Ep 085: The Recap

You ever wonder what success actually means? How do you get it? And how do you keep it?

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Welcome back to another episode of dissecting success. It's me, Blair Kaplan Venables, and I'm here with Teresa Lambert. So we're starting this new thing this is now the second month we're doing it where at the end of the month, we do a recap what was our month like? You know, last month we did this and it was early morning coffee chat. And our lives our lives have changed a lot even in the last few weeks. Month. And so we I mean, I don't know, I can't speak for Theresa. But I really like doing this because since you listeners out there have been following along for 85 episodes, because this is episode 85. You know what our lives have been like. And I think it's a cool digest of like, what we're doing in our personal life, our business and everything we've been up to. So Theresa, what has July been like for you?

Wow, I love having these chats too, because I feel like right now my life changes every five minutes. And that is exactly what July was like, I feel like I've been on a in some ways a roller coaster of life and just appreciating surrendering to the roller coaster and full trust and faith. And you know, we had this conversation at the end of June. I feel like I was I feel like I was all fired up going into July and then July brought me all sorts of different things to deal with myself. Really pulling back. Yeah, really pulling back, stepping back and looking at my business and just taking up more space to heal. And to deal with my personal matters. And to keep my focus on what I wanted to manifest and what I wanted to accomplish, which was that by July 29, which is today that's the day we're recording this episode, I would have all family matters. My separation and everything that goes with that settled and it has all happened. And yesterday on the new moon in leo. I was at the house I said goodbye to the cats. I give them a big hug. I had a good huggle cuddle. I had a good cry, as I said goodbye. And then I closed the door and I put the key in and I turned it and I locked it and I left the keys behind and I took a deep breath out and I was like Okay, that's it destroy is officially closed. And this the fact that it ended up happening on New Moon you know on a new moon when you're setting intention just felt so powerful and I was kind of like is serendipitous, or is it you know Is it is it faith and then always, you know divine timing and then I was like it doesn't matter. It's like faith and trust. That is the only thing that really matters. And here I am and I am now setting powerful intentions as we move forward and this was July and honestly this week as things have wrapped up as I have untied the knots, or cut the cords or whatever you want to call it. I started feeling slowly some fall Wouldn't momentum again, I started feeling my creativity come back, I started feeling the inspired action to come back a lot of the things which I've really didn't have in July, didn't have in July and all of a sudden, like, I see things like turning like 180% And I'm like, oh, okay, here we go. This is

how this works. That's my July. So good. Yeah, it's it's so funny. Like, we could have like, all like, you set an intention. And like you did it. Like you did what you wanted to do by July 29. But like the road to get there was hard and like, and messy and not sloppy, like it's part of the process. But like, so. Radek, right, like so many highs and so many lows. And like as entrepreneurs, you also have to navigate your business while navigating personal life. And I think you did it in such a beautiful way. And I love that you showed up on social media sharing personal stuff, not just business, and you're really starting to let people in in a deeper level, like, I know what is going on in your world, and the fact that we have this podcast, and you have your social space and everything that you're doing, it's really beautiful to see you navigate what's going on closing doors, while others are starting to crack open.

Totally, and you know, you're such an inspiration for me on this, because you always share authentically. And you know, I'm still in this process off sharing. And also, I think these past months, I've been very conscious about, you know, how much do I share to still keep, you know, be in integrity with with a relationship that I've had for 16 years, right, like to share in a way that respects everybody's privacy as well. And, and that sort of shares my side of it, right, but in a respectful way. And that was really important to me, and, and it's hard sometimes to, I think to, to embrace, showing all sides, and I'm sure you know, I'm sure if people are listening, you might be able to relate. But when we go through big things like this, and you've seen black over big things, it's 12 months, and now you're seeing me go through a big thing. And the last three months. I think that it is so vulnerable at times to share what's going on, while also still showing people that you know, my business is still going like my business is still moving forward. Like I still have clients that I'm serving, I'm still building my business, I'm still doing things that need to get done and navigating sometimes, like in this case, July, I had to step back saying this and it's 111 like I had to step back, I had to step back. And I had to stop and I had to slow down. And I was kicking and screaming doing it with all the resistance because my productivity and my creativity was such a source of of love and light for me that I was asked to, you know, find that love and that light in surrender. And that was hard. And then do share that, you know, just share it with everybody. And to be okay with also I said to myself, sometimes I'm like, I don't actually care if anybody wants to see this, this is where I'm at. And this is what I'm working towards. Like, yeah, you may not want to hear that I'm deeply sad and I cry over my cats and some of you might not understand why that is such a big deal for me. But for me like they are such like this has been the hardest part. So you know, there's things like that and, and it's funny how you get so caught up in your head being like, oh, it's not about business, should you really share it and now I'm embracing that more and you always do that and you always encourage me and I find that so helpful as reminders and that's really going to be a focus moving forward. I've booked my flight to Toronto, I'm gonna go there first I still have to figure out my passport. I can't fly international right now. But like as all this is happening now I'm like okay, well it's kind of fun like I want to show everybody more of of that more of what I do. And it's all the spiritual work to that I've not really shown people that side of me that I'm that's coming out of the closet for this process.

