Ep 054: Conscious Manifestation with Milli Fox

Ever wonder what success actually means?

How do you get it?

And how do you keep it?

We all want it yet sometimes it feels only some of us get to have it.

Hi, Teresa and Blair here we are to badass entrepreneurs, best selling authors, coaches and business mentors, who have had success, felt success, questioned our own success and reclaimed it. Let's be real for a hot minute. 2020 has been a roller coaster ride, and many of us to start to wonder if they'll lose the things that made them successful. So we got curious, Ron real about what success is truly about?

Can you put it in a box?

How can you get it?

Can people take it away? Or are you the one with the power?

Does it mean the same to all of us? Or are we the ones that create it?

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Hello, hello and welcome back to another fabulous episode of dissecting success. This week. We are here with an absolute amazing gifts Milli Fox. Milli is obsessed with all things self worth and manifestation. Think of her as Brene Brown meets Gabby Bernstein with a sprinkle of goofy on top. I love that so so much. Milli superpower is the ability to clearly see women and all the divine perfection and to reflect that back to them. She has a vision for each woman she works with and helps them manifest that vision. And I can personally attest to that as well. Milli has been called to live a big bolt life of luxury in order to expand what women believe is possible for them. She aims to raise the collective consciousness and heal generational drama emotionally physically and spiritually for her coaching programs and internet dance parties. Milli is a published author and for Russia's Vita who's living life in sunny Miami right now. And Milli. I'm so so excited to welcome you to the dissecting success podcast. Welcome.

Hi, and I am so excited to be here. Thank you for having me.

Oh my god, so much fun. I feel like this is gonna be a fun and eye opening conversation. There's going to be so many golden nuggets. But let's get started with the juicy question. We like to ask all of our guests Milli, what does success mean

to you? I truly believe that success is pursuit of a worthy goal. I don't think it's the arrival. I think it's the enjoyment of the pursuit.

Hmm, that's so good. Okay. Pursuit that's such an interesting word. Because pursuits like to go after. Right? And you also are an expert in manifestation. How does the pursuit and manifestation commingle?

Well, it's really all about the state of being that you're in right now. Right? Because you manifest from who you are. Right, what you are, who you are. So it's, it's really about the pursuit, because it's about who you are, as you manifest. It's not about the end result. It's about living as if the end result or now. Right?

Whoo. That's so good. Millie. You know, it's so interesting, because I realized with manifestation, and I'm just diving right in, because manifestation is something that I really believe in. I've never really been trained to do it. I didn't really realize I was doing it. And I subconsciously was doing it. And sometimes there was great results. And sometimes I was wanting something to not happen, and that didn't happen. But the reason that didn't happen was something more terrible happened. And so I'm, you know, I'm like, Wow, am I a witch? The answer is yes. But like, you know, manifestation is so powerful. And there's such a difference between subconsciously doing it and consciously doing it or Manifesting with a purpose. And can we talk about that for a bit and like, you know, how to manifest with a purpose and why people should manifest and just dive into that a bit. Oh, for

sure. I call it conscious manifestation, which is what you just said, right? It's, it's having the awareness that you're doing it because we are always manifesting because we're always, you know, attracting it's the law of vibration. The Law of Attraction is always working, you know, so it's really about understanding what you want, right? And knowing how energetic Mita bring it about. And so you should do that. Because then you be, then you'll get what you want. You know. And sometimes it's unavoidable to manifest things that we say we don't want. Because there's a lot of subconscious manifestation that goes on, subconscious manifesting that goes on. And it's a kind of a beautiful thing, really, when you think about it, because when those things happen, it gives you the awareness, you know, to know further and clearer what you do want, right? So when we live in the contrast, we are able to gain more clarity on what we do want. So it brings, it brings certain subconscious things to the surface, if we're willing to look at them. And then we're able to consciously manifest after that.

Oh, I love that Milli. I feel like that's so powerful. And, and this theme of clarity, seems to keep coming through this as well. You said this, like that, we've got to know what we want. And then figure out how energetically we can really bring that in. Now one of the things that I have found, or that I'm really curious about actually, and maybe you can, like, dive into this, or give us some tips, and and I feel like I may not be the only one who has this feeling. But sometimes I find when it comes to manifestation, I feel like I'm clear on what I want. I'm clear on my desires, I take the actions, but there's these times still, where I just feel so much pressure all of a sudden around knowing what I want. And then that pressure turns into somehow, you know, if it's not happening, then I must be doing something wrong. Like I must be like a, you know, a terrible manifesta. And so, and I know I learned from you in a wonderful program that I did with you to hold come back compassion for myself, more and more. And I've been doing that. But like, can you speak to that just a little bit? Because I feel like I mean, I can't possibly be the only one that has this experience sometimes?

