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Last week we covered Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) with our guest Adele Anderson. Adele is an NLP Trainer and life coach who had a Near-Death-Experience (NDE) at age 27. Her recovery and exploration of the experience led her to the study and practice of NLP.
Her current focus is working with clients who have suffered loss and who are ready to re-define their relationship with grief. In this second episode, we discuss her NDE, how current brain science supports a more holistic view of Mind-Body-Spirit, and how our words effectively shape our reality. Enjoy the conversation!
Adele Anderson Bio:
At 27 years old, Adele Anderson survived a plane crash. That near-death and life experience changed Adele’s path and led her on a deeper journey of discovery so that she could help others.
Little did she expect she would experience a significant loss later in life. Adele admits drowning in a capsized plane was easier than becoming a widow. Her grief from the loss of her life partner proved deafening, a deep wound that still weeps when the Band-Aid is pulled off, raw and tender when touched.
Loss challenged every aspect of her life, but she did find relief through community, neuroscience, nutrition, and by embodying a rich spiritual practice. Adele is an NLP Trainer, Homeopath, and Soul Coach and has had the privilege of helping those seeking happiness since 2002. Along with being an author, Adele has been on countless stages sharing her messages of hope. How do you find happiness when life doesn’t look so bright? Ask Adele, she will light the way
Guest Social Media links
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachadele/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/adele.anderson.1238/
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/lifecoachadeleanderson/
Website - https://www.lifecoachadele.com
Email - yes@lifecoachadele.com
Complimentary Rainbow Energy Session: https://live.vcita.com/site/pj6nd2nw1oky5ogs/online-
Complimentary Rainbow Energy Session
Additional Resources/Reading:
EPISODE 1/2
● Tyler Henry Series on Netflix - Life After Death
EPISODE 2/2
● Dr. Robert Lanza - Beyond Biocentrism
● Dr. Michael Newton, PhD. Journey of Souls
● Dr. Eben Alexander - Proof of Heaven and Living in a Mindful Universe
Questions for further guidance:
● Words are powerful - observe your language over the next few days and see if you can notice word patterns that keep showing up.
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Jen Lang:Hi, everybody, welcome back to another episode of no
Jen Lang:halos here with Jen Ling and Jane Stark. We're really excited
Jen Lang:to have Adelle Anderson back here again this week to give
Jen Lang:part two of this interview. Last week, we talked all about NLP or
Jen Lang:Neuro Linguistic Programming, how it works, some of the more
Jen Lang:recent brain science behind it, how you can apply it and use it
Jen Lang:effectively in your day to day life. So go back and listen to
Jen Lang:that episode, if you haven't, but you don't have to have
Jen Lang:listened to it in order to get lots of value and fun out of
Jen Lang:what we're going to talk about today. Which is a little bit
Jen Lang:more about Adele's time, story and paths and how she came to
Jen Lang:NLP. And also her N D E or near death experience, in addition to
Jen Lang:a few other things. So welcome back, Adele. Great to have you
Jen Lang:here.
Adele Anderson:Yeah, so fun to be here. love spending time with
Adele Anderson:the ladies.
Jane Stark:Yeah. So for our listeners, if they haven't
Jane Stark:listened to last week's episode, maybe could you give yourself a
Jane Stark:quick little intro? Who are you? And what do you do? And then
Jane Stark:we'll jump in.
Adele Anderson:Okay. Adele Anderson from life coach, Adele,
Adele Anderson:I'm an NLP trainer, which means I trained practitioners in
Adele Anderson:neurolinguistics programming. And I am also a coach that helps
Adele Anderson:people through the life and death process. So I assist
Adele Anderson:grieving families to find grace grounding and growth.
Jen Lang:Beautiful. That's wonderful. How fantastic. So
Jen Lang:then how, tell us how you got into that specific aspect of the
Jen Lang:NLP work?
