Ep 087: 528 Hertz with Barbie Layton

You ever wonder what success actually means? How do you get it? And how do you keep it?

We all want it yet sometimes it feels only some of us get to have it.

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Welcome back to another episode of dissecting success. It's me Blair Kaplan Venables, and I'm here with Teresa Lambert, the one and only and I am so excited because I have my friend Barbie here. Barbie is an international best use speaker going from the side to the main stage in six months based on fan feedback and 25 years of speaking engagements to New York Times. Good. Sorry, sorry, I got distracted. This is a different bio that I read last time because she's on a billboard in Times Square in New York and so my and she should have shown for billboards, and she put it in her bio and I like I you know, I know her and I just this is her new bio and I got sidetracked because I was like, fuck yeah, Barbie, you're on a billboard times for she has a Global TV channel on the best UTV called You are amazing, where she interviews world thought leaders who are changing the world for the more positive. She's earned an MA in spiritual psychology from the world famous University of Santa Monica and participated in the Cannes Film Festival winning documentary as a counselor to women serving life sentences in Chowchilla, California on the Prison Project, which is based on Victor Frankel's work in 2007. She's so phenomenal her whole bio is dropped below. I met her because we're featured in this book woman gunwale the wealth addition together, we met in person for the first time in June in Vegas, then la we hung out then New York, so we spent a whole month together which makes me feel like I've known you through my entire life. She's up to some amazing things in this world. And I'm honored she's taking the time to chat with me and Theresa. Hello, Barbie.

Thank you what a great intro for sure.

I got so like I you know, it's so funny because now I'm back in Kamloops and my like small Canadian city, you know, of 100,000 people where there's space and fresh air. And like, I know that you and I are on a billboard in Times Square. But I also kind of feel like it's a whole like it's part of me, but it's a whole different part of me. So like I forget about it. You're injured completely, like blindsided me, it's like, she's on a billboard. I'm like, wait, I'm on the Billboard with her anyways, holy smokes. Well, you know what, let's just dive right in. Like what? What does success mean to you?

I think success is one of those things that is the the journey and like it's not the destination. It's the when more than half of your day is like spent just totally jamming of our time dissolves, and you're just totally in your zone. And you're so blissed out by the amazing things that you get to do. But also acknowledging that a lot of times the challenges and the tests that come up for you are there to be able to really test your mettle and to be able to really see how you can have an opportunity to use your imagination and your creativity to get to the next level in a way that you never have before. So it's the never ending, striving and thriving simultaneously. And when you can look yourself in the eyes and tell yourself I love you and mean it because you are being there for yourself as much as possible. That's when it really really resonates where you can call yourself a personal success. And I'm definitely still a work in progress. I would say most days now I have probably 60% positive and 40% negative but ultimately just continuously to strive for that to be are those moments that are magical, and they're in the direction that you want them to to go in, end up continuing to manifest in almost miraculous and magical ways.

What a beautiful definition. And also how vulnerable and real, right like the 6040? Like what is? I mean, I don't expect you to know the data, but like, what is the average person, you know, with that positivity and looking themselves in the eyes and loving themselves and loving everything? Like, it's 6040? Like the average? or can people actually get to 100? Like, is that even possible?

