Shake off Work BEFORE Engaging with Others | DFS 298

Welcome to destined for success. I'm your

host Jennifer Takagi. And today I want to continue a little bit

of the conversation we had last week with Dr. Laura, about self

care. And I really want to emphasize the fact that you need

to shake off work before engaging with those that you

love and enjoy the most. Or at least you're supposed to enjoy

and love the most. Whether that is a spouse, a partner, or just

your friends, I say just I shouldn't suggest or your

friends because my friends are extremely important to me. When

you work all day, or part of the day, whatever your schedule is,

whether that is from inside your home, or at an office, through

out the day you are interacting with other human beings. When

you interact with people, it can be in person, it can be through

your computer screen, it can be on the telephone, it can be via

email, or memos. Written verbal, visual, not visual, but you're

interacting with people all day long. When we interact with

people, they are putting off energy. If we're not careful, we

absorb their energy. So when we absorb their energy, then we're

processing not only what happened with us today, but what

happened with all the other people we engaged with. I just

got off a zoom training call. And there were 27 participants

plus the two hosts, I picked up energy from all of them, because

everybody on that Zoom call, took the mic at some point and

spoke. So I took in their energy in some way. Now, if somebody

had something to say, or had a look on their face or something,

and it didn't resonate with me, I could take it the wrong way. I

could get irritated about it, I could not appreciate what they

said. And now that is festering in me and I literally have to

wipe it off. So what I encourage you to do is shake off the day.

Before interacting with those you love. Shake it off. years

ago, my husband and I were newlyweds. And we were at a

church sponsored event on communication and interacting

better with your spouse, which of course we were brand new and

love Oh my god, it's gonna be so wonderful. And it has been for

the most part, everybody has bumps along the way. But one of

the things that was shared was in an in a family where one's at

home all day and one's at work, when the one that comes into the

house from work, which in the olden days was typically the man

not so much anymore. But back in the olden days, it was typically

the man when he would walk in and the wife was home with the

kids. The wife would just be like I'm done with these kids,

you're taken and the man's like, oh my gosh, I haven't finished,

you know, my work routine have shaken it off. And it would

cause problems. So the suggestion made was give them a

minute to come into the house and acclimate before they have

to interact with everybody. And that's true for all of us. It

just the example given was because of a past life

traditional household. When my dad came home from work every

day, my mom typically did not work outside the home. She did

some but not typically she ran a very smooth household. When my

dad came home, he said hello and went straight to their bedroom.

And he changed clothes. And then he came out and we had dinner

and had our evening. But my dad never went from the front door

to the kitchen table or the front door to the living room to

interact with everybody. I don't even know if he knew what he was

doing. But he went straight to the bedroom and took off his

suit. That's what he did. Now I know as an adult who's been very

for a long time he was probably shake it off the day. My husband

and I that first house we lived in after we married backed up to

a little pond. Sometimes he wouldn't even stop to take off

his suit. He would just walk through the House say hello and

head straight for the pond and fish for 30 minutes. And then he

was ready to come in and interact with me And the dog and

the cats and have an evening. So you have to find a way to shake

it off, what are you going to do to shake off all the things that

have happened in your day, so that you can take on everybody

else. This is for your own well being as well as everybody

around you. Have you ever gone to happy hour and you walked in

and sat down and just had diarrhea of the mouth all over

all of your friends at the table, about how bad your day

was, or all the things that happened in your day? I have, I

mean, I'm gonna raise my hand first and call my own self out

on this. I have, I had a very stressful work environment for a

number of years with a very horrible boss. And I took it all

on, I take it all in, and then it came out everywhere. So now

the question becomes, what are you going to do to protect

yourself and everybody else, I have a couple of ideas, a couple

of ideas. One idea that I heard a couple of years ago, I was

fairly new to the energy work situation. And people who are

empathic, often say that they take on everybody's feelings,

and they can only have a few clients a day because they just

take on everything the person said all of their feelings, and

then they feel it and then they're exhausted, and they're

worn out. And does that sound like you a little bit? Like, do

you walk in a room and just take on everybody's feelings? Well,

here is a trick a tip, a suggestion you might consider if

and only if you decide that you don't want to do that anymore.

If you decide that you want to let that go. Just let it go. So

one thing is just don't absorb it in the first place. Don't

absorb it in the first place. How can you do that? Have you

ever seen those cute little domes that go over a little

wooden stand, and they've got a metal handle coming up from the

ground and has a hook on it. And antique pocket watches are

typically set on those for display? Well, when you think

about that globe, or even that the topper of a cake, like

you've got a glass dome to go over the cake to keep the

critters out of it, whether they're your dog or cat or like

a bug. Just visualize when you're about to step into a

situation figuratively or via the computer where there can be

a lot of emotions. Or even if it's good, sometimes you can

just take on too much. Just in visualize a glass dome dropping

over you. Florida ceiling is all over, you're inside a glass

dome. You can see everything that's happening. You can

interact with people, they can interact with you. But you have

this glass dome on you and it is protecting you from having any

type of negative energy penetrating you. I have a friend

who is a court reporter. And of course she she witnesses a lot

of horrible things. And she made the comment on how hard that

could be. And I said oh, do you want to trick and I I suggested

this? And I saw her a couple of weeks later. And I was like Have

you tried it? Is it working? And she was like, yes, yes, I've

tried it. Yes, it's working. Wow, what a difference it makes

because she gets to the room first she sets it all up, gets

her equipment set up, everything's ready to go. And

she takes a second and just surrounds herself basically in a

glass bubble of glass dome. So that's one thing you can do to

prevent it beforehand. Now what can you do after the fact one

thing I love to do is literally brush it off. I start with my

right hand on my left shoulder, stick my left arm out and I just

run my hand all the way down. I'm literally brushing off that

energy. Then I put my left arm on my right shoulder do it on

the right side. Then just for fun I take both my hands take

them up over my face over my head down the back and I do a

little should be wiggle. Like let's just get all that energy

out of here. Let's just move it on. It works. Even if you think

this is airy fairy touchy feely nuts and Berry. That's fine. I

don't care. It still works. You can think whatever you want, but

it works. So when you come home

whether it's home From outside the house and you're walking

into the house, or home in that you step away from your office

working area to go engage with those people that you claim to

love. Either way it works. shut everything down. If you need a

reminder to do this before you walk in and you shut everything

down about the same time, put an alarm on your phone and put a

notice on it. It's time for self care. Whatever you want to call

it, let that alarm go off to remind you that you need to

shake it all off before you interact. So number one on this

plan is set a timer on your phone. So you remember to shake

it off. Number two, take 10 Deep breaths 10 Beat deep breaths in

through your nose down into your belly like your chest is not

raising your belly is going in and out right. So do that 10

times you might hyperventilate initially because you're not

used to getting deep breaths. But that's what you can do take

those deep breaths. In a stressful situation, I learned

from a clinical psychologist in a stressful situation, we tend

to hold our breath. When you hold your breath, you can't have

a thought it like shuts everything down. And then you

either don't respond or you respond inappropriately. It just

turns ugly really quickly. So take 10 deep breaths and then

put on your Wonder Woman bracelets, your Superman cape,

whatever it is, and step in to the other room or through the

doorway and be ready to engage because you have to take care of

yourself before you can take care of others. You had an

awesome day at work you produced a lot you engage a lot, shake it

off, physically wipe it off, take some deep breaths and

engage with your family. If you would like some more information

on how to how to win. I've got an audio series called 12

minutes to success. And you can get it by going to 12 minute

gift.com and grab my three part audio series. I'm Jennifer

Takagi, your 12 Minute success coach and I look forward to

connecting with you soon