Adele Anderson:Yes, so my husband died last year. So that
Adele Anderson:was a journey, like no other. And until you've really had a
Adele Anderson:deep loss, they call it a catastrophic loss, a loss of a
Adele Anderson:parent, child or a spouse. And that really changed my outlook
Adele Anderson:on the need to help families through this, because I've never
Adele Anderson:experienced something that was so crushing. And I had a lot of
Adele Anderson:tools that I didn't have enough tools. And so through the
Adele Anderson:process of my own grief, over the past only nine months now,
Adele Anderson:I've developed a way to help people to really shift the deep
Adele Anderson:emotions that come up with grief. And to understand that we
Adele Anderson:were never meant to live, this isn't a lifestyle to to be
Adele Anderson:grieving. And that emotions, if we compare them to a physical
Adele Anderson:ailment, because they have a lot of physiology attached to them,
Adele Anderson:but to understand, if we leave that unchecked, for two to three
Adele Anderson:months, it can become a mindset. And then if we leave that
Adele Anderson:unchecked for four months, it becomes chronic. And that means
Adele Anderson:it becomes a personality trait. And so if you know of anybody,
Adele Anderson:and we usually do have someone that we know of or even know
Adele Anderson:personally, that has never gotten over a deep loss, and it
Adele Anderson:becomes them. And that's really, really sad. So I just found that
Adele Anderson:this is a passion purpose project for me, is to help
Adele Anderson:people remove this deep emotional pain.
Jane Stark:Wow. So you mentioned that you had a lot of
Jane Stark:tools, but that you realized that you actually were still
Jane Stark:missing some what what were the tools that you felt like you
Jane Stark:were missing or that you've had to bring into your life through
Jane Stark:this process.
Adele Anderson:So I really I really believe that grief is a
Adele Anderson:body mind and soul solution. And even though I'm I was a very
Adele Anderson:spiritual person, because I'd had the near death experience
Adele Anderson:that didn't make it any easier when my husband passed, the
Adele Anderson:grief was devastating. But I found that it was really the
Adele Anderson:soul connection that I needed in order to heal. I really felt my
Adele Anderson:soul was broken. And until I plugged in deeply, to that
Adele Anderson:spiritual part of our beingness I, you know, I was struggling
Adele Anderson:and that was a key awakening for me is you know, we talk about
Adele Anderson:body, mind and soul but what does that mean, and what part of
Adele Anderson:our beingness and we can get into the infinite nature of
Adele Anderson:beingness. And the science behind it, which, you know,
Adele Anderson:tells us that eternal is irrefutable. Now, the science.
Jane Stark:Yeah, that that side, it fascinates me as well.
Jane Stark:And even what we're seeing right now, and you know, you're from
Jane Stark:our last interview, you're very much rooted in science, right?
Jane Stark:We talk all about the brain science and whatnot. So I find
Jane Stark:it fascinating how sometimes, and again, the narrative that we
Jane Stark:hear so much right now is about the science and the spiritual
Jane Stark:side, there's like this polarity where it can't be both. So
Jane Stark:hearing what you're sharing right now just gives me chills
Jane Stark:in that, you know, because I really do personally believe
Jane Stark:that. It's both. And I've also had a near death experience. So
Jane Stark:I have a little bit of that context as well. But I'm just
Jane Stark:fascinated by that. And I would love to dive into that even a
Jane Stark:little bit more with your experience around this and how
Jane Stark:you've brought those two together and felt that both of
Jane Stark:those tools are the pieces, the pieces that you needed.
Adele Anderson:So if anybody's, you know, searching for that
Adele Anderson:information, I mean, there is so much information out there,
Adele Anderson:there's 50 years of resuscitation research, there's
Adele Anderson:50 plus years of Near Death Experience Research, which
Adele Anderson:really is irrefutable. You know, a near death experience has very
Adele Anderson:many very common themes that, you know, 5% of the world's
Adele Anderson:population of habit has had m&d 17% of those people have
Adele Anderson:cognitive recall, which is different from daydreaming or
Adele Anderson:wishful thinking where they can actually recall specific
Adele Anderson:incidences typically in a clinical setting where maybe
Adele Anderson:they've died on an operating table. So you know, these are
Adele Anderson:the, these are the research documents that are better there.
Adele Anderson:But if we look even into like some of the leading scientists
Adele Anderson:today, and I'm a follower of Dr. Robert Lanza, and he has a book
Adele Anderson:that's called biocentrism, which is sort of the next step out of
Adele Anderson:quantum physics or quantum theory, where Einstein had
Adele Anderson:quantum physics as the formulas for space and time and there was
Adele Anderson:always the inability for that to be correct in every
Adele Anderson:circumstances, they always had to make little adjustments. And
Adele Anderson:so Robert Lanza, took out physics and put in biology and
Adele Anderson:now all of a sudden, all of those formulas work. So, so it's
Adele Anderson:really fascinating. You know, what Einstein said it, you know,
Adele Anderson:there's all the way through time you can think of all the great
Adele Anderson:philosophers which philosophers 100 years ago, or were simply a
Adele Anderson:change name to scientists these days. But, you know, time and
Adele Anderson:space are an illusion. It's an insect that we've used as a
Adele Anderson:human being. And so if time and space do not exist, then life
Adele Anderson:and death are also an illusion. So there is overwhelming
Adele Anderson:evidence in the eternal nature of our beingness
Jen Lang:and that is our episode everybody.
