Improving Your Health, Wealth, & Happiness with Barbara Majeski | MDIDS2E42

Welcome, welcome, welcome. This is Paul Finck and you are listening to Mavericks Do It Different podcast. This is where we think different, be different and do it different every single day to create magic in the world and different results than others in the world might experience. And we're going to be talking about that, and so much more about what it takes to create a different life than man what a perfect example of that then our special guest today. Barbara is here and she's CEO and founder of the more life collective personal development movement focuses on empowering driven individuals, which I know you all are to improve your health, wealth and happiness. Additionally, Barbara's mother of three resides in Princeton, New Jersey, we're going to talk about all her accomplishments with author of sabotage to success, the book that shares her journey, actionable steps of overcoming obstacles and achieving success, and how do you create all that she faced a difficult divorce, diagnosed with stage three cancer would love to talk more about what your experience was with that, and during treatment vowed to if she beat cancer, which obviously she did, she would get another shot at life and live bigger, better and bolder with true purpose, meaning and intent. We describe Barbara as purpose, style and adventure are the three words. Barbara majestic. Thank you so much. And it's I'm sorry, Barbara Modjeski. Thank you so much. And it's one of those things, here's a great tip for all of you, you do not know or need to know how to speak to be a speaker, barber, welcome. Hello, welcome. Thank you so much for being here. We do make it real right here. And you are a perfect example of all that and more. Thanks for being part of this.

I like being called majestic. I'm here for it.

That's it. So tell us you know, one of the things that that we focus in on is our journey and where it all began. So where did your journey begin?

Yeah, you know, I really came to understand where and thank you for having me, I'm going to enjoy this conversation. I really connect with entrepreneurs and innovators and dream makers. So I believe that who that's who tunes in here, um, you know, when I was diagnosed in 2015, I went through treatments in 2016 for Stage Three colon cancer, and went into this great like, mental game of like, I can beat this, I got this like it stage four, I would be I was like, I'm a stage three. So I'm good. And bad surgery. And then I had like 12 rounds of chemo. And I'm like, my eighth or ninth fusion. I was like, Oh, shit, oh, Can we curse? Is this occurred? Okay? You can bleep that out. Limit. Go ahead. I was like, alright, row. Things are not looking good. I'm like, I don't think I'm gonna make it. I couldn't be leave at 42 years old. Every chapter that had been written about me was like, done, that was it, the book was going to be closed. And I reflected on all the things I was really proud of, and how I wanted my kids to remember me. And then I took inventory of all the things that I didn't and I was like, Oh my God, wait, wait. Like, I was like bargaining with the Grim Reaper. I'm like, can you just give me a little bit more guy, he like pump, pump, the brakes. smudgy. I'm not quite done here. Um, but in this kind of reflection of what I was proud of. And what I hadn't done, came to this route, this realization, like everything that I was really proud of, that I had done, which was I had started a business in my 20s. I put myself through college, I took over as my special needs brothers, legal guardian, at 30. I financially take care of it, like all these things. But what I understood Paul, in that moment of all the things I was really proud of, I wanted to quit. So I think that speaks to all the entrepreneurs, I wanted to quit putting myself through college, waiting tables, teaching aerobics, like, I had no social life. And every time I'd save up a bunch of money, I thought, well, nest egg, I'd have to write a check to the university and I was like, I could really use a car, you know, I'd rather I'd like a new pair of pants. And instead, I'm just every time I wanted to quit anything. I thought, if I quit, I can't take care of my brother. If I quit, he'll be institutionalized. If I, if I take this job and not, you know, take, you know, this entrepreneurial path, this upward mobility, this unlimited earning potential, that kind of ad, I can take care of Steven, and if I can't take care of Steven, he's institutionalized. It's my fault. So all of the things I ultimately was super proud of really hinged on If you don't do this, you won't be able to take care of Steven. But what I came to realize as I'm like, Well, thank God right isn't the first time right Thank God, I was taking care of Steven, thank God. Right. And I realized I was like, it was never me taking care of Steven, it was always Stephen, who was taking care of me. Because Stephen gave me the greatest gift that we can all been get given us the gift of purpose. He gave me no quit no backdoor, figure it out, make it happen. Nobody cares about your problems, mine are bigger, because I can't feed myself. And in that moment, I was like, Oh, my God, if I get another shot, I will never play small again, I will always use my voice to speak for those who can't speak for themselves, I will put myself in every everywhere in anywhere. And that's kind of where you're finding me today. I survived cancer, got a new lease on life. And I am like, all in like, you want to do a podcast, I'll do a podcast, Paul will talk all day long.

