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Welcome to Sales Made Easy, a podcast or Business and Personal Growth.
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Now, here's your host, Harry
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Irving Chung from Fran Guidance who is a franchise consultant and he and I are going to talk about fear of change.
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Fear of the unknown today and how we can overcome that and if we absolutely have to overcome everything and On our way to the road to success.
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So Irving, welcome to the sales made easy podcast.
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What's the good word.
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Thank you, Harry.
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So good to be here today.
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I'm excited to be chatting with you and, you know, life's good.
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I'm happy to be here.
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Life's, you know, I'm healthy and, you know, and, and I'm alive, be grateful every day you wake up and take a nice breath of air.
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Yeah, that is a great way to start the day, you know, because life can be stressful at times, but once we get that gratitude moment and reflect on and a lot of the stresses of life can go away because you're now reflecting and how good life is versus what few things may be stressful in life.
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I agree with that.
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I mean, I, I tried to practice.
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Gratitude and believe in, you know, gratitude as a core, because I mean, you know, otherwise you get so easy to fall into a negative rabbit hole of just the death spiral, right?
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It's like, oh, what a bad day.
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Terrible weather economy is bad, you know, yeah, whatever it is, right?
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And there's just this, there's never a shortage of faith.
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Things to complain about, but there's also as many things to be grateful for and to be excited about, you know, and, and I always say to my son who's 17, he's the biggest grump.
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He gets up, you know, in the morning, he's like how's life whatever, you know, he's like you know, he's like everything.
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And I'm like, listen, I said, I want you to understand early on that, you know, you can either have a wake up and have a great day.
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Or you're going to have a bad day and it starts with you.
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If you're convinced you're going to have a bad day, guess what?
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You're almost guaranteed to have a bad day because you're, you're expecting it.
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You're waiting for it.
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You're looking for it.
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You're looking for things.
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If you, but you've start off saying, I'm going to have a great day.
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The opposite is true.
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You're going to look for it.
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You're going to look for good things.
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You'll say, see, I'm so grateful.
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Look, it's sunny outside.
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Hey, look, I have eggs in the fridge and I'm starving.
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I'm ready for some eggs.
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Let's go.
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You know, I mean, so there's, you know, it's, it's all about outlook.
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Yeah, a hundred percent.
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And yeah, I've got three 20 something year olds in that, that conversation sounds very familiar.
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Yep.
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So all good.
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So, You know, when we think about all the things that can go right in life versus all the things go wrong.
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For the most part, we focus on what can go wrong.
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I mean, whatever the reason is why human nature is we think of all these negative thoughts as to what can go wrong.
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Gratitude has definitely helped me out over the years is to reflect that how good life is the fact that we're breathing, you know, we can walk around, we can use our fingers.
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I'm looking at, you know, my computer right now, my eyes work.
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Yeah.
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You know, it's just all the different things that we frequently miss out on.
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I mean, humans, people miss out on these things, moments of gratitude and the 94 things that go right in the day.
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Get pushed aside for the five or six things that are not perfect.
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And we say, Oh, what a miserable day.
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Reality is we've got living the United States or a lot of the Western world.
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We've got running water.
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We've got power.
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You know, we can go to the grocery store and get.
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More food than we could eat in a lifetime.
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More choices.
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It's just like, man, if we're not grateful for what we have, we need to go visit a third world country that doesn't have running water, doesn't have electricity all day.
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You go to the grocery store, you got a couple items to choose from.
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You know, that's the way a lot of people live.
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So yeah, we definitely have it pretty good.
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Yeah, it's just true.
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I mean, a hundred percent.
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I mean, that, that, those are the simple things to be grateful for, right?
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Like, even when you say use of your hands, use of your eyes, I mean, here's the thing is the minute one of those things get taken away from you, all of a sudden, you know, you really appreciate it more.
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It's sad to say my brother passed away two years ago.
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And those kinds of things of loss make you appreciate life.
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Right.
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Like, wow.
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It's, you know, you can't take for granted.
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I'm starting to get arthritis in my hands, you know, and it's one of those things that it's a natural part of aging and all sudden simple things like picking up tools and picking up things and, you know, it hurts.
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And I'm like, wow, that really stinks.
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But, you know, have I ever been grateful that I can use my hands all the way up into this point?
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No, I take it for granted.
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Right.
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I mean same thing with I love my wife.
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I wake up every day grateful.
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She's by my side You know, and that's the thing.
