Empowering Women To Move Forward EP:44

Hello, my friends and welcome. You're listening to soul inspired decisions, a podcast for ordinary moms living extraordinary lives. My intention with this podcast is to teach, motivate and inspire by sharing stories, tools and strategies to help you unlock your greatest fears, annoying habits and old stories and make a move towards the things that have been on your heart. If you have been a little lost, or in a funk, and want to reconnect with your purpose, your passion and feel empowered again, then this is the best place for you to be hanging out. My name is Carrie Lecuyer. And I'm an ordinary mom making extraordinary decisions. This is me putting one foot in front of the other, moving towards my next goal, and hoping to inspire you along the way. Let's get started.

So I'm here to celebrate you, of course, yes, thank you for showing up here today with me. Thank you for saying yes to personal growth, career growth, building your side hustle, growing your business, I love all things to do with this scope of work. And it truly does start by you showing up and acknowledging that you want more obviously, that's why you're here. And this is what I love. Because those are the things that I love, love to talk about love to teach love to learn about and love working with my clients with. So in that scope of things, if you feel like if you are just new to this podcast, I like to ask questions, I like to get you thinking, so welcome. And we're gonna jump right into some questions here. If you feel like you have this unfulfilled calling, if you have this unfulfilled, something you can't explain like there's this, you don't know what your purpose is, or you don't know what you're supposed to do, you're supposed to do something, but you're not really sure what it is because you didn't like what you used to do. And you're maybe a mom now or you changed careers, and you don't really like all those things. And you don't want to quit any of that, of course, but there's just something on your heart that you just know, there's something more meant for you. So the questions I want to get to you with are going right after your heart because that's how we recognize that we feel good about something and then we want more from something. And the best way that I have been taught is to of course scale that that's how we really get super good answers right from our heart where you don't actually have to speak to anybody. Sometimes we shut down when we say our ideas like they might be silly, which is not true. In this case, if you're here that's what this is all about. Just simply ordinary women living extraordinary lives with you the thing that lights you up the decision that has changed your life or lit you up in some way or shape or form. And that's what this is all about here. So if I can get you to take a deep breath in and out right now wherever you're at know that you're okay and you're safe to explore the ideas that come up in your mind and your thought path in your heart and honor those just for a while you're with me for however long this is today. So on a scale of one to 10 Are you happy with your life and I don't mean with like your house and your kids and your spouse or that kind of stuff. I mean like with you with what you're doing, because that's a whole nother topic really just when we ought to get into the work that we love. Everything else will straighten itself out relationships, communication, finances, it's almost magical how it happens. So when you get to the core of what's really going on with you and what you desire and what your what your hearts wanting to do and you go after that piece and slowly pieces will just fall into place naturally because you've been fixed the thing your your soul isn't calling for and you just haven't listened to it.

Haven't woke up to it or haven't had the time. But you're here now because there's something that you need from me today. So if you are open to exploring it on a scale of one to 10, are you happy with your life so far? So, zero your content, you're happy, you're good. For the next five years, you could do this. No problem, okay? Now on it on this scale, so there's zero, which your content or there is a 10. Like, there is something that you know, that you should be doing, and you are on your way to doing it. And you have such excitement and love, and you may get distracted, but really, you feel like you're on the path that you're supposed to be with, and you talk about it with your closest friends and family. And you're there. So that's the 10. So if you're a more like a six, and maybe you have the, the urge to do something, you can't quite figure it out. You've been dabbling in a few things here and there. Or maybe you're a three, you're looking for that purpose, you're looking for what you're supposed to do with your life. Boy, you know, the question, what do you want to do with your life? We often ask kids that in high school, junior high. Sometimes we ask that as a young adult, what do you want to do with your life? I know my niece has been asked that what do you want to do with your life and she's finishing her education degree, what does she want to do with her life, and she simply wants to be a teacher. That's, that's her purpose. That's your goal right now, that could change in 10 years from now that could change in two years for now. But right now she's on her path. But, and the cutest thing ever, when my sister's kids were really little, the probably the age that my kids are now. They asked her what she wanted to be when she grew up. And she thought that was the strangest question that kids could ask. But she, I remember her saying to me, she didn't know. She's a mom, she didn't have time to think or if she did, she didn't know how she could do it, how she would pay for it, how she would go to training with kids. Like all those things that you know, that come up all the things. Soif you are asking yourself, what do I want to be when I grow up? What do I want to be when my kids move out? What do I want to be when my kids go back to school, maybe you are home with your kids right now. And and you know that there's going to be a time where you need to make a decision or make a move, and you want to contribute to your family and all these thoughts and ideas go through your head, but you just don't know where to start? Because it's completely overwhelming. I do get that. And you just don't know. So you just give up. So maybe you're just like in a three, you know that there's a purpose. Right now you're a mom, and you dabble in some ideas. So wherever you are, on your journey of life, just know that you are, you're, you're okay. And you're exactly where you're supposed to be. All these levels are perfectly fine. Wherever you see yourself, just know that in time you move forward, as you feel the notches and you feel the sides and you take the chances. And I get the whole soul searching for more. What does it look like? What does it feel like? What do I do I know I don't like A, B and C. But I know I don't want to do J, K and L so then we're just mixed and stuck. Andit's all our doubts. And that's all our fears. And it's all our lived experiences that we know that we don't want to continue to do, but we don't know where to go from here. And so over the past four years of working, after my kids were done with this super little stage, I got back into my client work again. And over the past four years, gone through different versions of growth and exploring and where am I at? What am I what do I want to do? What do I want my business to look like? And for me, the desire to help people is still so very much relevant and to serve people and to help people move forward is still what I'm very much passionate about. I love helping people with career Jane, I love helping men and women with career change and coming to realize that they do need something completely different. Or maybe they just need something completely different in in where they're at. But helping them get through the overwhelm and the stress of having those hard conversations with the partner or your spouse or having the open discussion about allowing yourself to feel like that or think like that. Maybe you have a master's degree and in something and you just want to be a massage therapist. That's what you desire to do. People around the world this is happening. They've gone to school for massive education, and that's just not what they want to do. And it takes a very strong person to be okay with, Okay, I'm gonna take some time away and explore this. And it's very hard the people that I know who have done this, it's not just a flip on the switch and you're changing careers or you're doing something different, you're kind of dabbling in it on the side to see if that's what you like, while you keep your job. That's what people are doing. If people it's when you are following something, and all of a sudden, they're doing something different. Don't think they did that overnight. That's a lie. They've been dabbling that for a while, if not years, and then they made the switch.

