Aug. 6, 2024

A Digital Marketing Wake Up Call - REPLAY - | RR270

A Digital Marketing Wake Up Call - REPLAY - | RR270

An Inc. 500 CEO - Co-founder of Civilis Consulting - author of Clicksand - Bill Troy is our amazing guest for today’s episode. He is a sought-after speaker on alternative perspectives, having helped global brands like Sony, Disney, and Nestle find new market opportunities for over 25 years.

Bill is a Contrarian – and takes a unique approach to the power of building authentic relationships in a crowded digital world.

In this episode you will learn:

  • Online marketers actually don't use online marketing.
  • Your best and biggest sales come from human interaction and relationships.
  • An interesting little sales anecdote – and a lesson in sales
  • You've got to trust your gut: it's there for a reason.


You can find Bill at: https://www.civilisconsulting.com/


A little about me: 

I began my career as a teacher, was a corporate trainer for many years, and then found my niche training & supporting business owners, entrepreneurs & sales professionals to network at a world-class level. My passion is working with motivated people, who are coachable and who want to build their businesses through relationship marketing and networking (online & offline). I help my clients create retention strategies, grow through referrals, and create loyal customers by staying connected. 


In appreciation for being here, I have a couple of items for you: 

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Transcript
Janice Porter:

Hi, everyone, and welcome to the relationships



Janice Porter:

rule podcast. I'm your host, Janice Porter. And my special



Janice Porter:

guest this week is Bill Troy. Welcome to the show, Bill. So



Janice Porter:

thank you. So I've had the privilege and pleasure of



Janice Porter:

interviewing Bill's co founder in his company and wife, Kim, on



Janice Porter:

my podcast just recently, and I hadn't met Bill before. And I



Janice Porter:

started looking into what he was all about, and decided that I



Janice Porter:

needed to talk to him too. And he kindly offered or agreed to



Janice Porter:

come on the podcast, because Bill wrote a book called click



Janice Porter:

sand. First of all, I love the name. Second of all, the the add



Janice Porter:

on to that is cliques, and how online marketing will destroy



Janice Porter:

your business. And the unlikely secret to saving and is that



Janice Porter:

part of the Yes,



Bill Troy:

yes. Right. The publisher said you can't just



Bill Troy:

leave it with a like a negative like that. Exactly. Right. And,



Janice Porter:

and so just the first thing that I want to say



Janice Porter:

to you is contrarian, people are contrarian. So talk to me about



Janice Porter:

that, because I think I'm a bit on your side with this. So do



Janice Porter:

share, please.



Bill Troy:

Well, I will contrarian is just challenging



Bill Troy:

the status quo. You know, it probably started when I was a



Bill Troy:

kid probably started, you know, in school, every teacher go,



Bill Troy:

Wait a minute. Where'd you get that? Right? Can you prove that?



Bill Troy:

So? I just kind of taking on a persona. Yeah, I just I just



Bill Troy:

feel like so many people just go along with what everybody says



Bill Troy:

it's like,



Janice Porter:

yeah. And so you were that kid that always said,



Janice Porter:

why? Oh, yeah. Yes. I know, there used to be a kid in my



Janice Porter:

math class, back in elementary school. And every time the math



Janice Porter:

teacher said something, she had her hand up. But sir, but Sir,



Janice Porter:

and I still remember this to this day, because that's exactly



Janice Porter:

what she was doing. She was challenging everything that you



Janice Porter:

said. And we were in elementary school. So God knows what she



Janice Porter:

ended up being but the kind of thing to know. Yeah.



Bill Troy:

So I was I was not the polite one to raise my



Bill Troy:

hands. I was just in the back of the room making smart aleck



Bill Troy:

comments. So same family? Yeah,



Janice Porter:

yeah, yeah, exactly. So what I what I tell



Janice Porter:

me about cliques and and you know, what started that book.



Janice Porter:

And, and I know a little bit, but I want my audience to hear



Bill Troy:

from you. So the book really started from an



Bill Troy:

interaction we had with an elderly couple who came to



Bill Troy:

CIVILUS for marketing help. They had a business, it was an online



Bill Troy:

business. And they were spending lots of money on online ads, and



Bill Troy:

they were making sales. And they came to us and said, We really



Bill Troy:

need that your help to make to make it work to make more money



Bill Troy:

to make more sales, and we analyze the business, we



Bill Troy:

realized they were losing money on every sale, they were



Bill Troy:

spending more to get each sale with the online ads, and they



Bill Troy:

were making in profit. And they didn't really understand that



Bill Troy:

they were naive, they've been sold a franchise business was



Bill Troy:

supposed to be turnkey, was supposed to be their retirement,



Bill Troy:

they put everything into it. And they couldn't explain to them



Bill Troy:

that this is a trap, this is a negative thing. You there's no



Bill Troy:

way out of this, you've been sold a bill of goods. And it was



Bill Troy:

just really heartbreaking for us to see people sort of fall for a



Bill Troy:

sales pitch like that, and believe that with all their



Bill Troy:

heart to need to believe with all their heart, and it's like,



Bill Troy:

Okay, enough of this, I'm gonna, you know, I wasn't planning to



Bill Troy:

write a book, but it's like, I'm gonna write a book and tell



Bill Troy:

people about this. Because there are things about technology is



Bill Troy:

great. But there are things about and especially the way



Bill Troy:

it's sold and used, that is very destructive. And a lot of people



Bill Troy:

don't realize that. And a lot of business owners fall for it and



Bill Troy:

end up hurting themselves without realizing. So that's



Bill Troy:

what quicksand is out there to stop.



