Law Of Attraction, Manifest Love With Author Michael Losier

Speaker 1: 0:04

I am Carrie Brett , and this is Shot At Love. This week is all about deliberate attraction, and today's guest is the author of Law of Attraction, Michael Lozier , A book so powerful, he sold almost 4 million copies in 37 languages. You'll learn how to attract a perfect partner so you can get more of what you want and less of what you don't want. Have you ever noticed how people find themselves in a bad relationship repeatedly, or are always complaining about pulling the same type of person? Well , the law of attraction is at work for them too. Michael's motto is, you attract whatever you give attention, energy, and focus to whether positive or negative. He'll share his three-step process for deliberate attraction, how to let go of doubt and allow love into our lives. When we come back, Michael will show us how to stop using the words, don't not , and know , and how to reset your vibration. Because we all have the power to manifest incredible relationships and experiences. You won't wanna miss it. So stay tuned. Michael Lozier is the author of bestselling books such as Law of Attraction, the Science of Attracting More of What You Want and Less of What You Don't, law of Connection, the Science of Using NLP to create Ideal Personal and Professional Relationships and Your Life's Purpose. The movie The Secret brought international exposure to the subject of Law of Attraction. Michael's business flourished as a result, and Michael was branded as the How-to Guy for teaching others how to use the law of attraction and even caught the attention of Oprah Winfrey. Oprah interviewed him four times on her Soul Series radio show on Sirius XM Satellite Radio, and he enjoyed a year long run hosting his own radio show on Oprah and Friends Radio. He's been around the world twice teaching the Law of attraction and has certified 470 Law of Attraction facilitators in 17 countries . Today, Michael will share evidence of law, of attraction and finding love and how we can get what we want if we use the law of attraction deliberately. So without further ado, welcome Michael.

Speaker 2: 2:24

Hey, hello friends. I am super excited for everybody and what a great intro that was. It's always nice to hear it. Oh , thank , every time I hear it, it , you know what I tell myself, it's right . I created that.

Speaker 1: 2:38

You sure did. You

Speaker 2: 2:40

Sure did. I created , there was nothing outside me doing it to me or for me. I created it. You did. And , uh, I don't have a , I don't have anything special other than consistency. And maybe what I want to teach today is how do I do it deliberately? You know? It's called Deliberate Attraction for a reason, because we're gonna do something deliberately. You know, some people say that we gotta turn it on. Oh, I am gonna use Law of Attraction next week. It's already on. It's not a light switch. You don't have to turn it on. It's already on that being Law of attraction, matching your vibration. So, great training and chat we're gonna have today. We

Speaker 1: 3:22

Are, I wanna talk about this. 19 years ago I read your book. I was hooked into this stuff in high school, and that was a long time ago. But <laugh>

Speaker 2: 3:37

Well, you , you , you were lucky to find anything written about it 19 years ago.

Speaker 1: 3:42

Absolutely. And at the time when I read the book, never did I imagine that almost two decades later I would have a podcast or I would be interviewing you. But a few weeks ago I was listening to you speak in another room on Clubhouse, and I heard you speaking and I changed my afternoon plans to continue to listen to you talk. And then about a week later after that, I had found two of your clubhouse rooms and I was completely hooked. And I didn't know it at the time, but I desperately needed to find you. And I know you can help my listeners find love. I want you to tell us a little bit about you. How you self-published a book on an island, and how far you took this idea of yours.

