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In today’s episode, I interview Adele Anderson, an NLP Trainer who is passionate about teaching people to understand the power of the mind and how changing your thinking can change your life.
Adele shares a fascinating personal story about a plane crash she was in as a young woman that flipped in a river. What happened that fateful day changed the trajectory of her life as she became committed to understanding the power of the mind. As an NLP Trainer, she coaches people on how to reprogram their thoughts so they can create the outcomes they desire for their life.
To learn about the story that brought Adele and me together, listen to Episode #8 Coincidences: Gifts from the Universe.
Highlight’s from this episode:
Making choices about your story.
Maslow’s hierarchy of needs
Awareness of your thoughts and word choice is key to changing outcomes
Understanding your core values is your ‘true north’
How “I am” statements define you
Standing in your own power
Words your brain cannot process - “Don’t”, “Can’t”, “Try”
To manifest successfully - use present tense, direct and concise language
How to use the Seven Layers of Why to understand what you really want
Recommended book: The Obstacle is the Way, by Ryan Holiday
About Our Guest Adele Anderson:
As a survivor of a plane that crashed and flipped in a river, I know now that anything is possible when we make the right choice at the right time. As an NLP Trainer and Grief Coach, I serve leaders who require strategies for coping in life, not just influencing productivity and the bottom line. I offer 1:1 and group training in different aspects of NLP or international certification. Clients express a deep sense of fulfillment and ease, feel confident in their leadership skills; and experience expanded feelings of Life satisfaction.
How to connect with Adele Anderson:
Website: https://lifecoachadele.com
Email: adele@fulfillyourdestiny.ca
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lifecoachadeleanderson
Welcome to the joyful journey podcast. If
Anita Adams:you're uncertain about what you really want, or unsure how to be
Anita Adams:a force for good, you know this world craves, then this is the
Anita Adams:show for you. I'm Anita Adams, your host and guide to finding
Anita Adams:clarity and creating a life you love. Let's tap into our inner
Anita Adams:wisdom, access our highest self and unleash joy. As we raise our
Anita Adams:vibration, we heighten the collective consciousness. And
Anita Adams:that, my friends, is the joyful journey. Let's dive in. Hey,
Anita Adams:joyful journey yours. And Anita Adams here, your host of the
Anita Adams:joyful journey podcast. And I'm so excited to introduce you to
Anita Adams:an incredible woman who has so much to give to the world and
Anita Adams:who I believe I was divinely guided to find. If there's time
Anita Adams:I will tell that story. And if not, I'll add it to the show
Anita Adams:notes because there are no coincidences. And here we are.
Anita Adams:Welcome, and thank you so much for joining me today.
Adele Anderson:Yeah, so we'll leave everybody with a little
Adele Anderson:bit of wondering because it really was whimsical. Meeting up
Adele Anderson:with Anita again, and I'm so happy to be on her podcast
Adele Anderson:today. So thank you for asking me.
Anita Adams:And I want to tell people a little bit more about
Anita Adams:you before we dive in. So Adele is a NLP trainer. And how she
Anita Adams:got to this profession is a fascinating story itself and one
Anita Adams:we definitely will talk about. Adele is also a homeopathic
Anita Adams:practitioner, creator and host of the mind your freedom
Anita Adams:podcast, and owner of a beautiful retreat center in
Anita Adams:halfmoon Bay on the Sunshine Coast. Adele is passionate about
Anita Adams:teaching people to understand the power of the mind and how
Anita Adams:changing your thinking can change your life. Adelle truly,
Anita Adams:it's exciting to have you here. I'm so thrilled that we can have
Anita Adams:this conversation today. So again, welcome and thank you.
Unknown:Likewise, it's exciting being on a podcast. It's always
Unknown:fun.
Anita Adams:I have to admit or tell you that when when we first
Anita Adams:met up and you told me that you are an NLP trainer, I just
Anita Adams:politely nodded my head because I was too embarrassed to admit
Anita Adams:that I didn't really know what that was. I have since done my
Anita Adams:homework, and I understand it better. However, there may be
Anita Adams:some people listening that don't really know what NLP is and
Anita Adams:exactly what you do. So would you dive in and share a little
Anita Adams:bit more with us about what that is?
Unknown:Sure. So NLP is an acronym. That's neurolinguistics
Unknown:programming. And it was developed in the 70s by a very
Unknown:large group of individuals who came from different fields of
Unknown:study. So neurology, psychology, cybernetics systems study, or
Unknown:systems theory, and programming. So they began to discover that
Unknown:the brain actually worked in systems and programs. And as
Unknown:business people we understand we want that kind of stuff keeps us
Unknown:organized. But what if your brain had the same, or something
Unknown:that's similar a system and a program that worked inside your
Unknown:brain that can be malleable. So we know that the brain is
Unknown:malleable, and now we have processes that are known to just
Unknown:update that system. But all we say, Is your mom and dad's 1960.
Unknown:TV in your room? Know why? Because the programs are
Unknown:outdated, like the technology is outdated, right? And quite
Unknown:often, you know, we go to the gym, we work out our bodies, we
Unknown:buy the latest greatest gadget, we have our Fitbit, and yet how
Unknown:much work have we done on the inner workings of our mind. And
Unknown:this is the process of NLP. You know a big name in the industry
Unknown:is Tony Robbins, Mel Robbins, where we can see change in
Unknown:minutes and hours rather than in years through the old way, which
Unknown:is talk therapy, which is has got lots of benefits. But quite
Unknown:often it really means that you have to dig in, get down into
Unknown:the muck and work through things. We're NLP we're working
Unknown:with the neurology of the mind, knowing that there's many ways
Unknown:to interrupt a neurological pathway within your brain. And
Unknown:that can happen without pain and quickly
Anita Adams:okay, I'm so we're you're talking about
Anita Adams:reprogramming our, our minds? And did you say you can actually
Anita Adams:do that minutes?
Unknown:Oftentimes you can. So what I'm going to put in front
Unknown:of the screen is a felt pen that has a cap on it. And so when we
Unknown:think about an event in our life that is connected to an emotion,
Unknown:so say that the emotions on the one side and on the other and
Unknown:this is the neural pathway, so the event occurs in here and if
Unknown:it was traumatic, then you know there might be anxiety anger,
Unknown:fear whatever that emotion might be. And that also comes with
Unknown:physiology. So a certain heart rate, respiration, body
Unknown:temperature. And we understand that a lot through things like
Unknown:depression, where people actually have their eyes focused
Unknown:towards the floor, so they don't see a lot of the room, they may
Unknown:take smaller steps, they could shuffle, they have a lower heart
Unknown:rate, lower respiration, they speak slower, they walk slower.