Janice Porter:

Yes, it's so true. You say, I know you. I've



Janice Porter:

heard you say that. You can't when you can't trust online



Janice Porter:

marketing, because even the online marketers sell face to



Janice Porter:

face, right?



Bill Troy:

Well think about that. Yeah, you've never bought



Bill Troy:

online marketing with online marketing. No, I had actually



Bill Troy:

one time with a guy who thought I told this anecdote anecdote



Bill Troy:

before that was VP of Sales for an online marketing company was



Bill Troy:

a local company selling businesses getting local



Bill Troy:

businesses on the internet. I said, Well, how you getting



Bill Troy:

clients, we have ad sales reps calling on every business in



Bill Troy:

town, like do you hear this? What what you're even saying he



Bill Troy:

didn't even understand what he was saying. It was He was so



Bill Troy:

oblivious, thinking he was helping all these clients like



Bill Troy:

it. So online marketers don't use online marketing. And here's



Bill Troy:

the here's the funny thing. And it's not just a local agency



Bill Troy:

like that. If you do go on and you buy you buy AdWords or you



Bill Troy:

buy whatever and these days the big thing is recruiting so you



Bill Troy:

sign up for indeed, if your credit card and start getting an



Bill Troy:

account, guess what you're gonna get, you're gonna get a phone



Bill Troy:

call from a helpful consultant that those companies you know



Bill Troy:

what that call titles job is to sell you more to get you to buy



Bill Troy:

more clicks, more clicks, they're not there to help you



Bill Troy:

fill the position or make sales, they're there to sell clicks.



Bill Troy:

And it's going to seem very nice and open and wonderful. But



Bill Troy:

beware. So yeah, they don't use that they sell with old school



Bill Troy:

relationships and personal. So



Janice Porter:

I also I want to ask you about this because I my



Janice Porter:

experiences with LinkedIn, and I do LinkedIn training, as you



Janice Porter:

know, and I know that I heard you say on on, may have been



Janice Porter:

another podcast, that people are not using LinkedIn to increase



Janice Porter:

intimacy, but to coerce customers. And, and, and and



Janice Porter:

when they use that third party tool, let's say to help them get



Janice Porter:

more messages out to more people and connect to more people. It's



Janice Porter:

quite often it's about selling them something and pitching them



Janice Porter:

as well. And and so I talk to people all the time about you



Janice Porter:

know, it's about trying to build a relationship, not sell, sell,



Janice Porter:

sell. And so how can you do that when you're using a third party



Janice Porter:

tool or an online tool to make those connections and message



Janice Porter:

for you? What's your answer to that? What do you say to that?



Janice Porter:

Well,



Bill Troy:

it's not the tool, any more than it's paper or



Bill Troy:

telephone. I mean, you use tools all the time to communicate with



Bill Troy:

people, I mean, you don't always aren't always face to face. So



Bill Troy:

you do send people notes and letters and emails and



Bill Troy:

telephone. So it's not the tool itself, it's how you use the



Bill Troy:

tool, and who's teaching you how to use the tool. When someone



Bill Troy:

comes to you, you don't say send as many messages, you can do as



Bill Troy:

many people as you can, and just 1% of those people don't do that



Bill Troy:

sort of thing. So you can do that with paper. I mean, one of



Bill Troy:

the anecdotes in my book is the original spam. The first spam in



Bill Troy:

the history of the world is the MacDonald the Montgomery Ward



Bill Troy:

catalog, right. In the late 1800s, people started getting



Bill Troy:

catalogs in their mailbox that didn't ask for, which was



Bill Troy:

marketing, in hopes that some small percentage of people would



Bill Troy:

buy stuff that was the original spam unsolicited marketing



Bill Troy:

messages, now we get them. So if you're going to do spam, you can



Bill Troy:

do with any tool, I mean, you can do spam with telephone, you



Bill Troy:

know, robo calls. So it's not the tool, it's how you use it.



Bill Troy:

And it's not letting the people who sell the tool who make money



Bill Troy:

from the more you use the tool, make money from you more money



Bill Troy:

from you, if you use the tool more tell you how to use the



Bill Troy:

tool, it's usually about using it better, not more, right.



