Think Like the Person You Want to Be | DFS 306

Welcome to destined for success. I'm your

host, Jennifer Takagi, and I want to hit on the topic of

think like the person you want to become. Think like the person

you want to become. When I got my first full time permanent

job, I was talking to one of my older sisters, and she's almost

eight years older than me. And she was already crushing it in

the business world. And she said, Jennifer, you've got to

dress as well as the person above you in a position you

would want. I did not have clothes to dress, like the

people above me, I did not. I decided every paycheck, I would

go to Target. And I would buy a new outfit, whether it was just

the blouse, or the skirt, or the blouse and skirt depending on if

it was on sale, and I could afford it. And let me just tell

you that target was pretty much all I could afford in those

days. And each paycheck, I went to Target and I got a new

outfit. The joke around the office soon became that I never

showed up at work in anything. But a skirt or a dress, I didn't

wear pants to work. And I don't really know where that came from

other than most of the women above me wore suits every day.

And initially, I couldn't really afford the suits. But I could

afford a skirt or a dress. And I wanted to be taken seriously.

Now when I moved to the federal government, lots of people

dressed extremely casually and still do in many offices, some

offices, they they dress, or when I left they dressed much

more professionally. Others It was either business casual, or

go to Walmart kind of casual outfit. But if you want to be

taken seriously, you need to know what the people around you

who can promote you who can hire you, who can hire you to go in

to do consulting for their organization. What matters to

them. Now, it could be that they are a very casual office space.

And if you walked in in a suit and tie or a suit in high heels,

they would think ooh, they're not approachable. I can't play

with them. So you have to know your audience. Who are you going

to walk in and interact with? Who are you going to talk to? If

you take this stage who is in the audience, these are things

that you really need to consider as you're stepping into becoming

an even better person. The other thing is you need to act the

part. act the part of the person you want to become a number of

years ago, I saw a an interview with Mary Barr, who was the is I

believe still the CEO of General Motors. Yep, that's right,

General Motors. And she's the first woman who's ever held that

position. And in this video interview that I I happen to

catch. She was talking about how she started I believe in high

school and I don't know where her college career came in. But

she has a college career. So maybe she just worked. Holidays

and summers while in college. I don't know, I didn't get that

part of the story. But she had been with GM since she was 18.

And she got promoted multiple times until she became the CEO.

And the interviewer host asked her if that had been her dream

at 18 to become the CEO of General Motors. And she said no,

it never entered my mind. My goal was to do the job I was

hired to do to the best of my ability. My goal was to do the

job I was hired to do to the best of my ability. And one day

they came in and said we're going to make you the director

of HR and she said I don't know anything about HR and they said

but we know you can learn it. You're here you go. You're

moving to HR and the promotions kept coming because she was

acting the part or as a very committed employee who was very

smart, and would do her job and do it well. And I know many of

the listeners, many of you are entrepreneurs, and this same

kind of Barr steps in, are you going to act with integrity? Are

you going to provide the clients the services you promised? I've

worked with many coaches. And I'm not gonna say they flat out

lied, but they didn't quite deliver what was either

explicitly promised or implied. I don't ever want that to be me.

If I say you're going to have a session, and we're going to do

this, I want to deliver, I want to act the part, I want to act

the part as the person who has a full calendar of clients, and

I'm helping and healing many people every day. That's who I

want to be. And that's how I want to show up. So think like

the person you want to be. Dress like the person you want to be.

This is kind of like when you're on Zoom, and you jump up to run

answer the door, and you realize your handy pants on. You just

have a shirt on. Maybe you have shorts, I hope you have on

shorts, I dress for the day, every day. It's kind of a joke

when the pandemic first hit, and things shut down. And people

were on Zoom calls all the time. I heard somebody in my circle,

say, somebody called today and wanted to have a call. They

reached out and I said, Oh, I can't do it. I can do it

tomorrow. I'm booked today. And they said I wasn't really booked

today. But I wasn't dressed. And my joke is I get up every day

and do hair and makeup and on camera ready every day, you're

almost never going to catch me where I can't jump on a call and

be comfortable jumping on a call, I might want to change my

T shirt, I'm ready to jump on a call, I act apart, I'm ready,

I'm available. There's something about being ready and available

that changes you energetically. And when you're thinking like

the person you want to become focus on your outcomes, what do

you want the outcome to be? Who do you want to work with? What

do you want their results to be? How do you want to help them

reach those goals? To achieve those results. It all starts in

your head. It all starts with visualization. And I I love the

title of the book Thinking Grow Rich, I read it a number of

years ago. But the people who haven't read the book can

mistake what it means when you say Think and Grow Rich. Because

you have to act, you actually have to do something. You have

to take action. So think like the person you want to become

dress for success, like the person you want to become an

act, the part Act, the part is that highly sought after coach

highly sought after consultant highly sought after leader act

that part and focus on those outcomes. What are you going to

do? How are you going to act? How are you going to be? What

are you going to do with your newfound success. I just heard

recently that an actor that I've always really liked love all of

his movies that he is like one of the worst actors to work

with. He shows up two or three hours late. He stops production

for whatever reason at the drop of the hat. And everybody hates

working with him. And the only reason they put up with it is

because he brings in Bullseye bazillion dollars on a

consistent basis. But I want you to know right now, if I were to

be an actress, and a movie star, that would not be me. That's not

going to change who I am. Have you heard this story before that

my mom always said her little mantra. Winners are on time

losers are late. winners have a full tank of gas losers are

stuck on the side of the road. winners have new safe tires and

losers have blowouts

that was harmed and beat into me. So I want to show up as the

person I want to be. I don't want people to Look at me and

say, she just absolutely does not act in integrity. She said

we'd have a call at four. And she didn't show up till five, or

she didn't show up at all. Does that happen for all of us at

some point? Unfortunately, yes, it does happen. Calendars get

messed up, schedules get cross things happen. The question is,

how do you handle it? And is it something you do consistently?

We had an ice storm a couple years ago, and one of my friends

said, Yeah, I got up early, because I knew we had snow and

ice, we're in Oklahoma, it's not typically snow, it's mostly ice.

If there is snow, it's on top of the frozen rain, ie ice. And

then you don't know that it's there. So it's slow going. And

now we don't have all the equipment to handle it. Because

it doesn't happen all winter, every winter, like places that

get lots of snow. And she said, Yep, I got up early. And then I

got my smartphone, and I put in on the maps, how to get to work.

And it took me off my normal route and took me a different

way. And I went really slowly. And I got to work later than

expected. But still, I wasn't very late 45 minutes, an hour or

whatever. And a colleague came in like two and a half hours

late. And I was like, Hey, where are you been? And he goes, Well,

the highway was shut down because of a wreck. And I got

stuck in that traffic and it took forever. How did you get

here so early? And she said, Well, I put in my phone and I

went on a map and it told me to go a different way. And his

response was, I'm not from here. I didn't I don't know that road,

I wouldn't have realized it went all the way downtown. And she

said, You don't have to you just have to put it in your phone, go

to the map application and see where to go. It tells you in

real time or pretty much real time delays and how to get

around them. So when you're focusing on the outcomes focus

on how do you want to be do you want to be the person that's on

time? Do you want to be the person who thinks ahead? To be

able to get to work on time, even though there's a snowstorm

or an ice storm? How do you want to be here do you want to show

up as What do you want people to say about you? If you want more

information about visualization, and setting your goals and

making your goals, go to 12 minute gift.com I'm Jennifer

Takagi and I look forward to connecting with you soon