Are You Being Productive? EP:46

Hello, my friends and welcome. You're listening to soul inspired decisions, a podcast for ordinary moms living extraordinary lives. My intention with this podcast is to teach, motivate and inspire by sharing stories, tools and strategies to help you unlock your greatest fears, annoying habits and old stories and make a move towards the things that have been on your heart. If you have been a little lost, or in a funk, and want to reconnect with your purpose, your passion and feel empowered again, then this is the best place for you to be hanging out. My name is Carrie Lecuyer. And I'm an ordinary mom making extraordinary decisions. This is me putting one foot in front of the other, moving towards my next goal, and hoping to inspire you along the way. Let's get started.

Welcome back, everyone to the soul inspired podcast. My name is Carrie Lecuyer, I am your host of this podcast that's based on ordinary women doing extraordinary things. So wherever you're at, in your life, this moment, I want to congratulate you for being here and honor you for being who you are, and recognizing that you're a really great human being. And sometimes you just get a little lost a little stuck along the way. And you're here and you want to develop and create and do more. And sometimes we just don't know where or which way we should turn. So in on that note, I would like to do kind of a check in on this podcast, knowing where you're at knowing where I'm at, even sometimes it feels like as my kids get older, it really is so true, how you do feel so much more busy. And so much of their things take more and more time. So I feel like my brain or my capacity or the timing of everything just feels like it's compressed in and I have less time less things less, not less things on the go, because it's more things on the go. But they're more demanding, I guess. So I just want to do a check in for you or check in for myself on where we're at right now in this year and where we still want to go because it really there's still so much time, there's still so much things we can do. And it's just getting just doing a little bit of reflection on what we're still looking for out of this year. And what we can shift to make that still happen. There's so much of our future depends on knowing where we're at at this moment. And it depends on who you are and what you want and what you are striving for and reflecting on how happy you are in this moment with with the way things are going. So if you're not very happy with the way things are going, we need to recognize that. So on a scale of one to 10, zero being not very happy at all, and 10 perfectly happy. Where are you at right now on that scale? And just having that number in your head is super important. And how many things do we know that we should do? That would maybe get us to the 10. But we're not doing so we feel really stuck. I'm supposed to make that call that I should have made like six weeks ago, I'm supposed to send that email that I still haven't I'm supposed to create x y Zed for this thing that I really want to do or move towards? And I haven't. So it's not that we don't want it. It's what is what is standing in our way. Is it because it's hard? Is it too much? Is it new? Is it maybe it's not what we want anymore, and things have shifted for you. Or maybe you're just need to needing to take a step back and reevaluate. Maybe it's just not on the cards right now. And that's okay. Because I just want you to recognize where you're are. You are because I was really, I'm focused on some training this year. I haven't done a half Ironman since 2018, the world shut down. And then there was nothing and then I haven't really got back into it. But I decided this year, five years later, I would try again. And it's really hard. First of all, I'm five years older now. I'm feeling the aches and the pains and the tiredness. Plus my kids are older and bigger and more demanding. So I'm feeling really stretched and pinched with trying to get these workouts and I'm not there, I'm not going to win, I'm truly just going to cross the finish line because that in itself to me is the biggest big accomplishment. And that's not everybody's take on entering a race but for me it really just is to cross the finish line and show up for myself and to know that I kept moving forward even though it was really hard. And even though other things are falling off the plate right now that aren't out of my control at times. So in sitting with a group of women and them asking me how I Having so much time to exercise when I have all these other things on the go. It's not that I always get in the exercise. And it's really what is my first priorities, what is your first priority in what you're moving towards and creating, because some of the other things will fall to the side, when you step up and put the thing forward that you want the