It's not very glamorous, it is hard, it is hard to change and do something different. So when you look at yourself, and for me, just working with the people, and helping them go from feeling overwhelmed, feeling chaotic, this spinning psych, which I know myself very much. And when I'm in it, even this morning, just feeling super overwhelmed and spinning and not focused. And I know we're coming off of like we're in fluid energy. And that has really played a big toll in a shift of energy right now. It's, there's so many people, so many people sharing that. And I feel it. And so the last thing I wanted to do was wallowing in my sorrows, of not having the energy but knowing I needed to move forward. So I went for a swim. I made myself do that and pushed a little bit further today. So I'd love I absolutely love hearing. It's one of my favorite things. Someone's idea that comes right from their soul, like giving them space to say it all. And you feel their conversation, you feel their voice, you feel from the heart that this is their idea. And that lights them right up. It comes through the power of their voice, their eyes light up, their expression is like all in, you don't have to say a word. They just let you hear and feel everything that they're thinking, feeling and sensing and know that they're onto something gut. This is what I love hearing from people, it is completely magical. There's nothing more powerful than hearing someone talk about the idea they had. Because once you ask them a few questions, you can see how much they've thought about it. And that they're so grateful that you're listening. And it's just, it can't help but motivate yourself. It can't help but want more for yourself. It's enlightening. And so many of us have these great ideas. And so many of us have these great thoughts and we see a vision and we see the benefits, and we see who benefits. And we truly believe in the density that we become when we could be that person and helping other people are whatever it is we are interested in, we understand our why. And then someone makes us feel accountable for all that. And all of that stops. So I recognize this. In so many of my clients and so many of the people that I come across, when I cross paths with somebody that is real, that is never going to change. Usually, those people are your closest friends and your family. Not because they're jealous. They're just looking out for you. And that would mean change on them. That would mean change to the relationship. And that's what they fear.

So, when we have all of this excitement, and you could probably feel it. I feel as I talked about this, and I was just talking about the excitement of all of this, and then I can't it came to a stop. That's exactly what happens in our everyday life. When we come across all these enlightening things and these beautiful quotes and you feel empowered and you feel inspired. And then your kids scream at you. And we stop. And we're right back in the moment of it could never happen. They don't support me. I don't have the money. I don't have the time. Okay, that was great. Let's push it off. We're done with that today. Be gentle with yourself at these times. And in these moments, surround yourself with gentle people. Just shift who you're having these conversations with. That's simply it. Simply it and the journey. The journey is epic. So if you have the courage to start if you have the courage to explore that journey in itself when getting there and getting started is completely epic. It's the journey that motivates

