DR. ARTHIE MOORE-ROBBERTS - Compassionate Leader of Influence

Hi, I'm Tammy Gross, the Scriptprenuer. Welcome to Reel Life Stories where difference makers come to share their Hollywood worthy transformation stories. I love interviewing people who faced a mountain, overcome it the hard way, and figured out a solution to help the rest of us conquer that same mountain. Because when we share our stories, we change lives.

Okay, so today I have a really special guest, her name is Dr. Arthie Moore-Robberts, and she is a compassionate leader of influence. Our theme or is a seasoned entrepreneur and founder of celebrating Humanity International and key leadership International. And she's also operating nationally and internationally for over 24 years. Now, that might sound a little familiar because she has some of the same things that she's been doing with her husband that we've spoken to. And we have a special treat for you that this is the other half that he was talking about quite a bit. And she's also an international keynote speaker, a leadership coach a diversity and inclusion specialists and has her own weekly live radio show in the USA. With IBG. Our network, her impact expands to top levels of government boards of directors, universities, schools, orphanages, youth and women empowerment programs. I mean, this woman does it all, doesn't she? Well, welcome are the

thank you and absolute privilege to be with you.

Well, I am really privileged to have you here. And I should probably call you Dr. RSC. Is that what you prefer? Usually,

though, you can lose the Dr., it's fine.

Yeah because I think I think of you as a friend already. So I love that. I love that no pretension there at all. No, you know, you are showing up in the world in amazing ways. I mean, just reading just a tiny, tiny little bit of your bio and, and there's more that you'll be able to read about her, we're gonna give you more information about her at the end of this. But in the meantime, you know, you're showing up in the world in ways that help so many different people. I mean, just just the vast array of types of people and people in different situations that you're helping, and to have that kind of a giving spirit and to have that mission in life. You know, I have to imagine that something happened somewhere along the way, maybe it was a gradual thing. But I'm really curious to know where it all kind of started, like when you notice that you had a problem. Or that you know, that you saw that other people had a problem that maybe you could help solve. But you didn't know how and everything. I'm just I'm just curious for you to just take us back to the beginning of where you started becoming aware that you wanted to show up in the world the way that you are now?

Well, that's a beautiful question. And what I love about it, it's a very thoughtful one. Because normally we talk about our successes right here right now, where were we began is the biggest clue to our transition to our transformation to what I had to embrace, what's our tech knowledge, and what I needed to deal with, in terms of my life story. So I think with scripture printer, we're talking about what is what's cryptid your life to create this entrepreneurial journey, and the impact that it has on people around the world. And what I love about it is that it doesn't start off with with an aha moment, it starts off with trauma, and it starts off with unhealed parts. And basically, it's it's a story of between the ages of three and 13, I was sexually abused. And at the age of 13, I was actually raped at gunpoint by a policeman. And I had a lot of trauma and injuries and things like that. But the biggest thing that happened to me is in those moments of a person coming to me and sitting next to me, it was a social worker who said to me, none of this was your fault. But please remember this, you deserve the best in life. And for some reason those words stuck within me and I did not understand what being intentional meant. I did not understand what affirmations were or what it meant to seed into somebody. Those were all things that I learned later down in life. But it was that trigger. That's the aha moment for me that I never deserved any of the things that happened to me and all of their trauma and all of the pain and suffering that I had was based on the fact that I was brought up in a community that was a very closed or community where there's a pretense of respect, based on the perfect family model, which meant that wherever happened remained behind closed doors, all of the abuse every single thing. And nobody spoke about it. And for me, that was the most hurtful thing, that there was no support, there was no guidance, there was no place that I could go to knowing that I wouldn't be heard and that I will be believed. Because in our community, religion and and upbringing and traditions was a massive thing, which meant that when my story came out at 13, I was stigmatized by everybody around me, I was seen as the person who'd now made a black mark, not just on my family, but an entire community, which means that I was bullied in so many different ways. And so I went internally into myself. And I actually started to believe I was not worth it. And so all of that belief systems, and all of those things grew within me in a very subtle, unconscious way. And somewhere along the line, I learned about how art and photography can be my guide, which means that my art teacher was the next person who gave me the aha moment and the skills and the tools to cope differently. He gave me a camera because he saw me one day just sitting and staring off into the distance. And he asked me what was wrong, and I just did not want to talk to another man. I had already started to build those belief systems and stereotypes and prejudices already at that young age. But he said to me, may I give you a gift in this? And I was thinking immediately men and a gift equals more trauma? And I said, No, thank you. But he says, Hold on one second. Listen to me and what I'm trying to explain to you first, before you say no. And in that moment, I realized I will say no to me, not to him.

And so I listened, I stopped and listen, and he passed me a camera. And he said, This is how, how this camera works. And as you're staring, I would like for you to capture and frame what stands out for you. Because there's beauty in every single thing. And life happens through the lens you look through. And so in that moment, for me nature, photography, music, became my healing partner in my journey. And as I grew, I actually took on karate and martial arts. And I became the biggest bully there was because I thought, I'm going to now solve injustice in this world by taking on any guy that hurts a girl. And because I did not feel protected, I decided I'm going to do this. And my next aha moment was that I was the bully. I was hurting people by thinking that I was wrongfully writing their their wrongs. And I thought, No, I'm actually the problem. And that

amazing epiphany for anybody to have to have that kind of insight about yourself. And it sounds like you are at a pretty young age too. And it's like, that's, that's actually commendable that you could even see that that just shows that you are already a deep thinker. Wow. I'm sorry, I keep going.

