The Beyoncé Reinvention: Mastering the Art of the Midlife Pivot | DFS 298

Welcome to destined for success. I'm your

host Jennifer Takagi and it's PATA Palooza Day. I'd love

Potter Palooza Day because I get to meet, interact and visit with

people, I probably wouldn't have had the opportunity to meet

before. Our next guest is Kathy Baldwin. I'm so excited to hear

what she has to say. Kathy, welcome to the show. Jennifer,

I'm so excited to be here with you.

I that just thrills me to death. So how do

you show up in the world and tell us a little bit about

yourself, what you do and how you can help me be more

successful?

Absolutely. I am the founder and coach at Riseup

coaching, I have a program called drive your destiny, which

is based on the fact that we have been taught how to drive a

car, but we have not been taught how to access our own bodies

communication, let alone all of the universal laws, not just the

law of attraction. And I did write a book called unlearning

the crap about personal success and empowerment. And I love that

I

think I saw that on your bio. And I was

like, unlearn the crap. I love that a lot. And you know, they

say we had to learn to drive a car, but I just want to say some

people didn't do so well.

They're doing better than they are with their

bodies. I can tell you that.

Yeah, I like to say when people don't turn their

turn signal on, I know, it's called a turn signal. But I'll

go Oh, my God, they're out of blinker fluid. And somebody

knows, you know, it's a light bulb. And I went, well,

obviously they don't, or they would have had it changed,

because I might as well tell them they're out a blinker fluid

because they're too stupid to blinker. Yes. So that's my thing

on on driving. So I do want to learn more about the universal

laws I have. I'm addicted to learning and getting more

certifications. I just got a new one today's very excitable. And

a friend sent me a deal and said, Jennifer, I hate that you

sign up for everything. But oh my gosh, this is like seven

levels of law of attraction. Are you in? And I was like, where's

the link? Yes, I'm in. So I'm really excited to hear about

this. I'll be serious. Tell me more.

Well, you know, I'm one of those people that

loves to learn as well. I've been like 40 years, I've studied

under over 100 Different teachers, everything from

psychology, neurology. You name it, quantum physics. I mean,

I've studied it all. And what I realized is, especially after

the secret is people talked about the law of attraction, but

they didn't talk about the other 11 laws, and you cannot not just

pay attention to the one and think it's all going to work. It

is a complete package. And so actually, I think the law of

attraction is more of a result. It's not a cause. And so my

favorite laws of attraction are my favorite universal laws are

the ones that I can actually have real effect on. So law of

relativity, law of polarity law of gestation, you know, law of

compensation, these are, these are laws that really change how

you show up and be successful in the world.

All right, so what's the first one I need to

do and implement? And how do I do it? And can I do it before my

next interview? Absolutely. You don't know this about me, but I

deemed myself that 12 minute success coach, because I can

help you break your goals into small increments so that you can

do them in 12 minutes or less and get momentum. Also, I do

energy healing. And it's very fast. So it's like 12 minutes or

less. So yeah, go for it. What's the first thing I really need to

incorporate? Because I'm ready. I have a my pen and paper at

hand. Okay,

well, the first one is love relativity. Einstein

talked about it as far as the time space continuum, the way I

talk about it is, everything is true when it's relative to

something else. So if you've ever heard of married couples at

an event, and they will describe it totally different. Nobody's

wrong. Everybody is right. It is all perspective. So when we have

beliefs and stories that are disempowering to us, we have the

ability to look at it from 360 degrees and find a story that

works for us because they're all true. So why are we carrying

around disempowering beliefs and thoughts when We can pick which

one we want. And now it's just a question of, is it empowering or

disempowering? And, and so that's one of them. Same with

expectations. We, so many times people quit, you know that

saying Three Feet From Gold that Napoleon Hill came up with?

Yeah, well, so many people think it's supposed to be like this,

or it should have happened by now. And they don't understand

that the law of compensation says that it doesn't matter how

much we put in, we will get back equally or more what we've put

in to the value of in our world. So you can think that it was

supposed to have happened by now. But that's like saying a

baby should only take six months.

Okay, so let's be real, how much time did you

spend watching the Netflix when you could have been working on

your business? I mean, impacts it somewhere.

It happens. Absolutely, absolutely. We make

choices. And we go in and out of alignment. And when we

understand that, we can take our own perspective and figure out

what's working for us, like you've got the goal set and

minor, all about how you understand the mechanics of your

body when it says you're out of alignment, or you know, you're

going in the wrong way. He just got to listen. But we've never

been taught.

You did when you when you mentioned gold,

like all I can think about is a Olympics and like gold medals.