Unknown:So we understand that this is with every emotion that we feel
Unknown:now, it's not just selective. So what we do now with with
Unknown:neurolinguistics programming, is we come through the back door,
Unknown:and we can change the physiology. So we already know
Unknown:that our brain is flushing chemicals for whatever we're,
Unknown:we're focused on. So our thoughts create physiology,
Unknown:which is flushed from chemicals within our brain, and move
Unknown:through our body through our bloodstream. When they're
Unknown:negative, that, you know, we can just say it's on the side of
Unknown:fear, when you want to call it anxiety, whatever you want to
Unknown:call it, it's usually a negative emotion. On the positive side,
Unknown:it can be love, it can be gratitude, it can be many, many
Unknown:things. But really, it's either positive or negative, the body
Unknown:is simple that way. So what we want to do is we want to switch
Unknown:this physiology to something that is not the complete story,
Unknown:your brain downloaded it in this complete idea. And if we change
Unknown:something, that neuro pathway cannot exist in a changed form,
Unknown:because it was created as a complete item. So we go through
Unknown:a process, like NLP. And there's other modalities that do the
Unknown:same thing. And we can change the physiology either either by
Unknown:changing a negative emotion to a positive emotion. So here's how
Unknown:you get the science behind the power of gratitude. Or we can
Unknown:change the actual physical physiology, heart rate,
Unknown:respiration, and body temperature. And it's done in a
Unknown:very specific way. So we all know, you know, the kids are
Unknown:misbehaving, you send them outside to play, and they're
Unknown:happy. But when they come back in the house, they can misbehave
Unknown:again, so different. And and, you know, some people will say,
Unknown:well, one of the processes do people understand the world
Unknown:through the differences that they can see, or through the
Unknown:similarities that they recognize, oh, you can see my
Unknown:one of my programs through my language that I use, it shows up
Unknown:every single time, and this is part of the work that I do. But,
Unknown:you know, we do it in a very specific way. So we occupy a lot
Unknown:of brain power. So if you want to think like your computer and
Unknown:say, Okay, we're dominating the RAM, you're running Adobe
Unknown:software, and Facebook at the same time, and your computer
Unknown:can't do very much else, right. So the the brain can be said to,
Unknown:you know, be dominated as well, whether we're focusing on
Unknown:something negative within our lives. And so we fail to see the
Unknown:joy, we fail to find the the outlook that we want in life,
Unknown:and therefore, our entire world kind of looks a bit dark, where
Unknown:we change our thought to something more directed, while
Unknown:we're doing a line dance, let's say we're changing the heart
Unknown:rate, respiration and body temperature while refocusing the
Unknown:mind away from the problem. And those two things together.
Unknown:simplistically, are the way that we can allow that neural pathway
Unknown:to collapse. And it kind of shows up like a blank mind in
Unknown:your page, you logically reasonably intellectually know
Unknown:that this event existed, but it's no longer polarized with
Unknown:that negative emotion. So then you're able to move forward in
Unknown:life and find, you know, the resources that you learned
Unknown:through a difficult situation and access.
Anita Adams:There's so much there to unpack, and I want to
Anita Adams:dive into it. First, though, I think this is a nice little
Anita Adams:transition to share your personal story that led you to
Anita Adams:pursue the path is this profession that you are now on?
Anita Adams:Do you want to can you share that with us?
Unknown:Sure, absolutely. When I was 27, I was on a plane
Unknown:crash. The small plane that I was a passenger passenger in
Unknown:crash and flipped in water, and it was immediately submerged in
Unknown:water and I began to drown. So that back a little bit, imagine
Unknown:a perfect sunny day when everything's okay. And then life
Unknown:happens. The pilot had said he wanted to go and do a skip and
Unknown:go off the river below. And that meant that he was going to go
Unknown:down just like skipping a stone off the surface of some
Unknown:flatwater he was at a skip the pontoons across the river, and
Unknown:then scooped back up into the sky. But human failure he had
Unknown:left the landing gear down. So when that plane made contact
Unknown:with the water, it slipped from nose to tail. And it flipped
Unknown:really, really fast. Though our brain functions at a super high
Unknown:level faster than a rocket going to the moon, my my brain
Unknown:registered that the pilot was going under, he was sitting in
Unknown:front of me, and I went to take a breath of air, and my mouth
Unknown:filled with water. Oh, when I was upside down, the plane was
Unknown:full of water. My mouth was full of water, it was dark, it was
Unknown:black, it was confusing, gravity was pulling me in the wrong
Unknown:direction, there were things in the cabin that were bouncing
Unknown:against my body, the plane was spinning in the current. And
Unknown:traveling down the river at it at you know, a pretty good
Unknown:speed, it was all very confusing. And the first thing I
Unknown:tried to do was push. What do you try to push with my feet on
Unknown:the floor of the cabin, I tried to just like push my body out,
Unknown:you can imagine just, you know, pushing against something and
Unknown:then noticing that you're, you're so constrained because
Unknown:you've got a three point harness that is just holding you firm to
Unknown:that seat. And I had because it was an amphibious small plane,
Unknown:we were also wearing life jackets. So all of those cords,
Unknown:in the commotion of the flip, and the water had wrapped around
Unknown:the three point harness and everything was tangled, and I
Unknown:couldn't find the release. You know, you always hear the
Unknown:airline stewardess saying, take the buckle. But at that time,
Unknown:you have to find it right. So you can, you know, look around
Unknown:your waist and try to find that bulk of where that that class
Unknown:was, and I just couldn't find it. And within a short time, you
Unknown:can imagine how long you can hold your breath, I began to
Unknown:feel that tingling sensation in my arms and in my legs. And I'd
Unknown:been a lifeguard for many years. So I knew that sensation meant
Unknown:that I was running short on oxygen, and that I needed to get
Unknown:out of the plane. But what was going through my brain was I
Unknown:can't get out, I can't get out, I can't find the three point
Unknown:harness. And at that point, my, my body actually, if you want to
Unknown:philosophically say separated from itself, because I remember
Unknown:watching a picture of myself upside down and I had really
Unknown:long hair at the time, you know what it looks like when it's
Unknown:floating in the water, right. And it's, so I have this image
Unknown:of myself upside down in this plane with this hair just moving
Unknown:through the the current. And it was rather peaceful where I was,
Unknown:I wasn't concerned with this person's welfare, I was more
Unknown:just an observer at this point.
Unknown:And at this point, my eye, my mind began to flash my life in
Unknown:front of my eyes. So you know, I'd heard at some point before
Unknown:this, or maybe after this, that it doesn't happen. And I'm, I've
Unknown:talked to many people who've had near death experiences, and it
Unknown:happened to all of them. So I'm not sure when or why the
Unknown:difference is. But I had this amazing movie from my life from
Unknown:the moment of my birth all the way through my life. And and
Unknown:then it gave me a preview of what would happen if I were to
Unknown:die. And that was a gift of watching the RCMP officers or
Unknown:local police force, walking through my parents front yard
Unknown:and up their big red brick steps and knocking on that old door.
Unknown:And I could see my parents answering the door. I didn't
Unknown:hear their conversation. But I watched the conversation unfold
Unknown:through their expressions changing. And that was first
Unknown:confusion, to acknowledgement. And then it turned into full
Unknown:blown blown grief. And my mum collapsed to the floor, She
Unknown:covered her hands over her head. And she screamed, and she
Unknown:screamed really loud inside my head just in this vision that I
Unknown:was having. But that was enough. It shocked me it snapped me back
Unknown:into my reality that I was upside down drowning in a plane
Unknown:that crashed and overturned in water. And I made a choice right
Unknown:then in there that this was not going to be my story. I was
Unknown:getting out of the plane. And I was getting out of it now. And
Unknown:these are very key neuroscience answers which we can go into
Unknown:later. But what happened was a result of me making a very
Unknown:specific choice in a very specific way is all of those
Unknown:images that had flash forward in time began to flash in reverse,
Unknown:and they went back through. I don't know millions who have How
Unknown:many billions of moments in life and then the image is stopped.