Janice Porter:

And you said something else that I absolutely



Janice Porter:

love, because I teach this as well is, you know, most people



Janice Porter:

look at the top of somebody's LinkedIn profile, and they never



Janice Porter:

dig deeper and look. And when I teach people how to create their



Janice Porter:

profile, I'm always saying add here, add there, do this, add



Janice Porter:

those little things that make you human that make you unique,



Janice Porter:

that show who you are, and then the people who are really paying



Janice Porter:

attention will find those things. And we'll use them in



Janice Porter:

conversation with you. That's when you know, they're trying to



Janice Porter:

build a relationship.



Bill Troy:

Yeah. And one of the things I would add to that, I



Bill Troy:

always get pushback from people, well, I don't have time to



Bill Troy:

scroll down. Everyone's thinking, blah, blah, blah. And



Bill Troy:

you know what the answer to that is, that means you're going



Bill Troy:

after people that are too small, you need to go after bigger



Bill Troy:

customers. If you don't have the time to invest in a



Bill Troy:

relationship, then you're trying to sell something cheap and fast



Bill Troy:

and quick. And that is not a relationship. That's a



Bill Troy:

transaction. Right? And most likely your best sales, your



Bill Troy:

biggest sales ever were from human interaction and



Bill Troy:

relationships. So go after bigger customers that you can



Bill Troy:

invest the time. And every company can do that everybody



Bill Troy:

starts to say, well, we don't, I don't care. If you're a hot dog



Bill Troy:

vendor on the sidewalk, you can go after bigger customers get a



Bill Troy:

catering gig, right? corporate events, get it sold to a



Bill Troy:

corporate event and show up at a corporate party. Everybody can



Bill Troy:

go after bigger customers where there's the room and their



Bill Troy:

resources to invest in that relationship, and then use the



Bill Troy:

tools to do that. So



Janice Porter:

to me, that sounds like you have to be



Janice Porter:

creative number one. And also though, you have to have the



Janice Porter:

confidence to do that.



Bill Troy:

Yes. I think it's not even just that it's also



Bill Troy:

sticking to your values. I think there's fear. I'm afraid that if



Bill Troy:

I don't hit more people today than my competitor, I'm gonna



Bill Troy:

fall behind. There's a sort of fear of fear of missing out



Bill Troy:

right home. And that is perpetuated by the people who



Bill Troy:

sell digital marketing tools, massive marketing tools, and



Bill Troy:

you've got to find out what's true inside you and go with



Bill Troy:

that. And that's that's a message I share a lot with CEOs



Bill Troy:

because what I find is the business owners, let's say



Bill Troy:

they're a little older and grayer like I am. They're told



Bill Troy:

that they're out of touch, right? Because they didn't just



Bill Troy:

graduate from a marketing online marketing class at the community



Bill Troy:

college last month, and so they don't know the latest and



Bill Troy:

greatest digital tools. And so you're, you're, you're you don't



Bill Troy:

get it step out of the way. Let me show you how it's done. It's



Bill Troy:

like, No, you know, the root values of this company and what



Bill Troy:

the customer needs. And don't let people push you aside, step



Bill Troy:

back in and say, Look, this is what we do. This is how we treat



Bill Troy:

people. And if we're going to use digital tools, it's still



Bill Troy:

got fit within that we cannot sacrifice that for some, you



Bill Troy:

know, Mirage, we're going to chase with some perfect keyword.



Janice Porter:

Yeah, that's so true. So it's, it's also then



Janice Porter:

about that famous word that I love is wisdom is about those of



Janice Porter:

us with some wisdom needs to stand in our stand our ground



Janice Porter:

and, and know and believe that what we're saying still holds



Janice Porter:

true. And I think it does. And, and it's funny, because I was



Janice Porter:

talking to a woman yesterday, about the other side of my



Janice Porter:

business, the relationship marketing tool that I use that



Janice Porter:

we've talked about. And she said, You know, I send cards to



Janice Porter:

my grandchildren, my, like, young adult grandchildren, and



Janice Porter:

my teenage grandchildren, but they never say thank you. She



Janice Porter:

said, I don't think they've been taught to say thank you. And I



Janice Porter:

said, first of all, they should be sending you cards and picking



Janice Porter:

up the phone and talking to you. But secondly, you're probably



Janice Porter:

right. I mean, in some cases, you know, that add mentality



Janice Porter:

that, that, you know, we're still busy that we just have to



Janice Porter:

keep moving, and we forget to teach our children some of these



Janice Porter:

things today, you know, because we're trying to do so many



Janice Porter:

things, and keep your head above water, generally speaking, but



Janice Porter:

that just made me think that's kind of fit with what you were



Janice Porter:

saying in terms of, you know, stick to your stick to your



Janice Porter:

ground. And, and, and know that it really, people have to trust



Janice Porter:

their gut more, I think, I don't know, I've been looking for



Janice Porter:

somebody to help me with a website. And I just knew when I



Janice Porter:

talked to this woman, that she was the right person for me. I



Janice Porter:

didn't know it was the relationship building the



Janice Porter:

feeling that I was getting, I wasn't getting snowed by I can



Janice Porter:

do this, this and this, right? So I didn't. So you've worked



Janice Porter:

with some big companies. In your time, you've worked with brands



Janice Porter:

like Sony and Disney and Nestle. Do you have an interesting story



Janice Porter:

from one of those that you can recall that that speaks to this?