You know, and it's so amazing. And and I have a similar story, if you will, I've got six children, as, as you may know. And so with that, that same catalyst, that same drive, like they're looking at me for food, like they're looking at me for their life, their future, it drew drove me to create everything that I have. And those components are, I think it's so important to again, recognize that they made me a better me, and created the life that we both now share only if it wasn't for them, I wouldn't be the man I am today.

Well, it's so true. And it does level you up. When you realize that your thoughts, your words, your actions, your choices are all not just about your well being your well being as a byproduct. But you're you've got well, you got 12 eyeballs on you, you got, you know, all eyes on you.

It's fascinating to me, and people look at that and go Well, I don't have, you know, relatives that I'm that I'm taking care of I don't have children, I don't have that catalyst. So I guess I'm, I'm lost. And, and so and I hate to say it, but sometimes they miss the point of the story. But what do you say to that that comment like?

I think that's a great question. And I think that we all have the capacity to live a life of service and success and making money is really using your gifts to serve others. And whatever capacity that is, is there, you know, what can you do to help others when you come from that, that that channel, like if you have a product or a service, and you're like, Oh, I'm scared to go on social media, because I'm scared of being judged. The way you move from like, oh, that fear that doubt that insecurity is you go into acts of service, what you have you designed because you know it's made your life better and you want to help others, then when you shift of like, from that ego, space and fear, but being that service space, you will find your higher expression of who you are in the trap that you are in. Yeah,

I I've talked about this a long time I've been in sales for 40 years. And in in the sales process to believe in your product so profoundly, that you know that it is your duty to do whatever it takes to to share it with somebody else that when you do that's the that's the sin than not being rude to someone or getting in their face or being too pushy. The sin is not sharing what you know is valuable to the other person.

And I also think in that same vein is like listening twice as much as you speak. It's like anybody who's like the best analogy is like selling a car, like a mom can come in with six kids. And the car, the salesman can be like, Oh my God, I've got this great, safe, comfortable minivan, but if that's not what they're interested in, because you've just made assumptions that this is the reason this woman is in here. You might be selling the features and benefits that are really she's deaf to as opposed to tell me I'm here to listen so I can really meet your needs and meet you where you're at not where I assume where you're at. It really is I think sales is such a great at life's I that's actually what my book is about sabotage to success is my sales skills, learning how to listen, twice as much as I speak right? You two ears, one mouth, listen twice as much as you speak. It's so cheap because we can sit there like oh, she needs a minivan. The meanwhile she's in there. She's got seven minivans she's ready for her sports car and her second act, you know, like, oh, no, you didn't ask you to

Go certain judgments so that you have a direction, but definitely be ready to pivot to adjust to shift up as you listen to exactly what's going on.

You're curious. You know, I think actually, you just talked about judgment, which I think is one of my most fascinating topics that I explore all the time, is that if you can just suspend judgment, I know it's natural, because it keeps us from walking into oncoming traffic. You just take that minute before you judge everyone walking around and they invent get curious, tell me tell me a little bit more. Like, tell me more about your audience. Like if you can just move into that lane, you're going to be able to operate so much more proficiently, not only professionally, but also personally. Listen, your wife, you're here.