Unknown:And in front of my mind's eye was a movie that I'd watched,
Unknown:didn't know how long ago didn't know the names of the actors the
Unknown:what the name of the movie was. But what was showing me in front
Unknown:of my mind's eye gave me all the information I needed to escape a
Unknown:plane that had crashed and overturned in water. This scene
Unknown:I know, was a commander training young pilots how to escape a
Unknown:plane that crashed and overturned in water. And I
Unknown:followed the script, and I escaped the plane. I always say,
Unknown:even in life's most dire circumstances, out of breath,
Unknown:out of time, we still have the ability to make choices that can
Unknown:change the trajectory of our life. So that's my story. It
Unknown:took me a long time, I felt like an Olympian, when I breached the
Unknown:surface of the water, was that out of breath, wow, that I did
Unknown:climb onto that pontoon, and I threw my arms to the sky and let
Unknown:out a huge whoop, into the blackness of the sky, because
Unknown:there was nobody on that river. wasn't going to be a 911 call.
Unknown:So that that is a
Anita Adams:remarkable story. Adele, thank you so much for
Anita Adams:sharing it. And I can imagine how frightening and traumatic it
Anita Adams:would be, but it sounds like it sounds like you, you kicked into
Anita Adams:gear like you kicked into action. And, yes, it's just
Anita Adams:remarkable. This, you know, being able to see this vision in
Anita Adams:your mind and making this very audible choice. How did you say
Anita Adams:it I made a choice, this is not going to be my story. I love
Anita Adams:those words. And we can use those. Those very words. So many
Anita Adams:of us right now, right?
Unknown:Yes, absolutely. We're making choices all day long,
Unknown:like that 1000s of choices. You know, in a week, there's better
Unknown:time, there's the whole thing, whole science on choice. But,
Unknown:you know, when we when we have these significant events in our
Unknown:life, and you had said Fear Fear wasn't part of my story wasn't
Unknown:part of my picture as very comfortable in the water. And I
Unknown:think that was part of many of the, you know, round pegs that
Unknown:went into the round holes to successfully you know, the
Unknown:outcome, the outcome of my survival. And we often are
Unknown:stopped by fear. And when we think of the detriment that fear
Unknown:does for us, sure, keep your head your hand away from a hot
Unknown:stove. And yet, when we're going to pursue our dreams, or to make
Unknown:a choice that really matters in life, it's not always helpful.
Unknown:Unless we're talking something that is, you know, walking down
Unknown:a back alley in Afghanistan, then of course, fear is a
Unknown:powerful, and, you know, helpful tool, but not every day in the
Unknown:lives that we lead. Yeah,
Anita Adams:absolutely. You know, it's interesting. I shared
Anita Adams:this in another episode recently about realizing my own self
Anita Adams:limiting beliefs on on stuff around fear. So as you know, I
Anita Adams:did this kayaking trip this summer. And just a year ago, I
Anita Adams:had said that I would never ever, ever, ever, ever get into
Anita Adams:a single seat, kayak and paddle on my own on it on on a trip.
Anita Adams:And then it was on this trip that I realized, here I am, you
Anita Adams:know, we'd already gone 300 kilometers by this time, you
Anita Adams:know, it was like day 20 something in this trip. And I'm
Anita Adams:like, wow, you know, I'm doing this. And what was what was
Anita Adams:really interesting for me, actually, in the moment, not not
Anita Adams:so much that wow, I'm here I am. Although that was, that was
Anita Adams:really incredible. It was more than realization that, wow, I
Anita Adams:told myself a year ago that I would I could never do this. I
Anita Adams:didn't I just didn't even I didn't believe I could do
Anita Adams:something like like this. And I started to wonder, well, what
Anita Adams:else am I telling myself I'm not capable of. And I think
Anita Adams:sometimes we say things and we act in a way and we don't even
Anita Adams:realize the language we're using. That is putting the lid
Anita Adams:on our potential. And I feel like that's what I'm hearing you
Anita Adams:talk about, am I is that what you do is to help lift the lid
Anita Adams:off and identify the words and the language and the beliefs so
Anita Adams:we can see and feel and believe that potential in ourselves
Unknown:in a lot of ways, yes. And then take it a step further
Unknown:and actually changed the programming. Because we have
Unknown:these mechanisms, mechanisms inside our head that we've used
Unknown:over and over and over and you know, people always say, Well,
Unknown:what happens if it doesn't work? Well, what happens with debts?
Unknown:You know, what happens if, if it goes like to the moon? So we've
Unknown:stopped ourselves from the fear. No, maybe we have a nine to five
Unknown:job that pays the bills. And you know, the paycheck comes into
Unknown:the bank account every two weeks. And it does something,
Unknown:but maybe it doesn't fill our heart or for whatever reason,
Unknown:you want to go out on your own or make a change. And they like,
Unknown:but what happens if it doesn't work? Nicely? Well, what happens
Unknown:if it does? Even even better? What if it's wilder than your
Unknown:you could ever imagine? And go there and see how that changes
Unknown:the story. But it is in the words, you know, earlier today,
Unknown:so I think I'll try to do something, just say just remove
Unknown:the word try. Repeat that same sentence without the word try.
Unknown:And it's powerful.
Anita Adams:So interesting, it's awareness, isn't it, you
Anita Adams:have to be aware of that, that language, constantly being aware
Anita Adams:of it, I think you know, that I am, I teach people how to tap
Anita Adams:into their inner wisdom so they can find that clarity about who
Anita Adams:they choose to be, and the life they choose to have. And I
Anita Adams:really believe when you do that, successfully, you unleash a
Anita Adams:great joy, a big obstacle that I believe many people face in
Anita Adams:creating that life and creating that person that they want to
Anita Adams:believe or be is that their belief, their belief in
Anita Adams:themselves, that they can be that piece, that person and they
Anita Adams:can have that life that they really want.
Unknown:And so how do you really get
Anita Adams:past those self limiting beliefs? How do you do
Anita Adams:that, that reprogramming to that changes some of those beliefs
Anita Adams:that are so deeply ingrained? You know, like, I, I had the
Anita Adams:belief for a very, very, very long time that I wasn't smart
Anita Adams:enough. And you know, like, I can point fingers, you know, my
Anita Adams:father was very, he would, he would talk down to me and tell
Anita Adams:me I was stupid, and just all sorts of stuff. And, and he and
Anita Adams:I share that not to, you know, evoke any pity because I don't I
Anita Adams:believe I am who I am today largely because of my parents
Anita Adams:and I love who I am. I am today. However, it did take a long time
Anita Adams:for me to come around believe that. Yeah, you know, I need to
Anita Adams:you are smart, you're really smart. And you've got a lot to
Anita Adams:offer. I wish I could have come to that conclusion a lot sooner.
Anita Adams:So and I know there are other people out there like me that
Anita Adams:don't believe that they are, are enough whether there's they feel
Anita Adams:like they're not smart enough, talented enough, capable enough
Anita Adams:good looking enough, whatever enough. There's this lack of
Anita Adams:belief in their enoughness which I feel like is almost known
Anita Adams:epidemic in itself. How do we get past that? How can you have
Anita Adams:any tips that we you can share with us that will help?