Janice Porter:

Because to the power of relationships and in in



Janice Porter:

marketing?



Bill Troy:

Well, I'll tell you, so one of the things I think



Bill Troy:

it's all confusing in the world these days is what is marketing



Bill Troy:

or what is sales, I think a lot of people believe marketing is



Bill Troy:

sales, and the same thing. But I can tell you an interesting



Bill Troy:

little sales anecdote that relates to the relationship idea



Bill Troy:

about how I got to work for someone, okay, we we had a



Bill Troy:

client that was I owned a market research company for about 25



Bill Troy:

years. And we had done work for various clients, and a VP at one



Bill Troy:

of those clients was let go was out of work. And so, you know,



Bill Troy:

if you're going to work, no one wants to talk to you, because



Bill Troy:

they don't want to try to pitch me for a job. But I've been out



Bill Troy:

of work myself, when I was in my 20s, I worked for a company that



Bill Troy:

got bought by another company, and they had their own people.



Bill Troy:

So we were all getting checks and one meeting like see you're



Bill Troy:

out of here. So I've been out of work before. And I'm like, so I



Bill Troy:

reached out to Bruce, I'm like, Hey, what's going on, you got



Bill Troy:

some free time. But if you want to connect, let's talk and just



Bill Troy:

catch up, we had not had a lot of time to talk when he was a



Bill Troy:

client of ours. And so we actually kind of struck up a



Bill Troy:

little more of a relationship than we had before. And I I



Bill Troy:

didn't just call him because he was not at work. And I'd been



Bill Troy:

there myself, didn't think anything about it. And then he



Bill Troy:

got a job at Sony. And he called me and said, Hey, I'm going to



Bill Troy:

start at Sony next week, I want to talk to you about something,



Bill Troy:

okay. And sure enough, he had an idea that he came to me and



Bill Troy:

said, Can we do that that day? And I said, Yeah, we can



Bill Troy:

absolutely do that it turned into the biggest client we ever



Bill Troy:

had. And it was because I called an unemployed guy. So I'm sure



Bill Troy:

when your marketing agency comes in, they don't say, you know,



Bill Troy:

call everybody who's unemployed. But I didn't, I call them



Bill Troy:

because it was a relationship. But that was the kind of thing



Bill Troy:

that paid off down the road. So that was the beginning of let's



Bill Troy:

see some new ways to do things. And if you really sort of look



Bill Troy:

at what drives your business, what kind of relationships drive



Bill Troy:

your business. And so we actually turn that just to



Bill Troy:

finish that anecdote. We turned that into a process in our



Bill Troy:

company, we started watching the trade press, for people that



Bill Troy:

work at companies that people we knew who were out of work and we



Bill Troy:

reached out to him, we built a whole package to help them when



Bill Troy:

they were out of work. Make some introductions in those days.



Bill Troy:

This was in the 90s, early 2000s helped them build little



Bill Troy:

personal webpage like you're talking about LinkedIn, we just



Bill Troy:

help them at that moment when they needed help without any



Bill Troy:

expectation. We don't know if they're going to use our



Bill Troy:

services later but good relationship stuff, right? So



Bill Troy:

you don't know where you're going to find the right kinds of



Bill Troy:

relationships to help people with but that's



Janice Porter:

a great story because if you come from your



Janice Porter:

heart hmm, yeah, it pays off is that law of reciprocity too,



Janice Porter:

because you never know what's going to come back. It could



Janice Porter:

come from some Where else right?



Bill Troy:

So let me let me tell you when Bruce got the job at



Bill Troy:

Sony, yeah, his phone ringing off the hook that everybody



Bill Troy:

wants to call him. Right? Well, too late, right. So that's,



Bill Troy:

that's, yeah, there's



Janice Porter:

the moral to the story, right? Yeah, that's



Janice Porter:

really good. So I had asked in the information I sent you what



Janice Porter:

your favorite quote was, and you mentioned one from Steve Jobs.



Janice Porter:

It's not the tools you have faith in tools are just tools,



Janice Porter:

they work or they don't work. It's people you have faith in or



Janice Porter:

not. And that really speaks to what we just said. And yeah, and



Janice Porter:

he never struck me as a people person. Steve was who I love it



Janice Porter:

then. Exactly, exactly. You knew that? Yes, of course he did. And



Janice Porter:

when you Okay, so, your business now your CIVILUS consulting



Janice Porter:

business when your wife run together? I know she's the boss,



Janice Porter:

though. Right?



Bill Troy:

She is. Yeah, I'm the idea guy. Everything.