Well, I think so one of the companies that I co founded in the last few years is called the Infinity life, we have an eight week Corwin training, and it's based on Dr. David Hawkins work, which is power versus force. And what he did is he actually came up with the Hawkins consciousness scale, and he believes and he went to different cities around the world and actually measured their consciousness level. And what he found was that 80% of the planet resides under 200 Hertz. And that is significant because manifestation comes at 528 hertz, which is the the solfeggio frequency of love DNA and creativity and 539 hertz is gratitude. So when you're able to be above 500 hertz, you're literally in like less than 10% of the population that are being really, really intentional with that. Because there's so much fear programming and scarcity mindset that we're really, really, we're pulled into. That it's almost like you have to reprogram yourself on the daily till to get there. But even Dr. John Demartini, who I'm interviewing on Wednesday, and I was in his documentary breakthrough in Houston in May that's coming out the end of this year, he was talking about exactly that. He said, most even enlightened beings have about maybe the maximum about 70 to 80% of the capacity for having these blissful moments, but even the Dalai Lama, I heard him on an interview talking about the fact that he has shitty days. And he said that he said, I have shitty days, then I have to reek recruit that so we look, we look at this kind of pedestal people that we think you know that they're just always having these like blissed out fabulous days because of the body of work. And I think that's something too, that ends up happening for a lot of people is this disassociation, of where, when your smile, smile, smile, and you're like, everything's great, and everything is awesome. Everything is cool, you know, The Lego Movie, it's like, when everything's just so frickin like, you know, sparkly and fabulous. The people that you really want to have in your life are the people that are going to be there, when your mascara is running, and you look like crap, and you don't feel so great, because they're gonna bolster you up. So I think, to your point, I think that 6040 is probably pretty good. But my issue that I have a lot of times is that I just odd times, based on previous coping mechanisms, and I'm still working on this, I have a tendency to want to check out. And that's just check out like, and it doesn't matter what it is, I can check out with all sorts of different things. And you kind of go from, you know, like phase two phase to phase, once I find myself completely fully present, with all the momentum that I carry as my own person. As you can see, I can command a room and I have a very big essence of big energy. Once I get to that point, where I'm able to kind of really pull all of that back. It's like, we become forces of nature, we've become these like total, almost ecosystems of our own and where people just want to basically be on our orbit, because they know that when they get swept up into that, I call them Barbie bubbles. You know, once they get swept up into those Barbie levels, then they just want more because they have opportunity to feel good about themselves. And if I'm walking around helping people to feel good about themselves, and then they're helping me to feel good about myself, we reflect back this law of reciprocity. It just that's where to me life becomes really delicious.

So many thoughts. Going through my mind as you're talking, I was like, nodding, and being like, wow, like it is it is so impactful. What you just shared with us. And, like I feel like I want to just like highlight this again, these examples you brought up from some incredible human beings who so many believe are always in this, you know, Zen state will always have good days because they've mastered a level of consciousness that is is remarkable. When the truth is it's really never been about being 100% in the frequency, but it is about how we course correct and how we step back into alignment when we experienced those times, sitting in the discomfort going through the tough days, and not making them mean any more than that, right? Like not getting caught up in the in the moment of density, and then doing the work to really move us back into those higher frequencies. Like because reality is, as human beings, we're going to experience all of it. Yes. It's, it's not going to be just roses and butterflies and lollipops like, all day long every day, like nobody is immune to, to difficulty and also, all of our motions. I mean, all powerful. So 6040 How did you get to even that level? Like, what did you do?

