"You can't second guess how to live your life"

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Welcome to

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Coffee Talk.

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Coffee Talk is a podcast about event

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Center at Texas A&M University

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and the Bush School of Government

and Public Service.

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Cool. Yeah. Breathe.

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Each week we are here to share,

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Tomorrow. Yesterday.

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And way down in the future.

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Oh, yeah.

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Okay.

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Are we started. Yet?

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Coffee talk?

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Yeah. Oh, okay. Okay. Oh, yeah. Okay.

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Snaps, welcome.

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Welcome.

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There you go. Hi.

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Hi. All right. Hi.

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So the poetry slams, am i right?

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I really have to read all this.

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We are reading all of it

during all of it. No.

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Okay.

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Cause you're about to leave,

and most people don't go read on the web,

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so we're going to make them

listen to it. No.

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It's boring.

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It's not boring.

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Today,

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we're joined with Dr.

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Frank Ashley, the third,

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who is the executive associate dean

and senior professor at the Bush School

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of Government and Public Service at Texas

A&M University.

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Thank you for.

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Thank you.

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I'm enjoying my time here.

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He's just going to cut you off.

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Go straight to the question.

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He came to the bush school

from the college Board, where he was

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senior vice president of Membership

in Higher Education Engagement.

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As executive associate dean, Dr.

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Ashley oversees graduate education,

research activities, as well as the Chief

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Strategic Planning, Faculty Affairs,

Student Affairs, Program, Development,

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Diversity Assessment, Communications

and External Relations, student services

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and extended education programs

in the Bush School.

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That is a run on sentence

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We need to rewrite that one.

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Does Grant

just copy and paste, Thats on Grant?

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Okay.

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He also teaches the managing diversity

in public and nonprofit

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organizations course.

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Dr. Ashley earned his bachelor's

degree from Louisiana College

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and a master's and doctorate

from the University of Alabama.

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He began his academic career

as a science teacher and coach.

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His previous appointments

include faculty positions and service

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as dean of the College of Education

and Interim Provost, vice president

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for academic affairs

at Texas A&M University.

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Commerce as well as, director.

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And take a deep breath.

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That's alot to say

Undergraduate teachers.

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You can hyperventilate.

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And teacher education.

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Texas

A&M University's College of Education.

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I have always learned

it is the key to speaking.

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Whenever you say something

new, you take a deep breath

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and then you make a point and relax.

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And then you take you pause for a second.

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Yeah. And through the nose or mouth.

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There you go.

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TJ That's a

that's a great introduction.

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Thank you so much for now.

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I'm so glad

From 2007

we're not done yet.

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to 2010

im so glad to be here?

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Dr. Ashley served as vice chancellor

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for academic affairs

for the Texas A&M University System,

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where he served as chief academic officer

for the system

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and represented the system

at the state level at all academic issues.

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In 2010, he was named Vice Chancellor

for recruitment

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and diversity and chief of staff.

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In this position,

he collected and analyzed system

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data on diversity

and its system of universities

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and agencies in recruiting and retaining

diverse students, faculty and staff.

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Did you need to take a sip of water?

No, I'm good

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okay.

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I'm perfect.

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Former College Board trustee Dr.

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Ashley also has served on boards

and committees for numerous other

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organized nations,

including the Committee Foundation

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of the Brazos Valley.

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Chai G.

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Saint Joseph Health

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It’s CHI, CHI

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It's not.

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You don't have to say Chi or tea.

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Now, that's chai. Chai.

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chi.

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chi is like your.

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Your inner peace. Your. Yeah.

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Your shockers. I do. Have chi.

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Got a lot of. It?

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I see it blown off his head.

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Yeah. Yeah.

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No, that's sweat from all these light

and the heat in this place.

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Geez, I feel like I'm in purgatory.

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Remember how we were talking

about funding earlier?

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Okay. The resources that we need.

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Yeah. Okay.

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T.J., are you going to finish

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Finish the North and North

American Society for Sports Management

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and the Comerce

Independent School District?

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He currently serves

as the chair of the Clinical Operations

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Board of St Luke's Health.

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He was also a member of the editorial

board of both the Journal of Applied

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and Athletic Research and Coaching

and the International Journal

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of Sports Management.

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I used to be important.

Your eyes just got so big

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I was just good.

I used to be so important.

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You still. Are. At one point in time.

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Now it says right here,

with all of the roles that Dr.

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Ashley has had, his most important is

being our number one guest on the podcast.

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That's true. That's true.

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So you're still important to us. Okay.

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Thank you.

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But I'm done talking.

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Do you need to A break

right now.

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I was about to say.

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We regroup. Geez.

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Need a commercial or.

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Commercial. Commercial in there? Okay.

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Commercial. Commercial in there? Okay.

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It's always fun to be with you.

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All right.

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It's an adventure because you never know

what's going to happen.

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Absolutely. Which is really funny.

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When I sent the request to your assistant

and she was like, well,

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what does he need to prepare for?

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I was like, I have no idea.

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Just it's wherever he takes the conversation

thats right, she goes.

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They wouldn't tell me what

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they wanted you to talk about

I said because they can't tell me

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what to talk about because I will talk

about whatever I want to talk about.

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We just try to guide the conversation

and then it just goes where you.

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Just try to keep it. You try to guide it.

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She tries to keep it

between the rails that you know.

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no, she keeps it off the rails.

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She doesn't. I keep it on the rails

But with Dr. Ashley.

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He's right.

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It's more you two.

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Yeah. With everybody else. That's me.

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Yeah, that's fair. Okay.

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Lovely earrings.

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I like to ask you. Very colorful.

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I try it. Well,

I thought you would be in something.

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I really thought about it.

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But, you know,

I had a faculty affairs meeting today,

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and they had a breakfast in my honor,

so I couldn't wear my crazy stuff.

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I had a little bit of.

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That's how they all know,

you mean. No, no.

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Not for the new ones.

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I had to put my academic outfit on. Hmm.

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Those aren't the new ones

starch shirts.

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I mean, it's a nice shirt.

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Yeah. It's coral and blue.

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I can't wait to get rid of these

when I retire.

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Garage Sale at Dr. Ashley’s

Wear my fishing shirts

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And she was going to say all fishing shirts.

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Fishing Shirts

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That's very nice.

You know where to find you. Yeah.

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Either.

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Either

be fishing, golfing or playing tennis.

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You play tennis?

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Do I play tennis? Oh. I didn't know.

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was it you that was talking about pickleball one time.

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Yeah,

my team won the state championship twice.

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When's the last time you played?

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Since you had knee surgery.

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I played in the state tournament.

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State team tournament

back in January. Wow.

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But I've been hurting since then.

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Yeah, people even already.

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Is it that bad? Oh, my phone is ringing.

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your phone.

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You see, I did turn my off

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Did you notice I turned my phone?

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I did.

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It's in the bag

at the bottom of the stroller.

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And so it's.

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Yeah,

it's going to be hard to get to. Okay.

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So you just put them in the hallway.

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With the kid? Yeah.

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That's it. Okay. Sorry.

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With the kid. No, it should ring again.

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Okay, it shouldn't.

Unless Jeff calls again.

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It's a. Text message. No.

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So are we.

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Talking? Was you. You sent a text?

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Yeah.

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Jamie's to blame.

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Way to go Jamie.

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I assume they were on silence.

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You know, mine is. Is T.J, though. Sorry.

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Okay,

so you guys want to talk about today?

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Okay, so we have a short list of questions

because we didn’t want to have to many

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You really have questions?

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Well, you know, had,

to be prepared with something.

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Okay.

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All right.

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Other than the students.

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Mm hmm.

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What is one thing that has continually

drawn to the bush school.

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The students.

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Know as besides the students. Oh. Oh.

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Beside The students.

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The students who are walking

beside the students.

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No, no, no, no.

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Let me just be okay.

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Let me get serious for a second.

Wait a minute.

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Hang on. Hang on a second.

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Let me

I'm going to I'm going to chi myself.

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I'm a chi myself.

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Cha or chi Myself.

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I'm a chi myself.

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Okay.

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Honestly, it's the people here.

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It's really the people.

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I mean, like, you guys, you guys,

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you guys have one of the most stressful

jobs here in the bush school,

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because you got to deal

with a lot of people

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who I mean, they come in

with all these expectations.

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And if things aren't the way they like it.

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They can be pains in the in the rear.

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But you always have a smile on your face.

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You you know, you might go home

and drink a bunch of alcohol later, but

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but you always have a smile on your face.

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You're very professional.

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Who says we wait till we get to home?

