Today on The Karen Kenney Show, I’m sharing a couple of quotes that have been instrumental in helping me to not beat myself up about the past.
We’ll explore how the mind loves to travel back in time to all the past places where you messed up or got it wrong.
I’ll also share a different way of looking at things and a helpful approach to making peace with when we’ve been clumsy.
Instead of dragging our past into our present (and ultimately our future) – we can chose a new way of being with ourselves and others!
KEY POINTS:
• Helpful Quotes
• Travel Backwards in Time
• The Clumsy Places
• Finish Each Day
• Powerful Pattern Interrupt
• You Are Reborn
• The Nest - Group Mentoring Program
Karen Kenney is a certified Spiritual Mentor, Writer, Integrative Change Worker, Coach and Hypnotist. She’s known for her dynamic storytelling, her sense of humor, her Boston accent, and her no-BS, down-to-earth approach to Spirituality and transformational work.
KK is a wicked curious human being, a life-long learner, and has been an entrepreneur for over 20 years! She’s also a yoga teacher of 24+ years, a Certified Gateless Writing Instructor, and an author, speaker, retreat leader, and the host of The Karen Kenney Show podcast.
She coaches both the conscious + unconscious mind using practical Neuroscience, Subconscious Reprogramming, Integrative Hypnosis/Change Work, and Spiritual Mentorship. These tools help clients to regulate their nervous systems, remove blocks, rewrite stories, rewire beliefs, and reimagine what’s possible in their lives and business!
Karen encourages people to deepen their connection to Self, Source and Spirit in down-to-earth and actionable ways and wants them to have their own lived experience with spirituality and to not just “take her word for it”.
She helps people to shift their minds from fear to Love - using compassion, storytelling and humor. Her work is effective, efficient, memorable, and fun!
KK’s been a student of A Course in Miracles for close to 30 years, has been vegan for over 20 years, and believes that a little kindness can make a big difference.
KK WEBSITE: www.karenkenney.com
Hey you guys, I'm super duper excited to see you. I'm not seeing you, though, am I?
You're seeing me.
Okay,
it's the Karen Kenney show.
Hey you guys. I'm super Wait. Do I have oatmeal in my teeth?
Oh, my God. It's been a day. It's been a day. Okay, and we're back. Okay? So this suck is going to be super duper short. I'm getting ready to head out to teach yoga
class, and this is something that was on my mind. And I'm like, You know what? I'm going to I'm going to share this. I was going to let it,
you know, just kind of sit with me a little bit before I opened my mouth, and then I was like, no, no, I'm just going to come hot off the presses. So one of the things that I see
so many people doing causing their own suffering, this is just little, this is like a mini little love letter from my heart to yours. I'm going to share a quote with you.
I'm going to share a couple of quotes with you that I have found extremely helpful over the years, but I just know that so many people right. They sometimes will wake up in
the morning and they're already trapped. They're already caught in the trap of the way that their mind likes to travel backwards in time. So I say to my clients
all the time, oh, your future casting or your time traveling, right? And so the mind the brain, because the brain likes to kind of navigate the world. First of all, it
hates uncertainty, and it's not a huge fan of change.
So it kind of likes to, like, look at everything through the lens of, what does it already know? What does it already experience? And so a lot of times we'll wake
up in the morning and we're already kind of like going backwards and dragging yesterday, what had happened yesterday, and the stuff that happened before, before this moment,
like before today. And that could be, you know, that could be, you know, the day before, a week ago, 20 years ago, right? And so a lot of times we love to drag that shit,
the stuff that maybe we're not proud of, the stuff that we blew like we blew it with stuff we didn't get right, the places where we were clumsy, the places where, you know,
it's the ego is trying to impress upon us some sort of guilt or shame or regret or something like that. Okay, so when I find that my ego's trying to be wicked sneaky,
now look at here's the deal. There is some shit that we're gonna do in our lives that we do have to look at. We do have to own, and that's important. I'm not saying we just
take the things that we've done and we don't make amends, and we don't try to be better. I'm not saying that, but there's just going to be times, just in being human, where
we're going to make some mistakes, and yes, it's important that we acknowledge them and then, not just maybe verbally, say I'm sorry, but then try to do better. But here's
the thing, it doesn't do you or anybody else any good if we insist on dragging all that old stuff forward and then continue to beat ourselves up about it, right this, this
often shows up As like
self hatred, inner criticism,
self judgment, attack on the self
that I already say, low self esteem, like there's these things that will often happen because we are judging ourselves so harshly. Okay, so here's a quote that I've always
found wicked helpful. Ralph Waldo Emerson, and he says this. He says, finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could, some blunders and absurdities, no
doubt crept in. Forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day, and you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be incumbent with your old nonsense.