Janice Porter:

So is it now I know, it's been going for many



Janice Porter:

years now? Is does business come to you? Or are you still seeking



Janice Porter:

business? And if it comes to you, or when it comes to you? Do



Janice Porter:

you ever have to turn people wait, because they're not



Janice Porter:

thinking the way you want them? To think or?



Bill Troy:

Yeah, definitely comes to us. And we definitely



Bill Troy:

have to turn a lot of people away. Because we have very



Bill Troy:

specific mindset. And right, we're not going to work for



Bill Troy:

somebody that doesn't have that mindset. I'll give you an



Bill Troy:

example. Right now, recruiting is really big. I mean, everybody



Bill Troy:

needs talent. Everybody needs staff. Yeah, no one can find



Bill Troy:

enough and except our clients, we help them we help them



Bill Troy:

develop a relationship based recruiting strategy versus a



Bill Troy:

transaction based recruiting strategy. So somebody who is



Bill Troy:

spending 1000s of dollars a month on Indeed, and getting so



Bill Troy:

many clicks and applications that can't keep up with all of



Bill Troy:

them still aren't filling their positions. That's the kind of



Bill Troy:

person we're working with. Right now. They're coming to us,



Bill Troy:

because we've solved it for some other clients like, oh, call the



Bill Troy:

CIVILUS. Guys, they've got a solution to get out of that debt



Bill Troy:

trap. But they're some of those companies can't let go of it.



Bill Troy:

You know, I can't let go of this budget I spend on Indeed,



Bill Troy:

because then I won't have any clicks. Like, why do you want



Bill Troy:

clicks, you want clicks, you want people working here who



Bill Troy:

love working here. And that's a completely different approach



Bill Troy:

completely different. And some people are afraid to let go of



Bill Troy:

that the tools, the online tools are so addictive. And nobody



Bill Troy:

realizes how addictive they are. But if you're involved, you're



Bill Troy:

participating in almost like a casino. Dashboard, and you're



Bill Troy:

seeing that? Yeah.



Janice Porter:

Did they think they're getting more for their



Janice Porter:

money? Yes,



Bill Troy:

yeah, they've been, they forget what they're trying



Bill Troy:

to actually get, which is people to work there and stay there.



Bill Troy:

They think they're now trying to get clicks and views and opens



Bill Troy:

and likes and all that sort of stuff. Like, wait a minute, that



Bill Troy:

doesn't lead to anything, you don't want clicks. So we have



Bill Troy:

some people that just can't let go of that they're too afraid to



Bill Troy:

go in the direction of relationships, basically. And



Bill Troy:

it's like, well, we can't work well. So people



Janice Porter:

who have spent the money on something like



Janice Porter:

indeed and so on to do that, and then they come to you do you



Janice Porter:

take what they have and work from that and start to sift



Janice Porter:

through or do you go another approach completely?



Bill Troy:

We would say take the resources you're putting into it



Bill Troy:

into a deed and go somewhere else but we wouldn't try to



Bill Troy:

tweak their indeed campaign necessarily. No,



Janice Porter:

no, no, but they've got all these people are



Janice Porter:

all these. I don't even know how it works. So they get resumes.



Janice Porter:

Is that how they



Bill Troy:

Yeah, they get you know, they get applicants. It's



Janice Porter:

yeah, it doesn't matter. Yeah. I just thought I



Janice Porter:

like it's my hamster wheel. I also have resumes online that



Janice Porter:

they have to sift through route



Bill Troy:

don't fit anybody don't fit anything. It doesn't



Bill Troy:

constantly the applicant just hits up click apply, apply,



Bill Troy:

apply play can't filter anyone and then you just dealing with



Bill Troy:

all these. Yeah, so we would stop and say okay, whoa, whoa,



Bill Troy:

whoa, stop. Where did your best people come from? Who do you



Bill Troy:

love that works here? Who do you who would you want to get and



Bill Troy:

let's build a and so you end up building something that's



Bill Troy:

completely different rather than some online strategy you might



Bill Troy:

end up we have a moving company we work with we help them



Bill Troy:

connect into the local soccer community because it turns out



Bill Troy:

that soccer players are ideal. Yes, work to work in a moving



Bill Troy:

company because they're you don't need big and strong



Bill Troy:

stamina, right? Yes, yeah. And flexibility and because you got



Bill Troy:

you know, tools to help you lift everything. And so soccer, the



Bill Troy:

soccer community was the place to find people that love the job



Bill Troy:

and you could feed back and it and suddenly now we're this is



Bill Troy:

something more meaningful than just moving furniture, right?



Bill Troy:

Yeah, that's it. hear there's people watching for a reason



Bill Troy:

it's connected to what else that then things I love. And so you



Bill Troy:

know, it's a longer process than what I just explained. But



Bill Troy:

that's the direction you start going it is what it is if



Bill Troy:

somebody starts school or the community college or what's the



Bill Troy:

community, where do your people live? How do you get to know



Bill Troy:

them? And suddenly, there's no ads need to be run at all,



Bill Troy:

because everybody on the soccer team saying, Hey, guys, I love



Bill Troy:

this job, you gotta come work here and more applicants than



Bill Troy:

you can handle. So that's,



Janice Porter:

that's a great example. Actually, I quite like



Janice Porter:

that. That's very cool.