It's been out of the closet for a while you just you're just starting to share it but I think it's great and I love that you're starting this like big new adventure and your passport. I know it's coming through just in time for you to get to Argentina. I had

he'll be Yeah, I'm just gonna get it while I'm in Toronto. So it's it's all, like just the constant movement. But you know what it's really, this last month has really taught me to just let life move me more and be more detached from my vision. Like, I have dreams, and I have, like I imagined possibilities. But learning to let my vision be free to be, and to adjust and mold rather than having it sad. And that was a big thing that like channeled through on Sunday for me. Oh, cool. But how about you bleh I know, You've had like a mad month of June, you were like on the road, you launched 50 things at one billboard in New York. Then people were like claiming that they got you on a billboard whether or not your social media like shit went down. And I just want to like, let's talk about your July.

I made some notes. I made some notes because like, so on a personal level, June was amazing and very grateful for it. I made some great connections that have turned into strategic partnerships and clients and friendships that are going to last a lifetime. And a really cool media was like being on a billboard in Times Square for a month. It's no longer up there. But it was up in Time Square with Kim Kardashian for a month. fucking epic. But that took a lot of energy out of me because I'm still grieving. And before my media tour, I ran out of my SSRI, my antidepressant, and I thought I was fine. And I wasn't. And so when I came back from my trip, I really tried hard to regulate my nervous system without the help of medication. But I hit a rock bottom where I wasn't, I'm going to very, very clearly state I was not suicidal. But like, I just didn't give a fuck like I felt very depleted very low, very, like, how can I be a motivational speaker when I have no motivation? And it's because my chemicals in my brain are off. Like I have PMDD, which is like super PMS. I have anxiety and depression and my baby in three parents died on top of a bunch of other traumas. So the biggest thing was that I was so depressed that it was really hard to even get on the internet and make that doctor's appointment to get a new prescription. But eventually, I had like a hit a moment where I was like, I just knew I could not feel the way I felt like I just was miserable. And I did it. And it was a Friday, and I made an appointment for Monday morning and I had an appointment. And because I was off my Prozac for long enough, they gave me a new prescription for Zoloft. And so I am on week three of a new SSRI. And that just, I've already started to feel better. I've already started to feel better. So that's a huge thing. And I want to normalize like, I think one in 10 women, I don't know the stat like this is where I would Google but I can't talk and Google but a lot of people are on medications for depression and anxiety are PMDD and whatnot. And I want to normalize that because it's something I've struggled with my entire life. So I a big win for me this month was finally getting back on a new medicine. And to feel like I have a zest for life again. Because it it was gone. Like it was really gone. And I remember standing in New York looking at my billboard thinking like I know, this is really exciting, and I was excited. But like I didn't feel like myself. And I knew I could have been happier, a lot happier about it. And so that was really scary. But the good news, I've done a lot more camping, playing outside boating on the river moving my body. You know, my sister came to visit at the beginning of the month, which was amazing. She I've now lived in Kamloops for a year, and it was the first time she's come out. So I got to spend some quality time with her. And, again, if you've been following along all the time I've been spending with my sister has been around death and grief and memorials. So we had like a proper trip that I was not around any of that which was really nice. I welcomed in a few new clients, which was very exciting. My schedule has completely been flipped upside down. And now I'm just reworking that. And this reminded me about the importance of boundaries. I've practiced my boundaries many times this week, even saying no to meetings, or rescheduling things because, you know, if you feel someone scheduled meetings, they have no time to produce to do the work they need to do. I've really focused on my sales efforts, my money making activities, and it's definitely paid off. And then I navigated something that was really new to me. So identity fraud, identity fraud. So a couple things. One, an article came out online and it said that I was the author of this article, and it was a list of top entrepreneurs. And I was number one on the list which isn't great. Like I'm grateful for that but I didn't write the article All. So it looks like I wrote the article. And then I created this list of like top entrepreneurs and influential people. And I'm number one. So I'm very shocking. That's never happened to me before I reached out to this publication multiple times to have them remove it, and I've had no response for them. So I'm just letting it lie. But it just, I feel bad because there are other people on this list who've probably shared it with their networks, articles, spelling mistakes, it makes me look very vain. So that was interesting. But in the same week, I had a friend tell me that someone they knew like she's on the newsletters, someone they knew were claiming that I was their clients. And then they helped me get on a billboard in Times Square. I am not this person's client at all.

