Unconditional Love

Hello, my friend. Welcome back to the dogs admin podcast. I am glad you're here. This is the show where you learn to let your dog lead. Lead you back to love Wow wonder wonder who remember who wrote the book god.

Hey, what is going on? Oh, man. So glad you guys are back. Hey, quick note, my app that I keep telling everybody about, it's just getting delayed a little bit. So I'm going to keep putting it on there. I'm keep keep it rolling in the back end of the notes because one of these days will actually drop so people keep looking for it. It will come. Alright, so can ditional love. Do you know what that is? Where have you known that in your life? Right? Yeah, yeah. Terrell look at your dog. Right freakin there it is right freakin there. What we don't realize is that we can give it to ourselves. We forgot that we got programmed, we got adulterated, we got educated. All these things that happen to our lives that tell us that were not worthy that we're not enough. All these things. We've talked about a lot of this stuff over and over again, just in different contexts. So my hope is that one of these is just gonna go click for you. And yeah, it'll pump. So let's talk about the pumps. The pups, the damn dogs shit, they bring it they bring their A game. Holy crap. I never doubted that. I never realized it either. Until later life. But yeah, they just bring it man. So all the times, especially my childhood when I didn't feel like I had somebody else. I had this incredible dog, sage. And he could read me and he could read my energy, my mood, and he knew just what to do, right. He was the most intuitive being I had ever encountered before that in my life, and actually for a long time afterwards as well. Let's say I just needed to be quiet. He would come and sit with me. He would come sit next to me. And just leaning into me right leaning our heads together. It was the most beautiful freakin thing.

If I needed to cry, he would sit and hold that space for me. Sometimes he would let me know it was time to go play. He'd start pick picking on me a little bit messing with me. He was a handful. But he was so freakin beautiful. And slow dog. So what why do we create that so much? Right? I know. I know. You love your dogs, guys. And there's, there's this knowledge, right? This term floating out there about unconditional love. But what is that for you? It doesn't have to be what mine meant? Or means or, or the guy sitting next to you? What is it for you? What does that feel like? Knowing that you've got this little four legged fuzzy love factory that just wants to hang out with you just wants to be with you no matter what. Fat skinny, tall, short, blonde, brunette, bald, rich, poor, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter at all. street dogs love their humans just as much as the dogs who live in the mansions don't matter. No, that's important. It all comes back to love. So what why is this such a commodity? Why is this such a thing that we think we have to get somewhere else? We can't get enough of it? I can't hold on to it. What is that about? One of the lessons I learned from sages, it didn't matter. Right? It didn't matter who I was where I was when I was. But I was actually worthy of that love. I was worthy of giving it as well as receiving it. Right. So let's talk about that a little bit. I thought I had to do all these things to try and get love. Right? I thought I had to be a certain way love a certain way. tolerate certain things. I had to be willing to take whatever came and be happy with the crumbs of my life. And man, that was just a terrible way to live. I did that till not that long ago, guys. And I'm hoping that some of this will wake you up a little bit. You go oh shit. Yeah, I don't want that. So let's go back a little bit. What is that for you? Right? What relationships in your life? Do you feel like you give and give and give and you still can't receive what it is you think you want? You don't get the love that you want from? Let's go to parents, right? For me. The lifelong search for love was with my dad and I eventually walked from that relationship actually, I've done it a couple of times. And then he pops back up in my life like alright, yeah, let's give him another chance. But what happens is I'm still placing conditions on him on what to expect and want from him to fill the hole in my own heart. And God just recently he literally came back in

In my life, like walked through the frickin door of the place, I still have a part time job at. He walked in the damn door with the owner who's his best friend. And I went, oh shit, here he is, this would be awkward. But then I cut myself. And I realized, no, I don't. It doesn't have to be I don't have to let it be awkward. So I got up, I greeted him, I shook his hand and gave him a hug, which he doesn't like. He shies away from that, and I let him know, I loved him. And I gave him some space. And I gave him time I held the space for him. And we talked a little bit and, you know, it wasn't awesome. But I could see it from a different place. I could see him differently. I have so much more compassion for him now, now that I'm able to see myself with more compassion, right? Isn't this fascinating. We place conditions on others for love and our own healing, when we actually have all that, right within us, we have all those capabilities, we have all the information we will ever need. But we're always seeking outside validation. So this was a huge test. For me. This was massive. But luckily, I didn't see it as a test. I said, No, I can, I can just give him some love. Right. And I really, really this time, didn't lose any conscious expectations on him. And I felt a couple little barbs when we were sharing that space. And you know, not long, not long after he was going, you know, when he left. And that was really fascinating for me, you know, I stopped being mad at him a long time ago. And I realized that he was just doing the best he could. So yeah, that's hard. That's really hard stuff to get to. It's hard to get to that point. It's simple, guys. But not easy. Okay. So don't don't mistake my terminology. I don't know that there is easy, we can create more ease in our lives. But I don't think anything is truly easy. Anyway, so I can love him. No matter how mad I used to be at him, no matter how much I used to blame him for my pain. I realized that my stories around all my own stuff are what was causing that pain, I was actually creating more discomfort than there actually would have been. So God, that's fantastic, right? Just Just that fact just knowing that I'm responsible for me, and I was the only one creating the conditions for the love in my life. So in a more general sense, I just accepted him. Whoa, shit, right? Just accepted. And distort doesn't mean I have to like anything that was said or done. And doesn't mean I have to agree with anything that was said or done. But just accept it. Because you know what it freakin happened? Doesn't matter. Doesn't matter if you like it or not, it happened, whatever it was it happened. Accept it. Give yourself a break. Give the other person a break. Get on with your frickin day. So, man, that is so so powerful for me. You know, I keep working on things and keep working on things. And something I thought I dealt with comes back because well guess what? I just opened up another layer. So oh my god, it's fascinating. Yeah, many times I've gone I've already fucking done this. I've dealt with this ship. And there it is again. So that's kind of a gift, you can start to see is that fantastic. So the unconditional love guys, the unconditional love from your dogs are just a mirror reflection of what's possible for you to give yourself you heard I'm saying mirror reflection of what you can give to yourself. You get to choose and listen to the last one. You get to choose your life. You get to choose your reality you choose every day, how you show up, if you don't like it, and you choose how to change it. That's it. All right. You guys be awesome. Stay cool. Love you. Bye.