What are you thinking? EP13

Hello, my friends and welcome. You're listening to soul inspired decisions, podcast for ordinary moms living extraordinary lives. My intention with this podcast is to teach, motivate and inspire by sharing stories, tools and strategies to help you unlock your greatest fears, annoying habits and old stories and make a move towards the things that have been on your heart. If you have been a little lost, or in a funk, and want to reconnect with your purpose, your passion and feel empowered again, then this is the best place for you to be hanging out. My name is Carrie liplay. And I'm an ordinary mom making extraordinary decisions. This is me putting one foot in front of the other, moving towards my next goal, and hoping to inspire you along the way. Let's get started.

Hello, everyone, and welcome back to soul inspired decisions, ordinary moms making extraordinary decisions. And I'm your host, Carrie liqui. I love that I'm building a community of moms of women in spreading courage, through being awakened, aware of what we want and want to move towards in our future as being the best moms as being the best wives, partners, whatever you have going on in your life, and moving towards the things that you love. And by doing that makes you full of growth and inspiration and wisdom and knowledge and it comes alive in you. And it was once there when you are a child. And by listening to if it's me or someone else you're listening to you, that means you're open to growth. And that is what this is all about. I love people who are willing to grow. And this is what this is all about. And to this summer, I've taken a very big step back from everything I've done, partly in the fact that that's the conversation I had with my husband over a year ago is that I did want to take a step back over summer. So as I felt I was trying to push and do Instagram and do Facebook and record these episodes, it's really not what I want us to do over the summer, because that's when he's the busiest and I need to be available. And I was I'm just exhausted. And I know there's a lot of moms out there who can completely relate to this that summer in general with kids is is exhausting, we have all these things we want to do and fit in and and now the thing that I'm hearing the most is that the We can't wait till school starts and we get into a routine and get everything set up. So we have a schedule again. And it seems that we pass this time by so quickly. And we put everything that we've wanted and desired and thought about on the back burner to be aware and present and have fun with our families. And then August feels so draining. And come the end of August, then we're looking to step back into all the things that we want and continue back on. And that's the cycles and the seasons of life anyway. So I am the person who loves to support people with their dreams and their inspirations and their desires. And I've had lots of conversations this summer over. The things that have happened this past year that are the aha moments are the messages I get from individuals because they have new clarity, new insight. And this is both men and women. And the number one thing I've enjoyed so much this past year is taking people into a deep dive of what they really want in the How to step forward and doing that. So as I get back into the groove in September, here, I am opening up to a new pro program I want to launch and get back into more coaching because I've taken a bit of a break and put some clients on the back burner.

All with being able to also take care of myself and take some stress off of what's happening in our homes up all the things we've got to do. And also the mess in the camping and the all the things that we as moms put on our plates over summer because it's part of our life. It's part of our job. It's part of our the thing we want to do.

But I really want to start getting your mind because I'm starting to get at my mind of what is it I'm thinking what is it I thinking I want to do next and I just sat on the step with my husband this morning of like, okay, so September is coming, what is next? What do I want to do next and differently? And how am I going to move towards that? And it just got me thinking that it's coming It's time and it's time for me to start thinking about this.

What am I thinking? I am thinking that there's all these things A, B, C and D I want to do which you can probably relate in your own

Life, you've got all these things you want to do. But then they seem so overwhelming. So we never know where to start or which direction to head first. So I want to ask you maybe a little bit differently. So I'm curious to know. So if we were, if I'm with you in your car, or if I'm with you on your walk right now, or if I'm with you, if you're mopping the floor, and I'm the person sitting on the side, just having a conversation with you at your home, just think of me as a friend, right now. And I take the time to ask you, not what, what are you thinking, but what's on your mind?

So when, what am I thinking, we have all these things we are thinking and we become overwhelmed, and we shut down, it doesn't. And we go into, it doesn't matter what I'm thinking. I'm thinking about my son, my daughter, my husband, my dog, all the things that that that's got to come up the programs that I've got to sign my kids up for that's huge right now. I feel I'm bombarded by all the questions of what are my putting my kids in in the fall? Because there's so many options. And for me, my son's only six. So I don't, I don't think it's a huge necessity for me to put them in all the things. I'll ask him a couple questions on what he might like. And we'll pick one, but I don't feel he needs to be in a whole bunch of things at six, because ultimately, I don't need to overwhelm myself. And I still want him to be a kid and just explore and enjoy the things instead of being intertwined with all the things and exhausting myself. That's not what I want to do. So I find that that's huge on people's mind on what are all the things we can put our kids in and in the fall. So if you're getting caught up in that, ask yourself, What do you want? What are you thinking? And when we ask that differently? If I ask what's on your mind?

