Magnetism, Gratitude and Love - Alex Goudie

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Hello, Alex.

How are you Cordelia?

I am absolutely amazing. Ah, thank you. So do you. You? Yeah, you're the hot guy sitting next to me at the ultimate experience. Do you remember that?

Oh, that wasn't even a year ago. Of course I remember. Yeah.

Yeah, yeah. Yeah, that's how we met. So what's what's new with you since then, like, Who are you now? A year later, after the ultimate experience?

That's a good question. I don't know, truly, who I am, I'm figuring it out. I thought I had it all figured out. And then post pandemic, everything just kind of changed for me to the point where it almost feels uncomfortable, because you get so comfortable knowing who you are, and you're on this track, and you're on this path. And then everything just gets flipped upside down. And in 2021, and 2020 2020 22, I guess it's a very challenging year for me. Um, I just didn't feel fulfilled in any thing I was doing, um, I was managing to different artists, and I love music. And I love both of those artists so much, so much. And they're both successful, there was just something missing. And I felt myself kind of just, you know, getting in funks, and just not feeling like just being lost and being confused. And in August, think it was late August or early September. I made this radical sounds radical in this day and age, you know, I made a radical decision. I decided I was going to be a 45 year old intern. And I did that because one of my best friends owns a record label called nyan 16. It's not just a record label, it's we have a TV show that just came out on Disney plus in November, one coming out on Netflix in March. But aside from that, he's just the most inspirational person I know. He's only 36 years old, and he's just a visionary. He's got such a huge heart. He really cares about people. Um, and he's somebody that I just admire greatly from the day I met him, I knew he was a genius. And there was no position for me at his company, but I knew I wanted to be a part of this company. And as even though he's my boy, he's not going to just hire me. And just give me money for no reason. You know, even though he's super wealthy, and you know, got three cars and a driver and he's got the whole nine, you know? Yeah. Um, but I took a bet on myself. I gambled, I was like, I'm gonna go into it and I call them up. I was like, Hey, I'm calling to give you a courtesy call, and usually a courtesy call. What are you talking about? Because I just came out came out of left field with it. I didn't. I didn't prepare him for it. I was like, I'm calling to give you a courtesy call. You're like courtesy call? What do you what are you talking about? I'm like, I'm about to call every major record label in in Miami. All the major record labels are in Miami and Latin side. They're, they're based here. And I know everybody throws labels. So I was like, I'm gonna call all the record labels and I'm gonna get in. I'm going to intern somewhere. But where I really want to work is a neon 16. And he's like, is that what you really want to do? It's like, Alright, come tomorrow, fill out the paperwork. And this gets done. Wow. So I'm, I'm all excited. I'm hyped up. I'm I had this plan, like, sounds great, right. And then the day that I have to go to my first day, I'm getting dressed. And like, What the hell am I doing? I'm about to go intern with 20 year olds. 21 year olds wearing college don't have any experience. Here I am, who has a you know, achieved certain levels of success as this persona has this status in the community. He, within my industry and all that, like, you can't do this, you know, your ego starts kind of getting in the way and I can, no. So I had that moment for a second, like, what am I doing? Getting dressed, and I'm getting ready to go intern, like, I got white hair bro. Um, but but I got dressed and I showed up and I'm getting introduced to the other interns and, you know, 2122 years old and wide eyed and bushy tailed, and don't really know that much about the industry. You know, and, and life and all that. And you know that that little easy feeling went away really quickly. And I knew that I was in the right place, I knew I was gonna have an amazing story to tell, once I this is all said and done. I knew that I was going to make myself so valuable, or show my my worth and value that they had no choice. But to figure it out, we were going to figure it out in three months, where I fit in how I fit in and what I would be doing. And three months later, I had a job. I mean, it only took maybe three weeks before he he knew who he was like, I was like, you know, I'm never leaving this place, right? He's like, Yeah, no, he's like, we have to hire you. And I had an opportunity within the first few weeks to I had to run point on a major event, a celebrity event 600 people. And I pretty much ran the whole thing. So they kind of, and I don't get stressed under pressure. I'm not one of those people that wanders in, you're in high pressure situations, all the sudden, an attitude comes out and this and that. I'm like, so not bad at all. So you know, in these high pressure environments, I'm just calm and cool as a fan and just attack task by task, boom, boom, boom, boom. And they're like, Yeah, okay. And it paid off. So now here I am working in a talent incubator, if you will, because there's so many avenues within the entertainment industry that is going on, we just won seven Latin Grammys as a record label, and no relations. So thank you. So you know, to highly successful company working at the highest levels, and I'm right where I want to be. And I'm, and I'm surrounded by people who inspire you every day, to to be greater. It's also a place where No dream is too big, no matter how big it is, you know that we have the resources and the relationships to do it. So it just allows you to be completely free. In your dreaming. You can anything you can possibly think of you're like, you know, if it's a good idea, we're going to put the muscle behind it. What are the days that I was there at work? I had nothing to do.

