Lift the Lid & Embrace Who You Really Are

Welcome to the joyful journey podcast. If

you're uncertain about what you really want or unsure how to be

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show for you. I'm Anita Adams, your host and guide to finding

clarity and creating a life you love. Let's tap into our inner

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that my friends, is the joyful journey. Let's dive in. Hey,

joyful journey errs need to Adams here your host of the

joyful journey podcast. Before we jump into today's episode

with some storytelling about embracing who you really are.

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of 2022 Thank you, we're shall see 35 I'm delighted you love

the show. And I so appreciate your review. Alright, my fellow

joyful journeyers today I have another story to share with you.

And this one begins on a cold winter night. 12 years ago when

I finally find the courage to tell my husband who I really am.

Have you ever kept a secret from someone you love. It took me 23

years to come clean with my secret 23 years together and I

finally recognize that I can no longer suppress this part of who

I am. It's not that I'm lying or pretending to be something I'm

not. It's more like, I'm not allowing myself the fullest

expression of who I am. It's like putting a lid on who you

are because you're afraid that what's going to bubble out is

going to be too much, you're going to be too much. That was

my fear that the lid on my Verbling pot was going to come

off and this messy, undeveloped part of who I am is going to

splatter everywhere. Like a grade nine science experiment

gone horribly wrong. And my husband is not going to love it.

Not gonna love who I really am. So the lid stays firmly on for

23 years. Are you wondering what I'm hiding from my husband? God,

well, more like hiding my desire to have God in my life. This was

a pretty big deal for me sharing this part of who I am with my

science minded non believer husband felt like it would be

telling him I think Darwin is a joke, or that I'm a flat earther

or that I love dancing with underpants on my head. All

right, that flat earther bit is weird. But all these things

would evoke the same response. He'd be like, what? Here's the

thing. I held on to this irrational belief that science

and spirituality don't mix. I also felt I needed to be more

like my husband more logical and less woowoo to be his equal.

Have you ever felt like you have to be more of one thing or less

of something else? If you have, you'll understand that there

comes a time when it's harder to hold on to the facade than to

truly embrace who you are. That time came for me 12 years ago on

that cold winter night when I finally realized it's time to

lift the lid. Or wait until Tom my husband is in bed scrolling

through watch making tutorials on YouTube, a favorite pastime.

I quietly walk into the bedroom. My heart is pounding. My hands

are clammy and my throat feels tight. I slide into bed next to

him. Prop myself up on some pillows and with laser focus. I

stare out the window is everything all right? Yeah, I

just I just want to come.

What? I said I want to have God in my life. Tom I'm so afraid to

share this with you because I don't want you to judge it or me

or think that I'm being foolish. I know you don't believe in God.

And that's all right. I do. I do. And I feel like there's

something missing for me. I want to explore this. And at the same

time, I'm really afraid to go down this path because he's

helped me change me or change us drive a wedge between us. And I

don't want that. I don't want that. But I want this. Does that

mean we're going to church on Sunday? Oh my gosh, my husband,

he just has this way of easing the tension, making me laugh,

usually making me laugh at myself. I was so afraid to share

this part of me. I thought if I opened up and lifted the lid, I

would ruin something that was already really good. This

opening up doesn't ruin us. Of course. It strengthens us. You

know what ruins relationships? Yeah, keeping lid on who you

are. Not only that it robs you of your joy and roads, your love

of self. That's a pretty huge price to pay, and one you will

pay for hiding even the smallest piece of who you are. When I

finally found the courage to lift the lid, I discovered I

really liked the person who emerged. I would even go as far

to say that that was the beginning of me deepening my

love for self. It was the beginning of me being honest

with myself and others about who I am and what I want. The truth

is, I've spent way too much of my life caring way too much

about what other people think and trying to be what others

want me to be or what I think others want me to be. How

exhausting, stifling. What about you? Have you been honest with

yourself and others about who you really are? Have you lifted

the lid to allow the fullest expression of you to emerge? Or

is there a part of you that you hide or suppress to please

others or to fit in the ladder? My hope is that you find the

courage to lift the lid and to fully embrace every bit of who

you are. When you do you deepen your respect and love for

yourself. You strengthen your relationships, and you unleash

great joy. Sounds awesome, doesn't it? Now, are you

wondering how exactly do you lift the lid? There's only one

thing you have to do. And that is get super clear with yourself

about who exactly is in that pot? Who are you? And what do

you want? It may surprise you that the vast majority of people

don't really know the answers to these questions. Why? Because we

are bombarded with messages from society telling us who we should

be capitalism at its worst, with corporations feeding us images

and stories designed to manipulate us into buying their

products and using their their services. And these corporations

along with the media and even friends and family are defining

what happiness and success is supposed to look like. We are

told who we should be and what we should want. And many of us

do not give ourselves the space we need to figure that out for

ourself. We are told to be happy we need to be in a relationship

and get married. Some of us are even told who to marry. We are

told what is beautiful, how much we should weigh, how to behave.

And we are told status, position and financial wealth are the

pinnacle of success. A list of things we are told that we

should aspire to be is endless. These are messages that we

receive from our earliest days. It's a lot of noise. And that

noise can drown out your soul voice, that higher self that is

within you, that understands who you really are and what you

want.

So if you want to lift the lid and allow the fullest expression

of who you are to emerge, you must tune out all the noise, go

with him. And listen to your soul voice to find that clarity

and to define who you are for yourself as you listen, a

competence and who you really are and what you want will grow.

And you'll feel the desire to share that part of you with

others like I shared with my husband when I told him I wanted

to have God in my life. And when you share more of who you really

are with others, even just one other trusted soul, you begin to

fanned the flames of your soul's desire and the clarity about who

you are and what you want burns hot. Soon, that lid is bouncing

on your beautiful burbling pot, and it will more easily slide

off as you emerge fully understanding, embracing and

loving who you are. This is the power of looking inward and

listening to your soul boys. If you need a reminder on how to

quiet all the noise so you can better tune into that soul

voice. Go back and listen to episode number 19 quieting the

monkey brain. investing time to get clear about who you really

are and what you want does take effort and you might joyful

journey or are so worth that effort. I hope my personal story

in this episode inspires you to invest more time looking inward

and listening. So you can lift the lid and allow the fullest

expression of you to emerge. If you want to go deeper with this

work, I offer a three month mentoring program specifically

designed to guide you on your inward looking journey. So you

can find greater clarity about who you are and what you want,

and create a life aligned with your true higher self. Visit

joyful inspired living.com to learn more. Thanks for joining

me today joyful journeyer we'll catch you next time. Thanks.

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