Bill Troy:

And you never know exactly where it's going to be



Bill Troy:

for each company. But for every company, you can find a way to



Bill Troy:

connect into some deeper thing with people and get people to



Bill Troy:

work there. Yeah,



Janice Porter:

for sure, for sure. I like that you, you use



Janice Porter:

the word and I'm just going back to something the volume versus



Janice Porter:

intimacy. I love that because that's really what it is. It's



Janice Porter:

about building that relationship. Now, I just want



Janice Porter:

to take a side to tour for a second. I know we weren't going



Janice Porter:

to talk about anything other than this piece. But I am a



Janice Porter:

curious person, which I'm going to talk to you about in a



Janice Porter:

minute. But my curiosity is about the music part of your



Janice Porter:

life. Sure. Talk to me about that. Like, are you a musician,



Janice Porter:

by the way?



Bill Troy:

No, I'm not a musician. Okay. Okay. I'm a



Bill Troy:

writer. Oh, yes. So I do songwriting. So that's a long



Bill Troy:

life. That's a lifelong process. I was in the radio business for



Bill Troy:

years and years ago, okay. And then as the market research



Bill Troy:

company I started was focusing on entertainment media. So we



Bill Troy:

worked for a lot of entertainment media clients, as



Bill Troy:

well as consumer clients who grew into that, but we worked



Bill Troy:

for a lot of record companies and radio stations, television



Bill Troy:

stations, and so on. And so that's how I got connected into



Bill Troy:

the music world. And then I, well, I have some creative bone



Bill Troy:

in my body. So I just start creating stuff. So now, I'm



Bill Troy:

involved in creating music and publishing some music and trying



Bill Troy:

to make that annual creative outlet.



Janice Porter:

And is that one genre or different genres?



Bill Troy:

It's different. So quickly, the music industry



Bill Troy:

story. If you're going to write music, and not be a performer,



Bill Troy:

really, country's probably about the only type of music where you



Bill Troy:

can do that, where you can write songs and other artists will



Bill Troy:

perform most other types of music, I guess, certainly, if



Bill Troy:

you're going to write plays, or something like that, or, or



Bill Troy:

classical type music, other artists would perform, and you



Bill Troy:

wouldn't actually be the performer. But if you're going



Bill Troy:

to be a pop star, or you're going to, you know, get into the



Bill Troy:

world of rap or rock, you're going to write your own



Bill Troy:

material, performing raw material. But a country is a



Bill Troy:

format where people artists perform other people's songs and



Bill Troy:

are looking for other songs. So that's the place where you can



Bill Troy:

write music, and have other people interested in performing.



Bill Troy:

And



Janice Porter:

those actually with that, with that genre with



Janice Porter:

country music, they're storytelling all the time,



Janice Porter:

right, more than any other genre. So that's kind of



Janice Porter:

interesting. Okay, thank you for sharing that with me. And I



Janice Porter:

said, curiosity, that's my favorite words. So I'd like to



Janice Porter:

ask you my two part question, which I love to ask my, my



Janice Porter:

guests. And the first part is do you think curiosity is innate?



Janice Porter:

Or learned? And the second part is, what are you most curious



Janice Porter:

about these days? Wow, I need



Bill Troy:

I think it's both I think that



Janice Porter:

you want me to read this note that you sent me



Janice Porter:

and you can talk from that?



Bill Troy:

I remind Sure. Yeah. I



Janice Porter:

just thought you weren't? You weren't sure. Go



Janice Porter:

ahead.



Bill Troy:

No, I'm, I'm just thinking about them. Before we



Bill Troy:

get into. I just think that is both. I think that we as a



Bill Troy:

species, we come with a certain amount of curiosity, but I think



Bill Troy:

we're sort of our brain is trained and formed in childhood



Bill Troy:

and a young adulthood about whether curiosity is rewarded.



Bill Troy:

So I think it's encouraged, you're not when you're growing



Bill Troy:

up, mine was encouraged to challenge the status quo, right.



Bill Troy:

So I do that as an adult. I mean, I my parents, you know,



Bill Troy:

challenge authority, you go back and tell them, you know, and so



Bill Troy:

that's what I do. So I think you come with a, like an ability for



Bill Troy:

curiosity, but then I think it's formed in your childhood about



Bill Troy:

whether you express it and go toward it.