Unknown:Share? Yeah, so our brains develop similar to we we
Unknown:develop physically, right? It's easy to see, we develop
Unknown:physically, we, you know, we go from an infant to a little child
Unknown:that begins to sit up and then stands and then takes that first
Unknown:step. So we watch the development, you know, the child
Unknown:says their first word, and then they they tell a lie. And we're
Unknown:like, Yay, they told a lie. It's a psychological development. But
Unknown:throughout this, if we look at someone like Maslow's hierarchy
Unknown:of needs, safety, survival securities in the first two
Unknown:years love and belonging, meaning that we live within a
Unknown:tribe that usually looks like us, and talks like us. And
Unknown:that's, that's what we know. And then as teenagers, we start to
Unknown:move out into the world. And this is when our self esteem and
Unknown:self worth begin to develop. We expand our horizons, we maybe
Unknown:look at different religions, we maybe have a friend that doesn't
Unknown:have the same skin tone as us. And this allows us to expand our
Unknown:understanding. But within this time, our brain is still
Unknown:underdeveloped adult at the age about 25 has a fully functioning
Unknown:neocortex. And before that, it's in the developmental stage. So I
Unknown:always use my younger self here. This is Charlotte.
Anita Adams:A little a little doll that's maybe five inches
Anita Adams:tall with with orange hair.
Unknown:Yeah, it's a I've had her since I was probably two.
Unknown:But Charlotte isn't less intelligent. She's just younger.
Unknown:So she hasn't got the life experience to process events
Unknown:that are happening in her life. And understanding. We talked you
Unknown:talked about a metaphysical word called ontology Who am I going
Unknown:to be as I move through life? And so there's a few moving
Unknown:parts here that I'd like to pull together and the obstacle of
Unknown:course, so when Charlotte is You know, coming up through through
Unknown:life, and somebody says something mean to her that makes
Unknown:her feel bad about herself, that becomes a neural pathway within
Unknown:her brain, and neural, like neural pathways and memories, if
Unknown:we want to call them that are filed according to emotion. So
Unknown:imagine going into a library inside your mind. And the first
Unknown:row is all fear, I was afraid I got, you know, I didn't know how
Unknown:to do this, this frightened me. The next one is anxiety. The
Unknown:next one is, whatever it might be, and where is love and where
Unknown:is a sense of well being and security and all of that, it
Unknown:could be farther down the line. So the emotions that are that
Unknown:are activated more often are going to be front and center in
Unknown:this person psychology. So when we say Who do I want to be?
Unknown:Well, all of those memories are in there, defined by someone
Unknown:else who might have said something cruel. So if it's
Unknown:defined by I'm not good enough? Or, you know, I don't know
Unknown:enough, I'm not smart, I'm not pretty whatever we want to say,
Unknown:then those emotions are there. And that's what's running these
Unknown:programs. And it's almost Well, how would I explain? You know, I
Unknown:always say, if you haven't used it in a while, it's like a cow
Unknown:trail, you use it more often it becomes, you know, a dirt road.
Unknown:And if you use it all the time, it's a four lane highway with
Unknown:lights, you can go really, really fast, the brain will tell
Unknown:you will identify which brain you're in, by how fast the
Unknown:answer came. So became really fast, that subconscious, and
Unknown:you're probably reacting versus the thoughtful, you know,
Unknown:literary, reasonable, rational brain, latest, greatest
Unknown:invention of mankind, but it's also the slow thinker is not in
Unknown:play. And this is where we learn things. So there's different
Unknown:ways for us to overcome things like a negative emotion. First
Unknown:thing is awareness. Awareness is the gate way to neuroplasticity.
Unknown:So once we have an awareness that there's something here that
Unknown:I want to attend to, we have 42 days of that sitting in our
Unknown:neocortex, where we can reason and rationalize with it. And
Unknown:this is a little bit of the slow way of doing things. What I
Unknown:would do is I say, Oh, I have a problem. Let's take care of it,
Unknown:let's take care of it with the latest technology. But getting
Unknown:back to here's, you know, someone who has a certain belief
Unknown:in themselves that they don't have the knowledge or the
Unknown:capacity to do something. And then you have the ability to be
Unknown:who you want to be through choice through your education
Unknown:for what you focus on, where your heart resides, where your
Unknown:values lie. And so that that word is ontology. So who am I
Unknown:going to be as I move through life, and when we choose
Unknown:something greater than ourselves, then that in itself
Unknown:has its own energy. So for example, if you look at
Unknown:kinesiology, you know, if you follow David R Hawkins power
Unknown:versus force, IPI, and he's got tons of books, we know that
Unknown:integrity is is the tipping point in human behavior, where
Unknown:it becomes positive, and you start generating goodwill coming
Unknown:your way, where the lower emotions like anger, resentment,
Unknown:revenge, all of those, you know, apathy, grief, can, can be in
Unknown:the negative side. And then you're also attracting that
Unknown:which, you know, you don't want to stay there for long. So as we
Unknown:move our and ontological beingness forward, I always say
Unknown:go Levin above just five 540 Then you're getting into some
Unknown:significant well being, and you're able to generate more.
Unknown:And when we talk about that we often talk about it being
Unknown:externalized. Like I'm going to talk to them with love. I'm
Unknown:going to be loving to them, but what about me?
Unknown:Right? If you have if you've flown probably not in the last
Unknown:two years, but if you've flown it's like put your own mask on
Unknown:first. Right? So as women we are givers and nurturers and we
Unknown:often given give until it hurts and then you see the collapse
Unknown:state of someone who has been overtaxed and just feels a bit
Unknown:rundown. So, you know, there is some old science and I forget
Unknown:who actually quoted this one, which is we set the bar. We set
Unknown:the bar how we treat ourselves is how other people will think
Unknown:treat us. So if we feel like a doormat self responsibility,
Unknown:right? When's the last time that you cared for yourself, when's
Unknown:the last time that you loved yourself. And when we are in
Unknown:that state, then we do see obstacles rise up. But I always
Unknown:say if you know where you're going doesn't matter what's
Unknown:between point A and point B, if you have your eye on the focus,
Unknown:if you know you're going to paddle to desolation, sound,
Unknown:doesn't matter how big the waves are in between, you are on a
Unknown:mission. And that is your goal. And so this is where the mind
Unknown:science and just understanding the power in how we think can
Unknown:change the outcome. Because if you thought about, you know,
Unknown:going through Agyemang, mon channel by say it right, big
Unknown:waves, big obstacles, right? And you could say, Okay, let me
Unknown:think about this for a minute. But did it stop me? Know, the
Unknown:obstacle is the way Ryan Holiday great book. That book, Ryan
Unknown:Holiday, it's called the app the obstacle is the way Oh, okay.
Unknown:Yeah, so these are little secrets within our mind, you
Unknown:know, we, we put up these roadblocks for our own greatness
Unknown:for our goals that we have for us. And then we tell ourselves
Unknown:10 ways why it cannot be done. When really the obstacle is the
Unknown:way and some of that is mindset. And some of that is, you know,
Unknown:resilience. And, you know, maybe maybe it's reaching out and
Unknown:having some help, there's lots of ways to clear those
Unknown:obstacles.
Anita Adams:So you said, um, go love and above. So you're
Anita Adams:talking about, again, making an active choice to choose love
Anita Adams:over fear and come from operating from that place is
Anita Adams:that the my understand is right understanding of what you're
Anita Adams:saying?