Jane Stark:Life and death is an illusion. Mic drop,
Jen Lang:we're out mic drop and for done so first, serenity.
Jen Lang:Yeah. Okay.
Jane Stark:So can you take us back? Can you take us back and
Jane Stark:share a little bit of the story of your near death experience?
Jane Stark:It was in a plane crash if I'm not mistaken.
Adele Anderson:Yeah, a small plane town tandem plane,
Adele Anderson:amphibious, which means it has pontoons. So I was 27. I said,
Adele Anderson:it's a perfectly sunny day, you know, the ones bright and balmy
Adele Anderson:and with Phil with the adventures of a 27 year old and
Adele Anderson:we have been out flying over patchwork green fields that were
Adele Anderson:stitched together by a Snake River and then banked on either
Adele Anderson:side by snowcapped mountains. And I'd really spent the day
Adele Anderson:dropping in and out of the sky, and with the windows open and
Adele Anderson:the smell of fresh cut grass on the air that you know, blew
Adele Anderson:through the air in my mind. And then we were heading back to the
Adele Anderson:airport that small planes can't fly at night. So you know, we
Adele Anderson:would have already turned the plane around and are heading
Adele Anderson:back and then his voice erupted over the the earphones and I
Adele Anderson:followed my gaze past his outstretched arm past his
Adele Anderson:fingertips that pointed to this river far below us. And he
Adele Anderson:wanted to take this the plane and sweep it down and he would
Adele Anderson:skip it across the water like flat stones and then roar back
Adele Anderson:up into the sky. So without a care in the world, I you know, I
Adele Anderson:felt the nose of the plane tilt towards the earth and we just
Adele Anderson:pummeled downward just like a roller coaster. Wow. And then we
Adele Anderson:made contact with the water and the plane flipped. It drove the
Adele Anderson:nose of the plane deep in the water flooding the cabin. I saw
Adele Anderson:him go under I went to take a breath of air and my mouth
Adele Anderson:filled with water. And there I was upside down total blackness.
Adele Anderson:Buoyancy pulling me up gravity pulling me down. Things were
Adele Anderson:bumping my body it was very confusing. I had a mouthful of
Adele Anderson:water and lastly, I discovered I was trapped. The three point
Adele Anderson:harness had tangled around the lifejacket who words that I was
Adele Anderson:wearing, and I couldn't find the release. So the next thing I
Adele Anderson:felt was my feet hit the cabin floor hard and I pushed, but it
Adele Anderson:simply dug the three point harness into my shoulder blades
Adele Anderson:again, confirming that I was trapped. And then I, you know,
Adele Anderson:was trying to open my eyes, but there was gasoline in the in the
Adele Anderson:water, and it just seemed my eyes closed once again. And I
Adele Anderson:remember that feeling and my long hair was being drugged
Adele Anderson:through my eyelids. And I was, you know, sort of fighting for,
Adele Anderson:you know, where to find this harness. And then I noticed this
Adele Anderson:tingling sensation start to go through my fingertips and moving
Adele Anderson:into my extremities. And we all know this feeling. If we were
Adele Anderson:ever that kid who tried to swim underwater as far as we could
Adele Anderson:go, we know when we had to come up. And that was happening to me
Adele Anderson:then. And it was sort of, you know, sending a warning sign
Adele Anderson:through my brain and been a lifeguard competitive swimmer, I
Jane Stark:knew exactly what was happening. So you were
Jane Stark:familiar with water. Yeah,
Adele Anderson:very familiar with the water wasn't panicking
Adele Anderson:at this point. And so that was like striking a match and movie
Adele Anderson:of my life began to flash in front of my brain, in front of
Adele Anderson:my mind's eye. And so you know, billions of images from the
Adele Anderson:moment of my birth, came all the way through that day. And like
Adele Anderson:the sun going down on that day, I separated from my body. And
Adele Anderson:then all of a sudden, my perception, my perspective
Adele Anderson:changed, I was somewhere above myself in this bright light that
Adele Anderson:was shining like a flashlight down onto that plane below. And
Adele Anderson:I could see her upside down in that plane with her long blonde