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You know,

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it's just people like

you guys hanging out with people like you guys

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I mean, you.

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You you probably can make more money

doing something else,

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but you're still here because you.

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Because you like what you do.

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I think there are a lot of faculty

and staff members

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that could probably make more money

doing other things.

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I know I can make more money

doing other things, but.

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But you like what you do here,

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everyone sort of,

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you know, and there are a lot of people

who are around when

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when President Bush and Barbara

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Bush were alive and you saw how

how they were and everything.

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And you just want to

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you want to help continue that vision that

they started here with the Bush School.

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So it's the people, too.

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Yeah.

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So it's a student now.

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I think a lot of

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there are some people that, you know,

I could I'm not going to miss,

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but you guys arent, you guys arent among

the people I'm not going to miss.

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He's only doing it

because it's on recording.

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That's fair.

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Well, do you ever do?

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miss us, you know where to find us.

Oh, yeah, I know, I know.

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You know.

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The door is always.

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I had this conversation

I think with Sarah. Mhm.

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The venue showcase. You'd be our greeter.

Yeah.

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To be a greeter to come in

and just volunteer every once in a while.

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Oh you have to pay me if you want to but,

but just be a greater because.

You think the dean would sign off on that?

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Share that office next to mine.

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No, I don't want an office.

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I want to know where I want

to come in every once and a while

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Yeah, yeah. But now Sarah

Does he come in every once in a while?

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Sure.

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Sarah, did I do a good job as your Greeter?

You did. A

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great job before I could even talk to this

young lady who walked up to the table?

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I think you were in the banquet space.

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He's like, welcome,

welcome to the vendor show case.

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Why don't you check in here?

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We've got all the vendor

set up in the banquet space.

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There's in that in the dining room

and out here in the lobby,

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the auditoriums are

I didn't tell him anything.

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He just went. Off.

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It's you know.

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I, I did the same thing in the bush go I

sometimes I sit at the front desk

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and I answer the phones.

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I did.

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poor Mary

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I mean, I'm a she's somebody should answer

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She's at the point

she's at the point where I mean, she's

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no nobody can tell me that, you know,

so I just sit there and I go.

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Good morning, Bush School of Government,

Public service.

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This is Frank.

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May I help you, please?

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And then I just.

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Like if you have to talk to talk to Dr. Ashley and their like he's

not available.

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Yeah. Yeah.

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But I love doing that.

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I it's fun. I, you know, I, yeah.

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A perfect guy.

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I think the biggest compliment

I've received is throughout

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my whole career and I,

and I went back to see a bunch of guys

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I went to school

with, god over 40 years ago.

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And they're saying, Frank,

look at everything that you've achieved.

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You still, Frank,

that went to college here, that

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that crazy guy who was was in college

with us.

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And it's true. I just, you know,

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so what

get the big head, never get the big.

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never get the big head

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Can't take yourself too. Seriously now.

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You can't take it out of too serious

because your hats wont fit.

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If he had the big head,

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you got to keep letting that

strap your hands or feet and everything.

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Thank you.

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Could you imagine what a day is like

for Mary with the dean in the corner?

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Her then you got Brandon and Joe,

you know, Dr.

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Ashley coming from the back.

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And then however many times

Grant walks in and out.

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I would love to sit in her office

and just stay here.

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Just watch it

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gopro there

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I think we're going to have that.

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We're having a drawing

and where you could Mary for a day.

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She she would no she would

that probably give her a heart attack.

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It probably would be probably

because she was really nervous

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when I first started answering the phones.

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What's the worst that can happen

your second?

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You know. I know.

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But she didn't know what I'd say,

you know.

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Well,

I mean, honestly, anybody on this campus

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who knows you that happens

to call over there going to be like, okay.

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It's the parent, it's.

Yo, baby, what's up?

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What's up?

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Well, we have 41 place where you own

what you want.

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Who you wanna talk to, huh?

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Oh, no, man, can't do that.

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I ain't going. No, no. No, no.

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You leave a message.

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But he ain't talking to you right

now, Danny.

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Yeah, I wouldn't do a thing like that.

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I would use that, that, that radio voice.

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I think your customer service voice.

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Good morning.

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Bush school of government

and public service.

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Frank here.

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How may I help you.

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we need him to train our student.

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Workers there?

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You know what needs to happen

before you leave there?

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Hold music needs to be you singing.

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They need to change that

because, like, well, I like.

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I like the broccoli.

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hold music.

Yeah, but it's on all the time.

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You know,

how many times I have heard that i mean its Great.

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You have, you have.

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Because you're here.

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Yeah.

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But someone calling from Snook, Texas.

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Someone calling from Snook, Texas.

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Imagine that call in the bush school

and they hear the broccoli go.

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Hey, Mary, come here.

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This is the broccoli thing.

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They talked about George Bush

and broccoli.

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God, it's so funny.

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I go where it is.

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Yeah, like I hang up.

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Let's call again.

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Got okay not to offend.

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from Snook Yeah, right.

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or, Tunis.

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Okay, I'm going take a sip of water.

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I got to do a little chi

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chi moment.

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Oh, my God.

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If I'm going to be named this episode.

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its chi or

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Listen.

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Haven't you heard that?

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That's something I always wanted to do.

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I always wanted to do that. tai chi

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Yeah, yeah.

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Slow movement.

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Because I could go slow.

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Cause I could go slow.

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I'm so glad this was nice. You.

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You should come teach a class for.

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No, I'm a little.

I want to learn how to do it.

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Yeah, do it down here at the pond

for some help.

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That would be good.

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tai chi at the pond

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You have to fix the retention walls.

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First you had through to the falling down.

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On your list

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Yeah.

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That's on Brandons List

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Dr. Ashleys listed somewhere floating away.

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I wrote a song about that.

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What?

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Retention walls, you havent heard it

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the retention walls are falling down.

falling down. falling down.

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The retention walls are falling down

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Oh, okay.

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How do you get through a class?

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I'm just curious.

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When you're teaching,

how do you get through a class? Well.

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Believe it or not, well, honest enough,

this is the honest to goodness truth.

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I appoint one student in my class

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and what what

their main responsibility is, is

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when I start going off a certain place,

they raise their hand and say, Dr.

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Ashley, back on the tracks.

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I mean, and I do that every semester.

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I point one student in

that's a responsibility.

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That should be in the new faculty

training.

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And matter of fact,

there are some students that

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they will scream at the other student.

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He's not on the track,

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get him back on the track,

because sometimes I just go, you know,

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somebody says something

and I just, you know.

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And I hear it and need to appoint

a full time staff member

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for staff meetings for that first.

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Yeah, for. Me, yeah.

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We do better

when I lead them versus listening.

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Okay.

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So what's your favorite memory, experience

or event while you've been here?

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You can take a drink.

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It's okay.

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The favorite.

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Favorite memories. Well, I got Callie

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one of my first.

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First one was the first time

with the Kennebunkport

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and got to go to President Bush's house.

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That was a big one.

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Another big one was I mean,

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just happened last summer

when my wife and I, Janice,

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got a chance to land on the USS

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Bush aircraft carrier.

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We flew out of our plane

and landed on the aircraft carrier,

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stayed there for a couple of days

and were catapulted off the plane.

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I heard these things. The newsletters

that we get.

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Don't even get started.

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Because like I would like

to see pictures of oh.

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oh I got, And you want

you want pictures? You just have to follow him.

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I got a picture.

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I got.

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You turned your.

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Phone.

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I know I could turn it on

and show you pictures, but it oh, it was

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it was amazing.

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We did that.

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Those are probably the

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the most amazing two things they had

of all the speakers that have come here.

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I think one of my highlights

was Madeleine Albright

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when she came,

you know, seeing somebody who

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you saw on TV and I mean,

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and just sitting down eating dinner with,

is she just a regular person?

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And that's what I've learned

about all these the people that come here,

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most of them are just regular people.

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They just people

that are committed to service.

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So that's why I probably can't

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tell you how many people have been here,

because I don't pay that much attention.

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Because. It's not.

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Yeah. Yeah, yeah.

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Now, now you every once in a while

you get the high maintenance people

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and you remember those.

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Yes, yeah, yeah.

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You remember those

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You remember the high maintenance people?

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I do.

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You, as I put it, you fondly remember

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them.

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That's nice. Yeah. Okay, so there is.

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Yeah. There they're the reasons

I have a punching bag in my office.

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Is that there is a partly.

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It's just change the pictures on the back.

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She wouldn't let us put pictures on it.

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I didn't even know y'all are buying it.