It was very shocking to me because it it wasn't saying I am Blair Kaplan Venables representative, but they took an image of my billboard and two other influential people's billboards, sorry for sure one other person's billboard and another photo of the Billboard of the book, and put it in their newsletter and stating that this person got their clients on billboards. So it implies that I am their client, but I'm not. So I've never had someone really leveraged my name or my picture in a way like this before. I didn't reach out to this person individually. In fact, they keep liking my posts on social media, like I don't even know if they're aware of like, but like, I'm not an idiot. I don't know. Like, I made a post about it on social media, and they actually went and liked it. So I think it's really interesting. I mean, I always tell people like you, Teresa, like, Oh, you have oh, you have someone pretending to be you or you have trolls? I guess you've made it. And that's the same advice. I'm getting like, wow, like you're now becoming a business celebrity. Like, welcome to The Club. This is what happened. So I'm like, Okay, well, it feels really icky. Like, it definitely feels icky. And I follow a couple influencers who, one of them's a body positive influencer and weight loss company is always using our images to promote the products and like the steal her image, identity, fraud, identity theft, and, like, I always thought, Oh, terrible, and like, now it's happening to me in a way where people are pretending to be me or leveraging me. And in one way, like, yes, that's, that's, I guess, in a sense, I've made it whatever it is, I guess, like success is when people copy you or pretend to be you or leverage you. But it doesn't, it doesn't feel good. That, you know, I'm using this to my advantage in a way to try and do some protection of my identity online. So we'll see what happens and maybe at the end of August, I have a really cool update for you. But yeah, July was a pretty awesome month. I feel like it started off really bumpy but I feel like I'm eating out mentally. You know, playing outside, it's been great. The weather in Kamloops has been phenomenal. The bugs and mosquitoes have been insane. In the membrane, like, you know, like, literally like I'm covered in so many bug bites. But yeah, I'm just excited. And I was sitting down to like, think about what do I want August to have for me in August is my birthday like August 8, I'm going to check out Red Hot Chili Peppers. By the time you listened to this, it's already come and gone. If you follow me on social media, you'll probably have watched my entire life unfold on this adventure. But yeah, I mean, I'm coming out of deep, deep grief and I'm here to just grow my business and unsecure some big speaking engagements. And that's my big focus is booking more speaking engagements for the winter and into the new year. Oh, and because of all of this and listening to Teresa talk about her vibe launch method, I created a new leg a lead magnet and so you can probably check out the show notes and download it if you want to know and have access to the visibility roadmap if you want to be a thought leader I've mapped it out for you what you need to do want to get on a billboard want people to start copying you on the internet? Do as I say and as I do. That's just that's

