The True Life Story Of Dani Tygr

Brock Goldberg:   0:00
All right. All right, I'll ride. How's everyone doing? Thank you so much for tuning into the podcast, man. She's

Dani Tygr:   0:07
a little crazy right

Brock Goldberg:   0:08
now. I I just can't believe Ah, this is all happening. I mean, I guess I can, but it's still ah, shocked to see the events unfolding right before your eyes. Minute by minute, second by second. Um, just everyone be safe, practice social distancing. Understand that this isn't a joke. It will come to pass in time. But we just have to follow the strict rules. And I know it's hard for people out there. Some people aren't working. Some people don't have enough money, even put food on the plate. Shit is fucking crazy. But if we think cool common collectively, things will get back to a normal pace. Although it takes time, it will happen. We have been through way worse throughout the generations. Truly understand that way. Worse, the Spanish influenza of 1918 killed 50 million people like a fucking blink of an eye. We made it past that. We will make it past this. So remember, be cool, common collective and what is really fucking help me out doing all of this is that Jupiter CBD that I always talk about that special tincture that ah has just blown my fucking mind. It's literally got me to calm down. It's really helped alleviate my stress levels on a day to day basis. Um, and I guess I'll just plug it right now because we're talking about it. Uh, that's so funny. But you guys want to get something. You want to try it? They're offering a two week trial. Ah, for all my listeners, it's normally 29 bucks doing $19 for you guys. It's called the Jupiter Journey. Try this stuff today. Go to get jupiter dot com, Use the code story time. You'll get $10 off. And you guys have got a two week trial of this amazing goody goody goody goody goody stuff. And ah, right, so who

Dani Tygr:   2:03
do we

Brock Goldberg:   2:03
have on the podcast today? We have Miss Danny Tiger. Wow, that's a terrible tiger sound, but this was amazing progress. I've known her for years. One of the first women I ever met in the hair industry. Ah, she has a story to tell. She has been to hell and back and has made it on top. I am impressed. I am inspired. And I cannot wait for you guys to listen to this amazing pod gas. All right, let's get to it. From the land of mystery, with dreams become reality. Always listening to stories from the past, the present and the future. This is back. You know where I want to start It

Dani Tygr:   3:12
all you want to ask me right now? I'm like, don't it wasn't that crazy. This is crazy That, like, just started here. I love the intro to the pod. I mean, one of the word go.

Brock Goldberg:   3:26
Well, you know, when I first started, I was like, Welcome to back to

Dani Tygr:   3:29
your story. I love your intros. You singing?

Brock Goldberg:   3:33
I'm in the beginning. Yeah,

Dani Tygr:   3:37
haunted mansion he like, I just Yeah, I

Brock Goldberg:   3:41
shout out to Steven Gizzi. He's ah, amazing composer because time's a worker like DreamWorks and Netflix, and I gave him this idea. It is so crazy when you give people ideas or something that you want done for you. Anything from a house to a you know, music, right? Um, they're usually needs to be edits, right? Like a website or whatever, right? I painted out the picture for him. Right? And when he served it up, I was like, What the fuck? And I did that voice recording in my car on my phone.

Dani Tygr:   4:13
Just absolutely. That's true artist. Right following its true calling. Then 20

Brock Goldberg:   4:18
six years old, just bought his first house on Diz doing some amazing work that I can't talk about on the podcast right now, but I just can't even imagine, you know, And you understand, hustle. You understand? Dr Right? Is that something that hasn't been a part of you? Because I've known you for years now. I know you've always been on the ground.

Dani Tygr:   4:38
You know what I was thinking? I was when you asked me to do this podcast. I was like, I told my dear, but I'm like, oh, blah blah about this podcast me like, Oh, I love rock a mic. And he's like, Oh, how'd you meet him? And I was like, Oh, I would shit. Like, how did we me? I can't. I mean, obviously was through the hustle. Yeah, absolutely. But like, I can't even remember it. No, but yeah, I've been hustling for about 13 years now, so I don't remember and we meet so many people. Yeah, I remember when I was younger, like and out and about in Hollywood, More because that's before Instagram and Social Media. You actually talk to people? Yes. So I was like at I don't know, some bar and we hope and I saw it was like a weird mix between, like reality stars and realty TV stars. And I were doing film and TV and shoots and clients and like seeing so many clients. It was so many people. I was meeting that like there was this reality TV guy and I may have had a few drinks and I was like, Who's doing your hair? You need to come see me. You haven't seen you in forever. And he's just like, Who the fuck I want my client like, I just thought, like I recognized him from somewhere. And I thought I had to have been his hair at some point

Brock Goldberg:   5:49
that his suit

Dani Tygr:   5:50
and he was super cool because most people probably are just like, Oh my God, I'm such a fan And I was just like your hair looks like shit. And he's like, really like, Yeah, it was super really We were like friends after that. It was so funny. And that's what I've always

Brock Goldberg:   6:02
liked about you, is you've always been really is Father. I've always been really this fucking I think that's important because, you know, we live this life that is just so finite, right? And so many people try to put on this show right on, especially social media today it's it's fucking massive. That being said, we as individuals, when we become true with ourself, I believe that we become better people, like of a shared with you on before the party gas. It's like one of the biggest reasons that I did the podcast is because I was sick and tired of being two people. The person that I'm on the inside and the person that I'm on the outside and say Everyone has that, uh, and to be able to bring in, merge those two people together. You feel a lot better, and it allows you to get back to your individual story and then work on the things that you need to dio something. Since

Dani Tygr:   6:55
I think humans have so much potential, maybe some a little more than others. I think that to reach that potential, it's like you do have to get uncomfortable and you have to grow, which is always uncomfortable, and most of us don't want to do that. So we just stay Stagg man or, you know, we just don't ever reach those levels. And that's what I've noticed about anyone that I look up to her admire. It's like they've gone through the fire and it's like they have grown through whatever mess they've come across, which is usually like inside yourself, and they've just It's almost like they've reached the other side, and that's definitely where I'm at right now. And it may just be like our age were talking about earlier. Like 30 the twenties were just so awesome and in the thirties or so fucking hard.

Brock Goldberg:   7:42
It's so real. It's like something that smacks. You write in your frickin face.

Dani Tygr:   7:46
I was like having a complete meltdown in my dude who he's in his 40 early forties, and he was this, like I went through the same thing, and I'm like what? I was the only one that was a mess, like working. If you're willing to like, you know, be vulnerable and like have the strength torch through those fears, which is so annoying because people always say that mumbling like that work there. But once you start doing it, you're like, Oh, shit. But you know, I That's where I met on my journey and I've definitely like, fallen and you know, first times where I'm weak, there's time of Armstrong and just recently I got back to a place where you know, I didn't It was just too hard and it was too uncomfortable. And I was like, I just want to go back to my comfort zone. You know, that sucked because it's like once you have a touch of the other side, it's like you know better,

Brock Goldberg:   8:38
Of course, absolutely on. And there's two different types of like, being uncomfortable. There's one that is, you know, good. And then there's one that's bad, right? Um, the good type of being uncomfortable is it's important, you know, my wife and I, we talk about it all the time. It's what drives you being vulnerable. Opening yourself up allows you to open yourself up for new opportunities, allows you to push it, gives you that Dr But then the other type is where you're doing something wrong. You know, I told you about my relapse. You know, if I relapse in December and my wife had to catch me fucking, you know, doing drugs in the bathroom, and it's like what the fuck it was 3 a.m. And it was like, instantly it was years of being sober. And then all of a sudden, you get that little taste, and it's like, I'm fucking uncomfortable all the time because all I care about is getting to the bathroom to hide and do stupid shit, right? And as I was saying before is like a very happy that that happened because, um, I know how fragile all of that shit is. And I know that I will never, ever, ever go back because the life that I have would never have been built on these fucking faulty bullshit things that we do, right, I and and for you, you know, you're so open. And I appreciate that you came on because I have I've always loved your drive, your motivation. There's just something about you that has this presence. But at the same time, I know that there's a lot more inside and that, uh, you know, your life and things that you've gone through on so kind of getting back to your story. It's like, Where did you start? Where did you originate from? Where'd you come from?

Dani Tygr:   10:22
Yeah, so, um, it's so funny. You're so awesome. Brock, this is like making me think already like you. I'm like, I feel like I didn't meditate for long enough, but, um, yeah, I love that. You say that like, we're two different people. And for the longest time, like I always It's funny because I actually took a peer counseling class in high school, and I feel like that was, like, the like, the little I don't know. I got the ball rolling of, like me being who I was and just being open and comfortable with, like, talking about your emotions and just being like a very authentic because everyone always says yes. Um, but yeah, I remember the point that I got two in my life. I literally remember where I was standing, what I was doing, what happened when I felt myself empty out. I'm just, like, bottom out. Not like in a, you know, drug sense of the way, but, like, just bought him out Where, like, you know, you're you're so young and you have all this excitement and, you know, for me, I've always been such an open person, and they share and I give of myself. And that's kind of how I end up getting in a hair. And then if you don't, like, take care of yourself and give back to yourself and nurture yourself. You just, um d l s o I got to that point. And now I've been on this crazy journey of, like, trying to fill back up again, and it's been really hard, but it's been really awesome. So, um, that being said, I, um yeah, I'm you know, l a born and raised. So I've been so cowgirl my whole life. Um, yeah, but, you know, everyone has a crazy story. We're kind of talking about that before the podcast is like, my dude has, like mom and Dad and the sister, and I don't have that exactly. It's very complicated. So, um, yeah, I basically kind of just started doing my own thing, like at the age of 12 13 14. And I always did really well, though. And so Buchi e had a problem? Yes, right, bogey. Mama's trying to talk sharing her story. Yeah, so you know. But for some reason, even though I has so much freedom in my life to just make whatever choices I wanted Thio, um, I've always been, like, a really strong woman of faith. And so I've always That's always been the foundation of who I am. Even when my whole family, like, turned away from it, I just went to church by myself or I just like, you know, where the Bible myself. I just stayed in that, um and so I got, like, straight A's in school, and I didn't really well, and I was really friendly with everyone. And, um So when I went to college, I was like, Okay, you know what I'm doing with my life. But at the same time, all I know is that I want to help people, you know, when I'm a nurture. But I don't wanna have kids. Super weird. I don't

Brock Goldberg:   13:02
know what's out of the hole.