Adele Anderson:hair blowing wildly in the water. And yet, I felt strangely
Adele Anderson:unattached to her pain, and, you know, unconcerned with her
Adele Anderson:welfare. Because where I was, I was just fine. I felt peaceful,
Adele Anderson:serene. And I had this this permeating feeling of
Adele Anderson:unconditional love. And then, I was given a gift, I was given a
Adele Anderson:preview of what would happen if I was to die. And that would be
Adele Anderson:two police officers walking through my parents front yard at
Adele Anderson:the big red brick steps and knocking on their old wooden
Adele Anderson:door. And my parents answered the door. And I couldn't hear
Adele Anderson:the conversation. But I heard I watched their facial expressions
Adele Anderson:change from confusion to acknowledgement, and then it
Adele Anderson:turned to horror. And at that point, inside my mind, my mum
Adele Anderson:collapsed to the floor, She covered her head with her hands,
Adele Anderson:and she screamed, and she screamed really loud inside my
Adele Anderson:head. And this is when I made the choice that I wasn't going
Adele Anderson:to die that day. And that put me back in my body where I was out
Adele Anderson:of breath, and out of time, but I made a very concise choice
Adele Anderson:that I was getting out of the plane now. And this is the mind
Adele Anderson:science behind choice. There's no right, there's no wrong,
Adele Anderson:there's no room for questioning, getting out of the plane now.
Adele Anderson:And that was like flipping another switch inside my mind.
Adele Anderson:And all of those pictures that had flash forward in time began
Adele Anderson:to go in reverse. Back in Time now working my demand, or my my
Adele Anderson:ask to find a way for me to escape a plane that had crashed
Adele Anderson:and overturned in water. And that the picture stopped in
Adele Anderson:front of a scene of a movie that I'd watched decades before, did
Adele Anderson:not know the name of the movie, or what came before after the
Adele Anderson:names of the actors never knew anything about it. But the scene
Adele Anderson:in front of my mind's eye gave me all the information I needed
Adele Anderson:to escape a plane that had crashed and overturned in water.
Adele Anderson:And I followed the script and I escape the plane and save my own
Adele Anderson:life. Yeah. So there was many things that I learned that day.
Adele Anderson:But two really fundamental ones, it's I was no longer afraid to
Adele Anderson:die. I knew that there was something beyond what I saw at
Adele Anderson:first glance, and that gave me you know, they even say it
Adele Anderson:changes your brain, people that have had near death experience,
Adele Anderson:think differently. And I believe that's true. I couldn't explain
Adele Anderson:how I survived until I found NLP. But the other thing that I
Adele Anderson:really knew that even in life's most dire circumstances, when we
Adele Anderson:think we're out of breath, and out of time, we still have
Adele Anderson:ability to make choices that can change the trajectory of our
Adele Anderson:life. And this is also mind science. And so then, you know,
Adele Anderson:we fast forward into my work, finding NLP, understanding why I
Adele Anderson:survived. And then, you know, life continues to unfold. And
Adele Anderson:then last year, my husband died. And that became, you know, a
Adele Anderson:very difficult journey for me. You know, my soulmate being
Adele Anderson:separated from him, and all of the depth of grief that comes
Adele Anderson:from that.
Jen Lang:Interesting. So at the point of this, thank you for
Jen Lang:sharing your story, by the way, and that's it's really, really
Jen Lang:fascinating process about that choice point. I've which I've
Jen Lang:heard read before and I even I've read Dr. Eben Alexander's
Jen Lang:books on both Proof of Heaven and living in a conscious
Jen Lang:universe, I think is the more science based, which is I prefer
Jen Lang:that book. It's really fascinating around nd ease, and
Jen Lang:we will put the names of these resources as well as the Dr.
Jen Lang:Robert Lanza resources you mentioned, we'll put all of that
Jen Lang:into the show notes for our listeners. So you can go and
Jen Lang:check those resources out. But what I want to get back to is
Jen Lang:when at the time of that crash, so I have a question did the
Jen Lang:pilots arrive?
Adele Anderson:The pilot did survive.