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So yeah.

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And we were like, yeah.

And we can print out pictures.

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Well i didnt want to waste trees

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Okay.

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I figured I could envision it.

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Okay,

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excellent. Fair.

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Well, yes,

I will need to see pictures of.

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Next. Right.

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Okay. I'm just you.

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Know, this is this is your question.

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You can ask. Do you want it? It was

you were so proud of it.

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I'm not proud of it.

I just had a question.

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Well, I mean, I can read questions.

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You should have done double,

double spaced.

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Yes, you should have done it

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you could have edited it.

For visitors, staff,

clients, future clients, vendors, etc..

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What is one thing that you would tell them

about our facility?

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First of all, I, I would

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I don't

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think people

appreciate the things that we have here.

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I mean, this is a world class facility.

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I mean, it really is.

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Would you agree that ice cream socials

do not fall in that category?

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I'm not going there.

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I went there.

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I'm not going there.

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But yes,

but seriously, it's a world class facility

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and it's one of those things where,

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you know, it's unlike when I was here

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as a as

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before I became vice chancellor

when I left to go to another university,

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I mean, I moved from College Station

for three years.

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And there are a lot of things that I took

for granted here

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that when I got there, it was like, wow.

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So I couldn't wait to move back

and then come back.

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And I think that's

what this place right here is.

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I don't know how much

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people appreciate it.

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I think

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I like the idea. It's

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we're at Texas A&M,

but we're sort of away from Texas A&M

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and now we're out of the hustle

and bustle.

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It's like we're going on a retreat over

to West Campus,

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over to the PCC and everything.

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You know, I was telling somebody, matter fact

we're talking about a certain event

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and they're talking about coming over here

for the event.

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And I said, You know

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what I'd I'd like to do for an event.

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You know, if I was doing an event,

it's come in, lecture, dinner or whatever

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and then tell people,

okay, you've got about 45 minutes,

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get in your groups

and just go walk around the grounds.

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Yeah.

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And think about reflect on what

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we just talked about and speak about

because you don't have to stay inside.

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I mean, you can go outside,

you can go ride the horses, you know,

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no, you can't really do that.

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You know, people cannot ride the horses.

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Has anyone tried that?

Yes

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So after the World Series, there was a

family walking around in their Astros gear

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and they got up on the

the child was sitting on the horses.

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The mom was standing between them,

the oldest son.

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Are you serious?

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Yeah.

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I had to walk outside

and tell them to get down. Like why?

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What made them think they could do that?

I don't. Know.

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I hope they're not watching this part

right here. Probably not.

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Because what would make

you think you could do that?

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People do it all the time.

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Lots of sorority

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and fraternity groups have been out here

taking photos, doing the same thing.

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Yeah, it's over the years,

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I've had to tell several people

to get down and leave

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My most favorite thing to do

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Yes, T.J.

does like. That. I could do that.

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Maybe hire me to do that.

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Extra security.

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I could get a bouncer.

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I could be the PCC bouncer.

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That to me, I give our little tank top.

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Shirt

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Everything

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Whats so funny about.

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Whats so funny about it

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Who plays

tennis in better shape than I am?

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Yeah. Yeah.

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He recovered much better

from his knee surgery than I do.

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he’s a lot more active.

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He is and he followed

through with physical therapy. I quit.

00:23:22:11 - 00:23:24:11

It's all the rehab.

00:23:24:11 - 00:23:26:07

No, I finished when I was good.

00:23:26:07 - 00:23:28:13

Yeah, I just quit. Yeah. Mm.

00:23:28:13 - 00:23:30:19

You decided when you were done.

00:23:30:19 - 00:23:32:04

no, my doctor did.

00:23:32:04 - 00:23:33:15

The physical therapist did not.

00:23:33:15 - 00:23:35:23

But the doctor told me he was like,

you're good, so.

00:23:36:02 - 00:23:38:16

Now you got to do it.

The physical therapist says, If.

00:23:38:16 - 00:23:40:15

I do what the physical therapist says, Dr.

00:23:40:15 - 00:23:42:06

Ashley, I would be broke

00:23:42:06 - 00:23:45:12

because they want you to come in

so many sessions that you keep paying

00:23:45:13 - 00:23:46:00

Yeah.

00:23:46:04 - 00:23:47:18

Yeah, I know.

00:23:47:18 - 00:23:50:04

I mean, he was great,

and I got everything out of it.

00:23:50:04 - 00:23:52:06

I need it. So I wrote that song about you.

00:23:54:01 - 00:23:57:00

Which song?

00:23:57:00 - 00:23:59:14

I wrote that song. No matter.

00:23:59:21 - 00:24:01:06

What song.

00:24:01:09 - 00:24:02:02

sing it.

00:24:02:02 - 00:24:03:15

Yeah, I know the song

00:24:04:01 - 00:24:06:11

day I got to go to rehab.

00:24:06:11 - 00:24:08:18

I say, No, no, no.

00:24:09:06 - 00:24:10:04

I was just playing.

00:24:10:04 - 00:24:14:03

That's where you were going with that?

00:24:14:03 - 00:24:17:02

I'm sorry, folks. I just get Carry.

00:24:17:02 - 00:24:19:09

You got to help me stay.

00:24:19:09 - 00:24:20:02

I'm okay with. That.

00:24:20:02 - 00:24:21:19

Help me stay between the rails

00:24:21:19 - 00:24:23:18

I think I like you. Be in you. Yeah.

00:24:23:18 - 00:24:26:06

And they're about to make a movie about her life

say, you gotta go rehab.

00:24:26:22 - 00:24:29:13

Sarah. Say, no, no, no.

00:24:29:18 - 00:24:30:18

I say no a lot.

00:24:30:18 - 00:24:33:03

Dr. Ashley, today is my day off.

00:24:33:03 - 00:24:35:06

I chose to come in

because I didn't want to miss this.

00:24:35:06 - 00:24:37:14

I'm not doing anything. Oh, you know.

00:24:38:05 - 00:24:39:08

You okay?

00:24:39:08 - 00:24:43:09

No. Okay.

00:24:43:09 - 00:24:45:12

I feel bad

that you can make anything better.

00:24:45:12 - 00:24:48:14

on your day off

00:24:48:14 - 00:24:50:10

Well, she did, you know.

00:24:50:10 - 00:24:52:17

At least go hang out at Wal-Mart. Target.

You know.

00:24:53:02 - 00:24:55:21

She's leaving town when we're done. Okay.

00:24:56:05 - 00:24:58:13

Where are you going?

00:24:58:13 - 00:25:01:18

To, uh. Cedar Creek Lake. Oh,

00:25:02:20 - 00:25:05:06

you go fishing or just now?

00:25:05:06 - 00:25:06:17

She is not going fishing.

00:25:06:17 - 00:25:10:15

shes going to use the swing on the dock, so

00:25:10:20 - 00:25:13:21

I might go outside.

00:25:13:21 - 00:25:16:05

I might go out. Okay.

00:25:16:05 - 00:25:17:16

Okay, okay. Back on point.

00:25:17:16 - 00:25:20:05

So the reason that we're all here

00:25:23:00 - 00:25:24:21

now that everyone knows you're retiring.

00:25:24:21 - 00:25:25:14

Yeah.

00:25:26:10 - 00:25:27:19

What's next?

00:25:27:20 - 00:25:28:08

What's next?

00:25:28:08 - 00:25:30:10

Well, what? What I tell everyone,

00:25:31:16 - 00:25:35:06

this is my third time retiring,

and I'm a get it right this time.

00:25:35:19 - 00:25:36:16

Third time's a. Charm.

00:25:36:16 - 00:25:37:23

I'm gonna get it right this time

00:25:37:23 - 00:25:41:13

she one I even want to take this job

only told Mark I'd be here three years.

00:25:41:21 - 00:25:43:14

Well, he only said he'd be here one term.

00:25:43:14 - 00:25:44:14

why yeah

00:25:44:14 - 00:25:46:16

So we both lied.

00:25:48:06 - 00:25:49:23

But I mean, you get suck.

00:25:49:23 - 00:25:54:04

You get so sucked into this place,

you know, and just but you know,

00:25:55:13 - 00:25:58:15

I did seven years and I

00:25:58:17 - 00:26:04:07

I've been in administration over 25 years,

upper administration over 25 years.

00:26:04:20 - 00:26:10:02

And what I've told everyone is from

00:26:11:04 - 00:26:13:08

the last day of August

00:26:13:08 - 00:26:15:10

until the last day of December,

00:26:15:15 - 00:26:17:15

I'm going to do nothing.