And it's very interesting that somebody will think that they

lost because they didn't get gold. But like how many of us

even make it to the Olympic trials, much less a team does

even the trials. They're so hyper focused, they're hyper

focused on what they're doing every bite they take, they did

not have potato chips at the break. Like they've not had a

potato chip in 20 years, probably. But right like, so

what do we do? What are our choices, and Kimberly Crowe, who

was one of the the CO creators of PATA Palooza that brought us

together so fun. She has a book out called shift your narrative.

And it's like, yes, that is true. But what else is true

also. And one of her examples is I'm the oldest child, I'm

personally not because this is an example. I'm the eldest

child, I was responsible for all my siblings, I had to do

everything. My mom just dumped it all on me. Okay, that can be

true. But what also is true. What also is true is you learned

organizational skills, you learn management, you learn how to

delegate, you learn how to round people up, and it served you

really well in your career

that you want to focus on. Yeah, that's a

universal law of relativity. I was a child of a teenager

teenage pregnancy in the 60s, I carry this crap in my head that

said, because I wasn't planned. I wasn't wanted. And it wasn't

until I use this on myself and went well, I was just surprised.

Nobody knew what was coming. But I did. And you know, what, it

sure makes you happier to be a surprise party than it does to

feel like you're a

burden. Well, I'm, I'm the youngest of four.

And my my brother was the oldest. And then there are three

of us girls, and my oldest sister, the second child, oldest

girl has said my whole life, she's eight years older than me.

And she's always said, you were born 100. Well, now that I've

done like, a lot of spiritual work, and a lot of, you know,

what does all this mean? And how am I going to show up in the

world. And for myself, it was I was born 100 Because I have been

in charge of the family pretty much my whole life. Like even

though I was the youngest, and my parents were there and I

adored them. And when they died, it was catastrophic. It was just

heart wrenching. But if they were in the hospital, I was the

one signing the papers, if they if they had to be if something

had to be done, I had to tell him like I really was in charge.

And I'm pretty comfortable with that role. Like don't take it

away from me. I'm not I'm not gonna pitch about it. Like it's

mine. I own it. And that's fine. But it's, I kind of looked at it

as the biggest burden ever. It is my it is some of my nieces

because they're like, I'm the favorite. I'm the favorite. I'm

like girls, there's a lot of responsibility because of being

the favorite.

But it is all perspective and how we interpret

the story. So why are we carrying around crap that's

taken us down a path that we don't want to go

Well, the question is, like, I love Dr.

Phil, I think he's so funny on how he says things sometimes

that it's like, how's that working for you?

It's not work. Yeah. And so many people look at

it as but I have no choice. I don't have any. This is the way

I have borne this is you don't understand where I came from,

and that the whole thing is out, especially right now. This is my

soapbox, okay. We are in the middle of a huge transition, AI

automation, our systems are failing, the world is changing.

I believe right now is so important that we all step into

our Personal Genius, because we're not going to be needing

the repetitive tasks. We're not going to be needing manual

labor, we're going to need what makes us human innovation,

creation, and being able to step into what your personal gifts

are and bring that to the world. I now think that's a

responsibility, not just a, wouldn't that be nice.

I just, I just saw a cute video on Facebook.

And it was all about, we have to be stoic today, like in the

olden days, because the snarky brags on the internet are just

ruining it for the rest of us. So we had to just like pull

ourselves up. Oh, is it written for Sharjah vet the first of

March. I've got to change your calendar, the first of March.

And he was like, Man, there are a lot of snarky brats on the

internet. And I was like, there are a lot of snarky brats on the

internet. I just scrolled past that. I freaked somebody out

today when I said I didn't watch the news. And like literally

show Muscat whiplash. What? And I was like, Oh, I don't need to

watch the news and somebody else. Well, that's true. She

does not. And I said, Why do I need to watch the news? You're

gonna tell me what's happening? Like, I don't like it. I was

like,

I have not missed any important things that have

gone on in the world. Somehow. It's all come

out, nobody tells me.

Absolutely.

Okay, so relatively you so I'm gonna, I'm

gonna say this very poorly. And then I want you to fix it and

say it right? So let's pretend I'm not happy in my life. It's

not true at all. But let's pretend I'm not happy. And I'm,

I'm in a victim mindset. But I heard this podcast destined for

success. And I thought, well, maybe I am destined for more.

But I really am a victim. And it really happened and my life

really does suck. Now what?

Yeah, you're right. That's exactly the way it

is. Do you want us to keep it that way? Because there are so

many other choices, and for you to die, with the regret of

carrying that story around when I can help you figure out how to

do it the other way? Where it becomes empowering. Yes, we've

been let we've been told a lot of disempowering stuff. That's

why my book is unlearned the crap it's all about the stuff

that we've been told, we've been purposely disempowered it is so

that we stay in conformity so that we stay as consumers and

workers, you have been programmed. Do you want to

unprogrammed?

