Celebrate ALL the Wins BIG AND SMALL | DFS 320

Welcome to Destin for success. I'm your

host, Jennifer Takagi, and this week I want to talk about

celebrating the wins, both big and small. Last week, our

episode with Lainey love, she talked about celebration and how

important that is. I was recently at an event with Brenda

Burchard, and he talked about celebrating and actually taking

time to let it ingrain, into your heart, into your body, into

your soul. And we don't do that enough. So the first point I

want to make is about confidence. I've heard people

talk about self confidence, and I don't have self confidence.

Well, the bottom line is, we all have self confidence. That's

just kind of a cop out, in my opinion. What we're really

saying is I don't know how to do that well, either I don't know

how to do it at all, or I don't know how to do it well. And then

we say, I don't have any confidence, or I don't have self

confidence. It's only in that one thing. So having confidence

is confidence is actually not knowing you'll be able to do it,

like I don't know that I'm going to be able to do this, but

knowing you will figure it out along the way. I can't remember

who first said it, but it was the word. I think it's a made up

word, actually, but you can go look it up. But it was figure

out able. It's figure out able. I'm going to figure out how to

do this when you know you can figure something out, whether

it's by yourself, using one of the amazing search engines that

are available at our little fingertips, using an amazing AI

tool that can tell us amazing things, or collaborating with

other people, you know, you can figure it out. There's a way.

There's a path. You can do it. I recently was asked about a past

trip my husband and I took to Italy, and it was amazing. We

had a great time, and I have an amazing travel agent. Shout out

to the concierge travel agent Amy. Woody and Amy created an

entire PDF with clickable links. We had all of our information in

one document, where we were going, our tickets, what time we

needed to be there, how we needed to get there. It was all

very clearly laid out, and that was great. So I shared with one

friend so she could share with her friend my itinerary. I just

sent it over, and I said, this may not be what she wants to do,

but it'll at least give her an idea. And my friend came back

with, yeah, that's great. What they really want to do is stay

at nice hotels and go shopping. Perfect. I went to chat GPT,

which is AI, if you're unfamiliar. I wasn't familiar

till I was I went to AI and I typed in. I went to take a high

end trip to Italy. And I want to shop at all the most amazing

places. Where should I stay? Where should I go? Where should

I shop, and what is it going to cost, literally, in seconds,

chat, GPT came out with like, five cities in Italy. I think it

was a couple of hotel or Airbnb options at each location and

roughly how much they would cost. They did throw in they as

in chat GPT. I'm making them plural, chat GPT. Dropped in

also a couple of things to check out, like museums or other areas

of interest, experiences you could do. And then listed

several of the high end shopping areas or stores in that city,

and it gave a grand total for each city and a grand total for

the trip across Italy. I may not have the information, I may not

know the information, but I'm completely confident that I can

figure it out, and so can you. So my first challenge to you

today is quit saying that you don't have confidence. You may

not have confidence in doing it right this second, but you can

gain it very easily as a little kid. If you've been listening to

my podcast is the beginning. You've heard me share this story

before, but I think it's so critical, and it just

illustrates the point. I'm the youngest of four, and I did not

know how to tell time, and everybody in the family did. My

next sister is three years older. Everybody knew how to.

Time, and they'd say, Jennifer, come on, we're leaving in 10

minutes. Get ready. I didn't know what 10 minutes was. How

many is 10 minutes? I didn't know that whole time thing of 10

minutes. The other thing was, we're gonna leave at 10 o'clock.