Jane Stark:I was wondering that too. Yeah. He,
Adele Anderson:he was under a lot longer than I was I
Adele Anderson:actually, you know, curled up onto the pontoon. Almost like
Adele Anderson:having a high thought it was an Olympian threw my hands to the
Adele Anderson:sky, and that had a big screen, and then I dive back in the
Adele Anderson:water, but it was pitch black. The plane was moving quite
Adele Anderson:quickly in the current and I never did find him. But on my
Adele Anderson:third dive, when I resurfaced, he was up and he was vomiting,
Adele Anderson:hanging onto the side of the pontoon. So he was one lucky
Adele Anderson:guy.
Jane Stark:Did he do you know, if he ended up having a similar
Jane Stark:experience like an NDA II as well, or?
Adele Anderson:I think he did. I don't think he did.
Adele Anderson:Interesting.
Jane Stark:Sorry, Jen, was that you had another question? I
Jane Stark:think. Yeah. My other question
Jen Lang:was did Had you met your husband at this point?
Adele Anderson:I met my husband shortly after that. Okay,
Jen Lang:fascinating. Yeah. So interesting. When we have these,
Jen Lang:I know, Jane's got a question, I'm just going to have a quick
Jen Lang:statement here about when we have these experiences. And then
Jen Lang:we meet someone after these experiences, and we are with
Jen Lang:that person for whatever time we have with them. However, that
Jen Lang:works. And the sort of, I'm gonna say codes and information
Jen Lang:that we exchange and have with each other. And it can be an
Jen Lang:intimate partner, it could be a spouse, it could be simply a
Jen Lang:friendship that lasts two or three years, and then you each
Jen Lang:go your separate ways. But it really does get me thinking
Jen Lang:about this limited experience we have as a human being in all the
Jen Lang:facets and ways that we are humans. And at the same time,
Jen Lang:all the beautiful infinite possibilities that live beyond
Jen Lang:that energetic space that we referenced in sort of the first
Jen Lang:and the first time episode last week. So I wanted to put that
Jen Lang:out there because it's just such a, I find this stuff super
Jen Lang:fascinating. And I like the brain science behind it. I play
Jen Lang:in more in the in that spiritual liminal space, myself, so it's
Jen Lang:very, I have not haven't had an NDA II. But I've played in that
Jen Lang:space and done lots of traveling and journeying. And yeah,
Jen Lang:connecting in other different ways. So yeah, it's just
Jen Lang:amazing. It's so fascinating to me how we can have these
Jen Lang:beautiful experiences and yet find this amazing common ground.
Adele Anderson:Yes, totally. Now, there's a very cool if
Adele Anderson:people are interested in you know, life after death, life
Adele Anderson:between life, there's a beautiful, he's a PhD in
Adele Anderson:psychology, his name is Dr. Michael Newton. And he has a
Adele Anderson:book out, I think that it's called life between life,
Adele Anderson:something like that, but I can get the reference for you. So
Adele Anderson:hypnotherapy, and he was doing a lot of past life regression
Adele Anderson:trying to, you know, work with people, very, very renowned
Adele Anderson:guys, like we're talking, you know, hundreds of 1000s of
Adele Anderson:people working. And so he would be doing past life regression
Adele Anderson:with people and trying to solve physical ailments that they just
Adele Anderson:couldn't seem to overcome. One, for example, I remember was
Adele Anderson:something like this guy had a permanent lamp, and he and
Adele Anderson:always pain in his leg. And through past life regression,
Adele Anderson:you know, he had lost his leg as a war, some sort of war thing.
Adele Anderson:But it was very unexpected that he dropped into life between
Adele Anderson:lives. So it was something that was beginning to happen more
Adele Anderson:frequently. So then his work really went into the life
Adele Anderson:between life and the journey of the soul. And what happens to
Adele Anderson:the soul between lives. And the amount of research that he
Adele Anderson:gathered over decades was phenomenal. So my aunt can see
Adele Anderson:the development of the soul through the colors that they
Adele Anderson:become the pods that they're in the, you know, their circle of
Adele Anderson:beings that stay with them through different journeys,
Adele Anderson:whether they're supporting them on a soul level versus dropping
Adele Anderson:into a life and you know, being that person that is within your
Adele Anderson:your pod. And I really believe that Willis is in my pod that he
Adele Anderson:is my soul connection and why I say that is there's there seems
Adele Anderson:to be Indic Keishon you know, I met my husband. One weekend in
Adele Anderson:Whistler, I was with a girlfriend having coffee outside
Adele Anderson:and an outdoor cafe. I looked across 1000 people, and I saw
Adele Anderson:his face. And I said to her, I don't know who he is, but I'm
Adele Anderson:going to marry him. Wow. And then he's walking through the
Adele Anderson:crowd. And he walks up the stairs behind me, he leans over
Adele Anderson:my shoulder, and he kisses my girlfriend on her cheek, he
Adele Anderson:says, Hi, Anna. And I'm like, Who is he? And why do I not know
Adele Anderson:him?