most. And even though this is in a short period, I mean, I have two more months to work at this and, and move towards this. And trying to wrap my head around the fact that I thought my family was going to be able to come and see this race. My husband hasn't been at a big race, since he became a pilot, basically, his busy season is in the summertime. And that's when the racing season is and I really liked him to be able to come in, bring the boys and have them watch to see what I'm actually doing. And we thought everything could align, and we're not sure that it's going to so that that actually took me back a little bit. It's, it's a long day, it's you know, it's a six to seven hour race for me. And it's, I was really looking forward to having some family at the end of the finish line. So I'm having to adjust my mindset on that piece that won't be there, it's not that I can't finish, I was just really looking forward to knowing that there was something at the end of the finish line. That was like, really heartwarming for me. And the metal will be great, of course, always happy to receive a medal. But it's a long day. And it's a lot of mental power and a lot of mental courage to be able to power through all the things that come up in a day of racing. So be feeling like I might have stepped back from that path but really having to refocus on okay. It's just it's out of my control. It's a circumstance that I can't control. And I have to keep moving forward. So just an example of sitting with the women wondering how I'm doing all the things, again, is putting my priority force first because for them, they said that it's an idea, but it's always our will start Monday, well, then Monday comes. And then it's like, Well, I'll start Wednesday, Wednesday is a better day to start. And well, Thursday passes by and Friday, why mas will start Monday again, because the weekends here. And that is a pattern, just so you know, that is a pattern. And if that's your pattern, it's not important enough for you. So what's really important in that goal for you, that might not be it, it might not be at this time. So understand what's serving you and what, what it is you're wanting out of the goal. So I'm really not a perfect person in any sort of way. But I do try to stick to my goals and move in towards them even not, even though it's taught in a pattern and consistent as I might have done things precuts. Right. And I think we all can get that, especially if we're entering into a career or work that really demands our time. And we're really looking forward to putting an effort into what we're creating. So when we want to recognize the patterns that we're falling into, we got to understand what what it is that we fall into. Is it our phone? Is it Netflix, is it procrastination of some sort, whatever your thing is, maybe is boning a friend or family member. So I just want you to recognize where you're at. And you still have a ton of time over the summer to complete the things that you said that you would have done. I know it never made us feel good when we're not moving as close to our goals as we think that we should or as fast as we were going to move to our goal. So when you were first setting your goals for the year or the summer, were you really pumped? Did it feel really good? Are you just needing a reset or shift in your mind? There's my dog barking because she heard us out. This is the reality of my life right now she is on guard because she's powerful. She's too and she's think she's wonderful. And it's really quite annoying. But that's just the part of recording at home. You guys know that if you've listened to me for some time now. So getting back to the basics, self talk, check in with yourself. And really, it's really you taking the time to reflect on your life and what you want to do next. And if there's anything that you can tweak, if it's not easy, do you tend to not do it? And why don't you find it easy? What part of that Are you not finding easy? Is it because it's not something you're used to? Is it something out of your comfort zone? Is it something completely new, somebody doesn't approve, and maybe your partner your spouse doesn't approve that can reflect and persuade us in the way we want to move things and ship things as well. Something else you want to look at is, when we have a moment, are you grabbing your phone, and then you're just going to check one thing for one minute, and you get sidetracked for an hour. I know, I'm really bothered. When I that happens, I try not to let it happen. But when I do, I actually say it out loud. That really bothers me so that I'm consciously understanding that I just did that I chose to do this, I just wasted an hour of my time for social media that's really not relevant to what I'm trying to accomplish here. But also that being accountable for I just did that. And it does not make me very feel very good at the moment.