Dani Tygr:   13:03
Yeah. So I was like, Okay, well, what am I going to do? So I of course I studied psychology because peer counseling definitely got me into, like, makes sense. Why the fucker people so crazy? You know what I mean? And I love that. And but going into that and call it it was very clinical and very dry and very like untouched. And I'm I'm extremely a sense that I have an extremely emotional person. So I was like, Okay, this is gonna work. So I took, like, human communication classes, and I just really learned how to talk with people on how to speak. And it really had to be more open, um, with myself, but also like to other people and two other ideas and things like that. And then someone came along in my life who was a hairdresser, and he planted the seed of me being a hairdresser. So he was like, What are you doing? Like you're taking All because I was, You know, we would go out and party in this night and anything. I gotta go to school, you know? And he's like, What? Your go to school every single day, like you're there all day while you're taking so many classes. And I was like, I don't know what I want to do. And so we just had this conversation and is actually, I don't know. You mean Oh, Danny Winter. Okay, so we're in his apartment and his belt, it is a very long time of this is I mean, 15 years ago, and I know it's a small world, right? So he had a roommate at the time, that was the hardest. And Danny wasn't a hairdresser back that just so crazy. Like we've all seen anything but his roommate at the time. And you think this guy was just, like, crashing with him for a little while or whatever and he was a surgical guy. And he's like, You know, what are you doing with your life? Like, I don't know. And so Danny was like rolling his own cigarettes in the patio. And we're just like having this conversation, and you just like, pulled it out of me. And he's like, What do you want to do? Like, what makes you happy? And so we're going back and forth, and then he's like, Have you ever thought about you know, the beauty industry, like hair makeup and I'm like, That's not a real job and He's like summer bitch like That's what I did. I I like it. And he was just such an amazing mentor. And he's like your college. They probably have some kind of makeup class that you can go to and see if you even like it or they're even good at it. And then if you're not shut the door and like, find something else. But I think he saw in me like he knew that. Like, you know, like, now that we're hairdressers, it's like, you can you see your breed, You speak the language, and that's kind of like Solid and me. And he was just an amazing mentor. So I did. I went and took a makeup class, and I've told this story a lot, but, um that

Brock Goldberg:   15:22
that that started that that that is really freaking fascinating. I mean, going through everything that you've gone through, right? Um, I kind of look back at your past, and you didn't talk too much about family. Right? Um, what type of role has family played in your own personal journey? Especially when you were younger?

Dani Tygr:   15:44
Oh, so complicated. It's okay. And it's funny because you don't for me I didn't realize when I was younger. Like I just hit the delete button, Mom. All the ugly stuff. And I was just like, I love life. And I've always just been like a very joyful, you know, person. Um, but that only lasts for so does your storage bin gets really full of trash bin and the new it explodes in your mess. So, um, yeah, I have. So my I don't know my biological father, Um and then So my mom had me when she was, like, in her twenties, and then, um, just the two of us and her mom and her dad so to me, and they're my grandparent's, my Grammy and Pop. And I have their portrait on my shoulders because to me, they're like my angels, and I just grow very, very close with, um, my pop did pass away. Thanks. Six years ago, Um, but he was the father figure in my life 100%. So I mean, you know, I had a father. Basically, it was him. It's amazing. And then heat. My mom actually married, remarried when I was, like, two. And this man had a daughter that was like three. So her and I, um, our sisters s like them too. And us, too. We became a little family, and then they had a son. So I have a younger brother, so it's really complicated, like it's funny. I was telling my my man his telling his parents that story. And I was like, I think I had something like, Yeah, I come from a blended family and his dad is so sweet. He's like, It's beautiful. I've never heard blink. I mean, I don't know how else to describe it because we were so little on. My mom is so loving, and she just was like, We're a family, you know, Like you don't I don't want you to feel like you're different because I had a different last name or, you know, whatever. And it's crazy now, looking like 30 years back, that my sister and I are She's my angel from heaven. I mean, she is the most incredible. She's my hero. She's an amazing person. She's a military, you know, spell. If she lives in Hawaii, she has to Cade. She's like a fitness instructor, Mummy, like she's just such a bad ass. She's just this like nature adventure. Like Earth Mother Goddess like she's just amazing. Like I can literally cried is talking about ourselves. I think God brings people into our lives for a certain reason. But yeah, our family fell apart when I was young, and so I basically like that when I was 12 13 14 I lived on my own with my mom. She almost died of cancer. It's like a whole as I made the whole story.

Brock Goldberg:   18:06
They had to be hard.

Dani Tygr:   18:07
Um, yeah. So I felt pretty solo for a long time, and I didn't I didn't think of that because I'm Spanish, you know, like my and European too. But, like we're very family, you know? And so I didn't feel alone. But looking back, I'm like, damn like, really It's kind of how to go at it alone and very mature at a very young age.

Brock Goldberg:   18:26
Yeah, for sure. I mean, going through those experiences at such young age, you know, your biological father not being there fucking terrible. Any man on the face of the planet that does something like that so fucking should burn in hell. I'm not even joking because, like I said, before Life is so fragile, so finite. And you bring this beautiful person into this world and to not nurture and love. And obviously we're humans. We make mistakes, but to not be a part of that, I mean, I can't even imagine I lost my dad at 17. Right? But all through all the shit that you know and I went through Hey, he was my rock. Right. And unfortunately for you, your your pops and your poverty, right you were was that rock? And I am. You know, my heart does bleed for you going through something like that. And then your mom cancer in the family, splitting up. All of these things happen, and it's just life, and we just go through it and we don't realize it when we're younger. But as we reflect back when we're older, we're like, Fuck, man, how did I make it through that? And that's why for me, I'm such a big proponent for therapy, right? It's like getting these things off of your chest, working through your stuff. Because when you're speaking to your husband, your brother, your sister, this person, that person, the very buys right, they have a one sided view on things. Even if they say that they don't like, it's just the way it is his life. And, uh, you know, being able to work through that, even coming on here, talking to me, you know, it's it is good. It's important to get this shit off your chest. So instead of filling up that bin, let it out, let it out, let it out. And maybe, uh, the people around me say I talk too much about my feelings. But you know what? I'm joking. But you know, when you said that you're sensitive, I'm fucking sense everyone. My heart on my sleeve. So I know what that's like, right? And going through trauma when you're younger, looking back as an adult. Now, what do you think? Uh, what role did that play into being the person that you are today?

Dani Tygr:   20:26
Well, it's funny that you say that because I mean, it's everything, especially at the point I met in my life where I am putting in the work to, like, kill those broken wounds and all these things. Um, you know, now it's just more working on, like, forgiveness and realizing that like as painful as it Woz, and it's completely made me who I am because I know who he is. My biological father. But he just rejected me. And, um, it was weird, too, because his mom was like, You know, you have to you have to be there for her and he's just like No, but she made it happen, you know? And still, like, I remember I'd have to go visit on the weekends and it was just horrible. But if I don't know who they are and I hated being away from who I felt was my family and it was just I was so young and like some very horrible things happen, like during that time. You mean like, let me not to get, like, super deep, but, um, as a really bad, you know, it was really, really bad and like through that I mean, I I was her in a lot of ways, but it more so was like it planted that seed in me that, like, I need that acceptance, you know what I mean. And I have to be perfect and I have to be great, and I have to do well. That's why I got straight A's in school and I'm not, you know, and even like in the hair industry, like I was unstoppable because I just had this thing inside me that was like, maybe, And it's hilarious because I just think like, Okay, maybe if I do this, then he'll love me. Which is like a subconscious, of course.

Brock Goldberg:   21:51
Of course. Of course I get it.

Dani Tygr:   21:52
And it's hilarious, Brock, because my biological father can. You ready to laugh? So his dream in life, Like how my dream was a hairdresser? No. But, um came to find out his dream was to be a blue trailer like a little eBay. Okay, really, Wrestler shut the fuck up. And it's holy areas because you know what? That's why me being in a dull I realize now that it's like we're all fucked up, you know what I mean? And we all just inherit the problems that we had, and I remember from my 12th birthday or 11 birthday, he gave me a gift, which I was like, Whoa, who's never given me a present before, and it was an autographed picture of him in his little lower mask. I I was so bad did on. Then he gave me his mask, which was like a pumpkin mask that he wore in the brain when he's wrestling and then like pictures of his fans like coming up to him and stuff. And I was like, First of all, this is the worst birthday gift and 11 year old girl can get Okay, But secondly, it's like looking back. It's it's weird because I lived my life wanting his acceptance, and he was kind of doing the same thing where he's like, maybe if she sees, like, all these fans I have and stuff like she'll want to love me and she'll want to be because I fucking hated wrestling like when I was little, he tried to make me watch videos, and I'm like, This is stupid, a fake and I hate it And it was like it was hurtful, you know? So we just have this, like, tumultuous like crazy relationship. But it's just interesting looking back as an adult and realizing like I I was in so much pain for so long, but I've had such an amazing, wonderful, beautiful life, and that's what these podcasts have really like maybe see you know that I'm like, You know what? She's kind of cool. It has a cool story, as opposed to seeing your perspective of it as, like, words painful l It's true. And I'm like, I don't think I would have done those things or I would have been the person that I am If I wasn't striving for love and acceptance. Yeah, it's, you know,

Brock Goldberg:   23:56
it's totally, totally made you the person that you are today. First off, he's a narcissist. That's I mean, that's just from the outside, right? Not to talk. Shit, I'm just joking. But But But that is crazy, right? That you're think, though, even from the outside and you being so introspective that you were feeding for acceptance, he was feeding for acceptance. Right? Um, but then, as an adult, you have been able to take that pain and that hurt and propel you to the front and push you and drive you and give you this motivation that you have today.

Dani Tygr:   24:29
And it turns into gratitude, which is crazy, because

Brock Goldberg:   24:33
have you been able? Um, if you don't let me ask, have you been able to forgive him?