Janice Porter:

That's a good answer. I've never heard that



Janice Porter:

one before. So that makes me want to ask you though, what did



Janice Porter:

your parents do that, that encouraged that? Contrary, it



Janice Porter:

can come prairie



Bill Troy:

can train them that my parents were both



Bill Troy:

contrarians, they are just and they taught me in both positive



Bill Troy:

and negative reinforcement ways, right to basically challenge



Bill Troy:

authority. Nobody's gonna tell you what to do. You're gonna No



Bill Troy:

one's gonna do that. And they even when they told me what to



Bill Troy:

do, my job is was to stand up to them say no, you're not, you



Bill Troy:

know, and I think they liked that. They liked that. You know,



Bill Troy:

they felt like they were making a strong man who would be able



Bill Troy:

to survive in a world and no one. So that was sort of You



Bill Troy:

know, our household challenged the rules. Yeah. Some of those



Bill Troy:

parents know when I got in trouble at school. I got in



Bill Troy:

trouble. You do the crime do the time. But I also got the wink.



Bill Troy:

So that was a good one. Don't do it again. Yeah. Yeah, that was



Bill Troy:

our house inside outside



Janice Porter:

thing. Yes. Okay, and, and so what are you most



Janice Porter:

curious about today?



Bill Troy:

I'm most curious about what's in my blind spot.



Bill Troy:

Right. So I don't know if you're familiar with Johari Window. And



Bill Troy:

people can Google that if they want J O H, a car I window is a



Bill Troy:

it's a little graphic that was designed by two guys named Joe



Bill Troy:

and Harris. Very creative name. But it basically divides the



Bill Troy:

world up into what you what you can see what you can't see. And



Bill Troy:

then what other people can see and what other people can't see.



Bill Troy:

It's a four little two by two box. Okay. But I really, as I've



Bill Troy:

gotten older, come to realize how much of the world in reality



Bill Troy:

is in that blind area that I can't see. Because I see what I



Bill Troy:

see, I believe what I believe, you know, like rules must be



Bill Troy:

challenged. Well, that's not true. It just is what I do.



Bill Troy:

Right? So what if rules aren't challenged. So this idea of



Bill Troy:

questioning what's really going on and looking for other



Bill Troy:

possibilities is what's always fascinating to me. And I think



Bill Troy:

that's where so much opportunity lies, is to go into areas. And



Bill Troy:

and I mentioned this when we were emailing back and forth



Bill Troy:

earlier about in the areas of adversity. So that's I mentioned



Bill Troy:

the Brian kite thing where he talks about tides consultant,



Bill Troy:

friend of mine who talks about how humans are not we're not



Bill Troy:

capable of recognize the difference in adversity and



Bill Troy:

opportunity. Frequently, what we think is one thing is the other,



Bill Troy:

you know, this looks great, and then it crashes or this looks



Bill Troy:

terrible, when it turns out to be great. So what he advocates



Bill Troy:

is that in order to succeed, you have to go toward adversity,



Bill Troy:

because you just have to believe that's opportunity, because



Bill Troy:

you're bad at recognizing it. So just always go toward adversity.



Bill Troy:

Love that, right? That's kind of what I'm doing is going well,



Bill Troy:

okay. I don't like this. This feels weird. I need to go toward



Bill Troy:

it. See what's going on there. So that's, that's what a



Bill Troy:

curiosity means for me.



Janice Porter:

Oh, that's really interesting. Unless I check back



Janice Porter:

with you and see how that has worked out. Because that takes



Janice Porter:

courage to write? Yes,



Bill Troy:

really does. It takes practice and courage because the



Bill Troy:

beginning it's scary, you're going toward things that are



Bill Troy:

scary. And, but then it's like practicing anything else



Bill Troy:

practicing juggling or practicing piano, if you do it



Bill Troy:

enough, you go, Oh, I know this, I can do this one I'm good at so



Bill Troy:

you get good at going toward adversity. And because you keep



Bill Troy:

realizing now every time I do that, I find some interesting



Bill Troy:

stuff. So it's, it's something you can practice.



Janice Porter:

Yeah, that's really interesting. When I think



Janice Porter:

about things I've done, though, that I've been very afraid of,



Janice Porter:

like climbing to the top of a pole and you know, jumping off



Janice Porter:

into oblivion. I mean, I thought the second time I got the



Janice Porter:

opportunity to do it, I wouldn't be as scared. But I was. So I



Janice Porter:

did it. But I was just scared and went through the same



Janice Porter:

emotions I went through the first time. Like, I can't do



Janice Porter:

this kind of thing. But I did it anyway, another story for



Janice Porter:

another day. But, um, so lots of interesting things on the



Janice Porter:

horizon for you. I know. Because you operate in many different



Janice Porter:

fields, what would you say is the most important message that



Janice Porter:

you might want to leave with my listeners today? Around what



Janice Porter:

we've really been talking about relationships, and yeah,



Bill Troy:

I would say that you've got to trust your gut,



Bill Troy:

it's there for a reason.