So ask yourself the questions of what is it that you want? Is your self talk kind? Is there compassion in it? Is your goal maybe shifted? Maybe you've realized that it doesn't align me more? And are you being gentle with yourself in that in these processes and changes? And are there any uncertain areas that maybe that you're grabbing things are doing things that aren't productive for you? So in that case, are we you know, we don't often when we're in periods of uncertainty or frustration or overwhelm, it's not very often that we just grabbed the pen and paper and journal. But let's be honest, some of us may go for a walk or do some exercise, but we really just shut it down and move on. And that's really not good for us. And that's really not helping us move forward to the next level of things that we want to create. So understanding that being gentle with our self talk and being kind and having compassion towards the things we want, and that they're not working out right now. And just to reflect on what's been working well, and what hasn't, and why. And ask yourself those questions. And where you want to go in the future, and you can still move forward towards those, they may look a little different, because by now you know, what's working and what's not working for you. And that's perfectly okay. You are okay with how, however you are in this moment, know that it's where you're supposed to be. And you get to choose on how you get to move forward, doing things better. That's plain and simple. Things may not have worked out good, or how you plan but you can choose to move forward this week, in a new way or next week. However, it looks to you. Also gratitude, I was wondering why my thoughts were a little bit off lately. And I realize I haven't been doing my gratitude. And there's definitely been a change of how I see things, my perspective, my awareness is very much off. And the one thing that I'm missing is my gratitude journal. So pulling it out and making a conscious effort to be aware of what I've been thinking where my thoughts are, where I'm feeling too overwhelmed and busy. And just getting back to the basics of good self talk and being aware and being grateful for what is going well. And what I really am enjoying doing right now. You have to understand what's taking your time away, and how you can really get your days back. Because we all have the same amount of hours in our lives. That's a given. There's the same in every one of our lives. And it's how we are showing up and choosing to spend that time. So if you are the person who is too busy doing all the things and you wish you had more manpower, or you wish you had more hours in a day, maybe it's time to sit back and reflect on where your time is going and where you're where you're looking to shifting things in the future to make things work better for you. So if you really want to do some reflection, I will help you right now on on moving forward. So where are you finding yourself to be the most productive in your day? And if you're honest with yourself, the answer will come to you in the moment as I'm speaking. And do you want to be more productive in your day? So that's a yes or no question. You get to answer that for yourself right now. Do you want to be more productive? Yes or no? There's no maybe. And do you want to take back your day take back your Power, yes or no? So if you're, it's a yes, then you get to choose on how you want to move forward. And if it's no, you're choosing to be okay with where you're at. And that's perfectly okay as well. And what are your foundations that you're you that you love and fall back to when you know that things are not going well for you, or you'd like to shift things up? Where are what are your foundations, because each and every one of us has different ones. So it might be that you like to read scripture, it might be that you'd like to meditate, it might be that you like to do yoga, or, or sing or play music. And those are your foundations of coming back to the creative and the self love part of you. And that's each, each person, each of you has your own things that you love to do. So all those and choose. And as I'm talking, these things are coming to your mind what you could do. So that is your cue to spend some time doing those this week are powerful thoughts can be so persuasive in how productive we are or non productive we are in our week. So just be aware of the things that we should be doing versus the things that we want to do. So getting back to the basics of what we love, and understanding that if it's a should I should do this? Is it really a should? Or is it really a must, that we must do. And if it is we need to make some time to do that. And just listen to your inner wisdom. That's very powerful, we get lost along the way of all the things that we've got to do. And just trust that you are here for a reason that you're showing up for a reason. And these ideas and these thoughts. They are for you to help serve the people around you to serve your work your business, your partner, your family. Maybe you coach, maybe you are a volunteer, how do you want to feel? How do you want to move about your day, and how do you want to give back and, and create more alignment in your life that will help you to be more productive and move through the next month, which is then the halfway point through the year and get set ourselves up in a really good way that will make sense to feel good, and feel like we're back on track. As we do this good things come easily to us. And we'll recognize that we are again back in alignment, and we're choosing something better instead of where we are. And that is the perfect place to be want to be. So if you want to think it, you got to feel it and then you got to believe it. And always remember that it's this there's something better. And we can choose to check in, reflect. And then get back to the basics of bringing us home to our soul, which is back to gratitude, grounding, the things that you love that will bring you bring you joy and love into your heart. And I hope you have a great week. I'll talk to you next time.