Jane Stark:Wow.
Adele Anderson:And, you know, so these connections, like, how
Adele Anderson:would that ever happen? And, you know, so 30 year relationship
Adele Anderson:later, I really feel that Willis and I are a soul connection.
Adele Anderson:And, you know, I do believe that we see our loved ones again,
Adele Anderson:some of them will be in our pods as our influencers and you know,
Adele Anderson:working with us as our sole development, and then others
Adele Anderson:will be in other pods that, you know, will come together, but
Adele Anderson:you're interested in that type of information. These are
Adele Anderson:fascinating books to read.
Jen Lang:Yeah, I was reading mice, I received the book, many
Jen Lang:lives, many masters for Christmas, which is, of course,
Jen Lang:is a classic and hypnotherapy and past life regression. So
Jen Lang:it's a quick and easy read. And that was that, you know, again,
Jen Lang:a great, great confirmation of a lot of the work that a I've
Jen Lang:experienced for myself, and also be I've done with, I've done
Jen Lang:with clients, too. So fascinating. Jane,
Jane Stark:I have so many questions, but unfortunately,
Jane Stark:you know, we'll have to, we'll have to have a part three and
Jane Stark:part four. I know. So, you mentioned that NLP really helped
Jane Stark:you. When after the near death experience, and just why am I
Jane Stark:here? What how did I survive? Can you just give us a brief
Jane Stark:kind of walkthrough of how how that looked? And what what you
Jane Stark:came to with that?
Adele Anderson:You know, I, it was interesting, I never told
Adele Anderson:anybody about my near death experience for 25 years. Wow.
Adele Anderson:But behind the scenes, I was silently searching for the
Adele Anderson:reasons behind my survival. And I first became a homeopath, that
Adele Anderson:mind body connection, the communication that is
Adele Anderson:continually happening between our mind and our body, the
Adele Anderson:messengers that go back and forth, the feelings that we have
Adele Anderson:are not random. And understanding that there is a
Adele Anderson:there is a language, and a lot of times it's lost, because we
Adele Anderson:just haven't been taught about that. So I did gain some
Adele Anderson:fundamental knowledge of mind and body through that process.
Adele Anderson:And that was helpful, but it still didn't give me the
Adele Anderson:answers. It wasn't until I understood, you know, the
Adele Anderson:fundamentals of the subconscious brain, which works at 120 to
Adele Anderson:140,000 miles per hour downloads 40,000 bits of information per
Adele Anderson:second different than the neocortex, which is our greatest
Adele Anderson:Phaedrus invention, but works at about 120 miles per hour
Adele Anderson:downloads 40 bits of information, and we retained
Adele Anderson:seven. Right? So, you know, this is brilliant, but slow kicks in.
Adele Anderson:Because it's analyzing and rationalizing. And really, this
Adele Anderson:powerful brain, middle brain is where all the action takes
Adele Anderson:place. And the speed of it is enormous. But the function of
Adele Anderson:it, its only purpose is to keep us alive physiologically that
Adele Anderson:was working in my favor.
Jen Lang:Definitely, then
Adele Anderson:the second thing that it's supposed to do is to
Adele Anderson:do exactly what we ask, ah, this becomes, you know, this is like
Adele Anderson:the perfect storm, keep me alive, keep my survival and do
Adele Anderson:exactly what I asked they match up. If I would have said, I
Adele Anderson:really want to get out, I can't get out. I don't know what to
Adele Anderson:do. I'm not good enough. I don't believe I would have survived.