00:26:18:12 - 00:26:21:13

I'm going to play golf,

you know, play tennis.

00:26:22:01 - 00:26:24:18

I'm going to go fishing

and we're going to travel.

00:26:25:21 - 00:26:29:01

And that's that that's about it.

Has your wife retired yet?

00:26:29:02 - 00:26:30:13

You. Yeah.

00:26:30:13 - 00:26:32:12

And then say, what would she tell you

you're going to do?

00:26:32:12 - 00:26:33:19

Yeah. Yeah.

00:26:33:19 - 00:26:37:04

Well travel

well she really wants to travel.

00:26:37:04 - 00:26:39:03

We're, we're big time tennis fans.

00:26:39:03 - 00:26:42:16

We want to travel around the country,

watch tennis matches all over the country.

00:26:42:17 - 00:26:44:06

She loves play golf.

00:26:44:06 - 00:26:46:22

Jill, we're going to go play golf courses

all over the place.

00:26:46:22 - 00:26:49:11

Probably buy a little travel trailer.

00:26:51:02 - 00:26:53:18

if anybody out there has one for sale,

let me know

00:26:54:23 - 00:26:57:04

because we're looking

for a little travel trailer

00:26:58:22 - 00:26:59:12

we don't want.

00:26:59:12 - 00:27:01:10

When you pull behind you,

we want one side.

00:27:01:10 - 00:27:02:22

You want a fifth wheel or like an RV.

00:27:02:22 - 00:27:05:01

Now we want a little RV.

00:27:05:01 - 00:27:08:11

So if anyone out there has anything,

just let us know.

00:27:08:20 - 00:27:12:00

You know, I've given a lot of service

00:27:12:00 - 00:27:15:23

to this university, so

I figured that you can cut me a good deal.

00:27:15:23 - 00:27:18:16

Okay, I'm not supposed to say that I'm.

00:27:19:00 - 00:27:20:07

Yeah, okay.

00:27:20:07 - 00:27:21:09

Yeah. Okay.

00:27:21:09 - 00:27:22:21

Well, when you purchase that,

you won't be part of A&M

00:27:22:21 - 00:27:27:11

And, and so only for is true, but

that's what I want to do now come January.

00:27:27:11 - 00:27:31:13

I mean, I've got a lot of offers to do,

a lot of things to do, consulting.

00:27:31:13 - 00:27:34:12

I do a lot of speeches, public speaking.

00:27:34:18 - 00:27:37:01

I told Mary,

you should be a motivational speaker.

00:27:37:02 - 00:27:40:09

That's you know, I used

I used to get paid a lot of money

00:27:40:12 - 00:27:43:19

to be a motivational speaker

before I took my jobs,

00:27:44:05 - 00:27:49:10

because once I once I worked

for the system, once I worked

00:27:49:10 - 00:27:53:19

for the College Board, I couldn't get paid

because I was just in line.

00:27:53:19 - 00:27:57:04

Were you being invited

because you're Frank Ashley or were you

00:27:57:04 - 00:28:01:00

be invited because you were a senior vice

president or an executive?

00:28:01:00 - 00:28:03:05

So because you're Frank Ashley, well.

00:28:03:18 - 00:28:04:07

Then he wouldn't get.

00:28:04:07 - 00:28:07:03

Paid or organizations

didn't see it that way.

00:28:07:03 - 00:28:09:05

They said, Well,

but you wouldn't be invited.

00:28:09:05 - 00:28:09:19

If so.

00:28:09:19 - 00:28:13:10

Yeah, I can't get paid

so I can get paid again.

00:28:13:14 - 00:28:16:22

And I, I'm working on a website,

matter of fact,

00:28:17:12 - 00:28:20:04

frankbashleyIII.com

00:28:21:14 - 00:28:22:18

take a look at the website.

00:28:22:18 - 00:28:23:20

I think it is.

00:28:23:20 - 00:28:26:04

I think that's what it is.

00:28:26:04 - 00:28:27:22

Did you set it up yourself?

00:28:27:22 - 00:28:30:03

No, I paid someone to set it up for me.

00:28:30:03 - 00:28:32:09

It's good, but it's a it's a nice.

00:28:32:09 - 00:28:33:01

Okay.

00:28:33:01 - 00:28:36:01

I see some people. Right now choosing it.

00:28:36:01 - 00:28:37:02

All right. Thank you.

00:28:37:02 - 00:28:39:23

Frank B Ashley that dot, dot, dot com.

00:28:41:12 - 00:28:43:02

But that's my website

00:28:43:02 - 00:28:46:11

and I need to do

I probably need to update it

00:28:46:11 - 00:28:49:16

because I got to my build it

before I decided to retire.

00:28:51:12 - 00:28:55:13

But, you know, motivational speaking

and travel, those are the biggest two.

00:28:55:13 - 00:28:57:15

We we really love tennis.

00:28:57:15 - 00:28:59:04

And we used to go to the U.S. Open.

00:28:59:04 - 00:29:01:07

We want to go to all the major

tennis tournaments.

00:29:01:07 - 00:29:02:18

We'd like to go to Wimbledon,

00:29:02:18 - 00:29:06:13

the French Open, the Italian Open,

and also the Australian Open.

00:29:07:01 - 00:29:10:18

Wow, that

00:29:10:18 - 00:29:13:18

would be fun.

00:29:13:18 - 00:29:14:16

Is it there?

00:29:15:21 - 00:29:16:13

Oh, it's there.

00:29:16:13 - 00:29:17:01

Good.

00:29:17:01 - 00:29:17:18

You remember it?

00:29:17:18 - 00:29:18:22

Yeah. It's.

00:29:18:22 - 00:29:23:07

It's Frank Ashley

00:29:23:07 - 00:29:25:08

I I I Okay,

00:29:25:08 - 00:29:28:06

frankashleyIII.com

00:29:28:13 - 00:29:29:22

no B? No B

what does the B stand for?

00:29:29:22 - 00:29:32:23

Bernard?

00:29:32:23 - 00:29:35:05

Bernard. Not Bernard. Bernard.

00:29:36:00 - 00:29:37:01

All right.

00:29:37:07 - 00:29:37:21

Okay.

00:29:37:21 - 00:29:39:06

Well, I'm excited for you.

00:29:39:06 - 00:29:40:21

Well, I'm excited, too.

00:29:40:21 - 00:29:44:05

You know, I mean, that apprehension

and everything because you don't,

00:29:44:07 - 00:29:46:11

you know, you don't know

if you're going to get bored

00:29:47:07 - 00:29:51:20

because I'm I'm up at 5:00 every morning.

00:29:51:20 - 00:29:53:06

Your up at 5:00 morning.

00:29:53:06 - 00:29:55:11

They'll meet Tanner at the course,

you guys and hit the range early.

00:29:56:00 - 00:29:58:06

Yeah you can text me I'll be I'm awake.

00:29:58:17 - 00:29:59:16

So am I

00:29:59:19 - 00:30:00:11

Like.

00:30:00:16 - 00:30:02:03

But I just know.

00:30:02:03 - 00:30:04:03

We'll go have breakfast.

I'm going to start sleeping.

00:30:04:15 - 00:30:05:10

you know

00:30:05:12 - 00:30:10:12

I mean sleep until 7:00 is big for me,

so I mean, I might.

00:30:10:12 - 00:30:12:18

That was. Nice. Yeah. 715.

00:30:14:12 - 00:30:15:12

dont get too crazy there

00:30:15:12 - 00:30:17:23

There. Yeah.

00:30:19:00 - 00:30:21:00

I don't imagine

you'll be slowing down any time.

00:30:21:09 - 00:30:22:14

Not any time soon.

00:30:22:14 - 00:30:24:16

I just you know,

00:30:25:02 - 00:30:28:04

it's going to be interesting

because I've always done something.

00:30:28:04 - 00:30:29:18

That's the thing about it.

00:30:29:18 - 00:30:32:02

I've never not done anything.

00:30:32:12 - 00:30:34:12

You go around me like,

welcome to my TED Talk.

00:30:34:19 - 00:30:35:20

Yeah. Yeah.

00:30:35:20 - 00:30:38:07

So are you guys going to stay like, house

here?

00:30:38:07 - 00:30:38:22

Are you guys going to move?

00:30:38:22 - 00:30:42:12

Believe it or not, we have put a bid down

00:30:42:12 - 00:30:45:15

and the bid has been accepted

00:30:45:15 - 00:30:49:02

on a house Navasota, Texas.

00:30:49:20 - 00:30:52:12

The historic district.