Oh, yeah. Well, you know, what, there's, there's a variety of reasons why something might not come through, you know, and some of those things, maybe, you know, there's more lessons for you to pick up along the way. You're saying you really wanted but subconsciously, there may be something that's there that is actually telling you that you don't want it, right. Because sometimes what can happen, when we have a problem, let's just say is we're actually gaining more from having the problem, then that subconscious perception that we have, that we would receive from from solving it. It's called secondary gain, when we have a problem, and we want to fix it. Sometimes we're actually gaining more in our subconscious beliefs by keeping the problem so there's that. There's also like divine timing, you know, we don't know how long it takes for a manifestation to gestate. Let's just say, we we know, you know, there was a time when we didn't know how long it took a baby to gestate and, and there's there's maybe a Day when We will, who knows we have no way of knowing if that calculation will become available to us. But there's there's so many factors. And we have to trust that if it's not coming right now, then there's something better coming down the pipeline. And I think that the key there is curiosity is really shifting into curiosity. And wondering, like playfully wondering, or if it's not this, if it's not now. They're like, it must be something better, like there must be something fun and tricky coming down the pipeline that I can't possibly imagine at this time. I know I don't exactly know what you meant about the pressure around knowing what you want. But I think that that's also a part a part of the fun is that knowing that what we want can evolve to write, it's knowing that we're allowed to change our minds, and being able to have that level of self awareness and recognition. When we start to feel the pressure. Oh, look, I'm feeling pressure here. That means that I'm becoming really attached to an outcome. Right? And really trying to control the way it happens. And then again, getting back into that sort of curious, playful energy of, well, I wonder how else this could happen. I wonder if there's another way that what I'm saying I want could show up for me if I released, you know, maybe it's not going to look exactly how I see it in my mind's eye right now. But holding on to that feeling that vision in a more zoomed out way. If I can take my hands off the grid You know, nothing you want is upstream. So take your hands off the oars and let it course correct on its own a little bit. So I would

say, I so good. So what I'm kind of hearing high level is your words are so powerful. Your words have meaning. And sometimes like you don't know the path that your manifestations going to take, but you have to have that trust.

Oh, yeah, for sure. Faith is so huge.

Oh my god. Okay, so I'm going to share a little story with you. I'm the founder of something called the iron resilient project. I started this in early 2019. I learned my father who lives with addiction is terminally ill, and we have a really bumpy relationship. We reconciled in my 20s. And so I felt like I finally got a fresh start and learning he was terminally ill felt like I was being robbed. And so we started sharing our story of addiction, forgiveness, resilience, and we decided, You know what, let's create a book, let's gather stories of resilience, we will publish everything on the internet, online, and social media. And we'll publish a book with stories of resilience around the world. And so since starting this project, a lot of really hard things happened like high level, like, my husband had a heart attack and quadruple bypass surgery, I lost my father in law had a miscarriage lost my mother, and a whole bunch of other things. My father is still with us today. And he's outlived what his like life expectancy has been, you know, perceived as, and I'm just about to wrap up the project. I'm not, I'm not wrapping up the project. Sorry, I'm publishing my first book, right. And I'm really grateful that my dad will be here, knock on wood to see that. But it's funny because I like to say that, like I'm fully Jewish, and half bluish, like I'm a Jew, blue, you know. And so like, I really do believe in manifestation. And my husband is not he's not a Jewish or Jewish. And he was I just, I just say that because it rhymes. Anyways, he even looked at me, he's like, Blair, you need to wrap up the I'm resilient project, because the world is testing you about how resilient you are. Because during the duration of putting out this project, I've been speaking on TV and radio and podcasts and writing about it and talking about how resilient, resilient I am and all about resilience and strengthen your resilience muscle. And it's like I'm putting out into the universe, how resilient I am. And the universe keeps showing me. I can even be more resilient. And so it's interesting because I'm trying to figure out my course correction, like, do I rename the project from I'm resilient to you are resilient, and I can get rid of the I like, what do I do? So that the universe starts testing my resilience? Hmm.

Wow. Okay, so first of all, I just want to like send a big Virtual hug there, because that's a lot of stuff to go through in a short period of time. And you are resilient. Look at you. Wow. So maybe, maybe that's it, or if you're open to it. If you're open to a change, I would just ask, you know, that's my sort of Mo, when I'm unsure if something is like, okay, universe, like something feels really unsure right now. And I wait, I trust and I wait, and I go, I know, I know. I'll know, when I know. You know. That's how I that's how I kind of move with that stuff. And, and I don't really force it and I don't move on things until I feel like okay, well, it's this or it's that and I wait for a sign is what I usually go for.