Hold on, before you tell this story. I want to I want to say this, I want to acknowledge you for allowing yourself to abandon your ego, right? And surrender to possibility that that's what I heard. And I just love what it's created for you. So

you the whole time I was I was going through this process. I'm like, yo, this is so much bigger than me, because I'm gonna have a story to tell. I think there's a lot of people in their 40s who go through periods of like uncertainty with whether it's their career and and I wouldn't call this a midlife crisis. Because I think a midlife crisis comes from people not doing what they've always wanted to do. And then they get to a point where they're like, oh my god, I'm halfway done in my life. And I'm not doing anything that I've ever wanted to do. I've done everything I've wanted. I just was unfulfilled, and where I was, and I knew I wanted to do something different. But I think that my story and it's still, you know, I still have a way to go. The story is still in process. Where is this going to meet? And I know it's gonna lead to great things. And I think that it will be able to help a lot of people not be afraid to take that leap. I mean, people are willing to spend hundreds of 1000s hundreds of 1000s of dollars to go to a four year college with no guarantees. Yeah. And I took a three month you know, internship, I invested three months of my time, then spending money I didn't get paid, but I didn't invest any of my money. I just worked my butt off for three months and and I got exactly what I wanted out of it. Um, and I think and I think it is ego that gets in people's way from from doing taking that step to do something like that. Because as humble as I am, relatively, I guess you could say into compared to the average person you It was even tough for me I had my, my moments where I was like, Yo, I'm, I'm this person, I've done this and I've done this, I can't go backwards. And speaking about our good friend Quran, when I was speaking to him on the phone about it, and they he was like, it's like a slingshot. He's like, You got to pull the rock backwards for in order for you to launch forward at a high rate. He's like, That's all you're doing. You're like a slingshot. You just took a small little backward step, then get launched. And I was like, Man, that is such a brilliant way to look at it. And, and here's the truth. And then so going back to the day where I was twiddling my thumbs at work and had nothing to do. I was like, Well, I can't sit here in a room full of creatives and wasting my time. I got to come up with something. Let me just invent something. So I just started thinking, and I started writing a TV show. 30 minutes later, I have the show written the treatment. I have all the characters I had, like, it was amazing. So I go to Lex next Barreiro the CEO and founder of neon. And again, I just made this company millions of dollars. And he's like, Ha ha ha, yeah. Okay. Well, I just wrote a show in 30 minutes. That's going to change be the biggest show that ever comes out of me. And he's like, show it to Santiago. One of the directors over and producers at, at entertain, which is the sister company of neon on the television and film side. See what he thinks about it. I show it to scientists, architects, it's great. Because Pablo who hates everything. He's just a very analytical critical guy who just looks through everything through a fine tooth comb. And yeah, whatever, Braga. He reads it. He's like, Yeah. So then everybody read this, read the show come up. Within three or four days, my show has become priority number one for the company in 2023. And that was all born of first me deciding to take that leap of faith and drop my ego. And I am now the host. Yes. I don't want to Pablo, who doesn't ever like anything? He has the most critical? You gotta have that guy in the company. The one who's really?

Yeah, no, no. Skeptic. Yeah, yeah.