Dani Tygr:   24:38
Um, I mean, It's part of what I'm working on right now. I mean, I definitely have had those moments where, you know, I'm like, Okay, what if I do? Do I just call him and you know, I don't I don't speak to him anymore. I haven't spoken to him in many, many, many years at this point, but I know that those wounds are still there something, man. I'm sure it would feel anything just like, you know, have a conversation. And no, I think it will happen someday. But it's just it's like going to the gym for that first step in there, like I don't want to go. But like, you know, you need Thio and it'll be easy want to get there, but

Brock Goldberg:   25:12
But it's it's it's so true. And, you know, forgiveness doesn't even mean that you have to talk to him and give him forgiveness is something that happens on the inside. And I understand that because growing up my thought that used to beat the shit out of me, he was an alcoholic, you know? Ah, he was He was flawed in many, many, many ways, and I didn't realize that for so long because I always put him on this pedestal, right, Because he passed, right? But recently, the past six months, I've realized like no, you know, he is a human. He is flawed. And it built up all this anger and resentment, and I fucking hated him for so long. And then recently, I've been able to look at from the outside and, well, you know, this man, you know, lost his dad at a young age. He served in Vietnam. War had major PTSD, Couldn't talk about his feelings, couldn't share it. So then all of these things, right? It exploded into this right Now, does that make him a bad person? No, he's a flawed person. Um, is he on that pedestal? No, not anymore. But I forgive him for the actions that he has done. And it takes time, You know, when everyone's story is different. So I appreciate you sharing That s o. Then we're gonna kind of dial it back again, right? Um and and I don't mean to push away from your father, right? But I think it's, uh, important you say your things, get it and then you have to move on. Right? Um, but Thank you. Thank you. I appreciate it. Seriously, Um, so I want to touch back on your mom, right? Your mom at 12 years old, she got diagnosed with cancer or 13.

Dani Tygr:   26:46
God, actually, it was Yeah, I guess it was. You know, honestly, at that time, I my mom and I are obviously extremely close. It was just the two of us for a long time. Um and so we're very connected. And I was in God, I want to say fourth grade. And my mom was sick, and I was like, We're going to school and we want me. My sister walked to school and I just was like, I can't go like something's wrong with Mom and I'm scared and I don't want to leave her. And she was scared because she knew something was wrong. So she was trying to get us out the door and, you know, we went to school and I was crying. And then that day my mom, um, got really sick, and she passed out and she threw up like, 2/3 of the blood in her body, which they have heard chemical imbalance in her brain. But what we didn't know is that she had a tumor in her esophagus, and it was growing into her stomach. So she was, like, practically choking on like a tumor. It was It was just crazy. Um, and she got misdiagnosed a lot. And so it was such a whirlwind and my whole like childhood. My mom always kept things for me. Like to keep me safe, which was horrible, because it just was so confused. I didn't understand anything. And so I got massive, massive separation anxiety from my mom and, um yeah, so it was crazy on, like, to this day. I still struggle with anxiety, like very, very, very badly. And it comes and goes, like for him. You know, for years it was gone and came back. Whatever. But you know, when you're in fourth grade, you don't know what? No, no,

Brock Goldberg:   28:23
not not at all. And, you know your mom holding suffering you. I don't think it was ever out of your debut stolen help. But you know his parents, right? Um, in the world and just you know, we both have parents. Obviously, we're here like this. If they're here or not, it's important to be open with your Children. Obviously, there's certain things that a certain age that you have todo you know, guided and, um, but holding things back, I remember my parents would do that a lot as well. And it's hard. It's hard, especially like, if you know, that they're lying to, um, it's even more difficult. But there is something about your mom that when you talk about her, there's two people that I saw your mom and your pops right now that you light up about what? What is it about the two of them that gives you that feeling?

Dani Tygr:   29:13
You make me cry. Drop. Um, you know, when it's just that that unconditional love, like you're saying like we're all fucked up. We all have issues. We all have gone through stuff in our childhood and Loblaw that's like why I don't want to have kids, But, um, at the end of the day, just the relationship that I had with my pop, the relationship that I had with my mom, you know, my pop was ultimate unconditional love, and I mean, there's just nothing. It's just completely incomparable to anything else in the world. I mean, especially as an adult like I just see how much love he had for it was just crazy. Technically, he never had kids of his own. So he married my Grammy because she would look, she's a kegger on He was a young a young, sexy thing. So she already had my mom, Um, at that point. So I don't know if it because he never had kids. And then I came along and he just felt that way with me. But there was just such an unbelievable, perfect, pure, beautiful low there that I maybe it was so extreme from what I did have with my biological father that it just was like, I was, um, anything. And I just miss him so much. And that's what I feel like sometimes God, like, we can only handle so much perfection. We can only handle so much pain. And we can only handle so much perfection. And like, he was so perfect and wonderful and loving and funny. And and he was crazy. He was, you know, he had problems with alcoholism, and I mean, he was from New York and he was a ball buster, and he was crazy. Um, but our relationship. He was so just unconditional loving with me like I just could do no wrong, you know? And it was weird because it's almost, I mean, how I feel the way that God loves us. It's very gentle and it's like, You know, it's not like I was a spoiled brat. It was more like because the love that he showed me and made me want to be a butter yes girl back then And it's like That's what I find in my face And that's why my faith is so important to me and then my mom's relationship. We've just gone through so much together, you know, like we have these little tattoos on her arms, like Lincoln cars. They're like matching, Um, but it's like I've we only had each other, and so through a lot of ups and downs and horrible things we've she's been there for me no matter what. But there's definitely been times many, many times where she's like, Oh my God, I'm so grateful that you're here for me and the things that you said to me really helped me, and it's like I'm her therapist. She's my therapist, which maybe that's wrong. Maybe it's right, I don't know, but yeah, it was weird because we went through that like, she wouldn't tell me anything. And she tried to like protecting and hide things from me. And then it kind of just jumped into like Okay, well, here's everything then. So it didn't grow into that friendship or like that, you know, maturity. It is kind of leap. So it was pretty hard. But now we're just in a really good place and we, you know, where we've matured together and we've really helped each other a lot to, like, accept the crazy things that come in life, and and she just has the biggest heart, you know, She has a lot of problems, and she has some mental illness problems as well, especially from her cancer. Like throwing up all that blood it like, gave our chemical imbalance. And she had a really horrible childhood, too. Um, but despite all that, she's such a loving person. I mean, she went to India for three months just by herself and just would like fricking mother tracing it over there like just loving people and like, yeah, I mean, she's amazing and she's the one who brought God into my life. And, like, I just love her for that. We share that in common, You know?

Brock Goldberg:   32:28
What is it about God when religion. What? You know, I mean, we live in a day and age where you do have a choice, right? You have a choice to sit here and talk on the podcast. Your choice to have your dog hump your arm So cute. No, but you have a choice. Unlike in the past where things were definitely one sided, right for you. You keep on talking about God and religion. I love that I myself, I'm not I'm not religious, right? I'd consider myself Jewish, but culturally. Right. Um but I appreciate the shit out of people that, um that have this connection, right? That had this connection with God. Um, compared toe 34 years ago when someone would say the name God, I would get, like, annoyed, right? It wasn't like my thing on, and that's just because I was stupid. Um, because, you know, for all of us, our story is our story. As long as you're an inherently good person, even we make good people make bad decisions, right? But, um, that's the beautiful thing that I continue here when people go on the podcast and God is, you know, a big part of their life. It's they understand both sides. And I'm not saying everyone that's religious sees that right, but especially people come on them out. Gas. So what got you Thio, you know, speak so highly about God and one was it for you.

Dani Tygr:   33:49
So yeah, well, that's the thing is, too. It's like I'm just really, really, really lucky because I grew my faith that a church that it's not religious. So I always try to explain to people, It's like, You know, I just say It's like a real talk. Yeah, they're super honest and super like, open about, like how we believe in what we believe. And we definitely don't believe in religion And, like, we know all the problems that have come along in the misconceptions and link, you know, quote unquote Christians that has, like, destroyed. You know, what the relationship that godlike had intended for it to be your that kind of a thing on. But yeah, it's funny because I really don't like to push my faith on other people. But it's just inevitable that it's

Brock Goldberg:   34:33
like a part of

Dani Tygr:   34:34
my testimony and who I am. And it's like, You know, it's funny because I have this tattoo on my arm. It says it's in Greek and it's a rusty nail, Okay? And it's the word worship in Greek, and there's like six different ways. The world worships written in the Bible, and they'll have, like, kind of different meanings. But this one means to just like basically, God will meet you right where you are. And that's just the truth about it, for me is that you don't have to be holier than now, and religion is like the's principles and these things that you have to dio. And what I have is just a very, very intimate relationship with who I feel is my creator and my God. And whenever I am like building and growing on that relationship, just like with anything else, if you nurture that relationship, it's gonna grow, and it's gonna get stronger and be better. So anyways, that's just you know how it is for me. That especially what I've gone through recently, like it's always the consistent in my life. You know what I mean? It's always like this study thing that keeps me going, Um and it's funny because my first mentor ever I talked to him for years, like on and off, you know? And he's like, Danny, you always call me when things are, like, amazing and going good. And you're like going in church in your reading, her Bible, and you're like, have that intimate relationship with God. And then you like, just like with everything else and everyone else, you know, you get comfortable and then you just let those things like, kind of fall away and then I become a complete disaster on Then you call me and you're crying and you're mad and I'm like, Oh my God, to get together like stay consistent with it, you know,

Brock Goldberg:   35:58
it's it's structure. Yeah, you know, like I was shamed before the bad guys like I'm I'm manic bipolar disorder, right? So if I don't have structure in my life, I fell apart. And that goes with anything in your life. Anything from religion to finances, to your job, to this, that and the other. And in Sai Quem, we start to get comfortable right, Because we're talking about uncomfortable before. Well, when you start to get comfortable, things start slide off. Anything from relationships, religion, finances. We always want to be on that edge and not have that anxiety feeling, even though sometimes a little bits, OK, but not a lot are obviously, um, but we can't control that at all times. But when you would speak about your religion, you're not pushing it. You never did. He was always from your story, your point of view. And I do have a question, though, in your church, right? Uh, you said it's different. We don't look at it as religion. Um, what is their belief on evolution? Because in society, we have this kind of debate, right? Um and whatever the answer is, I I want to know.