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It's like just being grateful for what you have, right?
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And not taking it for granted.
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And we do that all the time.
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You know, my knee hurts.
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I mean, again, I'm kind of talking about this, you know, the terrible spiral of aging.
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My knee hurts my head.
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I mean, you know, when that happens, you're like, man, oh, man, you know, boy, I remember when I was able to hike and walk and run and all that stuff without pain.
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And now it's like.
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You know, I got to go to an orthopedic specialist.
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I don't know what the heck's going on, you know, and so it is, it's, it's, we got to remember to appreciate what we have and, and, you know, and not take anything for granted.
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Yeah.
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And just on the side of that is you have a place to go.
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Right.
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You just mentioned the, I have a, I can go see an orthopedic specialist.
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Yeah,
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years ago, you know, whatever it was 100 years ago before there was.
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Right.
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Really, those types of doctors, it's like, here, take a couple of aspirin, and then if you go back several hundred years ago, you probably wouldn't have lived as old as you are now.
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Oh yeah, I'd probably be dead, I'd be dead like 20
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years ago, you know.
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Like, I think the, the oldest age, the average age of death was like 40 years old.
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Yeah, exactly.
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So we all should be dead now.
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See, that's a lot of problems, but that's something to be grateful for.
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Oh my goodness, you're making me choke.
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We were talking about early on before we hit record about this idea of fear of change.
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Yes.
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This is something that anyone who's looking at a franchise, anyone who's starting a business or anyone who's thinking of starting a business, They have certain fears that go on fear of change is one fear of the unknown fear of failure.
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So, how, what is it that you see as a franchise consultant out there what what's holding people back, other than sometimes people are just not set up financially.
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to invest in a franchise, but just on the personality side, what, what are you seeing out there?
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Yeah, that's a great question, Harry.
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So, so I meet with dozens of people every week, right?
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I mean, my, my job as a franchise consultant is just to provide education.
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Right?
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I'm not a sales guy.
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I don't work for any franchise.
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So obviously inside Fran, you know, franchisors, they're just selling something.
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They're selling their concept.
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Right?
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I don't have any particular franchise that I'm affiliated with.
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I, I'm part of.
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is a advisory.
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We're an franchises.
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I have, I have opportunities in my portf people.
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But the number on into is literally fear, f you know, and it's funny because people don't seem to fear their jobs, even though there's so much job instability these days and insecurity.
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I mean, people can be just laid off at the drop of a hat.
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You know, Amazon says to Wall Street.
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Hey, you You know, our, our sales are down and our revenues down.
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We're going to cut 4 percent also near stock goes up.
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Well, there's, there's not a secret to that.
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I mean, they're catering to the stock market and basically employees are just upon to getting to where corporate earnings need to be and all of a sudden they go down to management and say, Sarah, 4 percent of your department has got to go.
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Has nothing to do with your performance, has nothing, has to do with numbers.
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And, and that, that's happening all over the place.
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Yet people feel more secure sitting where they are today.
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And, and, and I think part of that is because we're as human beings, we're designed to be fearful, right?
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You go back to the prehistoric days and you're like, Oh my God, that Willie Monmouth is like, you know, five tons and that saber tooth tiger.
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And you peek out your cave and you're like, Oh my God.
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I mean, that's.
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That's part of our human nature and that's ingrained in us, right?
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But in this modern day it's really an irrational fear that to me causes people to not grow, okay?
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Whether that's fear, like if you're single and, and, or divorced and, you know, wow, I'm afraid of dating or opening myself up.
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Fear of eating new foods, fear of travel, fear of getting on an airplane, fear of new cultures, fear of a career change, fear of doing something that I've never done before.
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All that keeps people from personal growth, in my opinion, because, you know, we're designed to stay in our cave.
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It's like self preservation, right?
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So, and I consider it irrational fear.
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That's the biggest issue.
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that I run into.
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Yeah, I mean, just thinking as you're speaking about some of these things, it's the, you know, and the idea of the corporate world where people look at that as security, how many people get laid off and are totally stunned by it, right?
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It's life altering, they go down this Battle of depression.
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It's just like, they can't believe that this happened to me.
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It's it they're in this world of the comfort zone, right?
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Where everything seems to be normal.
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We don't think that anything is going to come to an end, but I mean, I've worked for a big company before and.
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You know, things change every 90 days.
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I mean, it's just, you know, get ready, you know, and some, you know, this is excuse me, in the world that many.