And then a couple of days, you know, he ended up liking it. And then a couple days later, me and Lexa driving around one night, he's like, Hey, this weekend, you know, the the heads of the company, they were wanting to Turks and Caicos for the weekend, just to discuss 2023. And they were like, and we're gonna be talking about your show, but he was like, Yo, you killed it. Like you, you got every aspect of of it. He's like, I don't know how you did it. He's like, but um, we're gonna be discussing it and see what where we go. So you get back in Turks and Caicos. And we were doing this huge. The premiere party for last month on air, which is on Disney plus. This was November 9, the day of the release, we had our big premiere party, red carpet, all that. And he's like, Yeah, your show has become priority number one for 2023. Wow, now, it was like, wow, this is incredible. You know, so it just goes to show that, you know, putting yourself around the right people, just gonna bring out the best of you. So whatever it takes to put yourself in those environments. Gotta do it, you got to be willing to do it. You got to humble yourself, drop the ego. And I showed up to neon, acting and feeling like an intern. I was like, I'm an intern. If you need coffee, you guys, whatever you need. And they're like, bro, we're not doing that to you, man. Like, like, they had a level of respect. But, um, but I was willing to do all those things. And and there's different times where I was doing things that I haven't done in years. And when we're at an event, and we're around celebrities and or executives from labels, or from some other streaming platforms, like Apple Music, or Amazon or Spotify. And they've already they're used to seeing me somewhere else. And now they're seeing me do things that and I was totally cool with it. And because I was totally cool with it, everybody else is totally cool with it. Nobody cares. You're over there, you're hustling you're working and people can respect and appreciate that. Um, but yeah, I definitely think that, you know, a lot of times, it's very easy to get on our own way without, you know, and I'm just, I'm just, I feel blessed and fortunate enough that I didn't have that hurdle. And as soon as it came into my mind, this was a possibility that maybe I should do this. But I was like, You know what, I'm gonna do this. And then I didn't I didn't play with the idea. I think, like, No, I can't do this. Because of this. This. I just dove in headfirst. And now, I'm a part of I'm officially a part of the team. Which is amazing. So who

would you who would you say you chose to be or yours? Choosing to be as you move forward with this company,

and who am I choosing to be? You know, I don't even have a title company yet, right? I'm more on the events and marketing side. But um, you know, I'm involved in a little bit of everything. That's a gift and a curse part of the reason because I don't, I feel like, a lot of times, I don't laser focus on one skill set. I always spread myself around that I like that I get bored. I, I get, you know, doing the same thing that it just kind of becomes routine when you're doing the same thing over and over. And I think that's part of the reason I love aside from the fact that I love Lex in a way that is just as a friend. And as, as somebody I look up to in business and creative and and all that. They're so all over the place. They do everything. So it's easy for me to feel right at home over there. However, within the company, everybody has their specific titles and their specific jobs. And this person's an a&r and this person's management and this person, you know, an artist management and this person is the head of creative. And I just see myself kind of bouncing around in all those areas. Probably because my mind works that way. But then also because in my career, the way I network, I have relationships everywhere. So I'll be walking by one in one of the rooms and somebody is talking about they need something over here. And I'm like, Oh, I know. so and so. And I know this person, and I can make this happen. Okay, let me make some phone calls. So now I mean, I'm over here, and then somebody else is doing something on the marketing side or no, so.

So it sounds like you're being in your creative fluidity. Yeah.

Yeah, I think so. Yeah, I think that's where I'm at right now. And, but my ultimate goal is still to move to some other country one day and just live on the beach and drink from coconuts. And, you know, go to yoga every day and just be with nature. Right, but I'm enjoying the ride. And definitely learning and growing. And you learn a lot, you learn a lot about yourself. By putting yourself in, you know, humbling yourself and dropping the ego. And going in, like, I wasn't expecting to learn as much about myself as I did. And it just feels good. It feels rewarding to, to be that humbled. And especially when people not that we do it for recognition. But everybody recognize everybody sees it right away. So if anybody had a doubt about you, that doubt goes away really, really quickly. When they're like, oh, this person is in here. I've known this person for this long, because, you know, I knew everybody in me, I knew already like a family. There's certain people in the company that I wasn't that close with, for whatever reason, you know, and those are people I never thought I'd ever get close to that we have very different personalities, they're very quiet, or they're, they're whatever. And then I've gotten to know those people and how great they are. And they've gotten to know me in ways that they weren't expecting to get to hear me, which also goes to show us that, you know, our preconceived notions about people are usually going to be wrong.