Unknown:Yeah, if you if you consider, you know, our
Unknown:physiology. simplistically, you could say love is on one side
Unknown:and fears on the other. Well, I
Anita Adams:100% only have those two choices. Really? Yeah.
Unknown:vibrates at a very high level. Yeah, like, there's a lot
Unknown:that comes inside. So if you've done your core values, which not
Unknown:too many people on the planet have, I think it's like two or
Unknown:3%. But you see that, you know, integrity sits inside a love
Unknown:family sits inside a love, there's lots of things. Well,
Unknown:for individuals, it depends what your core values are for, for
Unknown:me, all the things that I love, sit inside of love. So I can
Unknown:operate, or be conscious of, of maintaining my life giving and
Unknown:receiving through love. And that way, I know that I'm taken care
Unknown:of. And that whoever I'm working with has, you know, got that
Unknown:integrity that I'm going to treat them like somebody that I
Unknown:love. offer my services in that way. So this is the idea of who
Unknown:am I going to be who am I going to be as I move through life,
Anita Adams:I'm really interested in that statistic
Anita Adams:that 2% of the population really know and have taken time to
Anita Adams:identify their core values. And that sounds like that's key to
Anita Adams:me and I and I know from my own personal experiences and how
Anita Adams:wrong I've gone and how damaging it my choices were not only to
Anita Adams:me, but to my family, because I wasn't clear about my core
Anita Adams:values. And when you do get clear on that, you can make
Anita Adams:choices from that, that highest self right from that place of
Unknown:Well, the thing about core values as you feel it,
Unknown:though, you know, when you get that feeling inside your gut
Unknown:where this just, you know, you can call it intuition, you can
Unknown:call it lots of different names, core values is one of those
Unknown:things that is that true north, when you're on target, when
Unknown:you're living within your values, you feel calm about it.
Unknown:There's nothing that makes you feel like icky. But when you're
Unknown:outside of your core values, you kind of know, geez, I wish I
Unknown:wouldn't have done that. That's not me. Right? It's like you can
Unknown:describe it as your personality in a lot of cases.
Anita Adams:Yeah. And, and going back to what you were
Anita Adams:saying earlier about awareness again, you know, it's, we can be
Anita Adams:operating on a certain level and aware really unaware of what our
Anita Adams:core values are unless we take the time to know ourselves to
Anita Adams:understand ourselves.
Unknown:Right? I would say it's, it's a very integral part
Unknown:of self awareness. Understand what's going on inside Mind. I
Unknown:mean, there's so many there's, you know, lots to understand
Unknown:inside the mind the meta models, the meta programs. But there's
Unknown:certain words to like if we get into the AI AMS. That's a
Unknown:definite, you know, I claim it. I am and then we say something,
Unknown:well, if what you're saying is not great, well, the I ams are
Unknown:the belief systems, I am such and such, okay? And this is
Unknown:where labels become detrimental, they could. This is where people
Unknown:can have issues with identity when they retire. As I am an
Unknown:executive, I am a police officer, I am dedicated up. So
Unknown:when we claim it with the I ams we want to make sure that we're
Unknown:claiming it for the right reasons. You know, when we self
Unknown:identify, then we own it, and people do it with diseases too.
Unknown:You're not that disease? How do you what do you mean? Well, I'm
Unknown:a cancer survivor. Ah, I'm a widow. I'm a whatever, right? It
Unknown:comes with some built in stuff, right? Rather than just saying,
Unknown:I am Adele.
Unknown:This is who I am. At the core of my being I am nothing, I am not
Unknown:a label.
Anita Adams:And then the the infinite possibilities that can
Anita Adams:come from that, you know, I am a Nita and what is possible is so
Anita Adams:much.
Unknown:Yeah, we stand in our own power, right, there's just
Unknown:some really key elements to being okay with that. And I
Unknown:always say, you know, coming from a homeopath background, so
Unknown:this gave me insight into case taking and, and reading the
Unknown:threads within the language. You know, people are busy in their
Unknown:life, but you've probably had a circumstance where you're in an
Unknown:office or your wherever and you say, Hey, how are you and they
Unknown:say, Hey, I'm fine. And I'm telling you, nobody's fine. It's
Unknown:very, very rare that people are fine, they're fine in moments.
Unknown:But for the most part, they've got stuff happening in their
Unknown:lives, that can be painful. And yet, we don't really have time
Unknown:to hear that. And so people say I'm fine, or they hide it. But
Unknown:there's a lot of people that suffer from low self esteem and
Unknown:so low self worth, and it is limiting how much joy and
Unknown:satisfaction and potentially their dreams in their life. So
Unknown:the I'm fine needs to be opened up. And then we talk about
Unknown:mental awareness. You know, once a once a week, once a year kind
Unknown:of thing, one week, a year, and people become a little bit more
Unknown:aware that things are happening internally. But as human beings,
Unknown:I think we're vulnerable to the life experience, and why not
Unknown:change the story? Why if you're not happy, why continue? And I'm
Unknown:not saying change your life, you know, wherever you go, there you
Unknown:are. So you know, we get the midnight midlife crisis, which
Unknown:is something that we talk about it we we hear people reach a
Unknown:certain age and they buy a sports car, change professions,
Unknown:change the location and where they live, buy a bigger house.
Unknown:And wherever you go, there you are, you're still back in your
Unknown:own dissatisfaction. Rather, consider that your brain is
Unknown:sending you signals that it's time for you to to evolve.
Unknown:Evolution of your mind.
Anita Adams:Yeah, let's break that down a little bit. How
Anita Adams:okay, what what do you listen to that tells you that guide you
Anita Adams:like I talked about inner wisdom and I'm listening to my heart?
Anita Adams:What? What is that for you? Is it the same? Is it inner wisdom?
Anita Adams:Is it something else?
Unknown:Well, I, I listened to Charlotte for as few little
Unknown:little as I can. So being aware that Charlotte is not me, this
Unknown:could be my younger self. This could be somebody that gave you
Unknown:know, gave me some bad information when I was younger
Unknown:and didn't know how to process it. So the voice inside the head
Unknown:is not you know, learning how to hash that voice.
Anita Adams:Right? The inner critic or the
Unknown:inner critic. Sure, call it like the nasty DJ or
Unknown:something like that, you know, that's running these records
Unknown:repeatedly, right? And they're really worn out and it's just
Unknown:they have to go, but awareness that the voice is coming up. And
Unknown:a really good way to quiet the voice is to acknowledge it.
Unknown:That's why she has a name. So then I externalize the voice.
Unknown:The voice is not mine. It's Charlotte's voice. And Charlotte
Unknown:is afraid of something and I'm just gonna say Charlotte. I've
Unknown:got this Thanks. Thanks for sending me a warning. But it's
Unknown:okay.
Anita Adams:Right? Because sure, that really just wants to
Anita Adams:protect you. She's not coming at it from any evil intent. It's
Anita Adams:simply she wants to protect you, she's afraid.
Unknown:And if it's a self limiting belief, then it can be
Unknown:more destructive. Right? Yeah. And then just a simple, you
Unknown:know, the childish voice inside your head that just wants to
Unknown:make sure I mean, there are different parts of us that are
Unknown:being fired up, like with fear, you know, it's very primal,
Unknown:primal energy within our systems. But there was something
Unknown:else that you asked me about, and I'm so
Anita Adams:we're, we're identifying the process of
Anita Adams:tapping into that the inner wisdom. So we first we identify
Anita Adams:the the inner critic, or the nasty DJ. And, and just call,
Anita Adams:not call them out. But say, I hear you, I see you, I
Anita Adams:understand your fear. And it's okay, I've got this. So that's
Anita Adams:the first step, Greg. And then from there, where do you go?
