We hear a lot about the nervous system these days, but what is it we are actually talking about? Before talking to my guest, Lauren Isaacs, I had a basic knowledge of the nervous system but she’s made me understand it’s workings and purpose in a whole new way!
We are talking about “Polyvagal Theory” which is all about learning the biological order of human response that we ALL experience. So, when you LOSE IT, know that it’s not your fault, you’re triggered and your nervous system is reacting. No need to beat yourself up, feel ashamed, tell yourself a story about how terrible you/your reaction is, just notice it, accept it and take action to calm yourself (in really simple ways).
Lauren explains that the nervous system from the moment we are born is looking for cues of safety and danger all the time. It’s meant to protect us and keep us safe. BUT as we live our lives and have experiences, like growing up in a home with lots of shouting, means shouting will equal danger and become a trigger for you. If you grew up with neglect, the nervous system doesn’t know how to regulate itself and that can lead us down a path that’s destructive.
Understanding the way our nervous systems work for ourselves and our kids, allows us to better accept our reactions and our childrens’.
When you’re feeling triggered, remember to use that as your signal to pause and take a breath. Notice what you’re feeling and give yourself an opportunity to see if you can both accept the situation and reframe it.
This episode will serve as your gateway to using your nervous system to help you live a more connected, regulated and happy life!
For Lauren’s document with tips on how to begin connecting to your own nervous system/your child’s nervous system, you can download it from the Parent Toolbox. www.parent-toolbox.com
About Lauren Isaacs
Lauren is a psychologist specializing in Trauma/PTSD. She has worked in a variety of settings in different countries around the world. Her therapeutic approach focuses on the mind-body connection & importance of a regulated nervous system in order to live a balanced life. As a mother of two young children, she is passionate in helping both parents and the future generations to befriend their own nervous systems and create loving, healthy and positive connections.
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email: laurenrisaacs@gmail.com
Website: https://www.body-sense.org/
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