I didn't know what 10 o'clock was like. How am I gonna find 10

o'clock. I couldn't tell time. I didn't know what time it was,

and that just really bothered me, that I couldn't follow the

conversation. I didn't know what time it was. I learned how to

tell time in second grade. I got my first watch in second grade,

and you will rarely find me without a watch on. I like to

know what time it is, I can often guess the time pretty

quickly. I'm a baker. I literally can be in the other

room watching TV and think, hmm, I bet that cakes about ready,

and I can get up and walk in the kitchen. I'm within two minutes

of the timer going off, if not the timer going off as soon as I

cross the threshold. So time matters to me, like I like to

know what time it is when I'm feeling like I don't know how to

do something. I can't do it. It's not figure out able, which

it is figure out able. It's like I can tell time. And that brings

me to the next point, list, five things you can do right now

today, you do not have to compare it to anybody else and

what their skill level is. What can you do today? I had somebody

tell me recently, I can't cook. Come to find out, they could

cook, they just had never looked at a recipe. You look at a

recipe, you follow it exactly the first time. You look up any

words you don't understand, and before you know it, you're

cooking. I love some of the videos on Facebook. On the

cooking videos, this one guy said you're supposed to fold

this in. I don't know what it means. I'm just going to stir it

in. And I thought to myself, That's pretty hilarious, because

folding makes a difference. It keeps things light and airy. And

there are multiple techniques for folding. And I thought, if I

were to open a recipe right now, open it, as in, opening it up

online, if I were going to open up a recipe, and I didn't know

what that technique was, I would do a search. I would find a

video. YouTube is my friend, but list five things you can do

right now. What can I do right now? I can plug in this

microphone, and I can hit record. I can do that. I can sit

down and I can write a blog, I can make 10 statements of

something that I believe is true, and I can put it out to

the universe I believe these things are true. That started me

on my journey to write and publish my first book. I never

thought I could write a book, and I did, and it went on Amazon

and it was a best seller in several categories, address the

stress, tips and tricks to lead to success. That was my first

book. I didn't know I could write a book. The book started

out as a blog, and when the woman said, Write a blog, I said

to myself, because I was sitting by myself in my office, I don't

know what a blog is. And she was like, a blog is where you write

something out and you post it on your website. Oh, okay. Her

instructions were list 10 things that you know are true about

whatever topic you like. And I was like, okay, stress, 10

things that will reduce your stress. Okay, I made my list of

10. The next step was fill out each of those 10 by typing up an

entire page about that to support it. Your experiences,

any research that you found, whatever it is. Okay, great. Got

to the end of that, and she said, now go on Fiverr, f, i, v,

e, r, r.com, or Canva, C, A, N, V, a.com, and create a cover.

Okay, I did, and then she came back with now, save this as a

PDF, upload it to your website. This is your lead magnet to get

people's email addresses. You're giving them an ebook. Wow,

that's cool. So I'm talking to another woman in the program,

and she goes, upload it to Amazon. And I said, I can't. And

she said, Why can't you? I said, because I haven't written a

book. And she goes, You did just write a book. And I went, what

she was, yeah, you just wrote a book, upload it to Amazon. I

said, Well, I

can't, because I don't know how. And she goes, Great, I will help

you. I now have had six best selling books on Amazon. I

couldn't do it when I started, but it was figure out, able. I

found the person. Person who can help me. I followed the

instructions by the business coach on what to do, and then I

reached out to some friends, and I got even more guidance, and

voila, here we are, all these years later. So your confidence

comes from knowing that you can figure it out. What five things

can you already do now, when you have those moments of I can't do

it. I don't know how. I challenge you to look back at

that list, and then you can tell yourself, I can figure this out

and say it with sincerity and power behind it. I can figure

this out, and you will. The third point I want to make today

is you can grow or you can die. And healthy people have a

choice, and they know they have a choice, and that's healthy,

mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It's like the whole

and physically. Did I say that one? I don't know. It's the

whole gamut. It's your whole being. There is a book titled

younger next year, younger next year. And this gentleman in his

70s goes to a an internist in his 40s, and they start talking

about the aging process and what to do. So the book is super fun.

I bought the Kindle version and then upgraded and got the audio

book, so I have it in two different versions. No, I don't

get paid for promoting this, but it's a great book. But that

older gentleman talks about how he went to a spin class and he

could barely sit on the bike the whole time. In a matter of

months, he was like killing it on the spin bike in the spin

class. People 30 years younger than he was, 40 years younger

than he was, were completely enamored by the fact that he

could crush it on the spin cycle. Then the physician popped

in and said, every cell in your body is either growing or

decaying. The more things you do to reinvigorate yourself,

reinvigorate your body, the more your body will grow, the more it

can do. So you literally can be younger next year by being

healthier, making healthier choices, but you do that by

celebrating every little win. Do you have to celebrate that you

went and did spin class five times a week, every day for five

weeks, you can but what if you just celebrated the fact that

you went to one class this week? Celebrate it. Celebrate it big.

Celebrate it hard. Be so proud of yourself that you did it, and

it will be easier to go tomorrow, and it will be easier

to go the next day and the next day, if we dismiss all the great

things that we do, it's really hard to grow. I did something

recently and somebody goes, Oh, my God, Jennifer, that was

great. And I said, thanks. And I just moved on. And they were

like, no, wait, that was really important. Take a minute and

celebrate it. So when you do something, it doesn't have to be

big, it doesn't have to be grand, but if you do something

and you think very quickly, I'm happy I got that done. Celebrate

it. I love the phrase that I learned from Jenny Trask and

Kimberly Crowe. I think Cheryl stilt started it just to name

all the peeps, and it was, let me breathe that in. So breathe

in your wins. Breathe in your celebrations, whether they are

big or whether they are small, breathe them in. Celebrate life.

Celebrate all great things big and small. I'm Jennifer Takagi

with destin for success, and I look forward to connecting with

you soon. You.