Where do you start?- Ep: 084

Welcome to she coaches coaches. I'm your host,

Kandi motsek. And I'm going to help you find the clarity,

confidence and courage to become the coach that you are meant to

be. If you're a new coach, or if you've always wanted to be a

life coach, then this is the place for you. We're going to

talk all about mindset and strategies and how to, because

step by step only works when you have the clarity, courage and

confidence to take action. Let's get started. friends, and

welcome to this episode. I am so glad you're here. Okay, so

today, I'm bringing you a special episode. I've been

talking to my clients and I talked to the people that

respond to my emails. You know, I'm hearing from a lot of

coaches, a lot of new coaches specifically. And there's two

questions that I ask people to particularly, and I'm really

curious about the first question, what do you want? I

asked them? And when I asked them that, they say, I want

clients, I want to coach, I want coaching clients. And the second

one I asked, So what's getting in your way?

What's making it hard? What are the hurdles you're dealing with?

You respond with? I don't know where to start? So in this

episode, I'm going to answer both questions to help you. And

that is why I'm calling it a special episode. By the end,

you're going to know exactly where to start, and how to start

in a way that helps you get clients. Yeah, I know, it's

pretty ambitious. But I know this is gonna work. I have a

concept that I share with my new coaches, and I'm sharing it with

you today. I call it the five by five. And it looks like this 5x

Five, I recommend that all new coaches start by coaching five

clients, for five hours each, each of those clients gets five

full hours of coaching, that's the five by five, an even

stranger, I suggest that you do it for free. Now, if you've been

coaching for a while, and you're still not exactly sure how you

sign clients, or how you create clients or where they come from,

if you're just still not quite comfortable knowing what to ask

during a coaching session, or even when to stay quiet, or

you're uneasy with what to do on your coaching calls, this five

by five approach will help you to and yes, even if you've been

coaching for a while, I highly recommend you do it for free. My

approach is that by taking small, frequent steps, the kind

of steps that are a little bit of a stretch outside of your

comfort zone, you're going to find that it accumulates your

results accumulate so much faster. So if you take one small

step, that's just a little bit of a stretch, and then another

and another and another. It's not as painful, and you make so

much more progress so much more quickly. And you're going to

find that it is that much easier to go from brand new to fully

booked fast. So here's what I know. A new coach often doesn't

necessarily feel like a coach yet. You might call yourself a

baby coach or a newbie coach. But what it comes down to is you

don't quite feel like you're a coach yet. Don't necessarily

believe that you can coach powerfully. And you don't

necessarily believe that you can help someone with your coaching.