Yeah, so fascinating that that, you know, when we look at him, bring it to a 10,000 foot view, when you look at your life, and you look at business at every aspect, if when you can stay in that young curiosity mode of a three or five year old, and just ask why 100 times a day and, and be fascinated by the answers. That's that's so much the secret of success and happiness and success in business. Comment on that?

Yeah, I think that you feel most value when you bring value to somebody else. When you're like, I really hooked them up today, I really did something, they're gonna love that they're gonna appreciate it. I feel really good about that transit transaction. And it again, it goes to I met Oprah 100 years ago, and okay, so it wasn't her. But it was a little bit. And I asked her, I said, oops, all right. I didn't say Oh, I said, Miss Winfrey. Um, what advice would you give to somebody who aspired for your level of success, because that's how my brain goes, I'm like, Oprah looks like she's living a good life, I'll take a little bit of that. And she's like, You can't aspire for anybody else's level of success. Because success is a byproduct of living in service of others, taking your gifts and serving others. And so you'll hear me message that because that's what resonates in my own head. Like, even when I'm thinking about this conversation today, I'm like, How can I best serve this audience that are as entrepreneurs and I know what entrepreneurs deal with, I know, The Good, the Bad, and the very ugly. So yeah, I think that's been one of a really strong message for as I navigate different areas of business and life in general.

With all that you've accomplished and done. And in your journey, one of the biggest things that I analyze and I look at is what makes you different. So many people have the same experience. They'll have loved ones that need service, they have, you know, bouts of cancer and other debilitating diseases, and they'll go through life changes, and they won't have the same reaction, or results that you've created. What makes you different. What do you do think different?

That is really good. And there, I think there's not just one thing, but I do think being aligned with a greater purpose has allowed me to figure things out of like, not letting not having any backdoor. No other options always like you've got to do this. No, that was

and b No. Yeah,

no. You got to go make this work. Because a job and getting paid was never in the cards for me, I could not just get a paycheck and expect to take care of a brother for the rest of his adult life. Like I had to make money. And there's a huge difference. I think that's what leads us to being entrepreneurs sometimes, like, we just need that autonomy, that upward mobility, that freedom that that our creativeness cannot be, you know, boxed in. So I think for me, what really did make me differences, I was aligned with a much greater need to make money far beyond having private jets and fancy cars. I had to really provide it at such a level that I didn't know how to do. I didn't grow up with that. I didn't understand it. So I had to be very hungry and very humble simultaneously and have very little ego of like, I don't know how to make money. I don't know how to build personal wealth or generational wealth. And I did not learn that in school. My degree in health education. didn't teach me that. So how do I learn the mindset and what I need to do? So I really did submerse myself in books, when I got out of college of like, I don't think I learned anything about how to make money. So I better just find out. And that's what I think what sent me is my alignment with with taking care of Steven, and recognizing I think that is just that, you know, the greatest gift and, you know, he's he's, he's doing well now. That's a little different.

Well, what one of my sons is also named Steven so every time you saying that it runs right to my heart. Really appreciate that. The, with your journey and what is it? So if people don't have that purpose, yet, they don't have that catalyst that driving them? What can you do? How do we inspire them? Or what can they do to create that in their world?