Adele Anderson:Oh, I just felt like I'm getting out of the plane now. And that's
Adele Anderson:another key is our brain doesn't understand the past or the
Adele Anderson:future. Those are manmade ideals. You only understand the
Adele Anderson:moment, the decision that we're making right now can influence
Adele Anderson:the future cannot influence the past. But we have to understand
Adele Anderson:that our brains capacity is to work with what we ask now. A
Adele Anderson:little bit like a computer the information that you put in so
Adele Anderson:us as coaches off often, you know, have our clients visualize
Adele Anderson:the future that they want. So think of this as putting the
Adele Anderson:programs in the data is going into the computer so that then
Adele Anderson:we can recognize that when we get there. But if we don't have
Adele Anderson:that information in And if we say I want to do that tomorrow,
Adele Anderson:next week, or maybe or try, our brain doesn't know what to do
Adele Anderson:with that. And so it does nothing. And this is where the
Adele Anderson:capacity for our belief systems to really sabotage us come in. I
Adele Anderson:can't do it. I don't know enough. Why me? You know, or,
Adele Anderson:you know, we could get into victimhood. Opening, none of
Adele Anderson:those offer us solutions, and none of them turn on that switch
Adele Anderson:to have this brain working for us.
Jane Stark:Yeah, it's interesting stories. As you're
Jane Stark:sharing that and reflecting on my own life, I can see all of a
Jane Stark:sudden, I'm like, wow, I went through a period about, I don't
Jane Stark:know, 15 years ago, where my husband and I were like, have,
Jane Stark:we felt like a black cloud over us? Like, it's just an end, my
Jane Stark:journey has been completely shifting that and, and so I'm
Jane Stark:just having a bit of an aha moment of like, wow, it is so
Jane Stark:powerful. And as you share that, I can see where I did that
Jane Stark:personally in my life, over the last 10 years.
Adele Anderson:And you guys talk about radical
Adele Anderson:responsibility. Yeah. So this, is it. Like, we take
Adele Anderson:responsibility for every single thing that's going on? Yeah,
Adele Anderson:there's no sidestepping it. Right. We choose
Jane Stark:to read chose to save yourself that day.
Adele Anderson:Yes. And I didn't, I wasn't, you know, and
Adele Anderson:this is, it shows up in the language that we use. No, it not
Adele Anderson:taking responsibility is becoming a victim, saying that I
Adele Anderson:don't have the ability over my own circumstance, where when we
Adele Anderson:own it, we step into our power, this is where the game changes.
Jane Stark:Absolutely.
Jen Lang:Oh, there's so much more I want to unpack here. But
Jen Lang:I think we'll have to save this for another episode. But I'm the
Jen Lang:owning it piece, I'm going to sort of park this idea in here
Jen Lang:is the I hear so many of the other, I'm going to say
Jen Lang:objections to the owning it and excuses to the owning it, and
Jen Lang:they're out there. And the owning your ship piece and not
Jen Lang:everyone else's, that really just sums it up. It's like it,
Jen Lang:Elva gives you permission to shut out all that other noise.
Jen Lang:And decide how you want to, like you chose to live, how you want
Jen Lang:to live is, is up to you, you know, I have so many wonderful
Jen Lang:examples of friends who've, you know, moved up from other
Jen Lang:countries in admin complete poverty, who made very conscious
Jen Lang:decisions early on, and are now you know, keynote speakers in
Jen Lang:the UK have having made these decisions that buy that along
Jen Lang:their journey that, you know, so it's, and it's not, it's not as
Jen Lang:simple as quote unquote, laziness or anything like that.
Jen Lang:It's that it's everything tied in. It's those thought patterns.
Jen Lang:It's those beliefs. It's the conditions in which you've been
Jen Lang:raised. It's your tendencies. Based on the NLP pieces, it's
Jen Lang:all of these factors that bring you to a place where you are.
Jen Lang:Oh, so fascinating.
Jane Stark:Yeah, the biggest, like, what I'm hearing too, is
Jane Stark:it's the power of having that awareness of your language. It
Jane Stark:can be if I'm, you know, hearing it, like as simple as starting
Jane Stark:there. What is your language saying? If you're again, you
Jane Stark:know, if you put it to a money thing, if you're talking in lack
Jane Stark:all the time.