Dani Tygr:   37:08
Well, to be honest, I mean, I'm not a theologian, so I definitely, you know, I don't have, like, a specific answer for like, you know, we have, like, classes that explain, like exactly you know, it's called like discovering water of life. And we, like, explain those types of things. So if you do have those, like, specific questions, like what their answers would be, but I just know for me they've given me, you know, like I said, I grew up there, So I've found peace there. I found Got there. I found, like, that relationship that I can build there. Um, basically, from either just been times where I've just been extremely broken and being ableto be a part of that. You know, a lot of people say, like, you can have church in your heart. You can have. This is not 100% true. You know, you're you have an intimate relationship with God. I think he created us to be in community. And they think that not to get, like, you know, too spiritually, cause I never talk about these types of things. Honestly,

Brock Goldberg:   38:04
I appreciate you talking about it,

Dani Tygr:   38:05
but I do believe that there's, you know, a spiritual world that we live in. And then it's always a battle. And I think that you know, when I won, I I know that when I'm close with God, I have that strength about me and in my weakness, I think those, you know, darker spirits, something like that. Um, you know, they prey on that. And so for me. It's just I have to keep that relationship going strong, you know, because that those that darkness it wants you to isolate, you know what I mean? It wants you to be away from from hearing his word and his love and like, you know, it's hard because a lot of people have used those terms like his word and Christianity and like they've just screwed it up a lot. But if you truly know, like, just strip it down to the bare bones of it, it's like, OK, it's really simple. It's like God's just, like, really in love with us. And he's a just God. So that's, you know, he does give us our humanity, which is sucks, You know what I mean. So we're going to make bad choices and we're gonna be hurtful, and we're going to get hurt and all these things. But if for me, if I keep that constantly shin ship with him, I can always build me up, and I can I can you know, I have someone else I can lean on and trust and his will for my life that I don't have the, you know,

Brock Goldberg:   39:19
I respect it I respect the crap out of it. You're looking at it from the point of view that I It's what attracts me most, right? It's like not all the other bullshit the hoo hah Ryan's. It's that relationship that you have that allows you to evolve and change, grow as an individual and know that we are weak, know that we're strong and everything in between. And so I appreciate it. And I respect it, Um, and to kind of dial it back again. It's like, you know, we were talking about you know, your upbringing, your dad, your mom, your pops, right? All of these things that have played such a vital role into who you are today, um, they say that the 1st 8 years of your life is some of the most important times of your life because we're sponge. Right? And you I can believe that. Sure, yes. No. But me my thirties have been the biggest growing time of my higher life, right? So I don't know if I personally believe that, but I think that if you're constantly growing evolving, taking things from your past and being able to look at it from outside perspective, it's it's important and everything that you've said you've been. One thing that I see is that you're very introspective, right? You look inside a lot, and I I can relate to that so much, um, and and I and I, uh, and I love that, um, I do want to talk about the time before you got into hair school, right? Uh, what was going on in your life Because you had moved out of your house, you were going to school. Correct. Mary, this point, um, what was life like back then for you?

Dani Tygr:   41:11
Oh, yeah. That was a long time ago. I got a royal, like, flip the pages bad. Um, I honestly don't know. That's the thing is, I've always been super determined. So I've had, like, 32 jobs in my life before. Like not including anything Herr related. We show I I worked at a zoo. Me, They work for active, I like I mean, there's just so many jobs that I had that was like, I'll just get another one if I don't like what I'm doing. Starbucks. I was a server, like all these different things. Um, so I guess that's probably why I have, like a little bit. I'm a little bit more open because it's like I've had a lot of different experiences and I've met so many different types of people. And, um, it's been a blessing because now on what I do, it's easy to relate to those broad spectrum of people. But I mean, I'm just figuring it out like everybody else, you know me. But I was very independent. It's weird how you said, like, we're two different people Even back then It's like I was so determined and I was still on this path that I wanted to do right and do good and everywhere, even at Starbucks, Like I used to work at Starbucks in the drive through, and I was like, Amazing at it. I was like an octopus. I had, like, 12 arms and I was like making drinks and taking orders and it like I was the best ever and not to be called E. I mean, it was kind of thinking, um and I loved it. But I remember like, you know, like a mom would come up to the window on the drive thru and she'd be like holding back tears in her eyes and her kids were crying and she's like, Oh, my God, like I cannot find my wallet. I'm freaking out and people are honking and I'm just like, I really don't even pray. But I got you here Just take, which is obviously not legal, like I should have been doing it. Think this is a very long time ago. Things were different. But, you know, I just that's where my heart was. I just didn't give her. And I learned that from my mom and from my faith and like, that's just who I am at the core of me. And so, like, I been that way where it's like I study and I love learning and I love growing and I love helping people. And then at that time, there was another side of me that was just like, you know, the kid. So I was out drinking and socializing and partying like crazy like crazy. I never did anything like, you know, I never did any drug dealing fat, but drinking has always been like thing.

Brock Goldberg:   43:29
You know, you were saying all of these things right about who you are as a person carrying, giving, um, fucking octopus at Starbucks. When that mom comes up and is crying, being able to relate with that person and not push them to the site. I think it's so important as a society to pick other people up. We tend to push people down, and it's a whole fucking so similar. It's insane. Every single person that's come on, this podcast, those two people that I always talk about, right, That second person, that person on the inside is so similar. But we allow that first person toe steer this ship, right, And, you know, for you of being being, you know, younger, right, getting into drinking and partying when you good time. When did you, um you know, we talked about it. When did you see that? Starting to become an issue.

Dani Tygr:   44:29
Oh, my God. Well, um, you know, it's interesting because I had that separation anxiety with my mom when I was so young and she's just looking back. It's like, Damn, she went through a lot of hard stuff in her life, like practically being a single mom. You know, her husband, my step dad was in the military and she had me and my sister and my brother and like we lived in the middle of nowhere and it just like, damn, like she had it hard. You don't realize at the time, but she just made our lives, like, so good, like she did a little surprises for us And she would make us, like, you know, we used to snow out there and she would come home and they would be like, yummy, delicious food and, like, I don't know, she just did her very, very best to just, like, make us happy. And that's where I got that heart from. Was seeing her like if she saw a homeless person Hope she gotta pull over like we're like, Mom, come on, you know, which is what they need to have to, you know. And she's also like O, C, B and psychotic. Another way their house had to be like, insanely clean and like, you know, So we all have our good or bad, And I definitely don't like my mother's daughter. So I mean, yet my mother s Oh, you know, I have both those parts of me where I'm crazy and impatient and a perfection isn't like O C D. And then the other parts from, like loving. And I think that never understanding or dealing with that separation anxiety it was like between like, the whole missing from my biological father, my mom kind of like disappearing act when she got sick. I mean, obviously she's survived and she's here today, which is incredible. It's an absolute miracle. But, um, I just was so young. Went going through so many very intense things and never like I don't know therapists, you know, like it was like I didn't understand or process any of that. So when I was 15 I think, um, we're going out to party with, like, some friends will become a god that looks so cool party And I always had, because I, you know, I graduated high school when I was 17. I started kindergarten when I was four, so I was always the younger person and I always had older friends. So even though I was like only 15 you know, my friends were like 17 18 or whatever and they were all in bands. Like I said, I like work for active, like I've been working since I was like 14 you know? And so, like, I'm the skater world. I was like, an emo chick way back in the day. Um and so, yeah, all my friends were like it band. And there was a party house called the Pearl. Okay. And like one of the bands that was like their hangout and I'm going to the pro for the first. But first we were stopping at a friend's house till, like, what is now known as pre gaming, like back then, they didn't know that was a thing. And I just remember my guy that I was hanging out with the time was like, Oh, do you want a drink? Like didn't think anything of it. And I was like, Okay, I had no idea I was getting myself into and he poured me. It was like vanilla. It was like Rahm and Vanilla Coke. And I had never had Vanilla Coke before, and I was like, This is a huge, like, 32 gallon, like from the liquor store like cup that a friend had. And so I'm drinking. And I was like, This is awesome, Like, had no idea. And by the time we got to the Pearl. All I remember is like sitting on the edge of the curb and I was like, I need something to drink like a water. I was dying and he brings me like, a tea cup and a saucer, and I'm like, Okay, thank God. Like, I don't even know what was happening on I just drink this tea cup and it's just straight like whiskey. And I was like, Oh, no, it was horrible. Like, you know, we went to my girlfriend's house and I was, like, puke in my guts out. And she was just like, Oh, shit, like, didn't want Mom to find out, you know? And obviously it was horrible. And the next day I was just like that was, you know, which is ridiculous. But at the time, I'm just like, that was so fun. And so from then on, it was just like drinking. And, you know, I never stopped. I loved just that escape of it, like I didn't understand, like I had to be perfect. You know, maybe my dad would love me, but it's like I had to be perfect. So I had to get straight A's and I had a look perfect. And I was the first grandchild was the first child ever born, like in my family and over the girl, obviously. And so I was this princess that they held on a pedestal. So everyone was like, Oh, my God, the princess Is that so? I definitely grew up with, like, a lot of that shit. And so I felt like I just had to be perfect. And, you know, it's hard for girls anyways.

Brock Goldberg:   48:45
Hard it is.