No, it's on pecan.

00:30:52:14 - 00:30:53:21

Yeah, it's pecan. On the golf course.

00:30:53:21 - 00:30:56:01

It's like, yeah, it's on the golf.

00:30:56:02 - 00:30:58:23

It's on the golf Course.

00:30:58:23 - 00:31:01:20

Well I get historic district.

00:31:02:06 - 00:31:04:04

They have all kinds of pretty houses

down there.

00:31:04:04 - 00:31:09:15

It just shows that she knows me

better than you do.

00:31:09:15 - 00:31:10:11

I like

00:31:10:11 - 00:31:12:13

Navasota’s historic district. It's it's neat.

00:31:12:18 - 00:31:13:22

It's really neat.

00:31:13:22 - 00:31:16:02

But it's, you know, now good.

00:31:16:02 - 00:31:17:21

Luck with all that construction down

there.

00:31:17:21 - 00:31:19:17

It's not far from here.

00:31:19:17 - 00:31:22:00

Plus, it's small town and everything.

00:31:22:00 - 00:31:23:05

Plus, it's on the golf course.

00:31:24:15 - 00:31:28:02

So. So, do you have your own golf cart

already or not yet?

00:31:28:15 - 00:31:30:21

We're going get the house first.

00:31:31:00 - 00:31:31:22

And that's the thing about it.

00:31:31:22 - 00:31:33:19

We got to sell the house we have here.

00:31:33:19 - 00:31:37:17

That's that's the pain,

because we have a huge house here

00:31:38:00 - 00:31:40:04

and we're buying a small house there.

00:31:41:08 - 00:31:44:03

So it's time to time

to get rid of a whole bunch of stuff.

00:31:44:03 - 00:31:46:00

Yeah. Downsize.

00:31:46:00 - 00:31:48:09

I mean, how are you going

to fit everything in an RV? I don't know.

00:31:48:22 - 00:31:51:14

In fact, if anybody needs a piano,

let me know I have a piano.

00:31:51:14 - 00:31:52:02

Oh, my God.

00:31:52:02 - 00:31:53:15

Do not let Jeff hear this.

00:31:53:15 - 00:31:54:16

Didn't you guys already?

00:31:54:16 - 00:31:56:01

I thought, you got one.

00:31:56:09 - 00:31:58:04

Oh, yeah.

You told him? No. You need a piano?

00:31:58:04 - 00:31:59:11

No, Jeff wants a piano.

00:31:59:11 - 00:32:02:11

Oh. Hey, Jeff, if you're listening.

00:32:02:13 - 00:32:04:23

Where's he going to put it? I don't. Know.

00:32:04:23 - 00:32:07:17

It's not. Yeah, if you're listening.

00:32:07:19 - 00:32:08:19

But just.

00:32:08:19 - 00:32:09:23

He would put it in storage.

00:32:09:23 - 00:32:11:12

So when we build a house,

we would have a piano.

00:32:11:12 - 00:32:15:07

Yeah, well, he has to actually put

foundation down and start that process.

00:32:15:07 - 00:32:18:03

Jeff,

if you. Listen three years. I have a piano

00:32:19:11 - 00:32:19:16

in it.

00:32:19:16 - 00:32:21:04

Keep it free.

00:32:21:04 - 00:32:23:12

You should donate to one of the local

theater companies.

00:32:23:12 - 00:32:24:16

You could donate it to us.

00:32:24:16 - 00:32:25:12

We have pianos.

00:32:25:12 - 00:32:26:17

No, I don't want any more.

00:32:26:17 - 00:32:29:05

They don't get used enough as it is.

00:32:30:00 - 00:32:31:08

Piano signed by Dr.

00:32:31:08 - 00:32:32:09

Ashley.

00:32:32:09 - 00:32:33:17

But you should.

00:32:33:17 - 00:32:36:03

You have no space. You should.

00:32:36:17 - 00:32:37:23

You should

you need a piano.

00:32:37:23 - 00:32:38:22

She wants a. Piano.

00:32:38:22 - 00:32:39:23

You want a Piano?

00:32:39:23 - 00:32:42:05

I wanted a piano,

but I don't have room for.

00:32:42:05 - 00:32:43:10

How big is it?

00:32:43:10 - 00:32:44:20

It's upright.

00:32:44:20 - 00:32:47:03

Yeah. See? Oh, God, Jeff would love that.

00:32:47:03 - 00:32:50:15

I mean, I'll fit right through right

there.

00:32:50:15 - 00:32:53:18

Just tall.

00:32:53:18 - 00:32:55:03

No, it won't.

00:32:55:18 - 00:32:56:14

What are you gonna do with it?

00:32:56:14 - 00:32:58:16

How often do you play your keyboard?

00:32:58:16 - 00:33:00:20

Don't worry. Don't. Don't stop it.

00:33:01:02 - 00:33:02:20

Hey, she's not even here today.

00:33:02:20 - 00:33:04:22

She apparently she is. She's not working.

00:33:04:22 - 00:33:05:12

She's not work.

00:33:05:12 - 00:33:08:09

She sent text messages,

disrupting our podcast.

00:33:08:10 - 00:33:08:19

Okay.

00:33:09:21 - 00:33:10:18

Okay.

00:33:11:00 - 00:33:13:19

No seriously, you should be donating

to one of the local theaters now.

00:33:14:16 - 00:33:16:04

Or Jamie, you

00:33:17:05 - 00:33:19:08

turn your spare room into the music room

00:33:19:08 - 00:33:22:03

and then your mom can sleep in her

trailer.

00:33:22:03 - 00:33:24:01

Paxton can sleep on the piano.

00:33:24:01 - 00:33:27:14

He doesn't sleep in the guest room

anywhere,

00:33:27:17 - 00:33:28:08

my child.

00:33:28:08 - 00:33:30:16

Well, that's going to be a killer estate

sale that you're going to have.

00:33:31:20 - 00:33:33:14

No, no, no, no.

00:33:33:14 - 00:33:35:16

We were going to do an estate sale,

00:33:36:06 - 00:33:39:03

and I told Janice we're going to donate it

away.

00:33:39:10 - 00:33:41:21

I took two truckloads of stuff

00:33:42:07 - 00:33:44:16

down to the mission

00:33:45:00 - 00:33:47:23

two weeks ago because she wanted to have

a big garage sale.

00:33:47:23 - 00:33:51:20

I said, No we're not going to have a garage,

so we just didn't give it away.

00:33:51:20 - 00:33:53:01

We talked about that too,

00:33:53:01 - 00:33:56:02

because we're in the process of packing

and about to move.

00:33:56:07 - 00:33:58:19

And Tanner told me yesterday he was like,

We should probably

00:33:59:02 - 00:33:59:23

maybe we should try sell some.

00:33:59:23 - 00:34:00:16

This is like, no,

00:34:00:16 - 00:34:02:21

we can do a garage sale,

but we can just put a sign that says free.

00:34:03:03 - 00:34:05:04

Yeah. I’m not mess with that.

00:34:05:22 - 00:34:09:03

Plus it's just

you had a sticker and I just.

00:34:09:14 - 00:34:09:21

Yeah.

00:34:09:21 - 00:34:12:04

Plus I don't want to haggle with people

and everything.

00:34:12:05 - 00:34:15:02

That's I'm saying it's going to be like,

yes, whatever.

00:34:15:02 - 00:34:17:00

Price Yes, yeah. Yes.

00:34:17:00 - 00:34:18:09

Penny Awesome. Take it.

00:34:20:01 - 00:34:21:07

Yeah, you did that one time.

00:34:21:07 - 00:34:24:14

It was best offer yet,

but she really didn't go with best offer.

00:34:24:14 - 00:34:26:10

She just took the offer. Yes.

00:34:26:10 - 00:34:27:16

I was just like just.

00:34:27:16 - 00:34:30:12

Yeah, just take it.

00:34:30:12 - 00:34:31:04

Yeah.

00:34:31:20 - 00:34:34:01

So where are the where

where's your daughter at now?

00:34:34:03 - 00:34:36:10

Okay. My daughter's still in Tucson.

00:34:36:12 - 00:34:39:21

That's my she's my youngest

and my son's here in college Station.

00:34:39:21 - 00:34:42:08

They should still

and he works in Navasota,

00:34:43:08 - 00:34:45:01

but he lives in College Station.

00:34:45:01 - 00:34:48:09

he's

looking at moving to San Antonio.

00:34:48:18 - 00:34:49:07

Don't.

00:34:49:07 - 00:34:51:01

And he's going. Dont.