When you're in judgment, that's what happens but like

somebody Yeah, so you're gonna be better. You're gonna learn something from

Yeah, that's such a gift. Alex, thank you for sharing that with us. You know, I want to also talk about your passion project. spread love only love only love. Yes. Yeah. So are you still exploring that project? Or

honestly, I have been exploring it ever since. Neon took me on a different a different turn. It's something that's always on my mind and something I always think about and I'm definitely in the right place for it. Neon entertain was going to produce my podcast, and they're still interested in doing it as always, I gotta do say I'm ready to to do this. I just think when the time is right, it'll, it'll, it'll happen. And obviously, it just takes me saying it's gonna happen let's go and trigger and but I think I'm just still in a in a in a moment where I'm just relearning things about myself and about what I want to do and where I want to be. That that isn't as isn't a priority for me right now. Um, but but something will happen there. Eventually. Yeah, yeah. Okay. I,

well, let's then go back to the depths of you that you're you're finding you're you're discovering now. What's one thing that you've learned about yourself that you're so lit up

about? One thing I've learned about myself and I'm lit up, I think it's actually what I've learned about myself that I'm opposite. So, I don't know if this is a common thing. But I feel like the older we get are the older I get at least, I only know my experience, right? So the older I get, the more I can pinpoint things about myself that I need to work on. So when it's like when I was younger, I was like, That was three things I need to work on naively, right. Now, I can see so many things I need to work on. I'm like, gosh, I feel like crap all the time. I got to work on this, this, this and this, and this, and this. And this. Like this is supposed to be getting better. And that's about it. I don't know if that's a universal thing that other people feel that way sometimes. But it's like, I know too much

about yourself

about myself.

I've become way too introspective. I have so many things to correct. I only had a few. Well, I have a lot to do I have a long way to go.

It sounds like you're a little bit in judgment about your sublet. Let's let's open that up a little bit. Alex, when's the last time you read the ultimate coach

book? January 2022. Ah,

okay. Well, maybe we just need to flip through. Maybe we flipped to the the section on love, and see if we can get Alex to love himself a little bit more here. So you know, um, okay, so um,

let's see.

Yeah, I'm gonna read this right love beyond the center. Now read this, I want you to hear this as if you are talking to you.

Okay.

Amy is the center of Steve's universe. But surrounding that center, our concentric circles of love that includes Steve's clients, friends and people he has just met. Love is I am that is part of Steve's document. He says it, he lives it, it shows up where he goes. So this would be Alex is the center of Alex's universe. But surrounding that center, our concentric circles of love that include Alex's clients, friends and people that he's just met. Love is an Alex is that? How does that resonate?

Yeah, you know, I don't I don't thank you for sharing that. Um, it's not, I love myself, right? I love the person that I am. But I am finding it at this point in my life. I am having to work even harder at it than I did even two or three years ago. And it's I, I don't know where that's coming from. And that's what I'm thinking is it because I'm getting I'm sorry, I'm able to identify more things I like, like I mentioned. Um, so, you know, I'm able to remind myself really quickly, you know, I go back, you know, and I know who I am. And I know how people see me now, um, but I typically find myself more than I did in the past, focusing on the things that I want to improve, as opposed to the things that I love about myself, you know, and the things I love about myself definitely outweigh the things that that I need to improve. But it's just funny to all Brainworks sometimes, you know, like, so, um, so yeah, it's something that I have. And even the fact that I'm even conscious about this, it's crazy like that you're

conscious of it.

Some people don't like it used to not even recognize things like this, you know, I would just kind of just I don't No, it's like ignorance is bliss, you know, is

that good or not?