Adele Anderson:Yeah. And it's body, mind and soul, right? So,
Adele Anderson:I love words impact all aspects of our beingness. And, you know,
Adele Anderson:they're a really easy one to target as weight people, you
Adele Anderson:know, people love to talk about weight diets or, you know,
Adele Anderson:universal, there's always the next greatest fix, but it really
Adele Anderson:begins in the minds, you know, how do I see myself what do I
Adele Anderson:believe about me? So here is somebody who wants to lose
Adele Anderson:weight. And you know, they're they're doing well, maybe
Adele Anderson:they're on a diet, maybe they're exercising whatever it is, they
Adele Anderson:might do. At some point, they're gonna fall off the cabbage
Adele Anderson:truck, it just happens. So you know, get back up. Keep moving
Adele Anderson:towards your goal. But where we see the sabotage is that you
Adele Anderson:show up at work, you go to a dinner party, and someone says
Adele Anderson:to you the great and the thought that goes through your mind as I
Adele Anderson:thought I looked fat, I changed three times before I got here.
Adele Anderson:thing though, so when the mind deep within the mind, we have
Adele Anderson:this belief system that's tripping us up. That's tripping
Adele Anderson:us up for our ability, in this case to You know, get the body
Adele Anderson:that we like. And then we could get into the, into the we're not
Adele Anderson:a body
Jane Stark:that is another conversation to go to have a
Adele Anderson:body just a little quick thing. And you are
Adele Anderson:telling your body that you don't love your body. What then this
Adele Anderson:poor body that's supporting you through this life that you have
Adele Anderson:feels unloved. And what happens then? Right? So love yourself.
Jane Stark:It even reminds me of that language, that x
Jane Stark:experiment, I can't remember the specific name of it, but where
Jane Stark:you either a plant or we did it with an apple in our house, but
Jane Stark:you cut an apple in half, and you put b one is the good apple
Jane Stark:and one is the bad apple and the bad apple rots faster. And you
Jane Stark:end every day like we did it with our kids to show the power
Jane Stark:of our line of language and belief. And you know, and so
Jane Stark:yeah, and I mean, try it it and I heard somebody refer to it the
Jane Stark:other day and saying what they did with plant and the one that
Jane Stark:was the bad plant where you speak to the bad plant in
Jane Stark:negative and in negative language. So you've come up to
Jane Stark:me like, I hate you. You're ugly, you're whatever. It dies.
Jane Stark:Yeah, way faster. And this is without watering it.
Adele Anderson:Yeah, they have generational memories. Yeah.
Adele Anderson:Yeah, well actually shrink away from somebody who's been mean to
Adele Anderson:them in the past. It's quite fascinating. The whole
Jane Stark:Yeah, so it just reminds me though to the body
Jane Stark:part of the you're talking about right? Like if that's the power
Jane Stark:of our words to things like, like an apple or a plant that
Jane Stark:are living think about what our body is doing in reaction to
Jane Stark:that. Language.
Jen Lang:Yes, cells we haven't even touched on like the
Jen Lang:frequency of sound and the frequencies of love. So there's
Jen Lang:like the shape of the words. But I've obviously I work in music
Jen Lang:and frequencies. So when we're calling in positive frequency,
Jen Lang:and our cellular structure is a huge portion of it as water I
Jen Lang:think, Jane, you're talking about the dr. Emoto. syndrome is
Jen Lang:probably the core right? Yeah. And that frequency, the sound
Jen Lang:and frequencies of love and expansion and growth and
Jen Lang:acceptance of belonging all like yes, we've given words to them.
Jen Lang:But if you are the, the words are carried on the frequency. So
Jen Lang:all of those need to be in harmony together to make that
Jen Lang:word, the most potent and the most powerful that it can be for
Jen Lang:that situation. Oh so much.
Jane Stark:Wow. Okay, we are out of time. But thank you so
Jane Stark:much, Adele, this was such a fabulous, deep conversation.
Jane Stark:Thank you for showing up and sharing your story and your
Jane Stark:wisdom with our audience. Thank you, where can our audience find
Jane Stark:you?
Adele Anderson:My website is Life Coach adele.com Yes, that
Adele Anderson:life coach Adele, is my email me on Facebook on Instagram. See me
Adele Anderson:on lots of podcasts. If you Google my name, it should show
Adele Anderson:him her Dell and
Jen Lang:all the links are in the show notes people. So if
Jen Lang:you're listening, just please just go to the show notes.
Jen Lang:You'll find everything you need to get in contact with Adele
Jen Lang:there, including the links to the sources we discussed. Thank
Jen Lang:you, Fidel. This has been so much fun. We'll have you get
Jen Lang:back again probably sometime later this year to revisit some
Jen Lang:of these beautiful topics.
Adele Anderson:I would really enjoy that. Thank you so much
Adele Anderson:for having me.
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