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live in these days and the way that things fluctuate, there is no real security.
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There is no quote unquote job security when it's in someone else's hands.
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That's right.
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When you're speaking to people who are thinking about making the change, I've got to believe it's the same thinking that a lot of people have about starting their own business or side hustle is, you know, what if this goes wrong, or, you know, what if I, you know, invest in something and I lose all my money, they have this type of thinking.
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And instead of thinking about what could go right.
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Yeah,
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right.
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So now you've got this idea that you can only think about the negative.
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And so how do you help people to kind of think about what could go right?
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What's your thought?
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Right?
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Yeah, I mean, that's true.
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And you're willing to settle, right?
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Because you're like, okay, a bird in the hand is worth more than two in a bush.
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And you sit there and say, okay.
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Am I better off just staying in my corporate salary of 150, 000?
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At least I know I'm getting a check every month.
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Or will you, right?
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You don't, you don't take way into that risk of getting laid off.
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Or if I take that little risk and go into to controlling my own future, can I double that?
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So is it better to have twice the income potential, but the fear of that transition getting me there?
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keeps me to be, really interested in willing to just take half of what I have again, that, that burden out, right?
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Burn the hand.
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Hey, I got that.
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Well, you know, here's the thing is, I don't, I don't agree with people being reckless.
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Right.
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So the idea of being fearless, you know, is, is I think wrong, right?
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The, the side of being fearful to prevent exposure and consideration of new things is wrong.
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It's somewhere in the middle, right?
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Like everything in life, right?
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There's somewhere in the middle.
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So if you can have enough understanding.
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enough research, enough you know, con enough information to get beyond that fear of, of, of paralysis.
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Okay.
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So it's like you get to a point where learn enough to have enough confidence.
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To move forward because reality is you'll never be fearless, right?
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I mean, you're inhuman, or there's something wrong with you if you're fearless, right?
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I mean, there's, there's something missing.
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So there's a difference between being fearless and being so fearful that you're paralyzed.
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And so that's really part, but that's a key to my job.
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Okay.
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So as, as we talk about fear today, my job is to give people enough information.
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that they're making an educated decision that is allowing them to overcome fear to pursue new things.
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Now, at the end of the day, if we spend several weeks talking and giving you information about franchise opportunities, what's it like to own a franchise?
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What are my risk factors?
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What's my day in a life?
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You know, what was the sales performance of the average franchisee in this particular concept?
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What support?
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What training do I get?
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What mentoring do I get?
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All that information.
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If you're still fearful, and you still think it's an extremely high risk, then yeah, you don't do it.
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Right?
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But at least you're making a decision based on knowledge and education versus just fear itself.
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Which causes so many people just to be paralyzed and, and to settle for complacency to settle for, you know, the easiest route, which even though it may not be the best route for them, or there's, you know, goals that they have that they put on the shelf, you know?
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Yeah, a hundred percent.
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The thoughts that I have here is.
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Where someone may be starting a side hustle, maybe they have the dream that they don't want to work the corporate, you know, the nine to five anymore.
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And they say they want to make a bigger impact.
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And then, so they're thinking about this, and then they just don't know where to begin.
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Right, so you have those people, and, you know, over the years I have read enough, and listened to enough podcasts, and watched enough YouTube videos that the how does not belong to us, right?
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So it's, We get paralyzed.
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Well, how would I do this?
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How would I do that?
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And once you realize that the how will come through other people, but you have to commit first, that's a real challenge, right?
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Because we want answers, right?
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We want answers.
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We want this path paved of security where Irving, I just want everything to be perfect.
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I want to make a lot of money.
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I don't want to make a lot of mistakes.
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Can you assure me that who's going to say yes to that?
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Right?
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Exactly.
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Well, you know, it's funny.
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There's no guarantees in life, right?
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So, you know, if someone tries to guarantee you something, they're, they're Probably lying.
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No, there's very few.
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Now, again, that's extreme.
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So, you know, but, but, you know, what's funny is we, we all take these risks, right?
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So, for example, you know, we buy a house because we think it's going to be, you know, You know, it's going to appreciate and it's going to provide us with a great sense of shelter and security and all this stuff.
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But, you know, a lot of times it becomes a money pit.
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This breaks that breaks.
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Right?
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And if your house doesn't appreciate, sometimes they depreciate, you know what I mean?
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So it's like, yet we're willing to put.
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300, 000 400, 000 at risk to do that.
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Right.
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Because we feel we should as part of what we do.