Stop Playing Small At Holiday Gatherings - Here's Why Your Old Identity Is The Problem

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Part 2 of our holiday masterclass reveals why you might feel like a teenager again at family gatherings – and how to finally break free from that old identity!

Introducing... "Stop Playing Small At Holiday Gatherings - Here's Why Your Old Identity Is The Problem" – because everything changes when you walk through that family door.

Why this topic? Because scientists have discovered something fascinating about how our imagination affects identity: we have both a "mind's eye" (creating vivid flashbacks) and a "mind's mind" (handling self-reflection) that activate the moment we step into family gatherings.

In Part 2 of the December masterclass episode, you'll discover:

• The scientific reason you revert to old patterns around family
• Why your brain automatically run "old software programs" at gatherings
• How your family unconsciously reinforces outdated versions of you
• The real cost of maintaining these old identities
• Practical techniques to break free

PRACTICAL TOOLS & HOW TO USE THEM:

1. The Power Pause Technique
   • Stop for 3 seconds before entering the gathering
   • Take one deep breath
   • Silently say to yourself: "I choose who I am in this moment"
   • Can also be done in your car before arriving
2. Pre-Gathering Visualization Exercise Step 1: Mind's Eye Work 
   • Close your eyes
   • Vividly imagine walking through the gathering as your authentic self
   • Notice your posture, voice, and interactions
   • Make the scene as detailed as possible
3. Step 2: Mind's Mind Reflection 
   • Ask yourself: "What does this new way of being say about who I've become?"
   • Reflect on how it aligns with your values
   • Write down your insights or note them mentally
4. Body Awareness Check
   • Notice where you feel yourself "shrinking" (shoulders, stomach, voice)
   • Use these physical sensations as early warning signals
   • Consciously adjust your posture when you notice these signs

But I'm not just here to explain the patterns – I'm here to help you show up as who you've become!

Coming Next Week: The finale of our holiday series - "How to Stop Your Family From Pulling You Back Into Your 'Not Good Enough' Story"

Here for you, Lauren Jean

P.S. Ready to break free from old family patterns? DM me on Instagram @thegirlwiththevinetattoo or email me at intentionallysinglepodcast@gmail.com. Let's help you shine in your authenticity this holiday season!

Keep your heart open to possibilities! 💕