Bill Troy:

And the world right now, and not just now, but the world



Bill Troy:

increasingly will continue to try to take you away from your



Bill Troy:

gut. And that whether we're talking about cliques and



Bill Troy:

technology tools that are trying to convince you to, you know,



Bill Troy:

manipulate people in line or whatever, or whether it's, you



Bill Troy:

know, who knows what it is? And I think that, you've got to go



Bill Troy:

back to that really know what that is it for example,



Bill Troy:

relationships, do you have a good clear definition of what a



Bill Troy:

relationship is? I think a lot of people use the word but they



Bill Troy:

don't really well. I don't know, what is, Do I have a clear? Do I



Bill Troy:

know if I have one with someone? Right? And we do in CIVILUS, we



Bill Troy:

actually do that with people. I mean, when for example, you can



Bill Troy:

measure the relationship with someone, when you send them a



Bill Troy:

note of any type, any kind of email, telephone message,



Bill Troy:

whatever, a few get one back. That's the first indication you



Bill Troy:

have relationship. And B, if you have a really good relationship,



Bill Troy:

they put as much or more energy into their response than you



Bill Troy:

did. Right. My best friend when I send him a note, I get a



Bill Troy:

paragraph back, you get what? I get a paragraph backwards and in



Bill Troy:

one sentence, right? And so you can say, Oh, I have a



Bill Troy:

relationship with him where he feels good about spending time



Bill Troy:

with me. and investing in me, it's not I'm trying. So you can



Bill Troy:

actually start to realize and measure whether you have



Bill Troy:

relationships, you can define it. And then you're gonna find



Bill Troy:

that that is something that comes from your heart from your



Bill Troy:

gut. And you know if it's right or not, and you got to stick to



Bill Troy:

it, there's no reason and this is a lot of what we spend time



Bill Troy:

with on CIVILUS. with clients, there's no reason you have to



Bill Troy:

sacrifice your values to succeed. And in fact, our theory



Bill Troy:

is that if you go toward your values, and go toward that, what



Bill Troy:

feels like adversity scary, going toward my own values feels



Bill Troy:

scary. But that's the case for a lot of people I'm going to lose



Bill Troy:

my business from and you'll find you can be more successful,



Bill Troy:

you're gonna be more authentic, you're going to come up with new



Bill Troy:

solutions. And that's what you need to do is go toward your gut



Bill Troy:

and not listen to other people.



Janice Porter:

Amen. I mean, that's right. That's so true.



Janice Porter:

And I think that's a great place to stop because I could go here,



Janice Porter:

there and everywhere with you. I love that though. You know that



Janice Porter:

it feels scary. But you have to stick to your guns, because in



Janice Porter:

the end, you won't love yourself at all. If you don't, if you



Janice Porter:

don't, right, it just wouldn't feel right. Well,



Bill Troy:

and, you know, I'll tell you, anecdotally, from we



Bill Troy:

talked about the music industry a little bit ago. When you begin



Bill Troy:

in something like music industry, or whatever business



Bill Troy:

you're in, you think you're there to satisfy other people,



Bill Troy:

and the more other people love you and more applause and sales



Bill Troy:

you get that's love. And what you'll find in the long run is



Bill Troy:

that it's not right. You know, the most successful music, music



Bill Troy:

art in the world, artists in the world end up sort of crashing



Bill Troy:

out going well, that's just plastic and fake. And I want to



Bill Troy:

get back to truth and react and real. And so it can be the same



Bill Troy:

as as a business owner, you start off well, this is where we



Bill Troy:

need to go as we need to grow and you get revenue bla bla bla



Bill Troy:

bla, and you can get you can take yourself away from what you



Bill Troy:

are all about. And then you're just you build something that



Bill Troy:

isn't you you hate, I don't want you to can't. So you've got to



Bill Troy:

stick to your gut, you've got to stick to what's what your true



Bill Troy:

values are, and, and then insert that into your company, and



Bill Troy:

it'll work. That's



Janice Porter:

awesome. Thank you for all that great advice.



Janice Porter:

Yes. And I'm sure that the people that listen to my show



Janice Porter:

will appreciate hearing some of those things and it's a lot of



Janice Porter:

food for thought for some people. So you know, very well



Janice Porter:

taken and Bill. I will put in the show notes, but where can



Janice Porter:

people find your book or find you if they are? Right



Bill Troy:

so the company is Seville this consultancy IDI LIS



Bill Troy:

consulting.com, and I'm billing sales consulting, and the book



Bill Troy:

is quicksand CLI CK sa nd and that's available on Amazon if



Bill Troy:

they want to read it. It's interesting historical reading.



Bill Troy:

And one of the things I do in the book is talk about how this



Bill Troy:

quicksand in we're in now is not new. I talked about that Mark



Bill Troy:

Montgomery Ward catalog it's 100 year process that we're involved



Bill Troy:

with. So it's not something new. You're not out of touch every



Bill Troy:

century.



Janice Porter:

Thank you. Thank you so much. Thank you for your



Janice Porter:

time. Thank you for your your wisdom and thank you to my



Janice Porter:

audience for listening again and appreciate you if you like what



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