00:34:51:01 - 00:34:53:05

And he's gone

00:34:53:15 - 00:34:54:23

because he can work at a distance.

00:34:54:23 - 00:34:57:04

And every once in a while he has a meeting here.

00:34:57:04 - 00:34:57:17

He goes thats

00:34:57:17 - 00:35:00:07

Perfect. I could come live with you all

when I have to be at work.

00:35:00:07 - 00:35:02:02

And I'm like,

Yeah, well, charge your rent.

00:35:04:01 - 00:35:05:15

And like, what are the hotels charging?

00:35:05:15 - 00:35:08:10

And whatever charge you get per diem,

00:35:09:10 - 00:35:12:05

come going to Dad for my golf.

00:35:12:07 - 00:35:14:05

So why does he want to go to San Antonio?

00:35:14:05 - 00:35:16:16

He's got some buddies

that live over there,

00:35:16:16 - 00:35:18:22

so he's thinking about moving there.

00:35:19:01 - 00:35:20:17

It's definitely what it used to be.

00:35:20:17 - 00:35:22:02

No, it's not.

00:35:22:11 - 00:35:24:19

The roller

derby team is really good, though.

00:35:24:19 - 00:35:26:05

Now, that was it. Those four questions.

00:35:26:05 - 00:35:26:18

That's it.

00:35:26:18 - 00:35:27:11

Yeah, we have just.

00:35:27:11 - 00:35:29:19

Yeah, we kept it simple. Wow.

00:35:30:03 - 00:35:32:09

We weren't sure how far off the tracks

we were going to go. Yeah.

00:35:32:17 - 00:35:34:05

We didn't go far off the track.

00:35:34:05 - 00:35:36:00

Or, you know

00:35:36:12 - 00:35:38:14

how busy you were and if you

were going to be in a hurry?

00:35:38:14 - 00:35:39:20

No, I.

00:35:39:20 - 00:35:42:07

Thought we started staying on tracks.

Pretty good.

00:35:42:07 - 00:35:44:19

Yeah, well. Better than most.

00:35:46:09 - 00:35:48:15

So I have talked to Mary and Yvonne,

00:35:48:15 - 00:35:51:18

and we're trying to schedule a time

to do a final one with you and the dean.

00:35:52:16 - 00:35:54:23

That's what. Yeah, that's what Mary said.

00:35:54:23 - 00:35:57:08

That. That'd be fun. That'd be a hoot.

00:35:57:08 - 00:35:59:16

My email said, can please tell me

when they're both available?

00:35:59:16 - 00:36:00:11

We'll do the podcast.

00:36:00:11 - 00:36:05:17

Mary sends me

a response back together? Yes.

00:36:06:18 - 00:36:08:00

Together.

00:36:08:00 - 00:36:13:03

He and I and I, you know,

I tell people they how one up at the bush.

00:36:13:04 - 00:36:16:03

School And I think I told this story before

00:36:16:03 - 00:36:19:06

I was interviewing for presidencies

around the country.

00:36:19:19 - 00:36:24:01

And I played I play tennis with

00:36:26:05 - 00:36:28:07

two faculty members

who were here in the bush school.

00:36:29:05 - 00:36:32:07

And they said, Frank, you know, why don't

you come work at the bush school?

00:36:32:19 - 00:36:35:09

I got I'm not going to work

at A&M anymore.

00:36:35:09 - 00:36:37:20

I've worked there so many years.

00:36:37:20 - 00:36:38:17

I'm not going to go back.

00:36:39:21 - 00:36:42:09

And they said, Well, we got a new dean.

00:36:42:09 - 00:36:44:21

He's not from academia.

00:36:44:21 - 00:36:47:14

And with all of your experience

in academia,

00:36:47:14 - 00:36:51:08

he needs to get associate dean

for academic affairs.

00:36:52:01 - 00:36:54:08

So I kept I mean, for four weeks.

00:36:54:08 - 00:36:56:17

I said, no, no, no.

00:36:58:07 - 00:37:01:02

And then one of them said,

at least go and meet him.

00:37:01:23 - 00:37:04:17

So I said, okay, I go and meet him

00:37:05:06 - 00:37:09:06

So I came over to the bush school

and went upstairs and I met him

00:37:09:20 - 00:37:14:13

and like I tell people, we fell in love.

00:37:14:13 - 00:37:17:05

It was love at first sight.

00:37:17:10 - 00:37:18:17

Oh, oh.

00:37:18:17 - 00:37:21:14

And I mean, we've been a couple

for seven years.

00:37:21:15 - 00:37:24:01

Yeah, it's a wonderful bromance.

00:37:24:01 - 00:37:26:17

Yeah.

00:37:26:17 - 00:37:29:07

That makes work worth it, right?

00:37:29:07 - 00:37:30:10

It does.

00:37:30:21 - 00:37:32:13

Take the drink away.

00:37:33:12 - 00:37:35:05

It does? Yeah, but we didn't.

00:37:35:05 - 00:37:37:07

We just hit, we hit it off.

00:37:37:07 - 00:37:39:04

And the thing I like about Mark,

00:37:40:08 - 00:37:41:13

we both think we think

00:37:41:13 - 00:37:45:09

alike about a lot of things.

00:37:45:09 - 00:37:49:23

Mark understands he really didn't know

anything about the academic affairs side.

00:37:50:08 - 00:37:54:04

I mean, the guy knows everything about

organization and management, everything.

00:37:54:04 - 00:37:57:04

But as far as academic stuff,

he doesn't understand that.

00:37:57:04 - 00:38:00:03

So he Frank, that's you're

you're in charge of this.

00:38:00:03 - 00:38:02:09

You're in charge of academic affairs.

00:38:02:09 - 00:38:05:17

And it's it's good.

00:38:05:17 - 00:38:08:05

It reminds me

when I worked for one of the chancellors,

00:38:09:08 - 00:38:11:13

the chancellor, he's a medical doctor.

00:38:11:13 - 00:38:13:01

He goes, I don't know anything about.

00:38:13:01 - 00:38:15:10

These universities. So,

00:38:15:10 - 00:38:18:22

I mean, I, I was in charge

of all of academic affairs.

00:38:19:11 - 00:38:22:10

Well, the sign of a good leader

is recognizing your weaknesses and

00:38:22:21 - 00:38:25:02

hiring people. Yeah. I mean, what? What?

00:38:25:03 - 00:38:29:01

I had one boss who always said,

what you do is you hire good people

00:38:29:01 - 00:38:33:23

and you get out of the way,

which is what you do, right, sarah?

00:38:34:00 - 00:38:40:03

I mean, I feel like I do,

but you have to ask the peanut gallery.

00:38:40:03 - 00:38:42:13

I'm just here for comic relief. I don't.

00:38:43:09 - 00:38:46:01

I mean, when she writes me

part of her reviews, most of the time

00:38:46:01 - 00:38:49:21

they're nice.

00:38:49:21 - 00:38:50:07

That's fair.

00:38:51:21 - 00:38:52:21

Most of the time.

00:38:52:21 - 00:38:55:00

Yeah. It's okay.

I mean, we all have growth to do.

00:38:55:01 - 00:38:55:20

I don't have a problem.

00:38:55:20 - 00:38:59:06

I know I got to change certain things,

but I try.

00:38:59:18 - 00:39:00:11

Yeah, I mean.

00:39:00:11 - 00:39:01:09

You should smile. More.

00:39:01:09 - 00:39:03:10

We wouldn't do.

you should smile some more.

00:39:04:05 - 00:39:04:10

Yeah.

00:39:04:10 - 00:39:07:15

I don't have any of you smiling today.

00:39:07:15 - 00:39:11:16

I've been smiling the whole time.

00:39:11:16 - 00:39:13:16

There's no poorly timed smiles.

00:39:13:22 - 00:39:16:06

Well,

I don't think we would love for cheese.

00:39:16:08 - 00:39:18:19

We wouldn't have time

just for this. Is it?

00:39:18:19 - 00:39:21:16

Okay, so it's not diversity,

inclusion, equity anymore.

00:39:21:16 - 00:39:23:00

It's community and culture, right? Yeah.

00:39:23:00 - 00:39:25:09

We wouldn't have any of that

if it wasn't for T.J.

00:39:25:09 - 00:39:27:14

in our building because I would

never have known where to start.

00:39:28:12 - 00:39:31:15

And she's done

everything to keep us very inclusive.

00:39:32:09 - 00:39:34:07

Um, especially the culture city stuff.

00:39:35:11 - 00:39:37:14

And that's some cool stuff.