Dani Tygr:   48:46
So it was like, such an awesome speech to, like, drink and have fun and not think about it. And I always had that side of me that, like, did good. Like I said, I never did drugs like I never did anything crazy, so I felt like it was okay. Like I'm still going to work on time. And I'm still, like, you know, doing the things I have to do and paying my bills and whatever. And so it's just like I thought it was okay for, like, a really long time. Um and honestly, not until I was an adult that's hard, that I think, like I realized that I was like, Oh, shit. this is like I mean, you know, this is my medication. I'm not dealing with it. It's hard. I was, like, sober for six weeks after my pop died, because, um, you know, I didn't do well after he died. Um, So I basically it is crazy because, like, I my faith was so strong then it always has been like I mean, I like walk away and I come back and while going to come back, it's like how we D'oh. But like at that time, it was really, you know, I was struggling and I hadn't had a panic attack. My first, like panic attack at work. That was a server in a restaurant. I didn't know what that was. And it was so weird, Like my pop was dying and everyone knew that we were closer than anybody else. And they were like, Okay, like, you have to make sure that pop like was the heaven, you know, So, like, talk to him and I'm like, what, like no pressure, just like his eternal soul. And it wasn't like that my actually, to this day right now I'm reading his devotional, and it's just that relationship that we have with God. It's not. It's not that religious bullshit. You know what I mean? And so I didn't mean Thio and nobody needs talk to me about it. Nobody talked to him about it. We have our own relationship with God, you know, and we get that. But nobody else got that. And so, like, they were putting all this pressure on me, And I just like, don't understand that he was actually nine. He died of liver disease because he was an alcoholic for a long time. And he had his spells where he would quit and he would drink. And this and that, and But ultimately, you know, got him. And, um, I just couldn't believe this is actually happening, you know? And then all this pressure toe, like, do something like saving animals. And I'm just like, I can't even believe he's leaving me. And even at the time, I was like, Should I have a baby? Because I want him to meet like my pot before you turn my kidney. I was tripping the fuck out. You know what I mean? I I couldn't I did not deal with it. Well, so I did end up going to church and just like Oh, my God. Like, what do I D'oh! What do ideo you know? And that moment, like God, I wasn't sure it was like a Wednesday might nighttime church thing. And God was like, um, you know, your pop's gonna die soon. So tomorrow you have to go and say goodbye and then that'll be it. Like on. I remember going up to my pastor and I was like, um, I basically got this, like, text from God, and it's really weird and like what we do. And he's like, You just have to listen to it, you know? So I did. I went to the hospital where he was and like it was so I was so overwhelmed with peace. And he was there. My Grammy was there, and we all knew. But it wasn't sad. It was just extremely just filled with, like, love and peace. And I just remember walking out the door and I was like, Wow, like I kind of look back. I'm like, Is this really like asking God, like, for real, Like, I know you're telling me it it and I feel okay, and I said goodbye and like everything's fine. But it just was so weird that it was so peaceful, you know, because I spent like, every day with him, Like the last years of his life. We spent every day together because it was like he couldn't get enough, you know? And then I left and then the next, like that early the earlier early that morning, he had a surgery and he never came out of it. He was a vegetable after that. And then he, like, just withered away and died like, well, maybe like three months later, was horrific, Horace. And he was just, like, tied up to tubes and stuff like that. So it was weird because I had this, like, beautiful, gracious blessing of like having this beautiful, peaceful goodbye. But then after that, I was like, Okay, like I already said, My God, I can't watch him deteriorates. So I was just drinking to black out every single day, and then when he died, when he this is this is why this is the answer to your question. This is why anyone had a problem much. I've never told anyone this before, so let's talk about the past. But the day that my pop technically died, right, I was in the bathroom in the hospital, and I had, like, a little handle of vodka and was just like, shutting the fuck out of it in the bathroom. I was already drunk, but then I like it was standing around crying and they took the tube out, and he's like breathing his last breath. But it takes some time, you know? And I was like, This is fucking sick. I can't be here. This is nuts. This is nuts. And I just, like, ran to the bathroom and I just like chugging vodka. And then I came back and he had gone and I was just, like, fuck like that's so fucked up That's so fucked up that, like I missed this moment because I just couldn't deal, you know? And then every night it was like, I just drink until I black out, I wake up, hung over, and then the minute I was like, okay, enough to start drinking again, Drink to block out, boom, boom, boom! And I did that for, like a week solid, and I got myself in a bad situation and Then I went to my Grammy's and I had my niece. She was just born and she was. I was holding her on my chest and my mom took a picture of us and she just would have this perfect, beautiful, innocent baby skin. And I have this fucked up O R alcoholic skin and just like booze pouring out of my pores and like, just so disgusting. And I just was like, Who is that person? Like? I don't I don't know who that is, and that's not who got designed you to be. And you're just running away from everything. You can't do that anymore. So I got sober, right? Ethan and I just like I saw that picture and I was just like, Okay, done. But I only stayed sober for six weeks, which, to me, was the longest I've ever been

Brock Goldberg:   54:28
in my

Dani Tygr:   54:28
life. But I didn't understand, like alcohol of them are having a problem. At that point, I thought I could do it on my own, so I started drinking gun and then more recently, like last year, I was on stage and Sam Via was in the audience, and I was like this huge moment. I was pretty drunk because I was really nervous, and I'm fine. I never got to a point where I was like, making bad decisions. Like to some degree, that was, you know, unforgivable. Over. It was just I was I realized it was missing moments. I was missing moment that could be really beautiful and that, like, I know, I'm just missing the exit everywhere I was going because I just was drunk, you know? And so I just was afraid of that uncomfortable ity. So I just stayed drunk and comfortable and like, got through everything, and I thought it was cool, but like, it wasn't so that Yeah, it's a realization. I decided to quit drinking.

Brock Goldberg:   55:20
It's a realization of all these things. All these checks, right? One thing I want to say is like you missing, you know, seeing your grandpa passed away, you know that he knows the love and bond in relationship that you guys have, right? You know that in your heart. And so that moment, um, it's something that you personally have to work through, but from the outset, it doesn't make you a bad a person. Not even wrong you're human, right? We all have to cope with, um you know these things in our life differently. And everyone has different stories. Ah, but to be self reflective on these points from from that point to the same via point, you know, your niece and your ah, on your chest, right. And seeing that picture, it's checks that's getting closer and closer to that goal. Right? But you're human. You're gonna go up here for being a lot, but right, that's just life, right? And I do appreciate you being so open about it for the first time ever in public because it's it's important. And to be able to share these things and get it off your chest, you know, and one day you'll come back and you'll listen to this and maybe those parts you cringe a little bit like, uh, but you'd be like, Wait a minute. I know why I said that. Because I don't want to do that. I don't want to be that. And that's why I'm so open, right? I got hooked a fentanyl right after my dad passed away. I was looking for buck like, seven years, right? Um, smoking and selling there and I couldn't find a way out. The hair industry changed my whole life. It gave me purpose. It gave me a reason to stay clean, but I shared just recently I fucked up. Right. Um and that's just life, man. You have to take these things. Learn, evolve, grow, um, and and and push through.

Dani Tygr:   57:06
Well, I think it goes back to what you said about, like the two sides to every person, you know, because it's like my whole life I've lived that way of I've had this one side of me that point misdirection, and this one's I put in that direction and, you know, maybe these things and I'm saying are offending people. Or maybe they're looking and they're disgusted. It wouldn't think I don't know what. I definitely know that you know, I'm in a really good place now, and I'm really grateful for all the times that I fucked up in, like, you know, falling down and getting back up again and relying on my faith and just that's sharing your story, you know what I mean? Like we all go through it, but it's like, How did you get through it? and what happened. And maybe I think, especially with social media, like a lot of people, they do see that one side of me that I'm this like, hairdresser or they you know, they think I just work in a salon or I do this or I do that or Phillip pulls, you know, five or whatever the case may be. But, you know, as as strong as I do try to be, and as committed to my faith and trusting in my feet as I try to be, or whatever as good of a person I try to be, it's like, Yeah, I do have a past and we always you know what I mean And it doesn't matter where you're at that you can. You can work through it and you can get through for me it with by faith. But it's like whatever it is for you that you can get to the other side of that. You can find peace and you can grow from these things. Yours, you know, I mean, I'm not trying to hide. I mean, it's like, Yeah, something's maybe disgraceful, but it's not, you know, absolutely. It's the answer you can feel shame to some degree. I mean, it helps you to grow, but it's like that's who we are. You can't hide from it like everything will always come to the light. And I found that more than I hide things or try to it just makes you more sick. And that's the crazy thing now to about, like, you know, living in sobriety. Um, my pop passed away and then, you know, I got sober. And now I try my best to be sober. And I remember, like going to, you know, an a a meeting and getting like a six month chip. And I just thought like, I wish my pop was here so I could share this with him because he knows he's the only person that I knew in my life that would go to meetings and, you know, he didn't really obviously talk about it because you're not space do and, uh, but it's like I don't feel bad about that. I feel like he wouldn't He's the one person that would understand. Yes, you know what I mean and makes it makes me It's very comforting to know that, like, I think he would be proud of me because a lot of times I feel like the shit. You mean like, who has to go to a You can't drink, You can't deal. You can't just drink like a normal person or, you know, But we all have our shit and for me, like that's what it is. And it sucks. But it's like, you know what? At least I'm dealing with it, and I'm trying my best, like every day to do the best I can for myself and for the people that I love. And I think you'd be proud of that. You know

Brock Goldberg:   59:55
he is. I know that he's looking down. He's a part of you. He's who you are, and he is very proud. He's very bad.

Dani Tygr:   1:0:01
Well, so crazy because, like, you know how Philip is so wonderful in my life and my pop was so wonderful. And it's like, damn like they never met, you know? But it's like I guess you just can't have too much of a good thing. I

Brock Goldberg:   1:0:13
know you, and maybe it's one pass into another, right? Um, it's that next step in your life, right? So one, Sometimes when one door closes another door should open. Right. But, I mean, I hope Sorry. And for you, that door closing with your pops. Although you can always go back and reminisce and, you know, be in that moment right sometimes. But there had to be another door. And so to have someone like Philip in your life, it's so important because, um, building these relationships, you know, I talk about my wife and talk about Philip, right? They build us up, right? And a good relationship. You build each other up. We were talking earlier about, um, how your differences right with Philip And I say about my differences, my wife and I'm sharing that. Ah, you know, my wife and I are polar opposite right eye. And for years, right? Because we've been together for 16 years. I always said that. Thanks. Oh, he said that, uh uh, yeah, we might be different, but we're still a lot like we like the same things. Like the same music. I was lying to myself. And then we've realized we just recently that we're fucking different. We're so different. I'm outgoing. She's reserved. I'm baba ba ba bla. She's strong like this, right? And So it's like, Yeah, we are different. But our differences allow us to push together to push our goals and our dreams. And sometimes when you're so alike with your spouse, right or your significant other on subconsciously, it can be a kind of ah, little bit of a struggle. So those differences was what makes us strong. And your differences with Philip is what makes you guys stronger and so unique. And I love that and everything that you've said I've related to on so many fucking levels. It's incredible. Um, s o I want to bring it back because we're just talking about Philip. When did you guys start dating?

