How to Have Conversations With People on Different Journeys + Enneagram

“Do you feel loved?” When was the last time you asked your partner, friends, or children this question, and when was the last time someone asked you? It’s easy to assume that our love language is everyone else’s love language, but in fact, each one of us has our own unique needs and desires and we so often struggle to express them to those around us. This can cause unnecessary conflict and pain. We’ve learned lots of valuable lessons during our own personal development journeys about navigating interactions with people who are not on the same page as we are, and we hope that after listening to this episode you go on to implement these into your own lives. Also, if you haven’t yet, go and do the Enneagram Personality Test; it is one of the main tools which has taught us how to love others (and ourselves) better! 

Key Points From This Episode:

• Why the Enneagram is Sarah’s favorite personality test. 
• How we experience a high-beta state in comparison to how we experience anxiety. 
• Examples of what the Enneagram can teach you about other people.
• The importance of continually reflecting on your values.
• Factors that cause conflict situations to escalate. 
• Sarah explains how her family deals with conflict, and how this plays out in her relationship with her partner.
• Why being loud isn’t the best way to make oneself seen. 
• Emily shares an example of how she deals with conflict situations with her children.
• Reasons that so many people find it so difficult to ask people for things we need.
• Two questions that everyone should be asking their loved ones.
• What each of our love languages are.
• How we approach interactions with people who are not on the same page as us.
• The power that lies in asking questions and reflecting.
• The danger of seeing people for who they could be, rather than who they are now. 
• Growth-focused relationships versus stagnant ones.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode: 

Inner Archeology 

Enneagram Personality Test

Sarah Turner on Instagram 

Emily Pennystone on Instagram