Um, I think I've been very intentional. 520 hertz is my jam, that's my, that's my chant. That's what I tone in my body. I think that when you, you know, like other a lot of people like in the Eastern religions that, you know, they tell them with Ohm, and Alma is not my jam, the hue is my jam, which is the sound. And it's, it's really in times of stress and times of even danger or things like that. In my life, I've been using that tone for the last 30 years. And a lot of, you know, ascended masters and other people have been using it, it's pretty much like in Judeo Christian and also Islamic religions, pretty much if you look at Allah lujah, Allah Lee as three words put together, so there's all a hue, and then basically at the end, so Yahweh, so you've got Allah hue, and then Yahweh, which is basically encompasses pretty much all almost all of the universal religions in the world. And if you look it up the word hue Hu, it's in so many different languages all over the world. And I don't think that that's an accident, something that they used to actually chant below, in the Mystery Schools in Egypt, they actually used to chant that at night, when they would go like from Sun sundown to sun up, they would actually chant the hue. And so for me, it was a miracle tone that I found. And by toning that, you become almost like your own tuning fork with your body. So I'm a singer by nature, which Blair can attest to. But it's something of where I love that my vibrato. And that's where I think that it's the actual essential pneus of the frequency has to be pure, and it has to be correct. And I don't mean in a right or wrong way. I mean it from the perspective of where when somebody cuts a key for you, that key will have six or seven x's in it, which means that it actually fits into the lock, and you can turn the key, if that key is bent or it's not made correctly, you can put it in the key, all you want in that door is not going to open for you. So there's a lot of people who they talk about singing the you or they do this, that whatever to me, I tone it. So for me, it's it's huge too. And I can feel that right in my in my energy field right there. And my whole heart, like, energy field just kind of expands from that perspective. And it's something where it's a very simple thing. But when I work with, with clients with energy healing, it's one of the first things that I have them do is they can look on YouTube, any other places, and they can find like hundreds of when those live streams of 528 hertz, there's all sorts of you know, videos, they can listen to listening to the you know, the Tom frequencies on that. But what I found that's amazing is that, when you have that in tandem with my own innate ability as an energy healer, but then also, they start listening to the healer, or toning, or whatever they do with it for the next 30 days. It's almost like these miracles start popping up in their lives, where they're just like, Wait, how is this even possible? But it's because of the accuracy of the fact that it is 528 hertz, not 522 is not 530? It's 520 Hertz. Exactly. And like this one right here. I have this tuning fork. Probably can't hear that. But it's a tuning fork. That is exactly well, that's oftentimes what's funny about tuning forks is that they are such a high frequency that they oftentimes are not registered on, on like human equipment. And it's funny because sometimes I'll do it like a huge chant with people on a group and my voice and my resonance goes so high in frequency that literally, it's like a dog whistle. They can't even hear me anymore. They're just like, wow, you just went into outer space or something.

Oh, my gosh, I love it. Okay, so Okay, so the 528 hertz, I wrote that down, because and you said, there's like, I just looked on YouTube, while you're saying that there's lots of videos and whatnot. So like, how long everyday should I listen to? Something at 520 hertz, like, and how many days like, Tell me about a practice I could do? Like, what can our listeners do to start vibing at that frequency,

if you wanted to use yourself as an instrument, 20 minutes or less per day is the max, you don't need to do more than that. So this is not one of those things where you need to go sit up on a, you know, a mountaintop for like five hours contemplating in the lotus position. That's not it. So, you know, I used to do that I would listen to the heat chant, you know, pretty much on the, you know, on the way to work, it's something of where you can get a recording of where you listen to it. So it's having that kind of in the background. A lot of times if I'm having a stressful day, I put it on, you know, like this, go on YouTube for a live stream, and then I could just have it in the background. numbers just kind of playing where I'm just not even really thinking about it. But it also charges your frequency in your environment. So if you're playing in in your office, or wherever you're playing it in your home, or different places like that, you're actually doing that in your space. So what I used to do, when I used to go into an office couple years ago, before I went to being able to do remote work, is, I would actually play a huge chance, it was like 5000 people that have been recorded together and an event, which was amazing. And I would play that for 20 minutes in my office, and I would just say, I'm calling for the highest good of all concerned that this day, basically, you know, open up to whatever possibilities that there are. And what I found was that I had a lot of, you know, with, like, different groups that I would do for speaking workshops, and other things like that, and writing workshops would end up happening is that I would have all these things that I wanted to be able to put out with my curriculum, or you know, okay, this, what we're gonna do, this is the agenda, this is what we're doing this, you know, whatever. And then a lot of things would shift, and then the next you know, somebody would share something really deep, or, Oh, it's time for this to be able to come to the surface, or this person wanted to talk about this, it really allows that flexibility to to kind of come in, and I'm not rigid in the sense of where it's like, you know, there's 10 agenda items must have all 10 of them, it's like, okay, we can hit the next three, maybe tomorrow or the next day, because whatever energy came through is important. But it's almost like, if you're saving your house, how a lot of people do that, it's kind of a similar thing. By doing that, you're actually programming the frequency of 528 hertz into your office space. And I really feel like it made a huge difference, because you know, they vacuum and take out the trash, but they're not pulling out all the bad juju and all the bad vibes, Speaker office. So then if I play that in the morning, beforehand, and I do that, when there's nobody there, obviously, I mean, because for a lot of people that's like cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs, but it's like, it's fine. I don't care. Because I know it's a ton of you know, DNA and creativity, and I love so what's what's, there's nothing negative about that at all. And it's nondenominational it doesn't belong to any religion of any kind.

