Ep 463 - Why Am I Always Rushing Around Running Out Of Time?

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It's helping someone out a couple of weeks ago. And there was a comment made by them about you know, if I've got time got a lot on and we're just having a conversation around time and, and how busy they were and lots of different things going on. And I won't go into the full details of the conversation. But the intuitive guidance I got through as I replied was i i imagine that there were certain times in your past that you had to be in a hurry that you you had to be on alert, you had to be getting things done quickly for your safety. And so that pattern remains, and yet you're safe. Now, you don't need to do that anymore. That was a real lightbulb moment for them. The sudden realization of Yeah, like at a young age, there was necessity. Certain parts of their upbringing, it was a necessity to be in a hurry and to be on alert and to be racing around making sure everything was safe in order. In that fight or flight, state constantly. Nervous System just constantly, that heightened state where it's really not good for your long term health. And that pattern repeating and repeating and repeating and you you get to an older age. And you'll wonder why you keep repeating these patterns. For me, I'm very familiar with one of mine, which is being late to things. But also know that as a shy kid, I never wanted to get there early. Because then I'd have to sit around on my own. And then as people arrived that they would invariably talk to me and they'd be uncomfortable. Takes me back to that first year of school where I'd often get there early, I'd be sitting around this shy kid just wanting the world to swallow me up. So it's safer to be late. And there are different times where that's not a problem. And I make sure I get my name itself on there on time. But there are other times where I can just be like how on earth like I was so ready and I was prepared and yet somehow I'm late again, it's just the unconscious patterning that's still there. And other layers to it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you doesn't mean that there's anything that's broken. But rather this is a pattern that needs addressing these changing it's also probably for me to a level of impatience when I have to get some early and have to wait, get impatient and and that part of me that likes to maximize everything wants everything to be the best it can. It's like I'm just wasting time here. So for you is like what, what have I got going on? What? What patterns where I'm rushing around? And like what is that from? And acknowledging where it might have come from? Or just even just acknowledging if you're not sure, just acknowledging that there's nothing wrong with you now. There's a pattern playing out and you can change it. You can change the habit and it is possible was having a bit of a curious look at what What emotions do you get going on? Like what happens to your body when you're rushing? Like, again, I was thinking about someone I've been helping recently. It's like a lower back pain, like a real tightening up of needing to get things done for other people. It's that part of us lower backs all about giving and receiving. Got to make sure I've got everything done or that people pleasing aspect. Getting this downtime got to get this done on time. So you know, broken, you're not you're not doing anything wrong. There's nothing wrong with you. Certainly no value in spinning anytime, blah blaming yourself or coming down on yourself or talking to yourself in a really negative way. Because we all do that at different times, right? It's the more you can catch yourself out and correct yourself again, like, I've just got a patent that needs attention. And it's not trying to solve all the different patterns, because we're all running hundreds of these things all at once. It's like, okay, what's the one that's most pressing? So for you rushing around may not be causing you a problem, it actually may be to your benefit. But where is it not to your benefit? Where is it actually causing you frustration distress? What's the alternative? How much better does it look feel, seem sound like being on time, being calm, being relaxed. real eye opener was a first six weeks of the pandemic here in Australia in Sydney, really six weeks shutdown can't go anywhere except for shops and, and you go to the shops, and there's no other road and the shops are pretty clear. And this is how I want to live. Suddenly, it's a realization that I spend way too much of my time rushing around. Now this was the case for a lot of people not having to commute every day to work not having to do a whole lot of things that they didn't, that they usually did rushing around, more time with the family more time for exercise, all these different things, they're like, I can't get back there. But for some of you, you eventually get back to the point where you're just as busy again, because you didn't take the steps to change the pattern to release those old behaviors and, and whatever the root cause is that might need attention. So make sure as always focus on what the alternative is, how do you want things to be awareness around where you get it wrong. Treat yourself kindly knowing that you're doing the best you can the circumstances you got. And that will be enough for and why they've addressed the root cause talking about externalizing it writing in your journal, meditate on it, whatever works for you. You can start going about changing the pattern, changing the behavior and getting better results.

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