F.O.C.U.S – “F” Facing Your Fears | MAG0023

Hello, hello Hello beautiful people and welcome

back to Magnetize podcast. It's your girl Grace Oben. And today

I want to share with you on focus, the acronym focus, F or C

U S. Focus is an is an acronym that I came up with during one

of the very difficult, confusing and challenging phase of my

life. That really, really helped me navigate my way through the

storms, the speed bumps, the stop signs, the tire, some

debilitating tides, that were just holding me back and

blocking may be coming. And I'm really hoping that this is going

to help you. So if you are in a phase, if you are going through

some really challenges, if you are in that phase where you just

feel so stuck, you're not even sure what to do, how to move

forward, there just so much standing in your way, then this

is for you. So the first letter, which is F is facing your fears,

facing your fears. Fear is an emotion that can be both

powerful and paralyzing. But it's important to remember that

it doesn't have to control us fear doesn't have to control us.

It's a very complex emotion that affects all of us at different

times in our lives. And it can prevent us from reaching our

full potential. Overcoming Fear is a courageous and empowering

process. Just Just think about a time that you had a fear for

something you had a particular fear. It could be that it could

be fear, for fear of driving a car, right fear of driving a

car. And you overcame that fear. And now you, you you cruise when

you're driving you just cruising. So fear can can be a

very encouraging and empowering process. It involves

acknowledging it. So we don't have to be in denial. When we

have fear for something, we don't have to deny it. Because

we don't want people to know that we have fear for that

thing. Or we have that fear. We are to acknowledge fear, when we

all feel afraid. When we want to take a step and we that fear

comes in or steps in. We want to acknowledge it. And then we want

to understand its root causes. Why do I have this fear? Why

every time I think of doing some this thing, I have this fear.

Maybe it's fear of flying, being on a plane. You want to

acknowledge that fear, but they also want to understand the root

cause of that fear. Why am I afraid of flying? If that's the

case. And then you want to gradually, gradually challange

yourself to face and conquer the fear. It's a gradual process.

Because probably that fear is the root cause of that fear is

some kind of trauma, some experience some terrible

experience. It could be a traumatic effect, right? It

could be a terrible experience you had or a family members of a

family member of yours or someone you know a friend. Right

so you want to gradually challenge yourself to face and

conquer that fear.

And here are some of the tips on how to face and call Conquer

your fears. One, you want to understand your fear. You want

to start by identifying and understanding the root causes

the root causes of your fear fear because knowing what

triggers your fear allows you to address it more effectively.

When you know what triggers that fear, then you will be able to

address that fear effectively. The second tip on how to face

and conquer your fear is challenge your thoughts

challenge your thoughts. Often fear is a fool, by fear is for

by irrational thinking and negative beliefs. So, try to

challenge those thoughts and and replace them with a more

positive and realistic outcome. Alright, realistic one. So

challenge those thoughts and replace those thoughts with a

more positive and realistic ones. I remember reading a book

by Jack Canfield. And the book is tied to the success

principles. I was reading this book and in that book, he shared

a story. That one time he was flying to somewhere and then

there was this lady, this lady sitting by besides him. And he

noticed that she was so tense and was just holding on to the

rest of the of her seat on the point. She was so tensed. And he

decided to engage her in a conversation and ask her, Oh,

are you okay? And she said, No, that she's so afraid of lying.

And he asked her where she was going. And she told her, told he

where he or she was going, she was going to Disneyland and she

was meeting her grandkids there. And her has had a daughter and

the husband and their kids. So it was a family trip and she was

going to meet them there. And he helped her through an exercise.

And he told her to close her eyes. And imagine herself

already at Disneyland having fun with her grandkids and her

daughter and the daughter's husband and her son in law, just

the whole experience. And she was able to close her eyes and

she was able to visualize and she was able to see herself

already in Disneyland having fun with her great grandchildren and

her daughter and her son in law. And that helped her relaxed as

her she was so relaxed, she was able to you know, continue that

whole flight with so much ease and because she had seen the end

result. Remember, fear is often based on assumptions rather than

concrete evidence. So replacing those thoughts with more

positive ones, those negative thoughts, those fearful types

with a more positive ones. Take the third tip is take small

steps. facing your fears head on can be overwhelming. Instead

break them down break your fears down into smaller manageable

steps. Gradually expose yourself to the source of your fear and

then slowly expanding your comfort level. For example, if

you have fear of driving, you want to first start with driving

away there no traffic maybe in a parking lot Write slowly. You

want to do it slowly. I have a friend. She's so afraid of

driving. And her biggest fear is what if she's climbing a hill,

and then the traffic lights tends to read and she has to

stop on that feel her fear is to take off. And because of this

fear, she will leave our car in the garage and take the public

trust, what can you imagine what fear can do? Fear will cripple

the year. Can you imagine that sign has it cart, the door

rather take the public transport to drop off, had kids in school,

and even go to work while her car is parked in the garage. You

know, so you want to gradually expose yourself to the source of

your fear, and then slowly expanding your comfort zone.