Yeah, you know, somebody saw I was on a gratitude walk. I think it was Monday with this girl that is in my building and her dog been by Lena, the name of the dog. And she's like, I have a feeling that dumb people are happier than the smart people. Like, I can see that. Because you're just yours, you're not paying attention to so many things. And sometimes when you pay attention to a lot of the details it Yeah, it can be a distraction. You know. So

another way to look at it, though, is like, when you're just in the moment, right? You can be very non judgmental, because just like, you know, where you were saying, when you notice something, and you're just like, Oh, of course, correct. I love that about me. Course, correct. You know what I mean? I feel really, that you're less in judgment of yourself than you think you are. So even though you answered my question by saying, there's, I'm finding a lot of stuff that I'm not lit up about, I feel like the fact that you are course correcting in the moment. I feel like that does light you up. But that's just my experience of of listening to you.

I don't want to at the end of the day, I'm a happy person, right? And I love the direction I'm going and where I'm at. And like I said, you know, this is something like the neon 16 commercials I'm talking so highly about but like, I'm in a really beautiful place around really beautiful people who really care and who are chasing the biggest of dreams. And I'm working for a leader who is whole purpose is to create more leaders, you know, and to see people spread their wings and do their own thing outside of me on if, if that's what their their path and their journey takes them. So yeah, I couldn't be I couldn't be happier about that. You know, and I've manifested the whole thing. Like I could see the whole, the beginning from the very beginning. You know, I remember the first time I ever ever crossed my mind about neon 16 wanting to work there was as soon as you open the company. I was like, Man, I come. I can't come I think this would be a cool place to work, right? I want to be a part of this team. Right? There was a little bit of feeling left out because I was a bit a part of their team on a fish. I've been like, I'm such good friends with Lex and I help them with events. So I was always working with them. But from the outside, I was never you know, so I knew exactly what they're all about. So yeah, I manifested the whole situation. So yeah, that's, that's a major win. Something to celebrate and to be happy about. So I don't want to sound like a Debbie Downer

about you. Not at all. You don't sound like that. Yeah. And you also don't sound like a neon 16 advertisement. You sound like an an Alex. Goody, you know, inner inquiry, Gaudi. Did I mispronounce your name? Oh, my gosh, what is it?

Everybody mispronouncing it. Okay. Gallery,

county. Okay. Alex Scouty, enter in query, you know, journey. That's what it sounded like to me. And it's a it's a beautiful one. Yeah.

Yeah. It's, it's, it's great. I have a lot of just looking at my schedule for 2023 In January, the meetings that we have set up and all that it's just like, it's mind blowing. It's I know, it's great. You know, from the Major League Baseball to just great, great stuff. So yeah, it's exciting.

Yeah, it is exciting.

It's actually my first day off, because it kind of shuts down for okay, we read. So I'm off from today until January 9, which, which actually happens to be my birthday? So

that's right. Oh,

it's so it's so it's cool. I'm kind of that's why I was available here at this time today. That's why I told you this would be the best day so that I wouldn't have to miss anytime at the office, which is also another great thing, like we can work from wherever you want really. But I find by going into the office, it just forces you need to be more creative and productive? At least for me, when I'm at home, I'm gonna go sit on my couch, which I start thinking about chores, I gotta get done around the house. Maybe I should go do this. Maybe I should go wash my sheets. Maybe I should do that.

But but also, it sounds like when you're in the office, like, there's so much creative flow happening. Like, why do you think you would have been able to write that screenplay in 30? minutes? Like, at home?

I doubt it. I doubt it. No, I don't think so. It's kind of like, you know, you know, it's like playing on a football team, you play professional, or you play on a football team, you everybody's working hard around you, you know, if I don't work hard, I'm gonna get left behind. I have to train I have to train. So when you see everybody around you is developing ideas of creating business where no business exists, everything is a creative place. It's not like, you know, you're selling shutters, or that's, it's literally creating something out of nothing out of thin air. So you know, it, you have to be it forces you to to keep moving when everybody else is doing it around you. So it will bring out things out of you that maybe you didn't know, were there, or you been too lazy to, to put your attention on. And that's why I like to show me who your friends are. And I'm gonna show you who you are. It's such a true statement. Um, my biggest greatest talent, I think, out of, you know, has always been Sir, I've had the ability for my whole professional career, to surround myself with people who are greater than and, and I take a little piece of all of them with me. So how can you not be great? If you're not always surrounded? If you're not, if you're always surrounded by greatness, how can you not be great?

