I See You; with Valerie Connell

In this episode, Katherine speaks to Valerie Connell who is a certified life coach who focuses on helping women recover from alcoholism as well as co-dependant and coercive relationships. She shares details of her life journey and how she realized that she had been affected by being bought up by alcoholic parents. Including how she learned to overcome feeling utterly alone, being an outsider, feeling utterly lost and becoming emotionally unavailable.

She explains why she became more vulnerable to predatory individuals and how helping others played a role in her breaking this pattern. Valerie also explains how to uncover and be your true self, not settle and continue to learn and grow.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Most people feel that they have no idea of what they are doing, at some stage of their life.
• It is all too easy to become a chameleon, adopting other people´s goals and taking care of others while not caring for yourself.
• When you have experienced co-dependency in a key relationship it makes you more vulnerable to manipulative and predatory types.
• You need to recognize negative relationship patterns and make changes to break that cycle.
• People who have been where you are today can help you to navigate your way through.
• You need to be kind to yourself. To learn to forgive yourself.
• Accept that you will continue to make some mistakes. You are human.
• Being kind to yourself, helps you to become more empathetic and therefore kinder to others.
• When you don´t handle things well, accept the situation, forgive yourself and consider if there is anything you can do differently to reduce the chances of it happening again.
• Don´t put on a facade, be yourself.
• Only you need to be OK with how you live your life. It is entirely up to you.
• Settling in a relationship is not healthy. You either both want the same thing, or you don´t. If you don´t that is OK
• Ask for help and let people in.

BEST MOMENTS

‘You decide how you are going to show up.’

‘It starts with a lot of rigorous honesty and dropping a lot of the stories.’ 

‘The kinder I can be to myself, the kinder I can be to other people.’

‘Ask for help and let people in.’

‘Get out of the habit of settling.’

EPISODE RESOURCES

https://www.facebook.com/valerie.connell.39/ 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/valerie-connell-8a7955149/

http://www.valerieconnell.com/ 

ABOUT THE GUEST

Valerie currently resides in Montreal, Quebec. She was born in Hamilton, Ontario and is the oldest of three children. She is a divorced mother of two and works as an Organizational Change Management Specialist at Pratt & Whitney Canada. She is also an avid yoga practitioner and teacher as well as a certified life coach whose passion is to help women recover from alcoholism and co-dependent/coercive relationships. Valerie describes herself as being in recovery from life so far. She continues to learn how to bring healing and closure to maladaptive ways of being in the world so that she can help others with their unique journey. 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

http://katalystcoaching.com/  

https://www.facebook.com/katherinelorangerkatalystcoaching 

https://www.instagram.com/katalyst_coaching/   

https://www.linkedin.com/in/katherinewaller/

ABOUT THE HOST

Transformational Life Coach, best selling author and founder of Katalyst Coaching, Katherine Loranger asserts to the bold and determined that life is theirs for the taking.

For over 25 years, Katherine has been driven to spark lasting, heartfelt transformation for fearless and fierce souls in progress… working to research, study and implement results-oriented principles and programs to incredible success. Through her evocative and expertly guided series of vision building and life mastery classes and workshops, heart-centred entrepreneurs, organizational leaders, and dreamers learn to realign their efforts and energies with their soul’s purpose to design, build and realize their wildest fantasies… igniting a world of limitless possibilities and changing the trajectory of their lives, their businesses, and their relationships for the better.

PODCAST DESCRIPTION

Are you looking to learn how to:

• love yourself?
• increase your sense of self-worth? 
• discover your purpose in life?
• create authentic success and abundance in all areas of your life? 

Would you love to hear inspiring stories from women like you who did just that?  

The My Dead Dragon podcast brings you conversations and coaching with women who woke up one day and realised that no one or nothing was riding in to save them so they become the heroine of their own life and the main character of their story.  

Get ready to feel inspired, hopeful, motivated and ready to take charge of your own life. 

Discover what to do with your dead dragon as transformational life coach for souls in progress, Katherine Loranger interviews women in all stages of the journey to find out how we can all create and live a life we love!

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