That was that was the story of my high school years, I became known as Hells Angel, and I would wear leather jackets, and red shoes and everything that was out of the norm. I broke every rule there was because I just had I was done with rules. So that's where my rebellious nature came from. But then I realized at 17, this was not working for me. And so I had another thought, why don't I make a decision to stop everything that hurts other people, because that will be the most difficult thing for me to do. And so I actually looked at where I am in my, in my journey, and I said, Well, what next? And that is to teach people and that is to guide people. And so from that moment I made the decision, that compassion was what I was lacking. Compassion was the thing that I craved the most kindness from other people to feel good enough. That is what I was looking for. That is the biggest obstacle that I will I actually had to overcome, so that I can let go of all of the anger and sadness and frustration and realize that I was enough. And it's not a motivational speech to somebody you say you are enough but we don't teach people how to and the power of the decision led to me having different access to different choices. I started resonating at a very different level of energy, I started to look at how I can improve myself. So I became more intentional. And then I realized that as I was being more intentional, I was influencing people in a good way. And so that attracted that to me. And then I had the incredible privilege to meet John Keel when I was 19. And he taught me about mind power, and how to realign my unconscious mindset, and realign and recreate the powerful mindset I deserved. So that words of you deserve the best. Now I had meaning the whole thing of the of life is seen through the lens that you choose. That meant that I was always responsible for how I was looking at everything in life. And so I changed everything around me, my behavior, my habits, my thoughts. And I realized that to talk with kindness into people, was the greatest gift I could give. And so I started to learn how to develop myself, and today to read over 10,000 books, just to be able to understand people to be able to engage more clearly. So for an obstacle hub, trying to find compassion, share it, I realized that I need to challenge everything I heard question everything, not believe other people's perspectives, which led me to challenge the way people teach us. We buy into other people's words, and we allow it to lead us astray. And so when I heard the words, the glass ceiling, is the reason for why most people don't prosper, they do not grow, why they're limited in their thinking. I said, that's enough. That is absolute nonsense. Well, I use stronger words than that. I actually say that's, that is something that I would never buy into, because glass is see through, it is transparent, and it can be broken. So what is in our mindsets that we need to challenge that we need to let go off within our own belief systems, and the things that we hold ourselves back without blaming other people

rarely, it's true. It's like, it's like, we're minds in a box, right? We're minds. And in this, this invisible box that it's like we put around ourselves, and a ceiling on the box that it's like, just just push it. I love that.

Exactly. And, you know, through the journey, I realized that the thing that people crave the most was to feel seen. I never felt seen when I was younger, I'm sure realized, this is where my journey, my purpose is going to be. The greatest gift I can give to people is to make them feel seen, to feel honored, to feel respected, to feel valued as a human being. And that's why I created the business, celebrating humanity. Let's celebrate the brilliance and the beauty of the person in front of us. Let's sow into them. Everything that they deserve, it's a firm within them, that they truly deserve the best. But I could not do that, until I actually looked at my own transformation. And so I actually questioned everything that I thought and reflection was the key.

That is so amazing, because you had a depth of soul that you just couldn't get in touch with when you were younger. And so the story is just so powerful of everything that you had to go through so that you could show up. Now, I say that a lot show up in the world, because that is what we do, right? We show up in the world. And sometimes we show up in a way like I'm one of those people who I can show up into a room. And I can bring the whole room down as much as I can bring the whole room. I just have that kind of personality. And I choose to bring the whole room up. And that is what you're doing. But I didn't always choose that. And you had to go through an awful lot to get to that point. It took compassion to you to become compassion. So i i I am so glad that you were able to share so much of that with us. And I know there's a lot more to the story. But there's some of that, that we can also learn more about, you have something that you want to give to the audience who's listening. And it's called the value of compassion. Tell us a little bit about that. I think you said it was an excerpt, right?

It's an excerpt from the book that I'm writing the compassionate leader of influence. And I wrote the value of compassion outlining all of the different areas that people can use in two pages, just to engage with themselves, to uplift their own ability to connect emotionally with people who need it the most, and to have coping mechanisms that guides them. And it's a tool that if they used it with their friends, their family with their partners, just reading it together is beautiful insights into the human experience.

All right, oh, I love that, well, we're putting it into the show notes. So and I think it's going to be across the screen here too at the bottom. So you'll have that. And also, that's, that's where they can also learn more about you and, and they can contact you if they need to and want to. And I and I just love that you're you're giving that I mean, that's compassionate right there that you want to help people no matter where they are right now in their world. That, that that's something that we all can learn from. And I appreciate that. So, I have a final question for you. It's a little odd. And, and you can answer it any way you want. But it's kind of a two part question. If money were not an issue at all, what is your big, fat, hairy, audacious goal in life? And or, and I know you're gonna take this and run with it? What is the legacy that you want to leave behind?

But the answer to the first question is wanderlust. It is, through this world, and to explore the brilliance and beauty of every human being I can interact with, and learn from them and their wisdom. The second question is, I believe in living a legacy, rather than leaving a legacy. I don't want to die and have people look at the building I want to live and know that I'm impacting people right now, in every moment, every second, I'm honoring people, when they walk away from an interaction with me, they need to feel as if they were worth it, and feel so uplifted, that they actually seek to engage with their own magic.

Oh that is that is so awesome. And and and I, you know, we've talked before but also I've spoken to your husband Yun and and I'm really impressed by how you guys experience the world and, and, and have come together to to share a like mindedness that you already had and that you've obviously formed as you've been together, which I think is just so amazing. So I can't wait to actually talk to you some more. I'll probably be getting requests anyhow, from from the audience. Now have the two of you come back together. But in the meantime, I want to give you the final word is there a final word that you want to leave everybody with?

There's a beautiful thing there. Give yourself full permission that as a human being, you will never like every person you interact with. However, your ability to show respect and be respectful is a direct reflection of your character dignity as a human being.

Perfect. Thank you so much.

Most welcome, been a pleasure.