What's on your mind right now? How do you feel about that? What are you thinking what's on your mind right now, if you take away all the things that you're supposed to put your kids in, or to do with your home or your life, or you got all these things going on,

emptying out the camper and putting all the tenting things away, or, you know, you got to get the school shopping. Now, if I take all of that away for you right now. It's not relevant. And you're here with me in this moment, because we have 60,000 thoughts going through our brain every single day, if we wipe all of that clean, and I'm asking you right now, what are you thinking? What's on your mind?Only you can tell me, or you can acknowledge what that is.

And whatever that comes up, whatever comes up for you, is extremely powerful, because that's about you. If you take away all the other stuff. It's powerful to sink into what it is that you were thinking, and not to dismiss it right away because we do dismiss it, especially if it's something that brings up pain or seriousness, sir, all the things worries, instantly brings those things up, or you may want to dismiss them.

Well, I'm not asking you to bring up those things to make you uncomfortable. I'm asking you, because once you bring up what you're thinking to your mind, because it will help you move forward, it will create a bit of a vision of how you might move forward. Even if it's just for one minute while you're here with me.

What is your vision? What do you want?

Who else benefits by getting what you want? And if you're still worth with me, thinking of these things of my kids benefit, my dog benefits, my husband benefits, the work benefits. That's great. That's where I need you to be I need you to stay Why is this important? vision that and why you want that?

Who else benefits? If you look at your identity, a mom, okay, so this is for simply ordinary moms. We're all ordinary moms, living our best, extraordinary lives, however that looks to you. And if we take away all the comparison from everyone else, and I'm curious to ask you what that means to you when it's just you. When it's just you being the best version of yourself you can be what sort of person do you need to be to create the thing you're thinking about?

And there may be all sorts of overwhelm that come into your mind and it seems really heavy but it

least acknowledge that because that you can deal with, don't let it bring in the anxiety or the fear. We want to go with our intuition. First, our intuition always comes first. And logic always come slamming in right behind us to knock us down. And that's not what we want. That's not where we want to stop. Awareness is key awareness is everything. As women and moms, our first thought in the morning, our days is all about our kids, what we need to do for them, what we need to get them what we need to have done today, or if it's not our kids, our partners, our house, our spouse, our pets are all the things we've got going on, and we get exhausted.

And although some are so fun, and it's so there's so many memories that are created. And we get to see our children happy and run around and play. And we get to experience a different part of year because they were outside more. It goes by super fast. And September rolls around. And a lot of us feel loss, especially when the kids go to school, especially if this is the first time your kids are going to school and you're home alone. You're home alone with your thoughts. And that's very scary for a lot of people to be home alone with their thoughts. So this is also for you.

What are you thinking?

It will help you to take responsibility for your thoughts to put things into action. If your thought is that you might want to take a course you might want to go back to school, you might want to get a job, those are your thoughts, allow them to shut them down right away. That's how you create vision. That's how you start to manifest the things that you want in your life by sinking them. That's where it starts. Now you can choose to shut that down or not, or have outside influences shut that down for you. But at least allow it to be created in your mind. Because that's truly where starts. And then you want to ask yourself, why is it important to you.

So if I want to get a job is to create. If you're looking for growth, you want to start a business, you want to go back to school? Say it out loud. If you're by yourself, what do you want? Why are you choosing this? Why are you choosing to think about what's on your mind right now in this few seconds with me.

And why? Because it is important to you. It's what's in your heart. It's what's on your mind. And if it's on your heart, it won't leave your heart. It's truly what exists in your soul to benefit you and benefit your family in the long run.

So the second part of this is then how might you get what you want? If you take it a step forward and allow yourself to be thinking, the thing that you're thinking,

how might you get that? How might you take the first step and it doesn't have to be today? It doesn't have to be tomorrow. It's just in your mind, what's one way that you could move towards that? From allowing you time while I'm talking to sync about this? Because I know once you shut this podcast off, you zoom into life again, as I do.