I love this question. So something that my dad taught me a long time ago is to dream big. So when we were we had lived in New Jersey girl, but we lived in California for a little bit because my parents lost everything. So we had to go live with my uncle out in California. I'm an eighth grade. So the backstory is I'm a twin. So I have a twin brother and then I have younger twin brothers. My mom's a triplet, it runs in the family stay away all the things. But what also runs into families Fragile X, which is my what my brother has, it's much like Down syndrome. So we're living out in California and morale is low, because we're living with my uncle in an 800 square foot one bedroom studio apartment. And so there's five dudes and me just if anybody's doing the math, my mom's not there. It's just me. I'm the only girl 13 orrible, and when morale was low, my dad's like, let's go look at houses and let's go look at cars. And he would take us to the Ferrari dealership tickets. We didn't even have a car we had a van with two seats. And like those hubs, the tire hubs I mean, wheels, wells, tire wall. Yep, yep. And so my brother is special needs to sit in the front, because he would get carsick. And then the three of us would be in the back. One we get to would get tire wheels or the wells. And the other person was surfing the middle like it like hold on. It's hard, like terrible. But it was it's grown up short. Anyway. My dad takes us to these Ferrari dealerships like I can't even imagine what these car dealers thought of us. And they'll be like, Well, what Ferrari Do you want? I was like, I just want a house in a car. Like I don't need a Ferrari. I want a car with seats. A seats I want air conditioning would be a bonus feature. But I don't want to get like too fancy. Anyway, what I learned what I took from that is like, I'm like, why do you why do you do this to us? Like, why are you doing this? We can't we were living with your brother. And we don't have a car. Why are you doing this, as he said to me, because somebody's got to buy these houses, and somebody's got to buy these cars. We just need to figure out what they did to have what they had and do those things. And make gift of that always in my childhood. And even today, my dad's like, let's go, my dad loves stuff. Like, let's go look at private play. I love that. But it's this. Just start like you don't know, you can't get on the road to where you're going. If you don't know where you're going. Like where your you got your jersey, go to California, you got to know the destination. And you not stop yourself from ask, you know, aspirations, like you got to watch. You got to do the checkup from the neck up. I had three clients over yesterday, we're doing some filming for some of the stuff I'm doing. And I'm like, What do you guys think of private aviation? Their goal like, well, you know, like, right, like, that's, but you know, I'm like, never, nothing's out of reach. If you want, and you aspire for this, that has to become something that you're like, that's a non negotiable. Right now, it's a non negotiable. Um, I'm going for the private because somebody's got to make the private jets. Somebody's got to fly them. And somebody's got to buy them. Which one do you want to be? I don't want to make them. I might want to fly one. I don't know. But I'd rather own one. And having that. If that's what you want, then start reverse engineering. Okay, this is where I'm going. How do I get there? Because somebody knows the way and I you know what, I'm just gonna take the path that somebody else took, and stop cutting yourself off because you're like, oh, that's for that. No, that's for you. If that's what you want, you're willing to do the work. So write it down, get a vision board and stop talking yourself out of stuff that you rightfully deserve you and I deserve to fly private because you have so many damn kids. It's too expensive to fly them commercial. Anyway.

You and I are on the same page. I gotta tell you, Barbara, in all that you're talking about. When I was growing up, and I grew up right around the corner from you, I grew up. We're right there. I understand Jersey girls. So the con when I was growing up all these things who were talking about was not not a part of my world, like I didn't know. And I talked about this even in my 30s, I didn't know that you go on a private jet. Like I thought that was, you know, the President or or Warren Buffett, but I didn't know like, oh, you know, well enough cash on a private jet. It's not that big a deal. And, and I didn't know that was possible. And one of the things that I made sure of is in this journey is that one, I became aware of it by hiring mentors by hanging around with wealthy people by hanging around and stepping out of my comfort zone and being with them. And then I introduced my children to it, and made sure that they flew on a private jet that they understood what these better things were, so that they knew how to aspire to it. And such a powerful message to make sure that you're introduced to this and dreaming bigger.

