How to Set Boundaries You Can Stick To

The holidays are quickly approaching – or if you are in the US – they’re here. Humans stuck down, what I call, The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole are often stressed, depressed, angry, frustrated, filled with resentment, and neglect self-care. Experts suggest setting boundaries. But, setting boundaries can be really difficult when what we desire most is connection and belonging. Boundaries can feel counter to our desires. 

But if we develop boundaries that naturally arise from a place of knowing our own needs, they can be easier to maintain. 

In today’s episode, we learn the strategy of AWW – Awareness, Wants and Whys. AWW allows us to step away from DOing all the things and get intentionally clear on what’s going on internally. We also learn about RP – Realistic and Power. RP helps us to develop actions that come from a place of AWW, by getting clear on what we realistically can control, and exercising our personal power in holiday situations.   

Take a listen and learn how these strategies can help you through the holiday season. And, I’ll even teach you an embodied practice that allows you to let hurtful words fly past you in social settings.

Influential sources:

David Weinstock – executive director of Liminal Somatics. Especially see his book Becoming what you need.


About the Host:

Elizabeth Martin-Chan is an empowerment coach inspiring and emboldening women to lovingly embrace their gifts, passions, and innate worth. She believes that women everywhere can fearlessly thrive in their authenticity. Elizabeth helps women climb out of the People Pleasing Rabbit Hole so they can feel entitled to their needs and desires; excited to jump out of bed every morning; and confident in negotiating the path they walk. She is your accomplice in disrupting status quos, so you can reclaim self-acceptance.

Personal Links:

website: elizabethmartinchan.com
instagram: elizabeth.martin.chan 

Resource Links

Grab your free copy of Adventure in Reclaiming Your Life: 5 Secrets Every People Pleasing Woman Should Know Now at reclaimingselfacceptance.com 

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