To you, it's keeps you going each and every day. And I'm still hearing and building and doing what I believe in. Because it lights up my soul, my husband supports me. He gets what I do, but it's not his desire and his dream, I've got to do this for myself. It's not him getting up in the morning doing the things and, and the posts and contacting clients. That's, that's my thing, just like I'm not helping him with this stuff to a point, it's not my interest. I don't want to load up a Speedster. I don't want to chain down the tires, or the equipment, you get what I think that we all have different interests. So understand that. We have these journeys in life, that build our character. Whatever you have done in your past, you were meant to do, it has given you experiences you has given you opportunities, and you've taken them and they've served a purpose. And maybe you're just looking for something different right now. I hire mentors, I hire coaches, I take courses, I rely heavily on my previous education and my work experience in career development and personal development. And all of that mix us together. And through the years I've seen I still sticking with it, I still love it, it is to the core. What I love, I love growth, it's hard doing the work is extremely hard, but I love it and and I love being able to help people with my experiences to be able to help someone through those tough times. Because that's how you ultimately build your side hustle and build your business, change careers, take a different education path, doing the work. And I'm here to support those people. Because I've been through it, I know what it's all about. I know how hard it can be. I know how difficult it can be. But I also know the really high highs of finishing. And sticking with it. Many of my clients come to me because they're stuck. They have these great ideas, they're flowing with ideas that want to business or they want to change careers. And they just need help streamlining and moving forward with this. And they just want less overwhelm. I get that. That's why I hire a coach. It's just how we operate. It's how we work. And then there's all the stresses of life coming at us. And then we just kind of quit and crawl into our hole and we don't move forward. And so we then stay stuck. And this is what I help the people that I'm working with move through because I understand and get it and I know how to move someone from A to B. And to make someone have the accountability that they need for their life. Every single human being has a unique way that they need to be accountable and just show up in their life. We're all different. And I see the space that each individual needs to move forward. Some have Oh, huge anxiety, some have huge responsibility, some have huge depression, and that if you need a counselor, you got to get a counselor because that's not my area of expertise. But I have worked with clients with their counselors to move forward. It's really quite unique, beautiful, actually. But so just knowing the difference of who you are and who you want to be, is extremely important in moving forward. And the key to building something the key to building anything is to start before you're ready. The saying is so true. Someone who invests in themselves goes further visualize what you want your life to be like visualize the things you desire. Visualize your office, how do you feel? How do you want to feel? Be the woman be the woman you look up to be the woman you want your kids to look up to? For going for it, even when it's hard.

So tips for all of that, like, just recognize the nudges once you open your heart to allow yourself to want that and know that it's okay to have that the nudges are there, the signs will appear. Don't brush them off. They are there for you. You've opened your heart to the idea and God the universe or whatever it is that you you lean on is opening up a path for you and it's for you If so follow someone who's doing what you want to do. Get support, we all have days when we feel like giving up, the support will follow help you pull through and know your why. Those are a few tips that are just super important just to recognize the signs recognize what you're really wanting, recognize, recognize the feeling that you want the desire you want, essentially, all through the manifestation process, but also trusting that you've revealed and opened your soul to something more. So the, the thing that you can ask yourself is, in this moment, right now, the thing that you want, your life where you're at right now, is perfectly fine. But also, in this moment of time, it's this, or something better. That's something better, doesn't will not happen tomorrow. But if you're open to it, and you want that something better, you will start to move down that pathway. And that is a beautiful pathway.

So look around at the women who surround you. Are they influential? Are they empowering you. And if not, you're going to take a shift, find the support you need, you're going to have to start from scratch. That's where we all start from when you see someone online understand that they started from scratch at one point of time, they did not just get there, it took time, it took time to show up, it took time to make decisions. We all go through the hard stuff. But you need to understand that the started at point A, that's where we all start. As we celebrate women this week, this month as we should always do understand that we're all friends in this life and we crossed paths at certain times when we need each other the most. And we should be lifting each other up, we shouldn't be encouraging each other, we should be happy for someone who's going after it because it's really hard. We should be happy for each and every one of our own personal decisions. And so this is a good week to be open to just giving someone the compliment they may need. Be open to DMing someone and saying that you just love following their stuff, because that may be the thing that they need the most to keep going. And that I remember when I first started out those little comments, those DMS meant everything to me. So be that person for someone else. It will come back to you what you get you get back. Okay. If you are interested, or you need support, I am online inspired by carry.com. You could message me that way you can message me through Instagram that saw underscore inspired, underscored decisions, I believe you can check on my show notes. And just know that I'm here to support you if you feel stuck. If you feel overwhelmed, and you want to move out of the chaotic feeling into moving forward and on the path that you are meant to be on. I am here to support you. This is what I love. This is what I do. This is what my business is around and just know that if you're meant to work with me, you'll just feel it one day and send me a message. That's how this works. That's how I align with my clients hands down. The most beautiful people the best work that I've done. It's just happened naturally and it's just long. So I'm available I am around if you need support. And other than that you guys should have a great week. I will be back and I look forward to any comments, questions DMS on Instagram. Thank you.