Well, you know, what I like about what you're talking about is that really does embed in our children's subconscious mind, the power of belief, like I just assumed what my dad said was the word of law, because that's how we perceive our parents. My dad was like, if you want it, you just have to do the work to get what? Somebody's gotta buy it. Why not be that guy? Although seems like, all right, I just have to figure it out. And I've lived with this belief of like, as long as I'm willing to do the work, I can have everything and anything that I want. And it is really, that I have story after story where I wrote something down, and I thought I was crazy. And the next thing you know, it's materialized, including the house I live in today, which is kind of crazy. But I want to share this in the power of what our kids like, what we're messaging to our kids who don't realize it. So when I was going through my treatments, my son, my oldest son was having trouble. He didn't want to go to school anymore. And I was like, Dude, why don't you want to go to school? And he wouldn't answer me wouldn't answer me. And finally, like, we're walking home from Princeton and going, you know, after dinner, I'm like, dude, like, what's your problem? And he's like, Mom, I just want to stay home and, and make sure you're okay. And what I learned was, he would go to school and worry that when he came home, I wasn't going to, I wasn't going to survive, and I wasn't going to be okay. And I said to him, I said, All right, and let me set this record straight. There's nobody like your mother, I am the strongest mom in Princeton. Nobody liked me around the New York City Marathon twice for shits and giggles. Like, I went through, like a list of things that I'm like, he's gonna perceive this as I'm badass, you know? And I'm like, I'm pulling things out of the sky. Like, I'm this. And when I said, I'm the strongest mom in Princeton, and you saw these other moms derive cancer, then I'm like, Are they as strong as me? He was like, now I'm like, then you don't have to worry. I want to fast forward a year and change later. He's transferring schools to so we're in the admissions counselors office or whatever. And they're interviewing. They're like, Oh, I see your mother had a pretty serious battle with cancer. How did that affect you? Were you worried? And he goes, so I'm sitting behind Gabe. And the counselors like face to face mean, gave goes, Oh, no, my mom's the strongest mom in Princeton. I was like, nope. So the counselor like looks at me. And I'm like, I guess I am. Your words, as leaders, as mothers as influencers, as innovators are, are so powerful. And when they are backed with like, a confidence and belief and your action. So my kids were like, I was like, skiing on one week, so I wasn't feeling you know, all the things. I was a badass threat. And just never forget, like that. Really, that can be so powerful. I couldn't control my diagnosis, but I control my attitude about it. And that is what I think most landed for my for my children. So

and that's true with everything that we face, is that I'm a firm believer that, that the Euro already started the trend. So this shit gets divided up equally with all of us. It's just how we, how we manage it, how we go through this, this journey in facing the stuff that lands in our lap. And we haven't shared or talked about, but my wife just went through this battle with cancer as well. And on the stage, and she was stage four. And the two of you could compete with that being badass. Yeah. And she had leiomyosarcoma, one of the rarest cancers in the world. And it's cancer of the pulmonary soft tissue of pulmonary artery.

I have like, all these words, this is a heart as a heart.

Yeah, so it's in the middle of its her sarcoma right in the middle of her pulmonary artery. And multiple surgeries, chemo radiation you name last three and a half years, and now she's got to clean to telehealth, God bless. And it's been a battle of you know, almost facing death like five, six times over the last three years.

How old is she?

She is now 55. I need to get this right. Put you put me on the prep 50

Oh, wow, God bless. I'm looking at you. I'm thinking you're in your 40s Oh my gosh, she must be in her 30s I'm like making up numbers over here.

Thank you very much. I appreciate that.

Oh, my God, she must be there. Thank you. Yeah. Well, God bless your wife today. What a trooper, man. And that's who,

and it was a real bond with your story and everything that you've gone through, really understand it and transmitting. And this is really key and, and my belief is everybody's a badass. And internally, and they just don't know how to activate it. That, that we all have the strength and the power to do what we do. And it's a matter of stepping into that power as you as you've done, and over and over and over again, and recognizing that you can and it sounds like you got that from your father. And there's a solution every challenge, and always face the challenges head on.