And if you've had any of these self doubts, then you're

definitely going to have problems trying to sign clients

for a paid coaching package. If you don't believe it. You don't

believe that you can help them. You don't 100% Believe in

yourself as a coach, then why would they? If you don't believe

in yourself or your skill as a coach, then potential clients

are going to feel that vibe rolling off of you. And they

won't believe you either. It might not be a big overt Oh, I

don't believe her or him. But it's going to be something's not

quite right and I don't even know what it is. But they just

won't believe you quite yet. Doesn't matter what words you

use. Doesn't matter if someone hands you fancy scripts to use

or just the perfect wording. What matters is how you feel. So

here are some of the places that you gain by starting slow and

doing my free five by five method. You learn how to invite

people to be your client. You learn how to shedule and deal

with people who show up late. You learn how to deal with last

minute cancellations. You learn how to track your progress, you

learn how to track their progress, and you can show them

their growth. You learn how to coach, you learn how to handle

challenging topics. And if you saw me, you'd see I'm kind of

doing these air quotes around challenging topics. One of them

might be something like your client shows up to a call, and

they say, Oh, I got nothing to coach on. And now you know,

you've got a whole hour to spend time with them. And to coach

them, what do you do, right, you're going to learn how to

handle that, because you're going to have dealt with it. You

have coached for 25 full hours, five people, five hours each 25

hours. And that is a major achievement, you will begin to

believe that you can coach, you will start to see how your

clients lives are changing for the batter, and how they're

growing. It's a huge list, right? So if you're a coach that

doesn't know what to do to begin, or you don't exactly know

what to do next, you've got one job and one job only. And that

job is to invite people to be one of your five by five

clients. Now, here's a little extra bonus for you. I can't

remember who shared this, or I would certainly give them credit

for the wonderful idea. But a coach that I heard said, think

of your coaching practice, like a fancy dinner party, or even a

fancy high end brunch, you've only got a limited number of

seats at that dining room table, you spent a ton of time

decorating and planning the menu, you want it to be just

right. So when you invite people to be your guest, and you know,

you've only got five chairs at your dining room table, you've

got to be 100% upfront and say, Listen, I am doing this amazing

brunch, if you want in, if you want to be part of it, I would

love to have you. But if you're not 100%, sure, we're going to

say no, and I'll invite somebody else. Because if they're not

sure, you're going to let their seat go to somebody else. It's

true, right? When you play along with this approach this five by

five approach, you have five seats at your dining room table

for your special event. There's only a limited space for the

amazing and valuable offer. And now, when you hold that thought,

that mindset that belief, it's going to make it so much easier

and more enjoyable for you to invite your best potential

clients to your five by five party, they should feel honored

that you've invited them.

Now if your game, you're only allowed in quotation marks five,

that means you're going to need to be prepared to tell the sixth

person, your five spots are filled. Because you want to be

in integrity, you're offering five places, when those five

seats are filled, it's over, it's done, you're on to the next

step. And if they would really like to work with you, you could

offer them your paid coaching package, or even give them a

gift and offer them a reduced rate package for that five hours

to. So when you know that that five by five is a limited

edition and you mean it. Stick to your word, you are learning

how to create demand for your paying coaching. And of course,

once your five special people have completed their sessions,

you can certainly offer them a paid option that helps them

continue to grow. Those special five are also a great source of

referrals for you. They've experienced your coaching. And

of course, they want to recommend you to their friends

and family. Once people have been coached, they love it and

they want more. Plus, they're always going to be happy to

share you with others. Alright, there you go. I've answered both

questions. It didn't take very long did it. And I've given you

the fastest and easiest path to become a paid coach. Begin by

offering your five by five to some fortunate people. I can't

think of anybody who wouldn't find this generous offer a hell

yes. So let's circle back to those two common questions that

I promised I would answer the first question. When I asked a

new coach, what do you want? And you tell me you Want clients?

The five by five is the fastest path to get coaching clients to

get coaching and to become a coach, you start on this today,

you could be working with those five clients by this time next

week. Think of how powerful that is. Think about how you're

moving yourself so much closer to your dream. The second, when

I asked, So what's getting in your way? What's the hard thing,

and you tell me, I just don't even know where to begin. Now,

you know, offer your five by five. That's exactly where to

start. If you haven't signed your five people, keep inviting

people until you do. And then treat those clients like gold.

Coach them to the best of your ability. Invite them to continue

with you as paying clients. And when it's appropriate. Ask them

if they would recommend you to others. Do you see how simple

this could be? Pretty crew pretty great a. Alright, so now

I want to hear from you. What did you learn from this episode?

Will you take on the five by five challenge, post a

screenshot of the episode and tag me at Candy mode sec. Tell

me that you're in that you're going to do the five by five and

share with me how it's going. I want to hear from you.

Especially because I want to cheer you on. Now before you go.

I'd love to invite you to my free Monday coaching and

conversation calls. I opened a Zoom Room for everyone who

registers. I usually teach a little topic, we answer

questions together, we might do some journaling. And then I

coach. I'll put the sign up link in the Episode Notes. I would

love to meet you face to face. And if you want even more help.

Maybe you've just had enough of all this trying to figure it out

on your own. Then we should talk about how we could work

together. Click the link in the Episode Notes to find out how to

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