Dani Tygr:   1:2:09
Yeah. So, um, when do we start? Our story is kind of funny, because we, um so, yeah, Phillip and I have been together for, like, four years now. Um, and it's funny, because the way that we met was his business partner and brother. His name's chief bear. When they have a company together. Cold wolf bear and a and so Chief is from the 909 is where I'm from. And so, um, I was actually so at the time, I was, um, apprenticing. Ah, someone from Sassoon. So he was a creative director for Sassoon, and he had branched off and started his own deal. And, um, I just had I was renting a chair in a in a salon, and there was, like, posted on the fridge, like, Oh, this, you know, hairdresser from assassin is coming into class. And I was like, Oh, my God, Like, I've never like Vidal Sassoon and like, Oh, my God, that's amazing, cause I went to Paul Mitchell and I've never, you know, got Assassin. And I have never seen any kind of, like, you know, precision cutting classes. And I just thought it was I knew who he was, and I knew, like, you know, that that name, But I just didn't you know anything about it. But I was very excited. And I'm like, Oh, my God, A free class. I can't believe it. Oh, my God. So he comes to her salon and all the girls are like on their phone like that could care last. And my jaw was on the floor and I was just like, this is amazing. Like who? Who are you like? Where do you come from? What do you do teeth? Give me what you know. Like, I was just obsessed. And that's definitely where my passion for cutting developed 100%. So by the end of the class, I was like, standing right next to a bottle, and he just like, Okay, girl, back up. Um, and I was just like, hi, ng I'm Danny. Do you need an assistant or something? Or like what? So, um, I actually this is like a whole nother story, but I, um, won a scholarship to the Sassoon academy. God, he's like, OK, go and do that first because you don't know shit about. So go do that first, and then we can start training. And I was like, Okay, cool. So I went and I went thio like an advanced cutting course. That's Hassoun for, like, five days straight. It was unbelievable. I mean, it was just I was on top of the world and I was so in love with what I was saying I was just like, this is what I want to do. Precision cutting is just unfunny. Unbelievable. And I just so cool And so then I started training with him, and it was wonderful. It was mesmerizing. He was so militant, obviously with Sandra. And so he'd make me read these papers and do these tests. And what this question had a watch and watch and watch. And I'm like, damn when we're gonna get to cut, you know? And so then finally, I started bringing models in and he was I mean, it took forever because I was like, holding the comb wrong or my wasn't elevated enough. I'm just like, damn it like this intense, you know, like flute camp. But I learned so much from it, and I loved and I was his hair model, and he did crazy haircuts on me. But then he took it a little too far. And he has some crazy ass Sassoon cut on me, and I like ill Oh, no. Eyes is this And so I was like, Okay, let's let this grow out and like, not do this anymore. Like the whole precision cutting is not for me to rock like I love doing it, But it's not for me, you know. And so it was growing out. I was like, Can you, um you know, shape it up while it's growing out, And so he cut it any precision, Cut it again. And I was like, Oh, my God, does this dude know anything other than precision cutting leg? And it just I started to question it, and I'm like, I felt like I had learned all I could learn from him. And there was other things that I wanted to learn that he couldn't teach me. And it just so happens. Like I think everything's very defined from God. So I had met this guy and he's like, Have you heard of these guys? Wolf Bear? I was like, Yo, what's up? And so I watched their YouTube video. My friend sent me and I was like, Oh, my God, like these guys are the real deal. Like their theories on cutting on education on beauty, like it was so spot on. It was it was kind of like we're talking about with religion. It was non religious. It was non denominational, cutting that that's what it was. It was just a certain foundation. And, you know, I was just blown away and I was like, Okay, these are my dude. Yes. Yeah, I told my mentor was like have you heard of Flick Wolf and Chief Bear? And he's like, Okay, so that tells me there are amazing things that threaten him, that you're talking all this shit. So I moved directly from So I left my mentor and I was like with us, but I didn't know they were so cool. And they were like, sons of anarchy gang members so bad. It was like, I don't know, six years

Brock Goldberg:   1:6:47
ago, they want that they had such a fucking

Dani Tygr:   1:6:49
president. They were so hardcore. So I was like, Ah, how am I gonna get in contact with these guys? So I just like scent of Facebook message to chief. And I was like Like like, I'm so like, bubbly and just not then. And he was amazing. And he was the greatest person I've ever met. And I actually just posted about him the other day because he had gone through some, like, tragic stuff. And, you know, I was feeling so bad. I wanted to, like, send him some love. And I owe him everything because he is the one who introduced me to Philip. Um he was like I had just moved to Beverly Hills And he's like, You know, you're always hitting me up and like, I'm way the hell out here in, um, he's in Redlands and he's like, You know, Philip isn't Beverly Hills like he's your neighbor, You know? You should just hit him up for basically the same person. And I was like, you know, like, uh, some hair shows and chief was like, Hey, bam! And he's like with a big beard and his big old bear arms like give me a big old hug And he was so sweet and Philippa look with his like Fu Manchu glasses. And he was like that and he was super quiet. And I was just like, We're not like you're saying your opposite. No, that's not my kind of people. And he's like, I swear he's just like me and going on. So I had, you know, prayed about some things, and at that time, like I was doing my morning devotionals and praying, Boba and I was working out a lot, and so I went for a run, and sure enough, I literally ran into his salon on. I was like, Oh my good. And normally when I work out like it's not cute. So I I'm not like your typical, like Beverly Hills workout. I like sweating, dying. You're real. And I'm wearing like, I don't know, like, just nasty, like whatever. Cut off short clothes like, I am not wearing Lulu Lemon like That's not me. And so I looked a hot mass and for some reason, like something inside me was just like, Go say hi to Philip. And so I walked into this salon in Beverly Hills and the receptionist was like, Get out eyes both here and I just see all the little old ladies and I'm like, All right, Like what? And then clean, clean, clean. Here he comes around the corner, his dreads or swing in He's got all his gear is Georgie is like silver is like clinking. And he just has the biggest smile on his face like Danny. What should? And I was just like I thought I was like, shit, What am I doing? Yes, and he was like, Hey, let's go in the back and talk. And they had, like, a back patio fain, And we just talked for two hours and I was like, Hey, you know, like I really love and respect your thoughts on the industry and where you're at. And I just feel really lost cause I'm doing hair and I'm doing makeup and I'm in the salon and I'm doing freelance and I'm I was just pulled in so many different directions that I felt like I needed a little guidance. And I was like, You know, my last mentor, e think I've kind of, like reached the limit with him. And there's still things that I want to learn and maybe we can, like, hang out. And he was just like, Okay, like he was listening and he was just kind of like, OK, and then two hours later, I was like, You know what? I have a really good time with you. Like we should hang out again. We should grab a drink for something, and it was just like, I really kind of the same thing. I go after what I want, and I just I had absolutely no, like, obviously when I saw almost like tha same second, my brain was like Danny like Shut it down. You're like he's a way beyond your level, like shut it down And so I was like, Okay, so I just put it out of my mind. And I never like I never thought of him like that, but I definitely had respect for him, as you know, an artist. And I loved him as a person, and I love them Other artists. I just thought if there's any any time I can spend with this guy and, like, learn like any of his amazing this gonna rub off on me like cool. So we just talked about here, started hanging out, talking about here, and then I would notice that lake Well, we started talking about other things, like friends, or like what we liked, you know, our types or different things, like we were just very open and honest cause we weren't trying to impress each other. So we were super honest with each other, and we built, like, a really solid foundation of friendship. And then, like, we would meet for drinks or dinner, and I and he would show up with a friend. And I'm like, Okay, like, that's weird. I mean, I don't care that you brought a friend, but like you don't even mention anything, I'd be sitting at the bar waiting for him, and then he would walk up with, like, some guy. And I'm like, Okay, like, that's weird. And then come to find out later, he's like, Yeah, like, I just started having like, this, like, attraction to you in these feelings for you. And I didn't want it to, like, go that way because we were just friends and I didn't want to ruin that. And I would like your mentor and that weird. So he brought, like, a freakin like baby chaperone. I like what? Whoa! Being like cute ceiling? Yes, Like I was just being myself. And I'm like, you've liked that, like, the real me. That's crazy. But at the time, I had a lot of self hate, and I did not think that anyone would like. We feel, um, yes. So we just built on this friendship and then, like, we'd book, Okay, bye. And her hugs would get, like, longer. Were like, What is this way? Were so dumb? Like for months, we were just like, Wait, do you like me? No way were Look both like that. You can't let do you. There's no way you would like to know on. And then I remembered This is, like, so personally going to kill me for saying this. But we find the kissed like 61 sand or whatever. I know it was so long ago or wherever it was forever. But I don't want to ruin what we had. And like I, you know, it was meant to be that way. But we kissed and I was like, Well, like those beer, like, two tickets to the bedroom. And he's like, girl, like, slow down like No. And he shut it down. And I was like, Oh, my God, I love that I was so embarrassed. I felt so immature and after her And I remember I just had to get the hell out of there. So embarrassed. So I hit like uber on my phone. And that was when uber carpal had first come out on a cargo. Whatever. And I click, click, click, click, And the next thing I know, I'm in a car with, like, a bunch of other drinking very legs like, how was your night like this day guy? And I was like, um, I don't know. Do you have like, I think I just got, like, shut down like you didn't get that be like he was like, teasing eyes my life like the worst night of my life. But I woke up the next day and I was like, You know what? Philip is the most mature person I've ever met. He's such a good person and, like I'm cool with that. Like maybe we tried it and it just wasn't meant to be like, I think we're mature enough to dislike, be friends and move on and like, continue what we have because it's amazing what we had. And then the next day he's like blowing up my phone and I'm like, No, does this like, like way took forever. Finally, he went on a trip to New York for like, two weeks, and we just really missed each other so much, and it was just different. We're like, Okay, there's something going on for sure, but you know, he has a past and he has two kids and he's had, you know, struggles with that whole situation. So I think he was very serious about starting something like he wasn't just gonna like, date around or fuck around or whatever he's like if I'm gonna do this like, I'm gonna do this. And he told me that and I was like, Oh, my God. Mailing I was like being a girl and then, like, a year and I'm like, Fuck, what did I get myself into? Because it was, like, really deal. Like he was a grown ass man and he was very mature, and I was not at all so, like, how you're saying you and your wife, he like you guys learn and grow in different ways from each other. He definitely taught me to, like, grow the fuck up, which I really needed, you know, I didn't need to be put on a pedestal and be this little princess, like he was just, like, grow up, you know? And I was like, what? And then for him, he had, you know, he had turned his heart off to a lot of things and he was really cold about a lot of things, and I just kind of help to warm it up. And I was like, You know, you could be you could accept love in your life and you can be a little more sensitive and you could be a little more vulnerable. So we just really helped each other and a lot of different ways. And it's funny because he was like his one rule was like, I'll never date anyone in the industry And I was like, Okay, that didn't work out And I worked to his theory, didn't. And so Step two was like Okay, fine, we'll be, but will never work together. And then he did this, like behind the chair tour in downtown and hey didn't have an assistant and I was like, I got you did I've done less like so many times and he's like, Holy shit, like you're the best assistant I've ever add, like feeding him like a burger in one hand and handing out of any other hand and I'll let you know what I mean. I'm wiping the sweat off of it like I'm doing things that are normal. Sits one. D'oh! Oh, and I know exactly like what he wants and what he likes and how he likes it in what bugs them and what doesn't. And it's like we I speak his language. So it's like assisting him was like a dream, you know, for both of us. And because at the end of the day, I'm still a hairdresser, and I still admire him for who he is as an artist. And I've been in this hair game for like, 13 years. He's been in it for, like, 23 so he'll always be more advanced than I am. And so I could always learn something from him. And so that part of me love that I love learning from him and working with him and supporting him and watching him do what he does, and you're being a part of that. And so then we started working together, like a lot like this is like, this is like our lives have at this point become completely intertwined that night. But we you know, we went, we went through it. We had some some tough times over, Just like understanding, you know, just are the growing pains, you know? Yeah. So,