00:39:37:14 - 00:39:40:07

The lactation rooms, for one,

the fact they were on the university map

00:39:40:07 - 00:39:42:23

with all of that, um, just

00:39:43:08 - 00:39:46:12

her just building the rapport

with every other department on campus.

00:39:47:05 - 00:39:49:21

She's better at booking than I am

because some events, I'm like,

00:39:49:21 - 00:39:52:06

uh, I don't really want to say Yes.

00:39:53:07 - 00:39:53:21

Just like when you asked me earlier

00:39:53:21 - 00:39:56:04

I and I'm like,

if we got the space, let's. do it

00:39:56:04 - 00:39:59:07

I just learned last semester

you guys had a shower over here.

00:39:59:23 - 00:40:01:12

I got to be in the greenroom.

00:40:01:12 - 00:40:03:01

Yeah, I could have. Been coming over here.

00:40:03:01 - 00:40:04:15

Shower in the green room.

00:40:04:15 - 00:40:06:23

Oh, a shower

I think. Might like a baby shower.

00:40:07:03 - 00:40:10:11

So I could have been coming over here

where I could have worked out.

00:40:10:11 - 00:40:13:05

And yeah, there's fluffy

towels or shampoo.

00:40:13:05 - 00:40:14:21

There's soap and deodorant.

00:40:14:23 - 00:40:17:00

Yeah. What are we going to do with her?

00:40:17:00 - 00:40:18:02

I don't know.

00:40:18:02 - 00:40:18:20

I may have gotten this.

00:40:18:20 - 00:40:20:23

No, but seriously, I said, you know,

00:40:22:11 - 00:40:24:08

we have events and things like that.

00:40:24:08 - 00:40:26:13

Let me know. Let me come help out.

00:40:27:04 - 00:40:27:19

Yeah.

00:40:28:01 - 00:40:31:04

especially if you have some fun.

00:40:31:04 - 00:40:33:11

I really think they should do an event

with him in the dean.

00:40:34:05 - 00:40:36:16

Like for the whole school

to come sit and listen to and stream

00:40:36:16 - 00:40:40:00

it out to all the alumni

00:40:40:00 - 00:40:41:13

And then that for the reunion.

00:40:41:13 - 00:40:42:16

Do what now.

00:40:42:16 - 00:40:46:09

To have you and the dean just come

and do a like a as they're on called.

00:40:46:09 - 00:40:47:08

Like a fireside.

00:40:47:08 - 00:40:49:11

I don't know why they call it.

Is there anyway.

00:40:49:11 - 00:40:50:18

There's not a fire.

00:40:50:22 - 00:40:52:22

That's all. Yeah,

00:40:53:00 - 00:40:56:06

but just have you and the dean come

before you leave or before he leaves?

00:40:56:11 - 00:40:58:11

Maybe you come back

when he decides to leave because.

00:40:58:11 - 00:41:00:20

We all know

that's probably not going to be,

00:41:00:20 - 00:41:03:14

you know,

very long from now before he leaves.

00:41:04:22 - 00:41:05:07

Yeah.

00:41:05:07 - 00:41:07:02

Oh, Lord, he knows something.

00:41:07:02 - 00:41:09:05

Look at that face.

Everybody knows something.

00:41:09:18 - 00:41:10:20

They just know.

00:41:10:20 - 00:41:13:06

All I've ever heard

is that they won't leave at the same time.

00:41:13:13 - 00:41:16:02

But it's not going to be long

after each other.

00:41:16:02 - 00:41:18:23

That's just been

the rumor has been floating around.

00:41:18:23 - 00:41:20:20

Look, he they did what they needed to.

00:41:20:20 - 00:41:23:11

The DC teaching side is here.

The school has grown.

00:41:23:11 - 00:41:25:20

They have a good rapport

with all the university administrations.

00:41:25:20 - 00:41:26:21

So they're going to leave it on a high

note.

00:41:26:21 - 00:41:29:20

They've jumped ship. Yeah, basically.

00:41:29:20 - 00:41:30:14

Then someone just.

00:41:30:14 - 00:41:34:23

Boy Scout rule is you leave it

better than it was when you got there.

00:41:36:08 - 00:41:38:14

And I think we are.

00:41:41:05 - 00:41:44:01

i dont know, I haven't been here that long.

00:41:45:08 - 00:41:46:11

i didnt see no change

00:41:46:11 - 00:41:48:10

dont look no better to me

00:41:48:10 - 00:41:50:02

Apparently the only I'm not.

00:41:50:02 - 00:41:52:20

I'm not privy

to the political side of everything.

00:41:53:03 - 00:41:55:01

You don't want to be you no, no.

00:41:55:01 - 00:41:56:13

Well,

I will say the one thing they made better

00:41:56:13 - 00:41:58:11

that still does not benefit you is the

00:41:58:11 - 00:42:01:16

the the the building directory maps

they have next door.

00:42:02:12 - 00:42:03:03

Oh yeah.

00:42:03:03 - 00:42:05:20

I still get lost

00:42:05:20 - 00:42:09:11

That means nothing to me.

00:42:09:11 - 00:42:11:17

I still get

I still stop bush school students.

00:42:11:17 - 00:42:17:10

I'm like, where's this person's office?

00:42:17:10 - 00:42:19:22

Yeah, just wander around, run into

somebody, you know, and then ask them.

00:42:20:01 - 00:42:22:12

I mean, that's I get my steps

in every time I go over there

00:42:22:12 - 00:42:24:08

because I got to walk up

down hallways and I'm like.

00:42:25:09 - 00:42:27:19

hour later we see her.

00:42:28:01 - 00:42:29:08

Sorry, I got lost.

00:42:29:08 - 00:42:32:10

I think she's just hanging out

in people's offices sometimes.

00:42:33:04 - 00:42:35:05

You know, look, if they don't come to us,

we're going to go to them.

00:42:35:05 - 00:42:35:09

Yeah.

00:42:35:09 - 00:42:38:03

No, it's I mean, it's

the easiest way to get answers is to be.

00:42:38:04 - 00:42:40:15

Like paperwork signed.

00:42:41:09 - 00:42:43:13

Hey, you know,

we tried to streamline all this,

00:42:43:13 - 00:42:45:18

but we still have to

sometimes go with the paper out.

00:42:45:21 - 00:42:46:13

Yeah, it's.

00:42:46:13 - 00:42:50:03

Okay. Well, I'm going to miss you.

00:42:50:04 - 00:42:51:07

Yeah, me too.

00:42:51:07 - 00:42:52:04

Yeah, I miss you.

00:42:52:04 - 00:42:54:18

guys

maybe I'll come back as a guest some.

00:42:56:05 - 00:42:57:13

Yeah. You're always welcome.

00:42:57:13 - 00:43:00:13

And talk about my adventures. Oh, yes.

00:43:00:13 - 00:43:01:13

I could be fun.

00:43:01:13 - 00:43:02:14

Life in your retirement

00:43:02:14 - 00:43:04:23

Show that life in retirement.

00:43:06:01 - 00:43:07:07

What people have to look forward to.

00:43:07:07 - 00:43:09:17

What they have to look for. Yeah. Oh.

00:43:09:17 - 00:43:11:03

We have to bring your wife on though.

00:43:11:03 - 00:43:13:03

Mm mm. No.

00:43:14:06 - 00:43:16:15

Why, why not to be separate.

00:43:17:09 - 00:43:21:07

No. Those deans dinners

with those deans dinners with you two

00:43:21:07 - 00:43:24:17

together at our table, Tanner

and I still talk about dinners.

00:43:25:01 - 00:43:28:04

Now we get his side of the story

and get hers.

00:43:28:04 - 00:43:30:10

No, no, no, no.

00:43:30:10 - 00:43:32:15

And then the truth will be somewhere. No.

00:43:33:09 - 00:43:36:01

She was telling something to dinner,

and she was sitting next

00:43:36:01 - 00:43:38:17

to just shaking her head.

00:43:38:17 - 00:43:41:19

It's like she just got totally different

perspective on things.

00:43:42:09 - 00:43:43:10

Yeah.

00:43:43:20 - 00:43:46:17

It's because she's never forgiven me

00:43:46:17 - 00:43:49:17

because she said I never proposed to her.

00:43:51:02 - 00:43:52:22

So propose to her.

00:43:53:08 - 00:43:55:19

I proposed to her.

00:43:55:19 - 00:43:58:17

What is it with men imagining these things

that actually happened in their head?