I literally cannot wait to start turning that on every every day. No, I'm like, so fascinated. I mean, I'm like, I saved my house, like every like, like, at least every second day. And whenever anybody comes into this space, because it's like a very much a sanctuary for me right now. So I'm keeping it very clean. And I like I just make sure that energy is clean. Like I wash my hands off the client calls, like I have all these practices, but I never heard of this frequency. So I am like, so fascinated. And I can't wait to listen to it. I'm like, can I make it through the end of this bunkhouse episode? Because I'm so intrigued by it. Do you would you say chanting along with it, like chanting with it and sort of having it in a heartbeat sort of VD? Like, sort of brings it into a full embodiment practice of that? Or is the sound itself potent? Enough? Like, would you say doing both is ideal? Or like, what would you say for like a complete, like, you know, beginner like me,

however you want, you can also get a tuning fork, that's 520 hertz, and something that you can ping on a regular basis before somebody comes over. And then after they leave as well. And I would say that testing it out to see how that feels, it does reverberate really beautifully. It's something that really feels good into the chest area. Even just like when people chant, um, it's like, very similar thing of where the whole body starts to vibrate, and then you become your own tuning fork. And because we're so electrical and made of water, it's something that really ends up being over you vibrate at that frequency, because you're programming that in. And then I think just like, you know, especially in work environments, of just having it in the background, I mean, it's still I have my white sage, you know, from the Navajo Indians and things like that, that I love to burn as well. But, you know, it can be intense to in that space of where it just kind of, you know, kind of comes in and in that thing, too. And one of the things I'm coming up with a course, which I call science of signs, which is about these downloads that have gone for like the 10 last 10 years, and when I mean downloads, I mean, they're things that come through meditation, or, you know, or when I'm really, really tuning into what the universe is trying to say. And I have never really shared it with people. But there's also fire clearings that are really, really amazing. And that is pretty much done with Epsom salts and rubbing alcohol in like a, you know, like a pie, tin etc. And I originally found out about that when I was at the University of Santa Monica, when we were doing our spiritual psychology because we have these trios, where we would have the counselor, the therapist, and then we'd have the person that just held the space for the the loving space for the people that were clearing their stuff. So we use each other as clients and then you know, we rotated around throughout the day. But as you can imagine, we had like 300 people in the graduate program, and there was some deep stuff that was coming out for people. I mean, some really, really deep stuff. And it was a lot volunteered for five years after the fact where I was reading, you know, graduate papers to will to help support their journeys. And we used to have these people that were called clearing angels. And they would come with one of those aluminum pie tins. And the beauty about the fire clearings is that they're not, you know, they're not, there's no sit, there's no smell, there's no smoke. It's not flammable, I do mine on my actual burner in my kitchen, and I put it on like an old, you know, like a cookie sheet, and I have a Pyrex dish that's glass, but they would actually light that on fire. And depending on how much stuff had to be cleared in the day for what was happening with the depths of the work, sometimes those flames will be two to three feet high. I mean, they were, they were just like massively high, and we were like, Oh my God, you know, because the air would start to feel like really, really like thick. And, and I can't really describe it, but everybody would pick up on it, like, oh, the air is thick, we need to do a clearing. So these clearing angels would do that. But then if there wasn't very much to burn, and there wasn't very much to clear, the flame would be maybe you know, five, six inches, it would burn out in like two to three minutes, whereas the one that's three feet high took me about 15 to 20 minutes. So my inner guidance told me that to take it a step further. And then use it almost like when you're reading tea leaves, or you're looking at coffee grounds or different people that have different divination abilities to to look at things. So I started taking photographs of my clearings. And what I found is that depending on the color that was showing up was basically what was in my space. So it clears my entire, you know, my whole condo is completely cleared with that energy when I do that. But if I have a lot of stuff going on internally, for me, it will take 15 to 20 minutes to burnout if I only have a little bit, maybe take a couple minutes, but then adding the photography effect to it. And I did this with clients as well, where they were burning stuff on the other end for themselves as to what they were doing. So I'm going to add this as a module to my course, we would actually take photographs and like angels, Angel pictures would appear dragon pictures would appear. All these like amazing shapes and forms would start to be able to be in, in these photographs. And some pretty dark stuff too. I'm just not even go there. But it was some like really dark energies of where it's like you've had to clear that energy out. And then think that these beings were coming forward into your fire clearance, were able to help you out. But by distilling it into photographs, it told you exactly what you were working with at the moment. So by being able to teach it to people, and I've never heard of anybody talk about that before. And you guys are the first ones that I'm sharing it with, but it's still one of those things where if you want to, you know basically clean the energy in your space for a really, really big deal. And that's why I like it function way. You don't buy a house or somebody died, like a lot of people are very, you know, like superstitious and they won't go someplace where they know that there's a ghost or you know, the things like that even though I mean there's you know, spirits all around us because the astral plane is only about seven inches higher than we are that's why ghosts are floating around or they appear to be but it's still there a lot of people that have that feeling that an energetic frequency has to be right for them to feel comfortable in their space. And I'm all about that I have crystals all over the place and constantly burning incense and doing other things like that, because it makes me feel happy.