I love this so much. First of all, it makes me laugh, and laughter is an immediate pattern interrupt for me like it jolts me out of my my bullshit loop factor that can
happen in my brain, right? So laughter for me is a powerful Pattern Interrupt of bumping me out of my own kind of, like, like navel gazing, of like, I blew it, I made a
mistake. I can't believe I said that. I can't believe I did that. Blah, blah, blah, blah. Of course, those things are going to happen, right? Because we're human and we're
not perfect, and mistakes are how we learn, mistakes are how we grow, mistakes are how we do better next time. Okay, I'm going to read that quote to you again before, before
I sign off, but I just want you to hear this. And the other quote that I have found wicked, wicked helpful over the years is a course from to.
Quote from A Course in Miracles, and I'm paraphrasing, but here's the essence, here's the hot beat of it, right? Anytime you don't drag your past into the present moment, you
are reborn.
To me, I see this, right? This isn't like holy Rola, like Born Again Christian talk. This is I'm not, I'm not bagging on that, like To each his own. I'm just saying that
that word reborn. I know it can trigger stuff, right? I'm doing air quotes. It can trigger stuff in people, but anytime you don't drag your past into the present
moment, you're reborn. Because it's like you're seeing a new it's like you're meeting yourself with fresh eyes and a fresh experience. You're meeting other people when
we don't take our old nonsense and insist on dragging it into the present moment, and it's so important that we're not doing that, because what we're thinking and focusing on
and talking about and who we're being is also going to affect our future. So we don't want to keep dragging our nonsense past into the now, right? So anytime we don't drag our
past into the present. We are reborn. But you know what else is reborn our relationships. And I was saying this to somebody the other day, somebody who's in
the nest. We were talking about
just people, family members, whatever people who you have history with. And
whenever, people are saying to me, like, Oh God, I gotta see my family at Christmas or Thanksgiving, or I gotta X, Y and Z with a sibling or an old cohort, whatever the thing
is, somebody you have, who you have history with. It's a really fun experiment to try to pack your bags and your judgments and your stories and your boxes, those small boxes,
right, that we love to put people in, where we don't let them grow or change or be different. I said, What if you could meet them as if you were meeting them for the
first time? What if you could show up at this event or go to this thing, right, and meet these people or this person as if you're meeting them for the first time,
like, what if you were to meet them without all your stories and all your history and all your baggage. Now look, of course, of course, there's going to be some history we
have with people where we're not that interested in doing kumbaya time. You know what I mean? I'm not saying, Put yourself in relationship to danger and like to tolerate
nonsense. Don't be a doormat. There's nothing spiritual about that. I'm just saying though, what if? What if, in a hot there was some desire for repair and to see
somebody anew, like, what might it be like if we just tried to meet people with fresh eyes?
I mean, I think it's worth trying. I think it's a good experiment. And if you try it, I would love to know how it goes for you. And I try to do this sometimes in my own life,
it's like, what would my experience be like if I stopped showing up with my bag of judgments, with all of my attacks and my opinions and my proof, my quote, unquote
proof of of how they're a dick or something. You know what I mean? Because we how we do things,
um, in one situation often carries over, which means I'm also often doing that to myself. If we're if we're being wicked, hash on other people, we tend to also be hashing
ourselves. So what if we could just finish the day, as Emerson says, and be done with it. Okay? Try it on and just see. Like I said, this is going to be a really short
episode. It's just on my mind. And I wanted to, like, plunk this little
poop, little poop, just drop, drop this into your consciousness and your awareness and tell me how you feel about that. Like, when you hear that, meet them as if you meeting
for the first time. Like, like, clean slate, fresh eyes, right? Like, tell me how your body responds to that. Like, does your face scrunch up? Like, no, like, no, too much.
Too much has happened. KK, you don't know. You don't know. And notice how, if the ego wants to go into all its stories, just pay attention. No judgment. Let me know how it
goes. All right, I'm going to read this one more time, finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. And this line is interesting and important, because
you have done what you could. And when I think about this, it's like, yeah, because if I could have done better at that moment, right? I would have, but I didn't. I did
what I could in that moment, with what I had, with my energy level, how much sleep I got? Was I rested? Was I hungry? Was I cranky? What was I hormonal? Like? What was
going on? Right? Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities, no doubt crept in right. Double admin hands. It's true. It
probably has forget them as soon as you can, though, like, just put them in the rear view mirror. Of course, make amends if you really weren't kind or hurtful to somebody, of
course, right, forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it. I love this. You shall begin it serenely and with too highest spirit to be encumbered
with your old nonsense.
Times. And one of the great ways that we can start our day unencumbered right by our old nonsense and with a really high spirit is to have a DSP, a daily spiritual practice. You
start your day off that way, aligning your mind with God, with source, with the Creator, with universe, with whatever you want to call it,
the higher power, like your highest self, right? Your goodness, capital G, goodness, whatever it is, you start your day there, right? You see me doing the alignment, the
assignment. The assignment is alignment. You start your day there. It's way easier to put that nonsense in your rear view mirror and say, Well, today is a new day, and today I'm
going to do it a little bit better than I did it yesterday. All right? I hope this was helpful in some way. I hope you have a fantastic rest of your day.
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