Yeah, no, I will say, you know, understanding my own fears, my insecurities and my doubts and how much weight I put on other people's opinions, and really regulating that and recognizing that we're all just passing through, you know, and am I living at my highest expression of who I am? Or am I just so worried about other people's perception of me. And I tell you, there's been a few breakthroughs, I feel and I know your wife could kind of resonate of like, that was a waste of time. And I'm not doing that anymore, that I think cancer gifts us in the in the process. And I think me understanding that, I think we all the mistake is like, I don't care what other people think. And I don't I think that's disingenuous when we say that, because we do care what people think I care that your audience likes me and, and thinks I'm adorable and all that they I care, I want a five star Uber rating. Well, I and so I would always be like, I don't care, I swipe left on the weight weight of other people's opinions. But we do have, we do care. But what we do need to let go of is we have no control over the way other people perceive us. And all we have control over is how we carry ourselves. And we can do our best and that's it, go in with our best effort. Do our best you can be the juiciest peach on the peach farm, not everybody's gonna like peaches. And let go that you have any control over anybody's opinion of you. You just don't. And when you like, release that you're like, no matter how hard I try, this person's not gonna like me, you stop caring, you're that's the part that I care about. Like, I'm like, I want to do my best and bring my best foot forward every time. But I'm no longer beholden to other people's perception of me because that's a reflection on them. I do wish you all give me a five star rating, if you don't mind and

say one more time five star rating guys, five stars.

I don't know where it goes. Like if I did.

The you know, and it's so interesting that that idea of caring, but we don't care of understanding that we value your your opinion of us only we cannot be ruled by it. And we cannot have that as the reason why we do any one thing. And and to go through the journey to be real with ourselves to be real with who we are. With the understanding that I would love for you to love me only. The reality is is that we cannot have everybody love us. And so be accepting of that. And then keep moving forward.

And just operate from your highest effort. Like give your best effort and let the chips fall where they will give your best effort. Stop worrying about other people's perception of you. Put yourself on social media, get in front of the camera, do the things you need to do. And don't worry about anything else. Bring your product just service go to every platform and stop playing small because you care about your third grade friends seeing your face on Facebook pitching your book or whatever. It stop, go. Like no, there's no trophies to spectators, but I'm telling you it entrepreneurs struggle with it. And I want to say let it go do your best and put it all out there. Make your gazelles and go buy your private plane because commercial. Yeah, well.

So I was just having this conversation last night with my son and my son Steven is just amazing. And we were talking about and he was here visiting and We're talking about what he's done in his business or in his career. And one of the things that I applauded him for years ago when he was 17, he was working at Chick fil A, and got employee of the month. Love it, and he got an employee of the month, not because he, you know, oh my gosh, his future was working at Chick fil A for minimum wage for the rest of his life. That wasn't it. Now he works for New York Life, he's getting a series seven. And you know, so, so totally different space. Only. He worked. And I talked about he worked for the job he wanted, not for the job he had, any whatever it was that he was doing, he did it at his best. And, and that's a huge lesson in in life is to show up doing your best and show up to work for the person in the life and the career that you want. Not the one that you have, necessarily.

So true. So true. And, and put yourself in the right in the right environments to learn everything like no job should be below you. size should be about I want to learn out of the cook the fries, because I want to run the restaurant, I want to have a chain of franchise, I'm I can't run something I know nothing about, I need to know how to keep these bathrooms clean. But if you do it just to be a fry maker, you might not be as enthusiastic. But if you're doing those fries, because you're like, I'm gonna have a chain of these McDonald's or whatever, or Chick Fil oz or whatever. Yeah, I don't think

so about that. I've done so many. I've done so many boot camps. And as the speaker and trainer, I'm on the front of the room. And I can't be in all places. However, at some time in my career, I've done every position in the room, which may helps me understand how to engage with them. And so as a leader a great lesson. One one key component, and I'm going to kind of switched gears a little bit because you talked about this I want to touch on I think it's so important is that, you know, we we talk about the success, we talked about the happiness we talked about all the greatness of of our world only, we don't always talk about the downturns. And we all face them. And when it hits us, what do we what can you tell us and share with us for the people that are facing that? Either they have recently or they are how to turn that around how to get back on the horse, how to get back into the game, whatever the case may be.

