It's Not the Wrong Decision That's Keeping You Stuck

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Get everyone to talk about decisions today. I just wrapped up a follow up session with a business here that I did some training with a few months back. And we're talking about decisions. There's actually a conversation I had after the after the training when an individual staff and he was just talking about some of the decisions that had to be made in business. And what he was saying is like, oh, you know, I wonder, you know, is the is there a pre destined path that you take in life or does it you know, where the decisions come into. And, and we'll both have the same belief that where we end up heading will be the same point. It's the road that we take it where we get the choice. And it's not the making a wrong decision that keeps you stuck, that takes you into anything that you that shouldn't be, it's the lack of the decision that keeps you stuck. It's the inability to commit to yourself and back yourself to actually able to move forward, which is what keeps you stuck. Any decision will get you where you need to go. Now, of course, there's certain discernment, we need to show around the decisions we make and gather information. But not getting caught in analysis, paralysis and taking too long to make the decision. At a really simple level, you make a decision. If it's the wrong decision, go back and head the other way. If it's the right decision, then you're on the right path. But there's nothing worse than being stuck and not actually making a decision. And then just continuing to feel like you're going nowhere. That's that's not enjoyable at all. We can allow life to blow us wherever we go. But again, I'll quote from the conversation I had today with this guy in the office was what if the wind doesn't blow, you just end up somewhere, sitting there waiting for something to some something or someone to take you wherever it is you're meant to be going. And I really love that analogy. So at the moment, like how do you make better decisions? Well, it's getting clear on where you're headed. What is it you want from your life? Where How do you want your life to be? And then some really important parts of that are getting really clear on what are the most important priorities in your life? And what are your values? Because they become your decision making tools. They become your GPS, they allow you to navigate anything. If you're looking at a certain decision, and one option doesn't fit in with your values, well, then it's an easy answer. If one decision doesn't fit in around what your main priorities in life, then it's an easy decision. Have a think about how often when you're making decisions, you get caught on what is important for other people. Instead of coming back to what's most important for you have a think about how often you make a decision. That's for other people's agendas for what other people think you should be doing, and how often you get knocked off path by other people's stuff. Instead of coming back to what's the most important priority. Have a think of how often you get you make decisions based on things that are way down your list of priorities. If you think about work, for example, how often you making decisions with work, the primary decision making tool you're using when the reality is that's way down the list of what's most important. What I know, if we look through that lens of grief is when you're in those darkest moments, when you're experiencing loss. What's most important is not what's happening at work. It's what's happening in those within yourself, your own health and well being and the most important relationships in your life. So get real clear where you're heading. The order of priorities in your life, your values, and then it's just a daily running it through that daily filter, particularly when you're making decisions. Am I living to these to where I'm heading to the priorities to the values when I make this decision? Is the decision aligning to those things as well. That becomes your GPS that allows you to navigate anything, and allows you to move forward quicker without feeling like you're stuck without feeling like you're just running around in circles. Because I'll reiterate what I said at the start making a decision is far more important than getting it right. And yes, those people are going to jump on and go, Yeah, but, you know, if I make a really bad decision here, then then that's that's not the right thing to do. And it's like, yeah, sure. That's why you run it through that filter of what is most important, and then make the decision that way. What I do know is that making no decision at all is just going to keep you stuck. So the action from today is, where's the decision that you're not making any decision? was the decision where you're feeling stuck, where you're just waiting for the answers to come? Where you're not taking self control, self responsibility, and moving forward? And then make a decision? Will I decide? Or will I buy so why bother? Or will I allow myself to stay stuck here? Enjoy the rest of your day, and I'll speak to you soon.

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