The Wrong Coaching Took Me Into A State Of Dependency

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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it and what to do next. Before we start by one request. If any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the Ian Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this work, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.

The wrong coaching for me to me in a state of complete dependency, because I didn't realize it at the time, unfortunately, is the last section of the coaching industry that uses this to their advantage and teaches others to the same. They try and keep people in their inverted commas system for as long as possible. And it's disempowering, then you're left feeling like it must be all your own fault, which is exactly where I sat after investing a significant amount of money. And while I got incredible results, not the results that I was assured I would at the start of the trainee. Study I must have stuffed something up. And this is sort of coaching keeps you in a perpetual state of needing external validate validation and rescuing causes procrastination uncertainty wastes time and money and leaves you feeling more stuck than ever. You're not thinking you must need more healing or more clearing or more blocks going out of the way or more of those unconscious blocks moved. So you build a new dependency. I talked about this in a previous episode when I talked about that addicted to healing. And this was me until I found a coach who in powered me to find my own personal formula to find productivity to find action and success. Didn't belittle me. In Rashmi was patient gave me a methodology tailored to me a personal formula. And there's just too many cookie cutter approaches out there where one size fits all options and whereas the people I speak to they want tailor made solutions. And that's what I value myself. So that's what I create. And that's my intention, everyone I coach is to empower them to help them find their own unique formula. An old saying you teach them how to fish and you feed him for a lifetime. So I'll teach you to fish, metaphorically, of course, to break down and break free of the dependency on others of its feeling powered. You're already far more successful, and you're giving yourself credit. So just keep moving forward on that success. Take a moment to recognize and record all the success you've had in the last year. And I'm into that right now. I mean, soon as this episode finishes, stop what you're doing, put pen to paper and record your progress. break free of that dependency on others. Create an independence within you that will set you free. Like the Jim Rohn quote says it's not dependency that creates your future. It's independence that creates your better future. Make it happen. I hope you enjoyed this episode of The Grief Code podcast. Thank you so much for listening. Please share it with a friend or family member that you know would benefit from hearing it too. If you are truly ready to heal your unresolved or unknown grief, let's chat. Email me at info at Ian Hawkins coaching.com You can also stay connected with me by joining the Grief Code community at Ian Hawkins coaching.com forward slash The Grief Code and remember, so that I can help even more people to heal. Please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform