I date. Years of bad experiences could have left me jaded and cynical. And for a while, it did. But I’ve made a conscious effort to move past the jadedness by exploring ways to balance spirituality, meditation, and the challenge of reconciling my religion with my sexuality.
That’s why I launched A Jaded Gay in April 2022. Originally a podcast, my goal was to create a space for like-minded gay men to discuss the unique challenges we face compared to our straight counterparts regarding dating and protection our emotional well-being. And since then, the podcast has grown to become a network of guests, resources, blog posts, and more.
A Jaded Gay isn’t just about emotional well-being. It’s a platform to discuss all things gay – from pop culture and politics to current events. These aspects of life impact us in unique ways, and discussing them is vital to our journey toward emotional well-being.
Full disclosure: I'm not a psychologist, life coach, or anything like that. I went to school for communications, write fancy emails for a living, and am an aspiring author.
Everything here is my thoughts, opinions, and experiences I've encountered in my life as a gay man, along with some research and resources.
After all, every day is all we have, so you've got to make your own happiness.
Tune into your favorite podcast player every Tuesday for new episodes of A Jaded Gay.
