Ep 485 - Why You Procrastinate

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I'll pose a question around procrastination in the title why you procrastinate. But I want to make it really clear that there's no one simple answer on why it's often a complex area. But here's one of the most common areas why people procrastinate, particularly in their personal life as opposed to their work life. Now, have a think if this resonates with you, you always can hit the deadlines. When you're given for work, you seem to keep on track pretty easily, you get things done. And they're just tasks that you you know how to do. So you just get on with them. Sometimes, maybe you need a bit of a kick up the ass, but you get to it and you get it done. And things tend to move forward pretty well. You might even feel like it's more successful than that. And you're actually doing really quite well. But then you turn your attention to your personal stuff. And suddenly, you're avoiding things, you're not getting things done. things around the house, you put them off, and that procrastination becomes very real. Now everything about the work scenario, at work, you get training, you get a clear structure, you get accountability, you get encouragement. And of course, you get the reward, you get paid, right, which is a big motivator. But having all those things really clear means at any given time, you know what the next step is? And there might be times where you procrastinate at work, too. And quite possibly, it's because those things aren't present. You're not feeling like you're getting rewarded at the level that you should. You're not you haven't had the structure. You haven't been trained in a certain area, you don't know what the steps are. But then the moment you get those things back, then everything seems to flow. The challenge is we were not given training in our personal life. We're not given a book that explains to us how to do life, particularly for you specifically in your unique life, your unique relationships, your unique situation, is there a rulebook there's no set structure to follow. And you don't always have those steps mapped out. But the good news is you can create all of those things yourself. For me in in my work, career, so often I wasn't given structure for the things I needed to do 100% Here's the training, here's what need to get done, get it done. Here's the deadlines where you go. But for the things beyond that, where you really add value, I had to create my own structure because it wasn't provided no one had taught me that I had a strong desire to learn it. I wanted to get better at those areas. So I spent probably 15 years creating structure, I'm still doing that now. How can I put in more in place? How can I educate myself even more, so that I can reach a higher level of competence and reach a level of excellence. And then procrastination reduces. planning in place, put structure in place, all of those things that I mentioned and also the reward that comes with that. The more you put in, the more you learn, the more the better you get and the rewards increase, but also important to reward yourself. So in a personal setting, once you're going to be reward when you get those next things on you to do list down, that rewards don't have to be massive, but you need to recognize them, you need to spend time actually acknowledging what they've given you. And treat it as a result reward. Celebrate. Because the brain loves that the unconscious part is like a wonder that again, once you get more of it so be kind to yourself when you don't have those things in place in your personal life. Have a think about it. You get told I can't bring work home and you even probably think about it, I don't wanna bring my work home, but don't bring work home. But do bring the structure and the training ideas and anything else that you can apply to your home life that you know works. Put in place. And you'll see that you'll be able to move forward with a seeing so much so much. With so much more was much more effortless, and feeling like you're making so much more progress and getting better momentum. Planning is another one that comes to mind. Generally, in a workplace is an element of planning it's built in either from a manager or leader or just the nature of the work and maybe you have to do planning yourself. Are you planning what's going on? Now there is your life. Your your health? Do you have a plan? Like I said, plan? Do you know what steps for your finances? For your relationships, like do you have a plan? Need a plan, you need steps just makes it so much easier. Want to say need you can survive without them. But that's when we get most states of procrastination or worse, procrastinate too much and you start feeling down. And that's a whole other conversation. So get yourself in the state Westdale applying those things from your disk is a given in the workplace and start applying them to your personal life.

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