Brock Goldberg:   1:16:39
uh, I find it First off, I want to say this Philip Wolf is a gentleman. Well, he's like a man. I just from the story from bringing a friend to him, kind of pushing you away, right? Yeah, that is not what a lot of guys would do. So he has his He has his morals. He has his beliefs. He likes to live by them. Sometimes, you know, they could go a little sq not dating a hairdresser. Right? But he held that belief for so long that when the right person came along, it did work. Right. Um, and your guys relationship sounds so much like Elissa and mind

Dani Tygr:   1:17:16
fucking. That's okay.

Brock Goldberg:   1:17:18
That's Melissa is Philip. And we are way so freaking crazy. So I I truly admire that, um I find it very impressive on both of you guys, right? And so now you guys have this amazing relationship. Obviously, every relationship goes up, down, up, down, up, down. But if you can work through the down times, the up times just get better and better. And it's communication, right? It's about talking. You're shit out. Even, um, like Eliza and I, we have this rule like where we can't go to bed mad at each other. It's only happened a few times or not mad at each other. Of course, we've been manager but not talking it out. And it's like relationships worldwide. need to have that. You need to understand that, uh, keeping things bottled, then it doesn't work. I have a rule of my life. Don't be fucking passive, right, Because being passive, right, small things turn into big things. It just happens. I have a roommate have a significant other whatever it is. So working through that shit, it's so, so important for you, right? I want to bring it real quick. Not real quick. Gonna bring a pact back to the story where we started when you were talking about getting into cosmetology school after you got in the cosmos school, What happened? Like you graduated. And then what happened next? You been in for 13 years.

Dani Tygr:   1:18:38
My story is like, you have a piece of paper just like it's a complicated Just write about it in a nutshell. So I actually So I went and took that makeup class in college, and the teacher was, like, so excited because that's like an elective that you just take or the drama kids take it or whatever. It's kind of meaningless, but not to her, you know? I mean, it's her class, and so I walked in and I was like this class will determine the rest of my life. So let's do this. You know? And she was just like, Oh, my God, Somebody who like, is taking this seriously like that never happens. And so she just took me under her wing 100% and so she taught me everything. I mean, she definitely saw the my abilities. And I think for me makeup is not so much of a passion. It's more like a very good outlet for my O. C. D. It is like an artistic expression, and it's like me time. But it's like I am obsessed with that symmetry and that blending and this, like, you know, just different things like that. And so I think, even though the beginning obviously accept, But she could still see that that was a heck of heart. And I definitely have that I that you can't really teach. So I think she's like, Okay, cool, even though she sucks right now, she's got it as a teacher. And so, yeah, she just took me under her wing and she taught me everything. And so I basically just, like dubbed myself a makeup artist after she would take me two events and stuff. It wasn't just the cost, you know, like she was, you know, kind of mentoring me. And so, um yeah, I just those with my space days so long ago telling love in it for a minute should. And so, um, I like making my MySpace. And I was like, that of occupation makeup artists, or I don't even remember how they had it. And I put all my pictures from school and, like, events and stuff on there. They were horrible. But at the time of like these remaining especially my special effects makeup like that was sick, you know, because that's what she taught me the most about, like, the beauty stuff. I still need to practice with that. But I've always loved makeup on. I always did my own makeup, so I had some idea

Brock Goldberg:   1:20:39
to drop.

Dani Tygr:   1:20:39
But you know what? Your tools, and like all these things, I didn't realize at the time. So some guy, his name's John Ryan. He's from L. A. He's a photographer. He found me on MySpace and he's like, Oh, my gosh, Miss Danny Tiger, Because, like, you know, you could have your phrase or what a rotation. And I was like, You know, this isn't high school. Remember? Like I had just graduated, like 17 and my girlfriends and I You used to pass notes in class, and she's like, We'll pick you like a penguin and I think I'll scratch like a tiger. I don't know what the hell we're talking about. It was just girl stupid chitter chatter, High school world chatter. So when we were making our MySpace is, that's what we put on our title on. So he read that I don't know or whatever and was like, Hi, Danny Tiger. That's her last name gone by TVs. I got Danny Tiger. Philip Wolf. Like I said, I don't know. My dad was like, Hey, going by that name and he actually has the exact same name is me. So my name is Danielle and his name's Daniel, and you don't even it's like we have the same last name and I hate that. So I'm like, I'm just gonna be me and Danny Tiger like it's created my own situation. But it's so funny because this this guy was like, Oh my gosh, Danny Tiger, like you, an amazing makeup artist. I'm shooting in l a at heroine salon. Oh, and, um, I need to make up artist. And I was like, Oh, I've got you. I had never done this before in my life. I had no idea what I was doing. I brought like, my caboodle tackle box kits that underneath it was a brutal, I think was a tackle box like Wal Mart. And I had, like, cover girl makeup. And then I have all special effects. Ben, I fear, like heavy ass makeup. And I remember the hairdresser was so awful like Alma Shoe. What? He wasn't from heroin. It was just like another friend. And he's like, You don't even have Mac makeup like I wish. How do you even get this job? And it was Course it wasn't paid. Intern Amy and I was just like, Oh, well, um, Bob, a blonde, I'd like to do more natural. And I was, like, made up some like Excuse of why I use what I is And it was amazing. I just I was, like, just natural for me. I loved it. It was so fun. I was in the zone. I was so happy and I was like, Oh, my gosh, this is awesome. And then he was super plugged in because he was working with Steve Aoki. And he's like, Oh, we're doing this music video tomorrow. The makeup artist can't make up like, can you? Come on, let me check my schedule. I'm really busy. Which I was like, I just try to breathe gambling. This is happening when I show about this warehouse and this and it was crazy because I brought my little tackle box of makeup and the director was like this guy, I think it was Reggie B or something. He was from, like, England or whatever. And he's like, I love, you know, with hair and makeup. Right this way. Let's go. And I was like, Ah, we'll be here for makeup and I don't do hair, but I'm not gonna let him know that. So I was like, Okay, so I start talking in the wardrobe girl and we just providing and it just worked, worked perfectly. I had absolutely zero fear, zero anxiety, like it's fit in perfectly there. I loved it. I loved it. That's so cool. And so from then on, like I met. Um, Steve Aoki and I went for De Mac and I you know, that was our job Tuesday night, dim at club night. Oh, yeah, like I would be kid. Cutie, you're, You know, the black eyed peas, like all these random people and everybody is like getting fucked up and drinking and like, trying to get laid. And I'm just like, trying to pass on my card that I made at best Buy I don't like, Does anybody want to shoot? Cause I was obsessed. I was upset. It was like my new drug, you know, any mean I would drink here and there. Of course I could be wrong, but like the drinking came nowhere close to like the Hyatt I got from my heart that I did and the work that I did. And I mean, it wasn't all good. Like, I I remember being honest on a set for Dim Mak magazine one time, and he had a magazine for, like, five minutes. And this model was so trashy and her hair was so dirty like I couldn't do it. I didn't have the skills at the time to know, like what the hell to Dio and I called my mentor and I'm crying And I was like, What do I do fucking up like the directors, like she looks like shit in her face is all, like, dry and patchy, just like Oh my God. And he's like, you know what? To dio like it's inside of you You know what? To Dio Because he's like, I don't know what the fuck's going on, but I know that she has inside of her. So he just, like, believed in me. And I was just like, okay and I went in there and I just like, crushed it, you know, long experience

Brock Goldberg:   1:25:03
in the head. It's a learning experience, the head wound.

Dani Tygr:   1:25:06
You have to go through that stuff you know, like Oh my God, this is the worst day ever. And if you can like, pull yourself together and get through it and just have the confidence in yourself, then the director like, Oh, she's super. Let's have her on this other shooters for And so I started in the Free Leon's in this case, Yeah, and then people were like, Oh, we heard you do hair and makeup and I had, like, you know my boyfriend was in a band, and he liked the long email bangs, and I would like razor cut them. And, like, you know, my friend had a Mohawk. I would like carve something on the side of his Mohawk, like I just did it. And I'm actually 1/4 generation hairdresser. And so but see, I didn't know that, cause I didn't know my dad s. So his dad was a barber. And like to this day, he still is. I mean, he's almost passing away now, but, like, he still have his pompadour. Like, he still thinks he can cut hair like he is Barbara till the day he dies. And my grammy, the one I have tattooed. She would do, like the up do the finger waves and stuff for everyone. Like all every Sunday, everyone would come over, give her a dollar. She do the beehive like you know. So it's definitely in my blood horse. It is. But people were like, Oh, I heard you do hair like can you cut my hair? And I was like, Yeah, but then I'm like, Okay, I better get my license in case I just in case I ever want to go like the salon round, So I really came, like from a backward spares

Brock Goldberg:   1:26:21
definitely did. That's amazing.

