The Dip” That Feels Like A Hole Before Things Get Better

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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the end Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this word, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.

Whenever you level up, and that leveling up might be you releasing old belief might be letting go of an old pattern. Maybe it's we've broken through something that's been blocking you for a long time, maybe you've had assistance in letting go of, of a habit that is no longer serving you. When you go to that next level. Before you level up, there's a dip. You may feel like you've done all this work, you've come out the other side or something. And it feels like you're in a worse place. This is a pivotal moment. Because if you allow yourself to be drawn into that old story that, like I've done the work I know I just had a breakthrough. Why do I feel like I've actually gone backwards. If you buy into that, you will allow yourself to be dragged in to that dip. And it may well become a bigger hole, or you stay in that dip for much longer than you need to, instead of recognizing that after you have a big breakthrough. It's like a mini death, a mini moment of grief. Because part of you that you've been with you from such a young age is now gone. It's like part of you died. A part of you that's not serving you anymore. But nonetheless, it's a mini death. I've heard people describe it as an ego death. Part of what has driven you, not from a place of heart, but from a place of ego has died, you've let go of it. And so there's a mini grieving process. So allow yourself to go through the rage, acceptance, denial, all those other different things that might show up guilt, anything, recognize it, be aware of it and then get excited, because it means you're about to level up, it means you're about to go to another level. And it's necessary. Now as you get better at this, and you recognize the dip, you'll find it actually turns into more of a plateau, you'll actually find it's more like a little tiny little ripple, tiny little bump. But it's being able to identify that when that happens when you make that breakthrough. When you are able to move past something that sometimes you can feel like a setback. That's not even there. If you're the sort of person that relies on having a trigger to remind you of this, pull it somewhere you'll see it. So for me my office have a whiteboard in front of me here where I have all the key things I need to the need to remember. And if there's something that I want to really install the moment then I put it up there until it becomes second nature. It's subliminally going into my mind every day because it's up there and I'm seeing it whether I consciously making an intention to read it or not. You're the sort of person that you're on the go a bit. Maybe you could put it in your phone. Set a reminder to check it with with some other things. You might want to check everyday low goals and other sorts of daily habits and routines and so on. But just get it somewhere where you can see it somewhere you can read it somewhere where it's front of mind until you're able to create that habit. Enjoy the dip, because you can now get excited about where we're heading next.

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