I love that, you know, you you know your intro where you said that you're kind of like a Brene Brown. Gabby Bernstein goofy like hybrid. And well, my shit. Well, my Shane, he is my shame. But my husband Shane had his heart attack, I was really diving into some of Gabby Bernstein stuff. And that's where she really reminded me about the power of manifestation. So I started setting goals again, and I started really focusing on what I wanted. And it's interesting, because that was two years ago, and I've literally gotten everything I've dreamed of. Mm hmm. And it's like, I have a and I have obviously I set goals, goals and, and dreams and when I want things to happen, and if they don't, I know that they're meant to happen when they happen. But it's really like, it's just really interesting, because Gabby Bernstein really helped me through like her content. Her books for social media really helped me through a very dark time. Yeah. And I just yeah, like I love I love what you have to say. And I just think more people need to be open to the idea of manifesting and totally this concept.

I totally thought you were gonna say Brene Brown, because when you talk about resilience, she talks a lot about resilience too. But yeah, absolutely. Because manifestation it really is everything right? It's your relationship with yourself. It's your relationship with others. It's your resilience. It's your coping mechanism. It's, it's how you relate to the world, like literally everything is in relation, right? Everything we do experience, feel is in relation. So manifestation is about relationship in my, in my opinion and relationship with self. And is, is the driver for pretty much everything else, right? So I can see how that would have been really powerful for you. And for a lot of people, it's helped me come out of a lot of trauma and suffering as well.

You know what I really love to Melli. And you know, you and I know each other a little bit for same circles and just being in like a similar like, sort of like vibe sometimes. And I've been watching your story and obviously, like, I follow you on your amazing Instagram, and you always have so many great things to share. But one thing that I really love about what you do as well. And I think that's something really important because when I sort of was first introduced to manifestation and yeah, like, there's the Gabi Bernstein's of the world, but I also see a lot of like, you know, the messaging around, you know, you just got to always be Hi vibe, and this and not. And so I remember, when I first got introduced to what you do, that you put a little bit of a different spin on it too. And it was really the first time I started, you know, having somebody actually talk about how manifestation is in relation to yourself and how you view yourself and how you view the world and how that ends up becoming a reflection of what you're calling in. And the whole thing started to make more sense to me at that point. Because before I was like, we'll, you can't always be in this like woo space, right? So, um, maybe share a little bit like, as people are looking to do this manifestation practice, our listener might be interested in diving into that. But you know, what would you say they can start with that? And also with their relation relationship that they have to themselves, maybe and how that impacts? I'd love to just hear that.

Totally, it's sort of what I was alluding to when I said, you know, manifestation is about relationship in relationship to yourself, that everything that you experience is related back to you. Right, it's it's related back to how you view yourself and what you believe about the world is, is it relationship to what kind of person you think you are? Right? It's, you know, we see somebody, we judge somebody, and then we tell a story about ourselves. As soon as we complete that judgment, you know, we say, oh, that person is wearing pajamas in the mall, I would never wear pajamas in the mall. I'm not a lazy, disheveled person like that, you know? And then we tell a story about that. And what does that story mean? Is it bad to be a lazy person? Is it bad to be disheveled? Does that mean that I'm less worthy of something if I am those things? So it's all of this talk that we don't, we don't realize the the things that we say to ourselves, in our mind are actually, like so much deeper than we think they are? Because we think it's just like a quick, harmless, like, passing of judgment. But really, there's a whole backstory there about who you are behind everything you see in the world, right? Because that's how we make sense of things. So if you want to change what you experience in the world, it's like Michael Jackson said, you know, gotta start with the person in the mirror. And, and do it by doing so the first thing I think is a is a level of awareness of self awareness, right? It's just listening to like becoming the gentle observer of your thoughts of the stories that are present there. You know, what am I making that mean? What, what meaning Am I assigning to this person or this experience or this thing that I feel like I'm not allowed to have or I'm not allowed to do or I'm not allowed to say? What would it mean if I did? What would mean about me if I did do that? So becoming that gentle observer, I think is the very first place to start. And I say gentle, because the mainstream world of manifestation just is it can so easily throw you into a shame spiral, you know, and that is the biggest thing that I seek to combat in my teachings, because the world does not need any more shame. Like we are also steeped in shame. We're raised in shame. We're still using shame based parenting and fear based parenting because we don't know Any better yet, but that is what I seek to unravel and to teach people how to move away from its lifetimes and generations of, of using, you know, fear and shame because it was it's a, it was a survival mechanism, you know, but I just I feel like the human race has evolved to a place where we can start letting that go. And we can find healthier ways. And that's why I love manifestation so much, because it brings a little bit of magic to these topics that otherwise people really don't want to talk about. People really don't like to talk about shame. So it's just one of those things that get in the way that we have to talk about, but we can talk about it in like a more fun way. When we're talking about manifesting, you know, like, let's, let's draw in that luxury lifestyle. Oh, you want that? Well, let's talk about this. It's a bit of a Trojan horse.

