Unleashing Unshakeable Confidence With Melinda Lee

Welcome to the Speak In Flow podcast. I am so

glad you're here today, we are going to dive into both stepping

into your Unshakable Confidence and influence. Unshakable

Confidence is when you feel and embody with every fibre

beingness bone cell in your body you feel and the sense of

confidence, a sense of peace. Confidence allows for connection

and trust with you and your audience. Influence is how you

inspire people to take action. I remember a time when I define

myself as a number, purely a number, I'd be in my bathroom,

looking down at that scale, and afraid of what it was going to

tell me because that number was who I was for that day. When it

stepped on the scale, and I'd see a number that was higher

than my ideal weight. broke me, it defined who I was, and, or

am, I was a failure. It broke my heart, I couldn't bear to see

heavier weight as a person who had struggled with an eating

disorder for decades. That's what that meant to me and meant

the world to me that number. And so it was became so challenging

because then I couldn't work. I couldn't focus. Sometimes I

couldn't even help my daughter couldn't have the energy. And I

finally decided I had enough. I didn't care what was going to

happen whether I gain weight, loss weight, what I needed to be

free from this, set myself free from this trap this prison. So I

got a nutritionist, a Workout Trainer, and also a mindset

coach, because I knew I was in for a journey, I could not help

myself anymore. What I was doing to myself was all incorrect. So

I needed to trust somebody else. And I did. It was not easy. But

I knew I needed to do this for my daughter. And to finally do

this for myself, I felt so disconnected from myself. And

what I learned is I finally learned to give myself food.

When I was hungry. I wouldn't do that before. If I was hungry,

I'd starve. And then if I was full, I keep eating sometimes

because I feel so guilty for being full. So then what that's

what my mindset coach would work on me to continue to help clear

my mind clear my thoughts of all this limiting negative feelings

and emotions I had about myself. It was like a two year process.

That to myself, the wholeness of myself, I let go of the negative

thoughts I had about my body so that I can connect back and

listen to what it needed. I was more focused on doing what I was

told by these nutritionists doing what I was told. And

finally, I remember the day running down and jogging down my

block. Feeling free. I had tears in my eyes because I could see

the trees, I could see the sun beaming to feel the sun beaming

on my face. comfort to me letting me know that you did it.

You are free. You're no longer bound by a number. You are way

more than that. You're here to do bigger things. And that is

why I'm so thrilled to be with you today. Because I'm fully

here I'm fully present, where before I was so focused on that

number, I couldn't serve anybody else. But I had to do a lot of

inner work to get here. build my confidence, build my ability to

connect with others, and to allow others to connect with me.

If I had felt any doubt about my weight, I wouldn't allow you to

connect with me because I didn't think I would be good enough. So

you can imagine the day I felt free I felt excited. I'm like

I'm ready to do this. I'm ready to get clients Let's go. And

speaking on that stage and thinking I was gonna get more

clients It's good. I didn't, I didn't know why I was so

frustrated. I thought, Wait, I just did all this work to feel

confident again, but hole again. And yet there was something

missing. People were not acting. So I studied more again, here's

another journey, another layer toward influence, how can I

influence my audience in a way that inspires them motivates

them to do something. And I realised that storytelling was

the next key skill that I needed to learn. I had a lot of

resistance, I don't know how to tell good stories. I don't have

any experiences to share. But then I started realising that I

do, because I started diving in asking myself questions, writing

down on a chart, my life journey. I do have experiences

to share. And they're meant to be shared. And so I learned a

framework for telling powerful stories. And including those

into my presentations, and learning how to include stories

within my presentations, so that I can continue to connect with

the audience, continue to engage them, and continue to take my

audience on the same ride with me. So we're both on the ride

together. And inspiring people motivating them. Getting them,

like fired up and passionate about solving our problems, all

the problems that we have in the world. So let's do this. Let's

do this together. And I need the support of the people in the

room. And that is when I started to create influence. And if

people were out there, naysayers that were out there, I knew I

could trust myself to be in the moment to answer difficult

questions. And that is how we can all collaborate, and work

together. I realised the difference between confidence

which builds connection, trustworthiness and influence,

which motivates inspires people to ask people know what the next

step is. Those two combined is the powerful approach system

that that we learned in the speaking flow programme, both

stepping into confidence and influence. So that you can make

a bigger difference. So that you can inspire and, and have a team

and have people in your community and, and have

meaningful relationships because it is finally time that we all

change the way that we communicate in this world. It

matters, communication, connection, and influence. With

the way AI is going, communication is a way that

we're going to continue to have humanity sustain humanity. So

until I hope that you had taken this, my story and my example to

inspire you, to let you know that it is possible. Your

confidence is not far from you. It's always been within you.

Back to the wholeness of yourself, back to the confidence

self. A self that trust that you can influence and lead people.

That's the journey that we're on. I'm glad that you're here

until I see you again on the other side. I'm your sister in

flow. Take care