I love the way you said that and put that

together. And we have a choice. Is that story serving me? If I

am the victim, what do I win? What do I get out of that. And

then if I want to get a whole bunch more, I can, as one of my

mentors says, I can step out of that story. That's another one

that I've heard that is helpful to me. Sometimes stepping out of

the story is too big. For me, having a different perspective

is like a little too big, a little too much a little too

scary. And you throw the word willing in there. And now it's a

whole new reasonable game. I'm willing to look at other

possibilities. I'm willing to consider that I learned lessons

from that horror, whatever it was. And now it's making me a

better person. Like now I can step into something else.

Absolutely.

And when people understand how the brain is

wired, how it creates these programs and these stories and

attaches it to strong emotion, so that it is the most

efficiency expert out there, because it wants everything The

autopilot, and autopilot is only for survival. Are you still

breathing? That's all your brain wants to know, are you still

alive. And if we you can now understand that that's the way

your brain is wired. And fear only means you're in the

driver's seat, not the passenger seat. Well, if you want to

drive, then you kind of want to be in the driver's seat. You

don't want to be on automatic pilot, right? And so fear we've

been taught means danger. Well, fear just means look out, pay

attention. You're not on autopilot anymore. Just pay

attention. I'm not driving.

I love that so much. And I have some friends

who claim to have terrible memories. And I say you don't

have a terrible memory, you just aren't paying attention to what

you're doing. So there's no way to remember because you're not

paying attention. And so tell me, as we're, you know, Wigan fr

time I recently heard in the last few years, multiple times.

If you keep sharing your story, with all the emotion that comes

with it, and as speakers and trainers and coaches, we have to

share our stories in the bad things that happen. And I tried

to do that as little as possible, just enough for you to

want to come play with me. But I don't need to give you all the

gory details. But there is a belief system out there, it

seems to me that if you repeat the horror stories in, in all

the emotional impact with it, that you just create more of

that in your life, can you do that? Absolutely.

There's parts of our brain that are determined to

make sure that we're right, we've got an amygdala and are

attacking reticular activating system, we've got all these

things that are made for us to be right, you got to be really

careful what you want to be right about. So I have a lot of

trauma stories. I've been through more things and most

people would ever think of, but I make sure I tell my story from

the positive and say, Yes, I dealt with it. Now this is where

I am. Because you will just keep marinating and ruminating and

digging it deeper and harder.

And keeping it there. And, you know, like you I

do have those horror stories. And I now can share them without

me falling apart emotionally. And without overly triggering

the audience. Because some speakers do that too. I mean,

you're going to be triggered because I have some big stories,

but I don't have to put you there and leave you there, you

can just tip toe across the meadow and get a picture of it.

So I love that. So first, that is is the law of relativity, the

first universal law are they in any special order? I didn't ask

that.

Well, I put the first three as being the

universal law of oneness, the love energy and the law of

vibration, because everything is vibration, and everything is

energy. So it's what are we aligning with. And so if you

want to align with the law of attraction, you got to figure

out what you are emanating out because that's what you're going

to attract back in. So when we know because this is the one

that really really got to me, right, we've been told that

we're small, and we're insignificant, and we don't

matter. But we're a part of everything that ever was and

ever is you cannot create energy, you cannot destroy it.

You can only transfer it or transmute it. So if you are made

of that, how can you be so special that you're you're

different than everything else?

It's crazy. All right, I don't think I got this.

Number one is oneness. Number two is

oneness energy about blah by Bration.

Okay, oneness energy, vibration. And then we

spent most of our time on relativity, because that's

something we can consciously decide. Yes, I mean, all of

them. We can to varying degrees, whatever, but relativity, you'd

like that, really? That can really change how you show up in

the world. Oh, my gosh, has been so good. So I do believe you

have a free gift for our audience. What is that

I can do for anyone who's trying to figure

out how many universal laws are they aligned with or misaligned

with? I do have an assessment that they can go on and get a

really clear idea. And then afterward, I offer a clarity

call where I can help you identify the universal laws that

you're out of alignment with And like you, I'm an energy healer.

We don't need to dig up bones, we do not need to be re

traumatized. We can cut the cord.

Let's do that. Okay, so do you have an easy way

for us to get the assessment or do we need to just drop them in

the show notes? Well,

it's under unlearn the crap.com, which is

the name of my book, backslash, breaking hyphen burnout, but

I'll give it in the show notes as well.

Breaking life in burnout. I love that. I love

that. Gosh, I'm loved our time together today. Kathy.

Me too. It was worth the wait.

Great said you have any last words for our

audience as we close out this episode.

One I always say is the Wizard of Oz when Glenda

said, Dorothy, you've always had it within you. There is nothing

that we are lacking. We have everything we need. The only

thing is information and knowledge. So if you're if your

life isn't turning out the way you want, then get the

information get the knowledge because that's the only thing

you're missing.

I love that. Thank you for your time.

Thank you.

I'm Jennifer Takagi with destined for success

and I look forward to connecting with you soon.