Yeah, as you know, being an entrepreneur and innovator, a thought leader can be a very lonely journey, because it's not like well, at the end of the week, I'm gonna get a paycheck. Sometimes at the end of the week, there is no paycheck, actually, it's less than a paycheck, and you and you owe money. So, you know, that is part of the entrepreneurial journey. And it is, it's definitely tough, but it's important to be very receptive to what's going on around you like what are what are the changes? What is the feedback that I'm really getting right here that maybe I need to make shifts, or maybe you don't need to make any shifts at all, you just need to keep plugging forward. Maybe you're not getting the traction on your online sales or in your dealership so that the traffic and into your community or office or E space. You know, keep doing the things you need to do to get the things that you want. But you have to make sure you're doing the right things. And what you need is the right mentor, you need the right coach. That's like, listen, let's tweak it here and there. Let's keep going. The right coach, the right mentor is going to give you the right directions. Always get directions from somebody who's where you want to be not from somebody who's just being a spectator. You really don't You don't want a surgeon, you know, doing surgery on us only sat and read it in a book. You want somebody that's actually performed the surgery right and done what it's done very well. And as a good track record

done more than one.

Yes, yes. You know what, it makes me crazy as people seek counsel where they seek comfort, because people that have your best interests don't always know what's best. But that's where they're gonna get information to they love you. So they're gonna give you the best advice and that is such a crock of not good stuff. It's a It's garbage. It's not because they love you doesn't have the answers. If they're not where you want to go. Stop asking them for directions. Find somebody that you can be like, I need a sounding board. I'm lost in the sauce. Give me some feedback. It makes a massive, massive, massive difference. But I think we can all agree on that like

we are cut from the same cloth Barbara it drives me That, yes.

You know, a person know, like, why?

They'll get advice on on what to do about their love life when from their best buddy that's been divorced three times, two times. What are you talking about?

Well, I remember this happened a couple years ago. And really, it just burns me. So I had found a piece of real estate. And I'm very, that's another thing that I do. And I brought in a couple of friends. And I said, I think we need to do an investment deal together. I had just been divorced. So I was struggling to get financing, because I hadn't been on my own books. So my ability to actually finance and I didn't know enough at the time, how to be creative and all the things so I was like, let me grab some friends taking motors for as property I was watching, watching watching Paul watching. I was like, no, no, this is an ugh, I love ugly houses. Beautiful piece of property, super ugly house, and nothing makes my heart sing like an ugly piece of property. You will visit dirt on like, you can always change the house, you cannot change the dirt, location, location, location. And so I'm talking with one of the guys and he goes, Yeah, I talked to Bob down the street. And he was like, told me we were Khorasani. And so he dropped out and he dropped out. And then I was like, oh, okay, I'll just let this one slide. Maybe, you know, but in my heart, my heart, my heart was like, this one's going to triple that damn $3 million property sold for $8 million. This was three years ago. And all the slap on some paint.

See, didn't do it.

Now. I quitting and I didn't have. I was newly divorced. I could come up with every excuse in the book. I was. But I wanted a group to do it with me. I didn't have enough hutzpah. I didn't have enough. I don't know what the word is in.

Whatever. We are here for you. We are here for you

didn't have the balloons that I have today. I have balloons now. And yeah, so we didn't do it. And when I see these two unlike, remember that Bay house, we each we walk in with an extra meal and change in our pocket. If your schmucks would have listened to me and not schmoly schmuck schmoly schmo. I heard because I was on the conversation. So

no, no, no, just

listen to me. Listen to Paul, don't listen to schmucks.