Unknown:Well, I go to the words that I used, I break them down.
Unknown:So if it's a negative word, I flip it to a positive word. If
Unknown:it's not, if it's a force word versus a Power Word, then I flip
Unknown:it to a Power Word. There's certain words that don't work
Unknown:within the brain, the don'ts, the cants, the tries, your brain
Unknown:doesn't know what to do with it, because it doesn't have a
Unknown:direction.
Anita Adams:Hmm, don't want don't can't, and try. Yeah, I'll
Anita Adams:be late. Yeah,
Unknown:I can't rain lot. This loses the if you say Do not be
Unknown:late. It's different. But the don't they don't your brain
Unknown:doesn't quite know what to do with that. I don't know why. But
Unknown:it said that the brain drops the apostrophe T and it becomes do
Unknown:that. So for example, if you're talking about communication with
Unknown:teens, and you say don't be late, well, their brain just
Unknown:dropped that and made it a doo,
Anita Adams:doo be late. That explains so much. Yeah.
Unknown:So you can turn things around and say, Well, I don't
Unknown:have to tell you what time to be home, because you already know.
Unknown:And then it becomes self assessments.
Anita Adams:I was told that no is a word we should keep out of
Anita Adams:our vocabulary as well. Because it's a negative? Could we should
Anita Adams:we turn that into you already understand, it feels a little
Anita Adams:bit forced doing that, truthfully. But
Unknown:there's certain phrases that drop resistance of the
Unknown:neocortex. So people want their own autonomy, this brain here is
Unknown:always you know, wanting a better way of doing things,
Unknown:finding a better way of doing things. So it questions
Unknown:everything. There's certain phrases that drop resistance. So
Unknown:I would say, if you want to talk to your team, talk to their
Unknown:subconscious brain, don't go through the neocortex. The what
Unknown:one of the phrases you could say was, well, I don't really have
Unknown:to tell you that because you already know. So then the brain
Unknown:feels relaxed, because oh, I don't have to really listen to
Unknown:this because I already know it. But the subconscious brain is
Unknown:downloading every single thing that it's ever seen, smelled,
Unknown:tasted, heard or felt emotionally and kinesthetically.
Unknown:So the message is going in, regardless of what your if your
Unknown:brain is, your teens brain is being tuned out. The ears never
Unknown:sleep, and you know that as a mother. Everything's going in,
Unknown:yes. But this back to this awareness piece. Recognizing
Unknown:that the words that you use actually mean something inside
Unknown:the brain, like the I can't, if I would have said I can't get
Unknown:out of the plane, there is absolutely no way that my brain
Unknown:would have source the information that I needed.
Unknown:Because I told my brain that it couldn't be done, though I've
Unknown:shut off the wisdom to that brain, right? Where if I asked
Unknown:specifically so in the now a concise, I would say talk to
Unknown:your subconscious brain, like you would talk to a two year old
Unknown:and then you'll get the magic. So I'm getting out of the plane
Unknown:and getting out of it now. So present tense, very direct and
Unknown:concise. So this is where the clarity of what you were asking
Unknown:for. Really Matters. Yeah, we hear these old sayings Be
Unknown:careful what you're asking for. Yeah. Because he might just get
Unknown:it
Anita Adams:might just get it got to be thoughtful. So this
Anita Adams:makes me think about some I've been sharing some posts on my
Anita Adams:social media about manifesting and yeah, to the power of asking
Anita Adams:our putting it out to the universe with clarity. And
Anita Adams:again, making it a choice not a want. You know, like I talked
Anita Adams:about wanting If we do, we need to get clear about what it is
Anita Adams:that we want. And then once we're clear, and we and we look
Anita Adams:inward, and we're asking and listening and getting clear
Anita Adams:about what it is that we want, then we need to choose it. We
Anita Adams:need to use our language and be really thoughtful about the
Anita Adams:language we're using to choose what we want to create in our
Anita Adams:lives. I feel like I'm hearing the same thing from you.
Unknown:Yeah, so manifesting is more than an affirmation, like
Unknown:true manifesting, is that we are attracting like a magnet,
Unknown:something towards us. So we have to be in alignment with what we
Unknown:are. And they always say, Well, think about it, like you've
Unknown:already got it. Okay, so that's one thing, but you have to
Unknown:believe it. Yeah, they have to believe that it's possible. It
Unknown:needs to be current in the current. So you you talk in,
Unknown:it's happening now. Not that it's happening at some time in
Unknown:the future, because that's when it'll happen them. So we don't
Unknown:want it like they always say, when you're searching for
Unknown:happiness, well, when do you want to have it today, or next
Unknown:week, or, you know, when I finish when the kids are grown,
Unknown:then I will, when I finish university, then when I do this,
Unknown:then when I get on vacation, then, you know, we put off
Unknown:things until the future. So the clarity of what we want needs to
Unknown:be aligned with who we are. So our ontology, the conciseness,
Unknown:of how we ask it needs to be present day, in the present. Now
Unknown:we need to have the belief system that it exists for us
Unknown:already. And these are, these are really key. So I'll give you
Unknown:an example. Someone is on a diet, till the end of time there
Unknown:will be diets. People want to lose weight, we'll find out why
Unknown:they want to lose weight. For starters, the neocortex is
Unknown:great, has a lot of willpower until you're Hungry, Angry,
Unknown:Lonely or Tired. So how often does that happen in the day, and
Unknown:then willpower fails, and your subconscious brain comes into
Unknown:effect? And what happens if your subconscious brain has a belief
Unknown:system that you're fat? I'm going to say that you're going
Unknown:to eat the Twinkie. Hmm, how hard you want to lose weight, if
Unknown:you believe in your heart of hearts, that you're fat. And the
Unknown:diet at some point will most likely fail. So these are the
Unknown:key elements to you know, being aligned with what you want. If
Unknown:you think it's possible, then you have to also believe that
Unknown:it's possible. And you have to believe that it's possible now.
Unknown:Yeah, not someday. Yeah. And where it shows up, it shows up
Unknown:in the language. So for example, someone comes into an office
Unknown:building, and their friend says, You look great today. And she
Unknown:said, I changed three times I thought I was fat. Right? Bingo,
Unknown:there's the belief system coming through. So this person, no
Unknown:matter how hard they try, the primary tries are wishy washy,
Unknown:going to be extremely difficult for this person to follow
Unknown:through on a diet. So it begins in the mind the story, nothing
Unknown:would would need to be adapted inside the mind, to allow that
Unknown:belief system to be put to rest with a more empowering desire.
Unknown:And then, you know, you can go on and manifest that. So you
Unknown:know, go back and do some deep thinking on what you're going to
Unknown:manifest and see where your roadblocks inside the mind
Unknown:exist. And if there's any questioning, like, Oh, that's
Unknown:too big. Oh, that's why me, you know, then there's some work
Unknown:that has to be done. So that that manifestation can happen.
Anita Adams:And is is the work just asking yourself, Why? Why
Anita Adams:do I feel this way? And why do I want this? Why? Where does this
Anita Adams:belief come from? Is that part of the process and in
Anita Adams:understanding
Unknown:as a coach, you know, we've you've probably heard the
Unknown:seven layers of why. So the first it
Anita Adams:refresh my memory?