Dani Tygr:   1:26:24
Going in the hair school was like already knew, like from having that I. But I didn't have the foundation of like a B C's of cutting. I didn't have that. And it was way harder toe like learn that way. You know, like unbreak habits that I had made, of course, but I also had something that nobody else added my sin actions at work and the network, and also just the experience and touching different types of hair and working with different types of herring and having those experiences of like, you know, having to create this look and with this type of texture, just the different things that people didn't have. So they kind of left me alone in school. So I didn't learn anything in school as we all don't state board and that I'm just really you know, I always have gone after what I want. So I just, you know, would search out those mentors of those people that I, you know, admired their work ethic or their arts or with their talents, Whatever. I'm like the guy from Sassoon or Philip or whatever. I'm just like, Hi. I need to know you teach me what can what can we do? Like I remember when I was younger, I would go to like, wherever I would move cause I was like a gypsy. When you look in Silver Lake and I go to every single hair salon and silver lake and be like, Do you need a manager? Do you need a receptionist? You needed an assistant. Do you need like a cleaning lady like whatever it was because I just always had a have my hands and hair. I always have my foot in the door. I always had a steak connected, like, to some degree, which is weird. So I did a lot of, like, salon management and things like that. Then it became an educator. That's a whole another story. And then now I'm an artist manager. So just jump from thing thio

Brock Goldberg:   1:27:58
nuts. And one thing that you continually say in your story is this Dr this Push this fucking just go out, ask questions. Put yourself in front of these people. People trying to come up in the industry, any industry. But let's just say the hair industry right now when you're going to cosmetology school. I mean, we know the percentages. They're so fucking low that actually turn it into a career lifelong career, right? It's just it's terrible. What would you say if you were in front of students right now? That one thing that can help you kind of get to that next level?

Dani Tygr:   1:28:30
Who? Hi. Well, I would say it's definitely more than one thing. One thing. Um,

Brock Goldberg:   1:28:36
I'm fishing for an answer,

Dani Tygr:   1:28:37
so I know. Well, I don't know. I guess the fact that it's not just to sum it up early Is this like it's not just your technical abilities. Yes, that's like 3%. Like what? Your success we could be in this industry. Um, like you said, it's putting yourself out there. I remember a piece of advice that my mentor gave to me a long time ago is like I would bitching, complaining, cry like, Oh my God, how come everybody else is getting these rolls? Are these hair you know, gigs and stuff and they suck and I'm so much better. I don't get it and he's like because nobody knows you exist like they don't know you're out there. You have to go and tell people who you are and how I mean Back then, we don't have social media so different. But he's like, you know, they're only not hiring you because they don't know you. That's the only reason you got to go out there and do it. And I'm like, Okay, so that's what I did. So getting yourself out there, you know, creating those opportunities for yourself. But I think a huge thing, too, is putting in your time and like learning that experience because I think nowadays everyone's so instant gratification and they're just like, watch a YouTube tutorial and I can do it. And but again, it's not just the technical things. When you have that experience, you learn humility. You learn to shut your mouth. You know, that's something that Philip honestly had to teach me, because I I am so driven in such a go getter that I'm just like, Why don't people like me? Because I was almost set and, you know, as a creative director and everybody hated me on the set. I was like, Why and he's just like, you're just you gotta slow down. You know? You gotta learn to listen to people more. And that was years into my career. You think I would have learned it by now?

Brock Goldberg:   1:30:19
Yeah, film. But you're open enough to realize it, talk about it and then work on it, um, to dial back, though, what you said about putting yourself out there, right, that it's so important. The technical skill is such a small part of it, and in a lot of jobs, it's that's what it is, because there's so many people that can do the job right. What differentiates a person to same skill, maybe even someone have a little bit less right. But that person has a little bit less technical skill is way farther head and that of individual. It's because they put themselves out there. They ask questions for for me. You know, I didn't wait till I was done with cosmetology school to get into a salon. I started talking to someone's already started opening that conversation, opening that dialogue, and so we want to put ourselves out there on so people know who the fuck we are, right and That's such a good comment that your mentor made. Um, So I appreciate you saying that. Looking forward now, everything that you have been through in your life right here, you're you're and I know there's so many things that we can't touch because they're such short period of time. Right? But artist manager, beautiful doggie Philip off relationship you have with your family. Where do you want to take it next?

Dani Tygr:   1:31:37
Oh, good question. Thinks is an unprepared. Honestly, I'm just trying to focus on right here and right now, like today, Um, the most important things. It's funny, like how we're talking about with church or, you know, whatever sober community or whatever community you find yourself in. It's like that's what I'm realizing is like So important is that you have to have that support and you have to be open because it's funny. You and I were talking about, like how friendly we are, like driven or this or that, and we go in do these things. We have these experiences, but at the end of the day, it's like, how open are we really like? How introspective, really, Where is our support group Like who do we lean on? Like, who are the people in our lives that you know we can really like, trust and feel comfortable with And I'm super super blessed in super lucky Because I have Philip And it was just incredible. And for the first time in my life, I you know, even subconsciously I feel comfortable the like start working through May shit s So I just started that journey like, two years ago and has been really intense and really, really rough. And I've learned a lot of things about myself. So right now, yeah, it's just, you know, waking up every day and just trying to do the best I can do every day and be the best person that could be. It's it's not just waking up and trying to be comfortable, you know, because that's kind of what it what it was for a long time, even though I was driven with work or artistry or these things are I kind of like superficial goals, we no way I won't have Instagram followers there. You know, the best picture or when the award or whatever. And now I realize that if you put the focus on, you know, having like a good, pure, clean heart just being a good person and and doing doing the best that I can. D'oh all those other things inevitably come. Absolutely. Oh, it's really cool. Like if I can just focus on, you know, drinking my water and like, eating well and, you know, staying in my devotionals and having like my prayer time, remember, meditation time or, you know, taking bogey to the dog park in getting sunlight. And like little things like that, when I go into my office to do work and be an artist manager for my boys or get on a call in doing, meeting or just have a conversation with a friend or whatever is coming in my path, it's like I'm prepared and I'm ready to, like, give more of myself. I'm in a more central place, you know, in my life and in my mind. And you know, I'm not living on this, like edge of anxiety and fear all the time. And like not living in a place of guilt and shame, I'm just living in a place of growth, and then I'm open toe like whatever's gonna come next so whatever person or whatever adventure, whatever opportunity or whatever it's like kind of living in a state of preparedness. I know it's like a weird answered your question, but just kind of where I'm at right now is like having a little bit more self love and, you know, taken dialing down the pride a little bit and just being really humble with, like for me, where God wants to take me and where I'm out in my journey and, you know, I mean, I I am a nurture And so having like my dog, my little bit of a man and, you know, taking care of our home. You know, I have step kids. I have Philip. Um, so it's just like all the different roles that I play in my life. It's like doing that to their its fullest potential by taking care of my own self. That's kind of weird that yeah,

Brock Goldberg:   1:35:01
taking care of yourself. So many people

Dani Tygr:   1:35:03
care Sunday, Sunday? No, but

Brock Goldberg:   1:35:07
taking care of yourself is so important. So many people get caught up in the fucking struggle in the bush and this and that and the other thing that's like, but you need to dial it back. You have to be able to look inside and take care of yourself in work through things. Because if you can't physically and emotionally take care of yourself, you can't really help anyone else. It's It's really hard, right? And so the answer to your question was

Dani Tygr:   1:35:33
perfect. Well, it's funny. I remember telling my therapist, like, a few years ago, Neil, I guess. But I felt like I was a rat just like running through this maze, and I just kept slamming into walls and I'm like, What is happening? Like why? I'm so I have all this strength to run and I think I'm like, getting somewhere. But really, I'm just like running away from things, and I'm just like, crashing into walls, and I'm having a step back and, like, just very messy. So now I'm like, Okay, well, I just have to work through some stuff and it might be painful, and I might have some growing pains and, you know, it's it's gonna take some time. I just feel like everybody. It's so easy to compare ourselves to each other, but like everybody has their own unique journey and their own unique timing. Look, I can't compare myself to Philip, who's, like, 10 years ahead of me, or I can't hear myself to like you and your wifey and like what you guys are doing, it's like we all have our own journey, our own story. We all started at a different place, and it all happens for a reason. You know, it's it's his own divine timing. And so I love where I'm at right now, and I mean, I'm not 100% where I'd want to be. But like I've grown so much the past couple of years, and I'm really grateful that I have a good community of friends and you know, my faith, Philip and you e I love broadcast like all about it, like a part of myself care Sunday, Like casting and listening to what everybody's story is and realizing how similar we are,

Brock Goldberg:   1:36:59
we are. We are getting back to that. It's like the biggest reason is like for me bringing those two people together. But one thing of notices like, uh I'm on this, like constant search toe to share, you know, and also here and listen Ah, and I think that the more that we listen, the more that we have. Open dialogue. It's the world is the weird and wicked and crazy and happy and sad Right. But media and social media tried to make it seem that it's we're so fucking apart were so different, just even like United States of America. But if you take people from two different backgrounds, right and bring them to go and have a conversation like this, yeah, we'll start to realize how similar they are. They'll be differences, but there will be similarities and continuing this conversation, I really appreciate you coming on the podcast. It means the fucking world to me. You drove out here and how it's coming A little done. Thank you. Sharing your story opening up, right? A lot of people will get inspired to remember. Like when you asked me if we're gonna talk about it. I'm pretty sure we talked about a lot of different things that you talked about a lot more things and I'm gonna have you back on for sure. I appreciate that. Um, so, yeah,

Dani Tygr:   1:38:18
I have a fun side, too. I feel like this is the way to D o

Brock Goldberg:   1:38:28
because we're human beings, right? We need to open up. We need to share our weaknesses, our flaws, to really see that. Wait a minute. Yeah. We all go through that fucking struggle every single day, right? That's why I talk about my bipolar. Is that every time I fentanyl used? That's why I talk about you know, all of these crazy things that I talk about because we all struggle through it. Yeah. Thank you.

Dani Tygr:   1:38:48
Together. Together. Yeah, that's a great point. Well, I love what you're doing. Brock, this is so awesome here. This room is killer, like the studio is amazing. Like, this is so bad ass. But the fact that you, you know, are helping people that open up and you're opening up yourself. It's like it makes it easier for us not to judge each other and to realize, you know, like how similar we are and that it's okay to, like, go through some shit just to be messed up and that, like, there's a there's a brighter side, you know, once you can get through it. And, you know, we all have our ups and down that it's so nice to like, Well, I've I'm grateful that you let me tell a little bit of my story and you, like, open up a little bit. I mean, it's definitely healing, but definitely inspiring to hear other people's stories. And, dude, I'm proud of you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank everyone. Appreciate you listening

Brock Goldberg:   1:39:39
to back to your authority. Have a good night. Peace

Dani Tygr:   1:39:42
out. Oh, is that your? Is that your role? A little bit.