I love this, Milli. And I love that you're bringing this the conversation in around shame, because I feel like shame is also so hidden, right? Because society, as you said, like we've we've come up with all these paradigms and meanings and judgments. And they're all a little bit different for all of us. But even with luxury things, right? Like some people feel so much shame around desiring even to have luxury desire to have money. Like, it's, it's amazing. But it is, like you said, it's like the Trojan horse. Like, it's easy to say that you want something. But you mentioned that earlier, right? When I was talking about this pressure that like it could be in relation to that as well. Right? Like, is there some conditioning, some believe that makes me think that when I have that do something like negative associated with it, and while this shame, he's you know, it's it's so big, and it just struck me for different reasons. But I'm working through some personal things, and I was in a counseling session. And it was in relation to how I perceive what I do, or what I want to change in my relationship. And he said to me, he was like, it sounds like this is rooted in shame. And it really struck me, because when I was looking at what it was, which is having more open vulnerable conversations, um, I didn't see that at all. And then when it got reflected back, I was like, Whoa, that is so powerful. And I feel like you know, with you helping your clients, I can see how that would be so powerful. Because you, you can see that even when they're like, Yes, I'm here for the life in miami luxury, right? They might see what you've manifested for yourself, you know, recently, and then they get stuck there, right? Because something's going on. And then you know, to have a champion like you to be able to see them and move through this. So that we it's almost like cleaning the front door. So things can actually come in, right.

Yeah. And I think it's because we we kind of get sucked into wanting things that other people have because it's like a shiny object thing. But another thing that I really really stress in my teachings is about authenticity. Right? So getting to know yourself is such an important part of manifestation. Because we need to know what we really want based on who we really are right and not who we think we should be.

Oh, Millie, are you into human design? Yes. Did you don't mean Teresa are both manifester generators. Oh, awesome. Well,

I'm a generator. A three five emotional generator.

Oh, shoot Theresa, what am I know I'm a I'm I'm a manifester generator, and I call it many, many Jenny and it makes me think of Manny petit. I think

well, I feel like we are both a free five. But away yeah, I'm

an emotional authority and black your sacral authority. Yeah, and I'm a nonspecific manifesto, bitch. Okay, I like I don't even know like sometimes I'm like, what do you do then?

I don't know what I am. But I just I make shit happen.

Amazing. Yeah, nonspecific just means that you you should focus more on the feelings that you want to have. From whatever it is you're manifesting rather than the like the physical details.

Oh my god. I love this. Okay, so we're getting close to the end. So before we we ask you the final question, why don't you let our listeners know how they can find you?

Oh, yeah, of course you can come and find me on the gram which is the place that I'm most often hanging out. I'm also on Facebook. too, you can find me at Milly l Fox on Facebook, I use my personal page over there. And tick tock if you so please at XO mill, you know really what's going on over there. But yeah, Instagram is probably the best place. I love it. Oh

my gosh, okay, I feel like we can talk to you for hours because we just kind of scratched the surface. And I have so many questions. So we're going to have to have you back one day,

I'm going to be more than happy to come back.

Love it, maybe we can figure out how to do a three way collab on Instagram with their new features. Who knows. Um, so I would love to know what advice you have for our listeners who are on their path to success.

I always have to come back to the fundamental piece of getting to know who you really are. Because that's a lifetime of discovery, you know, and the more you discover about who you are and what your preferences are, and you accept yourself, the more you can come from that place of truth and power inside of you. Because knowing who you really are, also routes you into, you know, the power of source in the world because we I always say that we are like a ray from the sun, like the sun is source like we are that right? We're a ray from it. And so tapping into that tap helps you tap into your greatest source of, you know, wisdom and power at the same time. So starting there, and then moving into clarity from that. It's the most powerful thing you can do for manifesting. I think

that's, that's so brilliant. And you know, the best time to start is now start discovering you know, who you really are and what you really want and get rid of what society thinks we need, right? There's so much more than the conventional nine to five, there's so much more than what our parents tell us is right and wrong. And ask those questions and dig deep. And I absolutely yeah, I'm just so honored. You took the time to chat with us and share your knowledge not. I was gonna say wisdom and knowledge and the deck came out weird. I'm so honored that you came to share your wisdom and knowledge with in our dissecting success listeners. And that wraps up another episode and we are so excited to dissect success with you. Thank you

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