Yes, yes. Okay, first of all, I would say if you've never done the burning, energy clearing on your own, don't try it on your own work with someone like Barbie. Great, because like in my mind, I'm like, I want to go do that. But I'm like probably gonna have like 10 feet high Flims that lasts an hour. So I will not be doing that on my own in my house. But um, you know, I think that's it's so fascinating. And I love that you add like added your own innovative twist to that with the pictures like I mean, I think it's fascinating and there's so like, so much to what you do and we only have you know a certain amount of time in this podcast like how can people work with you that what are the various ways that you work with people that they can tap into this expertise and like passion and lifestyle of yours?

Well, I'm definitely go to my website at Barbie leighton.com. So one on ones definitely I've worked with CEOs and help them to be able to, you know, really maximize things I love helping people get dream jobs. I love helping people get their dream house and when people helping people manifest money. And one of the cool things last year was that one of my clearings helped a lady who hadn't conceived a baby for six years who actually gave birth to a baby girl on Christmas Eve with little Santa hat and sent that picture to me, which is amazing. And last week, my most favorite clearing was actually through a text message in a group chat of a town in Alaska that was about ready to get burnt up. And the guy told me please you know, help is a friend of mine. He said please help if you can to the just the group. And I sent out like energy tool to help out and I just said you know what, you guys need to start putting hoses on the on the roof for the water because my grip in Malibu and we have fires. They're like, you know, a lot. My grandfather used to hose down the roof. And they said, Oh, we're in an unincorporated town. We don't have an actual water source. You have to use buckets and I was like, Okay, well, let's pray. for rain, let's let's you know ask the universe for rain to come. And then he sends me an article the next day that says, There was rain last night in the first time, like in months, etc. And he just so he just said, keep whatever you're doing, keep it up and keep, you know, helping out. But it's something that, can I tell you that, you know, I saved a town from burning up? No, I can't tell you that because I don't have definitive quote unquote proof. However, I do know that everything that I said that was going to happen or asking for occurred and I was in tears, I was so moved. And you know, it's like, it's such an honor to be able to allow source energy to come through me to be able to assist people with their, their, you know, their dreams and their goals in life or even with their businesses. And so people can, you know, go into Barbie leighton.com. And they can, they can sign up for that, or I have Calendly link of intuitive Barbie one. And in addition to that, I also have the the Infinity life, the infinity that life, the core wound clearing that is a different price point where people can work with people that I have trained personally. And it's absolutely amazing to watch people transform in eight weeks where they release their actual core wound. And it's like, you get this deprogramming of like, this computer virus has been running you forever, because there's about six to eight actual core wounds that happen when all of us are children. And then we have to just constantly be, you know, working with that same thing. And that's why a lot of times people in relationships, it's like their two year old is coming up against their other two year old. And it's not two adults having a relationship. It's just them, you know, butting up against their core wounds for you know, and that's that's oftentimes difficult and relationships, because you're not dealing with two adults, you're dealing with two toddler gotten their stuff together. So there's that. And then I'm doing this course this week. So I'm planning on publishing, which I'm excited about. And then after that, had people who would like to have the journey continue. So I'm going to be offering an eight week course of where I'll do a live q&a with the group. And what we're going to do is we're going to actually track everybody's signs of the way that the universe is communicating with them personally. And by being able to, like accelerate that where you start to see that your life is going in this positive direction or negative direction. And I don't think, excuse me, I know there's a lot of books on like Angel numbers and dream dictionaries and things like that. But that's generic that that you can't just say, Oh, 555 is transformation. Well, 555 could have been like your dad's, you know, Jersey, from his racecar driving days, where every time you see race, you know, the five by five, it's your dad, it's not transformation. So I teach people and I've taught people already, how to decipher the signs of the universe is talking to you all the time. And I was like this, you know, my mom used to go on these trips. And she'd always be like, What are you doing all the time. So I was kind of like a little, like a note, court reporter like little pad with me everywhere I go, because it's constantly writing out little notes. And even when you and I were in New York, where one of the things that was amazing is that