While she knows she no longer have that fear, because she was

able to face our fear. And she dealt with that fear. So now

she's fine, you too, can do the same. The fourth tip is seek

support. It's important to surround yourself with a

supportive network of friends, family, or even a terrorist who

can provide encouragement and guidance as you face your fears.

Seek for support. If you need to see an expert to help you with

this fear, do so. So you can free yourself. So you no longer

in bondage. Sharing your fears with others can sometimes

elevate their intensity. Will you share your friend your fears

with friends or family members, they can help encourage you.

They can also share them their own fears and say, Hey, I used

to have this fear. This is what I did. This is how I faced that

fear. And this is how I overcame that fear. The fifth tip is

embrace failure and learn from it. Don't be discouraged by

setbacks or failures along the way. When you try to face your

fear, and you get in the middle of it and you're not able to

push through, don't be discouraged.

Don't be discouraged. Remember, it's a gradual process. It's a

gradual process. So don't be discouraged when you take the

leap of faith when you mount courage to face that fear. And

then you get right in the middle of like, Oh no, I can't do this.

Don't be discouraged. Just the fact that you took that step to

even attempt to face it means you got somewhere you made some

progress, no matter how small it was. So don't be discouraged.

Overcoming Fear is a learning process. And setbacks are a part

of that journey. Use them as an opportunity to learn as an

opportunity to grow. And also to adjust your approach. Maybe the

approach you took was not the greatest. Maybe you just move

from so afraid to do it to just jump into trying to do it.

Right. So you might want to look at the approach you use. So you

might want to make some adjustments to that approach.

Right. The sixth and final tip on how to face and conquer your

fears is practice self care. self care is so important.

Taking care of your mental and your physical well being can

help you build resilience and courage, you know, engage in

inaction DVTs that brings you joy and activities that bring

you joy activities that makes you makes you feel relaxed, your

mind is relaxed, your body is relaxed. Do some exercise, and

you don't have to have a gym membership. Exercise does not

need to cost you extra money. We have YouTube, go on YouTube and

just look for exercise videos. And then just do them at home.

If you love hip hop look for hip hop exercises or Afro beats Afro

walk out exercises, they're usually really short you have

the ones for 10 minutes, 15 minutes, 20 minutes, 30 minutes,

even for an hour. So you don't necessarily need a gym

membership. To do movements, I mean, if that is what you want,

and you can afford it, go for it. Right? Go for it. But if if

finances an issue is a challenge, then you don't need

to worry about that. There are even YouTube videos that will

help you guide you on how to build muscles. Right. So, to

some exercises, what's your favorite hobby and spend some

time with loved ones spend some time in nature, take walks with

friends or by yourself. See, taking care of yourself empowers

you to face your fears. With a stronger mindset. You need to

you need to be in a place where you feel strong and healthy

enough to even have the courage to face your fears. facing your

fears is a personal journey. Don't let anyone put pressure on

you. And sometimes friends and family members might be coming

from a good place and so and try to push and just puts you so

much pressure oh you can do it you can do it. Girl you can do

it. What are you can do it come on come on. I know you can do

it. Yeah, I know you got it and no, but then you are not ready.

But then you're putting this pressure day to them they are

motivating you they are empowering you that maybe you

are not there yet. You are not there yet. So facing your fears

is a personal journey. And everyone's path is different. So

take your time. Be patient with yourself. Bless your friends and

family members, your loved ones tell them if they're trying to

push you so much pressure. Turn them that please be patient with

me. Celebrate even the small victories along the way. Every

step you take in facing and conquering your fears. Every

step you take celebrated. celebrated. Remember everyone's

path is different. Just because someone was able to conquer to

face and conquer their own fears into these in three days in one

week or in one month or in three months does not necessarily mean

that you require that same time you may require much more time

than they did. So be patient with yourself. Take your time

each your personal journey. You know yourself better. You know

how much you can accomplish at a particular time. So take your

time be patient with yourself. So it's your girl Grace oven and

I'm gonna take the order for the second acronym, which is all

next week. And this is going to be a five week series. I

probably didn't mentioned that at the beginning is going to be

a five week series. I will take off next week. Which is a

opportunities. It's your girl, Chris O'Brien. And if you are

out there and you are in that phase of your life, where you

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emptiness? Or you are in a phase of a major transition, maybe you

just moved. Or maybe you when you transition in you, you're in

the face of moving from one career or the other. Oh, you are

just having that tired of transitioning from where you are

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it's your girl, Grace Oben. And see you next week. Bye for now