It's so amazing. And, and I've been in real estate for 20 years, so I understand exactly what you're talking about. And so many people listen to their, their, their cousin, their uncle, their friend down the block, or neighbor that's never, ever, ever invested in anything. And they know the best solution. They know how to analyze a million dollar opportunity. And it drives me insane. That same thing, it's like, no, you gotta go to the people that have done 1000 doors and ask them what they think that's the person to find out you think it's a

really strong lesson because you when I saw the shift in this person that I was like, listen, let's go in let's do this deal together. He was so confident it was a no because the advice that he had gotten from somebody who had no and not like a good very nice guy that that the infringement of a very very nice guy. Of course, for somebody that's like me I'm like I want I want it all in this lifetime. I want it all I want to do and see and I want all of the good things in this life. I want the freedom the finances the fancy barbers

stay close, let's let let's keep this conversation go. We're gonna have to come back here another time. Yeah, so and I'll share with you yesterday. I helped my 22 year old son put an offer on his first property

nice.

It is a absolutely disgusting three it's actually three different deeds but it's three houses right three duplexes, right next one family nice, and so it's a multifamily? It's actually six units total. But they're right next to one another three duplexes that need a ton of work. Only it's a half a mile from the college, half a mile from his fraternity. Right? Just Location, location, location. Yes. It's it's a perfect deal. And

I love that it's ugly. And people get so caught up in like fancy faucets. I'm like, go to Home Depot. You don't need to spend 60 grand on that.

My son first walked in and he said that there was definitely cat piss smell and dog and, and and wet. Yeah, that's called Money. Honey. Just recognize this is called negotiation.

Yes. That's awesome. That's really cool.

Yeah. And to be and for my children and for our community. is, and I know you as you work the same way, we're the leaders, we're the ones that lead the pack and to say, here's what it looks like, when you imply all these concepts. And that's how we show up to be our fullest potential.

Mm hmm. And but also an in that we deal with crap to you know, and adversity and people judging us and, you know, roofs leaking that we didn't anticipate. And it's all part of this entrepreneur journey. It's the Listen, the the toilet is going to backup, it is an inevitable part of what your son's going to deal with. As long as he knows, that's part of like, it's not all rainbows and unicorns. A toilet is replaceable. Don't worry, that's not really a problem. It's an inconvenience. It's not a problem. But I think some people are so dramatic like, what if this happens? Not? What if, when it does happen? How are you going to handle it? You're just going to handle it. That's it.

People are always worried about oh my god, they're gonna call you for a plumbing challenge. In the middle of the night. I was like, I do the same thing I do. When Plumbing Challenge in my house, I call the plumber, like so do phone calls in the middle of the night, I can manage really one phone call receive one phone call to the plumber, and I go back to sleep.

And that's not that it's not that dramatic. Like let's regulate the drama, you got to go to a Roomba with your family because of that plumbing hiccup if you look at it that way, like so you're good, everyone's good. But I remember just trying to get more people into real estate investment. Like, what is the roof falls in and I'm like, it's gonna and then we're gonna fix and that'll be just part of it, you know, capital costs and running a business and making gazillions over the next decade. So we can retire like fat cats and not fly commercial

love that gazillions, everyone gazillion,

gazillion

zeros. I want someone in the chat to absolutely put down how many zeros gazillion is just make sure we see that. And then money making money. Your kids. Borrow Barbara, what a pleasure to have you here. What a pleasure to be streaming on all this and to share with the world. Where can they find you?

Yes. So Barbara Majeski on the worldwide web, barbaramajeski.com. But the more life collective, which is my community to help more people go from inspiration to transformation. So I do community challenges and resets and fun in person events. But Google Barbara Majeski and see what you find. And if anything resonates with you, you can find my information on the interwebs.

beautiful, beautiful and absolutely within Maverick community. I have a feeling Barbara is going to be hanging out with us because we are definitely of like mind. So everyone here, thank you so much for joining us, Barbara. It's such a pleasure. This is Paul Finck, the maverick millionaire This is Mavericks Do It Different podcast. For all of you out there absolutely share, like follow give us a five star review and all of the rest that we're supposed to be doing on these platforms, and do all that for us. Because these this message that we've shared here and all that we talk about is so valuable to create the world that we want to live in, and the world that is worthy to be a part of. So continue to do all that continue to be part of the community. Thank you so much for being here. This is Paul Finck till next time everyone