I saw a documentary about the building in New York that was built that has that glass cantilever that like the, you know, the triangle on it, and that there's a million pound pendulum inside of it, that holds it from making it, you know, not sway, but it needs to sway in that direction of wherever it goes. Otherwise, the skyscraper breaks. And they were talking about how they, you know, took it apart in Italy, it was at pieces, they put it on the ground, and then they knew that it was gonna be able to be cantilevered and it's kind of an angle. And I was just tripping out on this buildings. I was like, everything starts in your imagination, like everything, every single thing that's out there, like my shirt was in someone's imagination, you know, your, your glasses with someone's design, etc. Your t shirt, you know, say everything was someone's imagination. And there's so many different versions and realities on this planet and beyond. And so, in my hotel room at the W was on the 55th floor, and from my bed with my window, I saw the reflection of our billboard, which made us look at cartoons just share the video with everybody. It was hilarious. So all night long, I got to see our billboard. But that building was the only building I could see. From my room. It was like literally, if I'd been to the left of the Nether room, I wouldn't have seen it if I'd been to the writing of it. I wouldn't have seen it. But that to me is when the universe is telling me like you go girl you're on course you stay on course you're on track you're on track. Yeah, you know that building and you were looking at which is like this giant, you know, spiritual pendulum. I mean, they're doing spiritual seven architecture in New York, and any with a million pound pendulum because a lot of us you know, I work with pendulums. And it's, you know, it's totally fun. But that was this big message to me like you're in the right spot. You just keep on going. And I think that's where getting those signs from the universe, synchronicities and all these beautiful things that happen. I heard all the time that whole entire weekend. Oh, my flight was canceled. My flight was delayed. I didn't get this. I didn't get that but you lost your luggage. I mean, there was a lot of like negativity with people with having to do with planes and stuff like that. And I just keep affirming like nope, clear transmute. My flight is going to be on time. Everything's going to be beautiful, etcetera. I had such a beautiful time on my way to New York. Everything was on time. On my way back. I had a free you know, they were giving me free wine. It was just you know, it was on JetBlue A shout out. Well, they were awesome. But everything was perfectly on time and all went exactly the way it did. Can I say that I manifested that? Not necessarily. But every time I heard somebody say something negative about that kind of stuff, I redirected my thoughts into saying like, okay, yes, that's someone else's experience. And I'm not denying their experience, but clear transmit that doesn't need to be mine. And so I think that's what I really, really help people is to kind of refocus themselves back into what do you want? Like, let's fire up your dreams? Most people after 40? They lose them? Or like what dreams? What do you mean dreams? I, I got married at 2.5 Kids, I did this. I did that. I'm a doctor. Now. It does. Yeah. So what So you went to medical school? That's not your passion. And you don't like to do that? Why do you want to do that for 30 more years, go find out what you really love to do, and then find the way the universe commoditize it for you. So that's, that's for me what as you can probably hear, it just gets me really, really psyched and excited. Because I love to be of service to people and help facilitate their dreams, and then allow that abundance mindset to be contagious for myself and others.