me. I love that I love all these updates updates so while you know I'm just like I just said yeah, I'm like thinking about here in my like, you know navigating crying over my cats letting go separating dealing with all that riding the roller coaster and normalizing that me crying and not being able to show up on social media is normal and you are navigating and you know speaking about what you're going through in terms of you know, anxiety and depression and handling that and you know, I think too as entrepreneurs and I've really noticed that like this month as I'm really up leveling in my business and scaling my business throughout all this which seems frickin insane if you like I definitely had moments of like what am I like? I'm trying to, like, do here, like, this seems crazy, but we're still doing it, but I just needed to take a break. But, you know, I think, normalizing that. And I think our nervous systems, especially when we live a life online, are taxed. You know, it's a lot to take, like, it's a lot to hold as clients. It's a lot to hold as people, and we are navigating life and at the same time you're showing up, and then what you just shared, you know, like the whole identity fraud, and people stealing, like, and creating fake accounts and all of that stuff. Like it's happening like crazy right now, too. So this ties in as well, right? Because how do you handle identity fraud in your business? And I feel like we should have a whole like, you. And I gotta have a whole like, podcast about that topic within itself. Because I think that it's a big, you know, it's a big thing, and what can we do to protect our brands, because, you know, quite honestly, like yours, tourism, like this, right now is crazy, like crazy. And you're right, once you start to have the clout, at that level, people want to be you. But it can also happen to you, when you have a smaller business. Still, it can also happen to you when you don't have quite as much visibility. And I think laying the foundations early on your business is probably better for you and for your nervous system. So I just want to acknowledge you for what you shared, and that you're talking openly about it. And I totally agree with you. I mean, I definitely am suffering from anxiety, like for sure like, and I have my own way of like, medicating myself, like, for me, it's like VD, my spiritual practices and what I'm doing, and it's working for me right now. But I think that it's also important to, you know, get the support and the help that you need. So if anybody's listening and you are feeling off, and you're feeling down and you're feeling, you know, aloof and deeply sad, and you know, we touched on that, like, if you are feeling like you're really not able to function go and reach out and ask for help and asking for help is not, you know, like, I just was reading something. Somebody posted a volley and it was Emily. And she, she's a great coach and Palin coach, and she said, asking for help is the most powerful thing you can do. And I agree, so I just wanted to send that note out here. If anybody's listening and resonate to that, you know, make sure you reach out for help, even if it's a friend. Because I've been there and I know, it's it's not a good place to be. So anyways, that just came up, but it's been, what a month. It's been holy,

yeah. Like, I echo that. And thank you for saying that, like, reach out for help the global Resilience Project, my passion project, that community I created is a great resource as well. But you know, you're not alone. And it's okay to not be okay, whether you know, you're going I mean, we're humans, right, human beings, human doings, human halvings being on the floor, crying, saying goodbye to our cats or pets, loss, grief, grief of a relationship, or a person who's no longer here. Grief of like the loss of a client, or the shift of a business or the life that we thought we were going to have that we don't like, life is messy, and beautiful and hard, and we aren't alone. And we're here to do it together. And this podcast is one of those ways where we can really empower you or listeners, and really help each other out like Teresa and I talk all the time. But you know, these these are really like an interrupted brilliant conversations between us that we record for you, the listeners out there. And you know, I think a lot can happen in a month. And so when we do this again, at the end of August, it's gonna be really cool to hear what's going on in Teresa's world. Like will you have your passport? Will you be in Argentina?

I will be in I will be in Toronto when we are recording this because I have booked my flight to Toronto and it's going to take a little bit to get my flight, my password so I can put my anyways Rancho and I'm really excited to be tuning in from Toronto because fact is, I have never been this far out there. Also you and I have a gathering because I'm coming to visit for your birthday. So I feel like there'll be some fun stories about that. So I feel like I have an exciting month ahead. It is July 29 today, next week is August. It's a new month. New Energy. Crazy cosmic forces are pulling us forward. I've got my flight booked August 21. I'll be heading to Toronto like I feel August 21. August 25. Yes, right. Yeah. So like, I'm like, it is go time. Yeah.

2.20 It's good.

Good. It feels good. I'm excited. Well, that's awesome.

Well, I think this is a good way to conclude. Thanks for tuning in. Do you want to finish Hi.

Well, I'm just gonna finish by celebrating us. Okay, because we're too badass is and you know what I just realized to both of us and I feel like, didn't you? You? Didn't you publish your book two years ago in July as well? Or was it June? June, okay. Anyways, I'm celebrating us, you publish your iron resilient book, you also became another best seller, which is fucking amazing. And we may have spoken about that, but it's my junior book anniversary. And we didn't talk about this. And I just realized, and so in the name of celebration for going through all the shit, all the ups, all the downs, all the roller coasters, all the life stuff, all the things there's always really cool shit that still goes down, including publishing books becoming best selling authors being on freaking pill billboards, having the time of our lives playing outside, and I just want to celebrate everybody, us and everyone for the realization that no matter what happens in your life, there's always going to be really cool shit. That's included in that pile. So let's celebrate that.

The good to the good shit. Good a good shit. piece

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