Optimism & Trust

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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the Ian Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this work, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.

Your expectations about the future? Do you live with an optimism that things are working out? Do you have a trust in the roots life a higher power? Destiny fate? Whatever you want to call it? Do you ever trust that things are working out? Or do you live with a pessimism expecting things to go wrong? Miss mistrusting situations, circumstances people. Now, both the choices and doesn't guarantee results whichever way you think. But it definitely contributes and contributes probably more than you realize. When you have an expectation around something, then your whole body so physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually shows up in a way of whatever that way of looking at the world is whatever that attitude is. So if you've got a positive expectation, a positive attitude, a positive outlook, then that energy is going to precede you going into every circumstance. But if you're already defeated, you're already expecting the worst. And again, that's the energy going to bring in an expectation of things going wrong. Neither guarantees. So a negative expectation doesn't guarantee a negative result. But it can contribute to increasing the chances because of how you show up. And the same with positive expectation, it doesn't guarantee that you'll get the result you're after. But it guarantees you'll give yourself the best chance. So circumstances come into it. There are certain elements that you just can't control in life. Be give yourself the best chance when you have that positive expectation. And when you have that trust in the future, we have that optimism. Then you can see how things unfold. When you look back. You can see how things have how you've taken certain steps, how things have unfolded in a certain way because of an expectation of what you're working towards a positive expectation that what it is you desire, what it is you want, has come to be. And of course, you can also see the opposite of that how your self fulfilling prophecy has come to be because you've had a negative response to something. I want to read you this quote. I've mentioned it before on this podcast, Steve Jobs as a addressed to Stanford University. I think it was a graduation speech for a particular year. And he's talking about joining the dots and he said you can't connect the dots looking forward. You can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never led me down. It just made all the difference in my life. Now, that approach has never let me down either. Sure, there are times where I've put trust in different things and it hasn't worked out how I expected in the short term. But then as I move forward and things unfold, then you realize that there was some necessary things that had to take place. It's not things falling apart. It's things falling into place. But as Steve Jobs says here, and they quote, you have to trust something. So where are you putting your trust? Trust in the doomsday future will trust in a positive future? Now I love how he described it, you got to trust something you've done, right? So that gut instinct, Destiny, like just life, right? Like I've talked about this all the time, wife will give you feedback. If you're on the right path, you'll get positive affirmation from life. And if you're not, you'll get the opposite. So imagine how good life could be if you trusted your gut, if you're able to act on your gut instincts more. Because you know how often that you haven't trusted your gut. And later wished you had. Ultimately, where you put that external trust in something like the universe, life, whatever, it comes down to that internal trust, how much do you trust yourself? How optimistic are you about your future? Your destiny. So you make a commitment today to have that positive expectation. This doesn't mean that you just smile at everything. And you don't face those challenges that come up for you mentally, emotionally, physically. But you have a positive expectation that no matter what you're going through, that things are going to work out how they're meant to work out. So again, I want to really write this does not mean that you just put on a brave face and smile through stuff that you actually need to deal with. That's not what I'm saying. Because there are going to be times when life throws curveballs at you. And you have to take the time to address the challenge. I talk about that with you guys all the time, right? Is that you need to to be able to have that courage to step out whatever it is that's keeping you stuck, that has you blocked, but with a positive expectation. So there might be times even with that positive expectation that you're feeling quite down, that you're feeling angry that you feel sad, dejected. And that's going to happen. But whatever you have that forward looking positivity, trusting your gut, knowing that sometimes your gut takes you to a place, which is not what you think is the right answer from a logic perspective. But your, your inner self, your highest self, your soul, if you will, knows the right path. And sometimes it takes a few jumps around something to get where we really want to go. So just because when you trusted your gut, it didn't take you to exactly where you thought it was going to just keep trusting because sometimes that gut instinct, that intuition takes you to the intuition, to the intuition to the intuition, which takes you the actual thing you wanted. It's not always a direct line. And as the quote says, You can't connect the dots looking forward to stop trying, stop trying to determined how those steps will look. Because that will just keep you stuck. And it will keep you in that space of overthinking. Instead, know that you'll be able to join the dots looking back as long as you keep moving forward that positivity, trusting those instincts, allowing things to play out and how they will.

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