So juicy. This is so good. And you know, I mean, I'm in like my own, like spiritual awakening right now. And really leaning into like, the thing that I keep coming back to over and over is like, for me, it's really faith, like, unwavering FAITH that I've stepped into. And things are happening. And I keep seeing Angel numbers. And like all these things, and for me, it's just a sign that says, you're on the right path, keep walking on the path. And when things come in my space, I deal with it, I do the work. I work through it, like, you know, and I like you said, like, it's always choosing to go back to the battle, it's really the better feeling thoughts in some way. And coming back to what that well being is to make sure that I have the capacity energetically to be able to build what I'm trying to build into navigate what I'm navigating. So I love this all so much. And I would love to know, as we're wrapping this up Bobby's like on somebody's path, to to manifestation on somebody's path to to really making their dreams come true success, whichever you want to call it. What's one thing that you would give them as a piece of advice for where to start? Like, where do we begin with this journey?

I think that one of the things that I really think is important is to start to love yourself where you actually are. That's something that I really try to work with my clients a lot. Blair can attest to the fact that like both of us had to stretch to able to do all the things that we did to be a part of this book that is, you know, going to be amazing. But it's a it's a worldwide global movement, it's going to be in 46 countries in January, it's going to be in multiple languages, and cetera, et cetera. That was also I think, a leap of faith to be able to just literally say, You know what, this is the right time, this is the right this, yes, I have to stretch be able to do this, but I can't tell you how many billionaires and millionaires and other people, I would say, reading the book Thinking Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, which is over 100 years old, which really has all of these ideas in the sense of where it's, it's the idea that if you can believe it, you can achieve it. And no, I can't be an astronaut at this moment. So there's a few you know, things too, that I'm looking at. But it's like anything that resonates with you. It's getting back into the sense of where it's not deciding that you're going to love yourself, once you've lost 10 pounds, it's not deciding that you're going to be nice to yourself when you know you get this, this and this starting to listen and dissent. Discerning that inner critic that is inside of your head is the most important thing to get to be silenced. Because it is that brutal voice that will literally beat you senseless over and over again and tell you all sorts of lies that are not true. And at some point in time, I think 2020 I heard some like really negative feedback to myself. And I just said, You know what, you need to go to the corner. I'm not listening to you right now. Thank you, I'm doing the very best that I can. I'm in the middle of a pandemic, and you just need to go sit in the corner and shut up, literally. And it was almost like my inner critic had been like this pattern interrupt here was it almost was like,