Unknown:Yeah. So yeah, I'll use the same example because it's an
Unknown:easy target. You want to lose weight. Why? Because it'll make
Unknown:me feel better. That makes you feel better. In what way? Why is
Unknown:that important to you? Well, if I feel better, maybe I might
Unknown:feel happier inside. Oh, and if you feel happier inside, what's
Unknown:that going to do for you? Well, if I'm happier inside maybe I'll
Unknown:have a better relationship with my partner. And if you have a
Unknown:better relationship with your partner, what will that do for
Unknown:you? Well, maybe I won't feel so lonely. Not about losing weight.
Anita Adams:It's about not wanting to when we,
Unknown:when we deal with, when we work on the surface, you
Unknown:know, that's, we're sweeping, washing the floor without water.
Unknown:You imagine a big pail of water, and you're gonna throw it on the
Unknown:floor, and think your floor is clean. That's the results of
Unknown:working on the surface. Right, we might want to get get into
Unknown:the dirtiness at least have a mop or have a scrub and put a
Unknown:little bit of soap in the water. And, and get in there. And it
Unknown:doesn't have to be hard. So you know, the way I'm saying it, you
Unknown:know, using that example, might seem that oh, this is going to
Unknown:be painful. And it really isn't. What it is, is it's joyful. I
Unknown:just did a little exercise with one of my new clients yesterday.
Unknown:And it's one that I do quite easily because it only takes a
Unknown:few minutes. And I could do as long as nobody's driving, I'm
Unknown:moving the vehicle because No, we changed we alter our
Unknown:Brainwave. Yeah. But you know, if you want to remove a food
Unknown:group from your diet, you can do it quite easily. And it doesn't
Unknown:have to be hard. And then I, you know, I asked them to do a
Unknown:follow up. And this, this woman was at an event and somebody
Unknown:offered her a doughnut, which was her food group that she
Unknown:asked to remove. And she was like, it was so interesting. She
Unknown:said, I just I never even thought about taking it at all.
Unknown:I just had to tell you, it was just like, it wasn't even in my
Unknown:mind that I would ever take a doughnut. And this is the
Unknown:simplicity of reworking those neural pathways. We just change
Unknown:it so the brain makes a different choice.
Anita Adams:Can you walk us through that little exercise
Anita Adams:that you did with your? Okay, sure.
Unknown:So I'll say the little disclaimer, never, never
Unknown:listened to these instructions or an NLP session or anything
Unknown:like that when you're driving, or operating a moving vehicle
Unknown:because we're actually changing the brainwave that we're in. So
Unknown:I would set set up a state of relaxation. So usually that can
Unknown:be done by drawing attention towards our breath. So we just
Unknown:noticed what it feels like to breathe and you can have your
Unknown:eyes opened or close your choice. And simply draw the air
Unknown:deep in through your nostrils. You just feel the volume of that
Unknown:move down your esophagus and into your chest. And then
Unknown:naturally your chest expands and relaxed. But if you were to
Unknown:watch that oxygen move in through your body, you would
Unknown:notice that it goes from your lungs, into your heart into your
Unknown:arteries, and flows down all of your extremities, your lower
Unknown:intestine. And from there it flows out into little
Unknown:capillaries that reach every cell of your body. Imagine this
Unknown:pulsing this natural energy that we receive and let go of 1000s
Unknown:of times a day. You imagine now as you pull the air in through
Unknown:your nose, it moves all the way down through your body through
Unknown:your throat, your chest cavity, reproductive organs, pelvis,
Unknown:vice, knees, ankles, feet. And this time, we're gonna allow it
Unknown:to flow out through the soles of our feet. It's watch that
Unknown:visual. As the air moves down your body, flowing out through
Unknown:your feet, the soles of your feet and then it just naturally
Unknown:rises back up again, passing up on the outside of your body and
Unknown:coming back in through your crown. And now watch us that air
Unknown:circulates becoming very bright and light. Knowing your body
Unknown:with this bright white light bringing in a sense of calm and
Unknown:peace as it expands outward, through every cell of your body,
Unknown:through your skin and outward. Like a protective layer. You and
Unknown:the outside world. Now I'd like you to imagine pulling your
Unknown:focus into your mind. Something a food item that's not serving
Unknown:you. Maybe if the piece of junk food, whatever it might be, you
Unknown:would like to remove it from your diet. And I'd like you to
Unknown:ask your conscious brain if it's willing to give up this item,
Unknown:and if it is simply nod.
Unknown:Great, thank you. And now we'd like to ask your subconscious
Unknown:brain knowing that nothing will be lost, this is for your
Unknown:highest good. Is it also willing to give up this food item?
Unknown:This is inside our mind, we can do whatever we want. So I'd like
Unknown:to take your right hand and reach inside your thoughts, and
Unknown:pull that food item out in habit in the palm of your right hand.
Unknown:So you can really see it, feel it, feel the texture, you can
Unknown:smell the odor. Maybe it's crunchy, maybe it's soft, like a
Unknown:marshmallow. Maybe it's hard and crusty? Because it leaves a
Unknown:residue on your fingers as you hold it. How big is it? Could
Unknown:you take your index finger and draw the perimeter? Give it
Unknown:three dimensional? Or is it flat? Is it sugary? Or is it
Unknown:sour? Is it crunchy? Or is it soft? If you were to put it up
Unknown:to your nose, what did it smell? Like? If you were to take your
Unknown:time and just run your tongue over it, what does it taste?
Unknown:Like? Maybe your taste buds are engaging? What does it do inside
Unknown:your body with your emotions? Does it create happiness? What
Unknown:is that? Anxiety? Guilt? know everything about this food item?
Unknown:The weight of it the texture, the odor of light move through
Unknown:it? Does it reflect or is a dance wallet. And when you have
Unknown:it fully in your mind, simply nod your head I'd like you to
Unknown:imagine a tic tac toe board but a foot in front of your face.
Unknown:two horizontal lines with equal vertical lines crossing in the
Unknown:middle. Can you picture that now? Okay, I'd like you to put
Unknown:that food item into one of the squares of the tic tac toe
Unknown:board. Not when it's done. Great. Now reach inside your
Unknown:mind for something that you would never put in your mouth.
Unknown:Maybe it's those diapers that you changed as a young mother.
Unknown:Maybe it's the green slugs that you find in the garden on a wet
Unknown:moist day. Maybe it's something else, something that you would
Unknown:never put in your mouth. And I'd like you to find that item. Now.
Unknown:In with your other hand, I'd like you to reach inside your
Unknown:mind and pull it out and put it into the palm of your other
Unknown:hand. So now you have this item in your hand. You can see what
Unknown:it feels like whether it's sticky, moist, dry. It dents if
Unknown:you squeeze it like a marshmallow or is it tinny?
Unknown:Because it squish? Is it hot? Is it cold? What odor does it have?
Unknown:Hold it up to your nose right now and take a really good way.
Unknown:Would you imagine letting your tongue come out of your mouth?
Unknown:And licking at how long is it? How high is it? How wide three
Unknown:dimensional or flat? What color, what shape, what odor, what
Unknown:taste, if they're a sound that comes out of a vibration or a
Unknown:beat. They're an emotion that rises up no heavy when you know
Unknown:it, and it's very beingness and we know nod your head and then
Unknown:place it into a different square in the tic tac toe board.