It's impossible. Yeah.

So I definitely think that's, that's been, you know, a key to my, to my successes in life. I'm always surrounded by just great, great people, great people.

And the fact that you, you actively seek that, and like you seek it in two ways I'm seeing you identify, you know, who are those people that you want to be with? Right? And then once you're with them, you acknowledge their greatness. Right? And that, I think, that continues to inspire you. That was a gift, Alex,

it is, it's a huge blessing. But let me to my own little horn for a second to write because I think, to realize our value and our worth, you attract that which that which you are, so I am great. On my own, right. But I'm able to attract, because I'm able to attract other people because they see something great in me that they want a piece off. And I give them those things. And, and, and vice versa. It's a it's a give and take. Nobody wants, you know, to be the one that's always being taken from all the time, you know. So I also acknowledge that I belong where I'm at, you know, belong in the in those rooms. And in those conversations, and I am one of them.

You're a magnet, your magnetic field, I would say you know, it's like you're a magnet for greatness, because you're great. That's what I heard you say? And I agree.

And look, I'm sitting I'm getting here to sit sit here with you. Because you agree. I've attracted you into my life.

Yes. Yes. Yes, w e are great. Amen. Is there?

I'm sorry.

That's okay. Is there anything else that you would like to put in the space at? I feel like this, this has been such a beautiful discovery and conversation about magnetism, co creation, gratitude, and love.

You know, we didn't discuss gratitude that much. That is the single greatest power you can have in this world is I don't think there's a human alive. It's not great for something right. But the more we're conscious and aware of the things we are grateful for, the more things we will attract into our life that we are going to be grateful. So, so yeah, being grateful. So I do all my gratitude walks, which I do often, and I'm always posting them on my Instagram stories. And I do that for, you know, I do the gratitude walks in me, of course. And then I post them, I make sure I post them and I label them gratitude walks, because I know that they inspire others. And just that one little tweak of actually labeling, it puts an intention behind it. And it makes such a big difference on how I feel about it, when I'm doing them, and how other people perceive them when they see them, and then how it affects their life. And then the ripple effect that that can have on others. So Being grateful is the single most greatest, most beautiful thing, any human being to learn how to do, I think everything also will expand from that, and we'll grow out of that out of being grateful.

So I agree, you know, and, and that, to your point about labeling your gratitude walks, I there was a time during the year that I was like, heavy just waiting to watch your feet for the gratitude walks. You know what I mean? It's like I needed the energy and the intention of gratitude, to receive it for myself, you know, awesome. Yeah. So just think about that, like our words, create our world, your words, create your world. And then with your intention, right?

Yeah.

And you didn't even know. And I mean, you probably you don't even know how many people you are touching with those gratitude books. I'm telling you, right, I think I've told you a couple of times this year. But you know, just think I'm representative of all the people that are following you that are being inspired by your energy of gratitude.

And how it affects you, whether it's consciously or subconsciously, is going to influence the way you react with the world around you. So then you're going to touch other people with that. So that's why our words matters so much. And the energy we put out into the world matters. So much on my gratitude walk today, I saw an old couple walking past me, and I smiled at the lady. And she smiled back. And it was such a beautiful smile. And it made me give a high five, two or three years, I was walking back and I was I just felt so happy. Right? And, and I was just in that moment, I was just like, manage. That's why it's so important to smile. Like, she literally lit me up for a while. I just felt different that it made me give a high five to a plant.

Yes, yeah. And you don't even know how powerful that is. Because you know, trees, they have their own little network happening.

We can get into that. I'm all about that. Have you read that? When I'm riding my bike, I'm high fiving trees and bushes the whole way anytime I can touch a plant. I'm like giving them love because they give it right back. Yeah,

you're like a gratitude vortex.

I am, I am, who

you are. And I mean, I just I really appreciate the you know, being with you and your energy, you're such an inspiration. And, you know, keep being who you're being. Yeah.

And thank you so much for inviting me to be on your show. I love everything about you and what you represent and how many people you're touching through your words. And so doing all of those amazing things and exploring new sides of of yourself and all that I think that's so amazing and inspiring as well.