it was like surprised. And it's like to me, once you get that inner critic that isn't giving you all of this peanut gallery information, you start to realize, okay, is this my loving myself? Or is this my inner critic, and asking the inner critic to integrate with you as opposed to work against you? That is probably a lot of psychologists believe that almost there's like a subcommittee of different personalities that you have within yourself and you allow one to be dominant and there's always one that wants to sabotage you. So you try to find an integration, you're not killing the shadow. You're integrating it because it became that dark stuff that you had to deal with when you were younger. Because to the fact that you have to cope with situations that you're no longer is coping with now, you're just reacting to the same situations that you had when you were younger than aren't there any longer I'm, I'm a perfect example of that I'm still working on those compulsive behaviors that it's like I don't, I don't want to practice them anymore because they're not from stimuli that exist any longer. So that part is take a deep assessment of where you are at the moment and fall in love with like your life at this moment, knowing that you can improve it at any moment. But the thing I think, put me on the map and allowed me to become world renowned, was in 2020, that I talked about extreme gratitude. And that is, when you're sitting there, and you're having these negative thoughts, and everything sucks, it's I have a bed, I'm grateful that I have food, I'm grateful for my refrigerator, I'm grateful for my shower and grateful for the water company, the nameless people, I'm grateful for my internet company, I'm grateful, you just literally start stacking all these things that, you know, we take for granted in the modern world. And by the time you've gotten to 20 things, then you can add people, pets, whatever you want to. It's almost like it just really shifted people's ideas. And I got emails from people that said, you know, this basically almost saved my life during the pandemic, when I thought everything was gonna, like, you know, we're all like running around like scorched earth hairs, you know, hair on fire, the world's gonna blow up. So that's the thing of where when we start off with that extreme gratitude, with thank you for what I have, in this moment, and loving yourself that you do have those things and then wanting to add next things to your life, it then can become exponentially bigger than you and opening yourself up to kind of your own inner guidance as to where you're being directing that hunch, instinct, whatever you want to call it. A lot of times, you know, the universe wants more for you than you want for yourself. And that's where Blair and I are in a testament to that in the sense of where again, for another week, we are on frickin billboards in Times Square, that are like 48 feet high, and have been seen by millions of people with Kim Kardashian, one of the most iconic female, you know, influencers in the world, that's 320 million followers. So this is the kind of stuff of where it's like, reach for the dreams that you thought that died. But people oftentimes after 40, they have to, they have to be reminded, you have to actually work table to go find what they were, a lot of times, it's whoever you are, when you were eight years old, or 10 years old. That is the clue as to who you truly are and what you're meant to be.

Thank you so much for sharing all that, that I feel like there was so much impact of what you share with our listeners today. And I really like I feel like this is one of those episodes that I would like recommend listening to a couple of times, because you'll pick up like different things throughout. And you know, one of the things about what you just shared with where we can get started, and then the credit to practice and like you said so many incredible things, is I've actually just picked up the surrender experiment by Michael a singer. And one of the things that really resonated and that sort of reminded me of what you just said is that life has the universe has some really incredible things in store for us. And one habit that I've been practicing with that and it's what you just said, like sometimes we don't even know how good it can get. And it's always this idea of it's going to be this or something even better, like it's going to be this or something even better, to to remain open to the possibility of what else could come in and what a beautiful way to, to go about life right to say the universe has some really amazing things and so fast can we allow ourselves to receive them and to see them and to put do the work to be in the frequency of being able to receive it and actually get this so fascinating. So powerful. Bobby, thank you so much. I feel like Blair wants to say a couple more words, I feel

I just wanted to say thank you so much Barbie. Like every time you talk, there's such depth to your words. It's not, you know, a very, it's never like a very surface level answer. And you always get me thinking and I've definitely like been taking some notes about things I want to start implementing today. And I really hope our listeners, you know, can pause and rewind or pause and go back and listen to some of the stuff you're saying because you've just provided so much insight. And I really do want to invite our listeners like check out Barbies website like you want to, you know, follow her watch her show. Work with her like she really she can really show you how to uplevel your life and live better, like be a better version of you. And it's been such a pleasure to get to know Barbie over the last 778 months. And you know her and I are involved in this project and we've decided we're probably friends for life and we are friends for life not probably and I just want to thank you for coming on to dissecting success and for sharing like very tip of the iceberg of your knowledge and wisdom with us and our listeners. So thank you, Barbie.

Thank you guys, Anna. Many blessings to all of your audience members. And hopefully there were a couple of nuggets that you'll take into your own life and just make it more exciting because, like, why not? Why not sit around and be playing fun and childlike wonder and suspend disbelief and what have you got to lose? Right, exactly.

And thank you to everyone for tuning in to another episode of dissecting success. We'll be back in your ears next Tuesday. Every Tuesday you get a little bit more of me Teresa and her fabulous community.

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