Unknown:Possibly there's residue that's left on your hand that's now
Unknown:left on the tic tac toe board. You can wipe that off. And now
Unknown:you have the tic tac toe board that has two squares one with
Unknown:the food item that you'd like to remove and the other one that
Unknown:contains this item that you would never put in your mouth.
Unknown:With both hands, I'd like you to reach out and take this item
Unknown:that you would never put in your mouth and I'd like you to drag
Unknown:it pull it, push it slide it across the tic tac toe board
Unknown:onto this food item you like when it's there? I'd like you to
Unknown:need it like bread, like dough, like batter so that it's
Unknown:completely mixed together, forming its own shape. its own
Unknown:color, texture, odor, density everything About It has changed.
Unknown:We put it in a blender, so that it could never be separated. You
Unknown:could do that now. When it is its own shape, its own color,
Unknown:its own texture. Its own smell,
Unknown:taste. You can open your eyes. There you go. And now you can
Unknown:test yourself. If you were to think of that food item that you
Unknown:wanted, that you love to eat, what would you do now? There you
Unknown:go.
Anita Adams:Don't want it. Very powerful. Holy smokes. Yuck.
Unknown:Yeah. But it works. And it works for a long time. Like
Unknown:I, I did mine on the hard cheeses, probably about, I don't
Unknown:know, eight or nine years ago, and I have not put one of those
Unknown:things in my mouth. And when I first did it, it was so powerful
Unknown:that I had to actually turn away from the the munchie aisle in
Unknown:the grocery store, I couldn't even bear to walk down the
Unknown:aisle. And look at that in case my eyes came in contact with it.
Anita Adams:It was wow, that's very powerful. Yeah, well, I'm
Anita Adams:excited to see how this works for me. So I will I will report
Anita Adams:back.
Unknown:Yes, please do spend stuff.
Anita Adams:Very cool. I love this kind of conversation, you
Anita Adams:know, it just feels like so much is within our own power. And I
Anita Adams:get really, really excited about the possibilities, the
Anita Adams:possibilities of what we can create, and do with our lives.
Anita Adams:So thank you for giving us some, some giving me some insights
Anita Adams:into that. And I've got I've got one, one more question that I
Anita Adams:feel have touched on a little bit. And I feel it's so
Anita Adams:important, is the awareness piece. Because, you know, at the
Anita Adams:beginning, before we record it, I was sharing something with
Anita Adams:you. And I was and I use the word try and you flag that, you
Anita Adams:know, I want to try something. And I didn't even realize that
Anita Adams:that is I've heard it before I heard we got to take that word
Anita Adams:out of our, our vocabulary. And yet I I'm still I still
Anita Adams:obviously I used it and it just kind of surprised me. You know,
Anita Adams:so I want to make that shift, I really want to make the shift
Anita Adams:from trying to being
Unknown:just remove. They're really like, I'm going to make
Unknown:the shift. I'm
Anita Adams:another word that Yes. Okay, so two words I used
Anita Adams:really and trying.
Unknown:But if you put it into the present tense and re and
Unknown:reset it, just, it's happening now, then that's the key. If you
Unknown:say I'm going to do something, it gives your brain an excuse,
Unknown:give it away. So when we say that we're doing now it has to
Unknown:be in the current tense. And this is really important with
Unknown:manifestation but also for your brain to action. So your brain
Unknown:has immense power. I don't know the terabyte. Now, I used to
Unknown:think it was 1017 terabytes of information between each of our
Unknown:ears. Now it's scientifically proven to be I'm talking well
Unknown:above that in the hundreds. So we have no idea the immense
Unknown:information that is stored between our ears, if we want to
Unknown:access that, and have that as our own universal University,
Unknown:then how we action it is we put it into today that this is
Unknown:happening now. It's not happening next week, if you have
Unknown:a vision for your future, so this is the power of
Unknown:visualization, then we've put that information into our brain
Unknown:by having the visualization and the planning process. So that is
Unknown:that is a good thing to do. Because you've you've given the
Unknown:brain information today of what tomorrow looks like. Different
Unknown:from just saying I'm going to try something so when we when we
Unknown:are manifesting or we're moving towards a goal, it's okay to
Unknown:have that vision in the future as long as it's you know,
Unknown:timely, the put the date and put the time it's going to happen by
Unknown:November 12 at 10am Then we can plan for that, but unless the
Unknown:information has been downloaded into our brain, the the
Unknown:conciseness of that can be waylaid by the language that we
Unknown:use, whether it's self limiting beliefs, or things that were
Unknown:specific words that the brain let's let's just say They're
Unknown:slippery. The try, you're either going to do it or you're not
Unknown:going to do it. The can't, is really I don't want to. I'm not
Unknown:going to do that. You can say I can't. But either you will or
Unknown:you won't. Yeah.
Anita Adams:I think that my big takeaway with what you're saying
Anita Adams:is, use your language in the now like, even I can't is something
Anita Adams:it seems like that's future. But if you talk about right now,
Anita Adams:what is possible or what you desire, talk about it in the
Anita Adams:present tense. And that will help pull out those words that
Anita Adams:are holding you back. Mm hmm. That's true. My My go
Unknown:back to my plane crash if I would have said, I really
Unknown:want to get out of the plane soon. There isn't that like,
Unknown:write it define it work does it
Anita Adams:now, yeah, I choose this now. Yeah. I love that.
Anita Adams:Adele. Thank you so much. And that's that's a simple thing. We
Anita Adams:can all start doing now. We can do now.
Unknown:Yeah. And start doing, like, just do it.
Anita Adams:Okay, then.
Unknown:It's a very powerful thing. Just do it. Right.
Anita Adams:Yes. Do it. Yes. Yeah. Don't start doing it. Just
Anita Adams:do it. Yeah. So
Unknown:we're, instead of onset, we're putting it into the
Unknown:now it's happening. I am doing it right now.
Anita Adams:I am doing it right now. So interesting. This self
Anita Adams:awareness piece is a work in progress, isn't it? We have to
Anita Adams:constantly be checking in with the language we're using. And
Anita Adams:being aware of that. Thank you so much, Adele, if anybody
Anita Adams:listening wanted to connect with you, or reach out, find more
Anita Adams:about you and your services, how what would be the best way for
Anita Adams:them to do that?
Unknown:Yes, it's the most powerful word in the English
Unknown:language. Yes, I can. Yes, I will. So yes, at Life Coach
Unknown:adele.com.
Anita Adams:Awesome. All right. And of course, we'll put that
Anita Adams:information in the show notes. So I want to thank you from the
Anita Adams:bottom of my heart. I love this conversation. I think you are
Anita Adams:such an amazing human being. And I'm so grateful that I landed on
Anita Adams:your beach this summer on the way up the desolation sound. And
Anita Adams:I will include that little story in the show notes as well. So
Anita Adams:it's meant to be meant to be you and I reconnected so thank you
Anita Adams:to you, my friend. And I do feel like this is also the beginning
Anita Adams:of much more.
Unknown:So while I'm very passionate about it, and I'm
Unknown:passionate about seeing everybody thrive. So I really
Unknown:appreciate being on your podcast today.
Anita Adams:Awesome. Well, thank you so much. All right.
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