00:43:58:22 - 00:44:03:04

You know, now in her mind,

she's saying I think she said

00:44:03:04 - 00:44:08:04

I never got on her knees and said,

will you marry me?

00:44:08:04 - 00:44:08:17

So did you.

00:44:10:07 - 00:44:11:14

Well, here's the deal.

00:44:11:14 - 00:44:13:15

Here's a deal. Here's your deal.

00:44:14:17 - 00:44:17:00

We want to go on a trip

to the Virgin Islands.

00:44:17:03 - 00:44:19:07

Oh, I want to go there. It's so beautiful.

00:44:20:00 - 00:44:22:20

And we went over to Saint Thomas

00:44:22:20 - 00:44:24:15

and I said,

00:44:25:03 - 00:44:26:20

You know what? I heard?

00:44:26:20 - 00:44:28:22

They have good prices on wedding rings

here.

00:44:28:22 - 00:44:30:03

You want one?

00:44:30:03 - 00:44:34:09

Oh, my God.

00:44:34:09 - 00:44:36:12

Why are you shaking your head for us?

00:44:36:12 - 00:44:38:14

So you didn't propose? I did. no

00:44:38:14 - 00:44:40:19

That's a proposal. No, that's not it.

00:44:40:23 - 00:44:42:23

Let's go pick

you out a piece of jewelry, right?

00:44:42:23 - 00:44:44:21

Oh, no.

00:44:44:21 - 00:44:47:01

They have wedding rings here.

00:44:47:08 - 00:44:47:21

Uh huh.

00:44:47:21 - 00:44:49:23

But you didn't say, Hey,

you want to get married? Do you want to?

00:44:50:06 - 00:44:50:22

Do you. Want to?

00:44:50:22 - 00:44:53:11

Do you want to get one? It's

00:44:55:11 - 00:44:56:03

that's like asking.

00:44:56:03 - 00:44:57:19

Guys, help me. Guys.

00:44:57:19 - 00:44:58:21

That's no. Good.

00:44:58:21 - 00:45:01:04

I've been saying,

no, Michael, don't even start

00:45:02:14 - 00:45:02:18

this.

00:45:02:18 - 00:45:05:05

Like ask Jamie dinner a joke.

00:45:05:05 - 00:45:06:08

Jamie Yeah.

00:45:06:14 - 00:45:07:18

Jamie Yeah.

00:45:07:18 - 00:45:09:03

yes Dr. Ashley

00:45:09:03 - 00:45:11:14

I'm not siding with you on this. What?

00:45:11:14 - 00:45:14:09

I said. So you need to do a vow renewal.

00:45:14:14 - 00:45:15:02

Mm hmm.

00:45:15:08 - 00:45:16:08

I mean, you've already done that.

00:45:16:08 - 00:45:18:00

How many years? Next time you're.

00:45:18:00 - 00:45:20:02

30, it'll be 31.

00:45:20:02 - 00:45:21:22

go back to St Thomas, and try again

right?

00:45:21:22 - 00:45:24:20

Yeah.

00:45:24:20 - 00:45:26:12

Genie is out of the bottle.

00:45:26:12 - 00:45:28:19

Mean you put the genie back?

00:45:29:02 - 00:45:31:02

Yeah, but you go back, and then you.

00:45:31:02 - 00:45:33:06

Then you go back to a jewelry store.

00:45:33:21 - 00:45:37:00

Hey, what if she says no?

00:45:37:00 - 00:45:38:07

Well, they'd be like, all right.

00:45:38:07 - 00:45:44:09

Oh, I don't know. Not.

00:45:44:23 - 00:45:45:17

And she says, no.

00:45:45:17 - 00:45:51:05

And you say, Too bad

you already stuck with me anyways.

00:45:51:05 - 00:45:54:02

So we got these different stories. Yeah.

00:45:54:02 - 00:45:55:11

Huh? Yeah.

00:45:56:00 - 00:45:58:01

I feel like hers are going to be

a little bit more accurate.

00:45:58:06 - 00:45:59:21

Probably more detailed. Now.

00:46:01:08 - 00:46:03:01

There's a story about, you know,

how we met.

00:46:03:01 - 00:46:06:06

I said, well, she's dating this other guy

and the guy where she is now.

00:46:06:06 - 00:46:08:03

I wasnt dating that guy, I said yes you was

00:46:08:03 - 00:46:09:03

She doesn't know what I said.

00:46:09:03 - 00:46:10:13

Well, he said yall were dating.

00:46:10:13 - 00:46:12:07

she goes that doesnt mean we are dating

00:46:13:01 - 00:46:13:09

It's.

00:46:16:04 - 00:46:18:20

If he says they were dating,

they were dating, she says, or wasn't.

00:46:18:20 - 00:46:22:02

They may may have gone on a date,

but we're not dating.

00:46:22:04 - 00:46:23:06

If you go on a date, you dating

00:46:23:06 - 00:46:27:08

Didn't know

because it might have just been one.

00:46:27:08 - 00:46:29:20

I’m with TJ on this one

00:46:30:00 - 00:46:32:04

one date doesn't count. That's just like.

00:46:32:04 - 00:46:34:21

Get to know

you is like having coffee saying, hey.

00:46:34:21 - 00:46:37:20

Let's see if you've checked all the boxes

because maybe they went on dates

00:46:37:20 - 00:46:40:05

with other people. Yeah. He

00:46:43:17 - 00:46:44:01

okay?

00:46:44:05 - 00:46:46:12

Yeah. I mean, you know,

00:46:46:17 - 00:46:47:09

life lessons.

00:46:47:09 - 00:46:49:20

Dr. Ashley, life lessons.

00:46:50:01 - 00:46:50:21

You know

00:46:51:12 - 00:46:57:00

that just shows

you never too old to learn.

00:46:57:00 - 00:47:00:01

That's for you viewers out there.

00:47:00:01 - 00:47:02:09

You're never too old to learn something.

00:47:03:04 - 00:47:05:10

Yeah, we learn stuff

constantly from our students.

00:47:05:10 - 00:47:07:18

Yeah. Oh, my gosh.

00:47:07:18 - 00:47:10:12

This this lingo of this generation,

I can't.

00:47:10:16 - 00:47:12:11

And my 11 year old is starting to do it.

00:47:12:11 - 00:47:14:08

And I'm just like, no.

00:47:14:08 - 00:47:18:02

No, speak English, speak English.

00:47:18:15 - 00:47:19:00

It is.

00:47:19:00 - 00:47:21:23

The words don't mean

what they used to mean anymore.

00:47:21:23 - 00:47:23:13

Like, I can't say it.

00:47:23:13 - 00:47:26:13

We're recording.

00:47:26:13 - 00:47:28:13

Yeah, we'll do that offline. Yeah.

00:47:29:02 - 00:47:29:19

Yeah.

00:47:29:19 - 00:47:32:15

It's, it's interesting.

00:47:32:15 - 00:47:36:08

Yeah, I can't,

I can't even half the time I'm just.

00:47:36:10 - 00:47:38:08

I don't even know I have to go

look it up and then I'm like,

00:47:38:08 - 00:47:42:09

why am I looking in the dictionary

to look in Urban Dictionary.

00:47:42:09 - 00:47:44:13

Which isn't always accurate. No, it's not.

00:47:45:05 - 00:47:47:17

And then you ask them and they try

to explain it to you and you're just like.

00:47:48:12 - 00:47:50:02

It's like they're trying to speak to me.

00:47:50:02 - 00:47:51:21

I know it.

00:47:51:21 - 00:47:56:10

You know, I love that movie.

00:47:56:10 - 00:47:57:10

Q Oh.

00:47:58:12 - 00:47:58:18

Yeah.

00:47:58:18 - 00:48:01:08

Anyway, thank you, Doctor.

Ashley Thanks, guys.

00:48:01:08 - 00:48:03:14

This is fun. It's always fun.

00:48:04:08 - 00:48:06:11

I hope to get you and the dean on.

00:48:06:11 - 00:48:09:02

Next time

we'll make sure the AC is working.

00:48:09:02 - 00:48:11:13

I feel better now. Yeah, it's better now.

00:48:11:19 - 00:48:12:00

Yeah.

00:48:12:00 - 00:48:14:09

The fact that I was able

to keep my jacket on,

00:48:14:09 - 00:48:16:04

I figured it's probably doing something.

00:48:16:04 - 00:48:19:04

Yeah. Yeah.

00:48:19:19 - 00:48:21:21

Okay. Yeah. Thank you.

00:48:21:21 - 00:48:23:22

All right, go back to work. Okay.

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Sarah Chrastecky

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