Speaker 2: 4:35

You know a lot about me, <laugh>. Thank you. I appreciate your interest. Okay, I'm gonna give you the real quick , quick version. I grew up understanding that 'cause I was fat when I was a kid. Still I'm a big guy, but I was bullied a lot. And I also saw the relationship between bullied because I was worried about being bullied. Like, what's up with that? You know? Oh, I hope I don't get bullied. I'd be bullied. I always understood the relationship. Of course, I didn't know it was called Law of Attraction. And so long story short, I always understood that I was attracting negative things, but I didn't understand why. I mean , how could a positive person attract negative things? I was a good kid . It was my mother's favorite. How could I possibly attract negative things? So I never understood that. So , uh, so I spent most of my life avoiding conflict or avoiding opportunities to be bullied because I never knew when it was gonna be turned to be bullied until I saw the pattern. You'll get bullied when you're worried about getting bullied. That's all I knew. I didn't like it, but that's what, that's what I understood to be. And then about 25 years ago, I attended a seminar. I live on an island on the west coast of Canada. I took , uh, a ferry to Seattle. I went to this hotel room. My friend , uh, hotel Ballroom. My friend met me from Vancouver. We went into the seminar and after the first hour, I learned the most important sentence in my life and it changed everything. Remember, up until this point, I understood the relationship between attracting negative things, but that didn't make sense to me again. 'cause I was a nice kid. And here's what I heard. And it was an interpretation of the definition for law of attraction. I attract to my life. Whatever I give my attention, energy, and focus to whether positive or negative. It's like what? Matter of fact, I'm gonna say it really simply. Here's the definition for law of at match vibrations, whether negative or positive. You see, I learned that this energy around us, some people call it the universe. It's just a , this energy is responding to our vibe and it's not smart. It's obedient. And the things that we talk about and the things that we think about, the things that we remember or complain about are when we're doing any of those things, we're including that in our vibe. So if I'm angry and ticked off about something, I got a negative vibe. Does it mean I'm a negative person? No. Just meant I gave attention to something I didn't like. Lot of attractions eavesdropping, right? It's checking the vibe. So , uh, so , so what do most people say when they come home from a date they call their girlfriends? And what do they say? Oh my God, that was the worst date ever. I couldn't believe this person showed up 10 minutes late. I told you, I hate when that happens. It happens every time. Every date shows up 10 minutes late. If Law of Attraction had a voice said , I couldn't buck that current if I tried, because that person's vibration around dates includes the vibration, Paul dark and handsome, or whatever those words might be, plus late for a date. It's not what you want, but it's what you're vibrating. In other words, the , the , your memory of people being late. You remember your memory of being annoyed and every time you recall being late, you just included the vibration of being late. And law of attraction isn't very smart. It's obedient. So now it's unfolding and orchestrating to have you meet more people that are late. Is that what you want? No. It's what you're vibrating. I love this. And then some people say, well, Michael, how can you tell what the vibe is that I'm sending about a date? So I can tell from here, I'll tell you, listen listeners, this is for you. If you're curious and you wanna know what the vibe is that you are sending about attracting an ideal date, how's that working for you ? You know, whatever showing up on your date is matching the vibration that you're sending about it. Period. I didn't create the rule. I'm teaching it . Are they late? You vibed it. Are they interrupters? You vibed it . Are they boring? You vibed it . Oh , are they interesting? You vibed it . Are they on time? You vibed it . I didn't create the rule. I'm teaching it . Here's the rule. If you attracted it, you have had to have sent the vibration that created it. You know, when the date starts,

Speaker 1: 9:19

When does

Speaker 2: 9:19

It start in the car?

Speaker 1: 9:20

Oh

Speaker 2: 9:21

Yeah, in the car on the way there. What do people tell them stuff ? Oh, I hope this person's not late. I hope they're not late. I hate when they're late and you text your friend, I hope they're not late.

Speaker 1: 9:31

Right?

Speaker 2: 9:32

Listen , a lot of traffic's in your car on the way to the date , and it's eavesdropping about what you're thinking and saying, and it's unfolding and orchestrated. So , so whatever needs to happen so you can attract what you're giving attention to, right? While the attraction is not smart, it's obedient.

Speaker 1: 9:52

I love this. So I'm gonna give you an example of this law of attraction being obedient. So I've heard you say this in my research of you because I'm very interested in you <laugh>. Now, the law, the law of attraction doesn't know if you're looking at it, daydreaming about it, saying something or observing it. And I'm gonna tell you a story I didn't know, but I manifested photographing Steve Carell , the actor for a magazine cover. And at the time, I went to bed every night with Steve Carell . Now it doesn't, now he's a married man. It doesn't sound sound like what it sounds, but I was heartbroken. I was in such despair that I would work all day photographing people couldn't wait to get through the day. I'd put my daughter to bed, I'd climb into bed so I could cry myself to sleep every single night. And that got pretty sad and empathetic. So I figured out, well, maybe the last thing I put in my brain can shift things. So why don't I watch something funny? So I would pull up the YouTube of Steve Carell doing the last scene of the 40 year old Virgin when he dances to the age of Aquarius. Now I'm an aquarium. I thought it was hilarious. It would make me happy. I loved the song, it would cheer me up. So I was doing that every single night. And then at the same time, I was working on securing a cover shoot of Steven Tyler . He had just had a new album and he was on a new show, and I was heavily immersed in working on getting Steven Tyler . But I kept watching this video of Steve Carrell . And one day I got a call from Boston Globe Magazine and they said, Kerry , I have a cover shoot for you. And the first name is Steven . And I said, and his last name is Tyler. And the art director laughed and said, no, it's Carre . He has a new movie coming out. Crazy, stupid Love. So that was unbelievable how that happened. And that was the law of attraction, responding to information. And in my case, it was a YouTube video.

Speaker 2: 12:14

That's right. But here, this is such a good story and a good point. I want everyone to hear it. Law of Attraction wasn't responding to the video. Law of attraction was responding to how you felt about the video. Law of Attraction doesn't know you were watching a video or reading a documentary or going in , um, talking with your friends or pretending or remembering it's responding. And all the time that you were talking about it and reading about it and getting excited, you were including the vibration of him. And a lot of attraction doesn't know where the vibration comes. It just matches it. It's not smart. Listen , it's not my job to decide. My job is to match. But here's what, for the dating world, our friends need to understand the speed at which you can attract what you give your attention to, right? Is equal to how much doubt you have in retracting it . It's not determined how much you want it. I'll say it again, the speed at which you can attract your ideal voice and your ideal girlfriend, your ideal customer client, your ideal , uh, cover gig, how fast that desire will come to you is determined by how much doubt you have in receiving it . Well , some of our listeners can relate to that because there was a time that they really, really, really wanted something and they really, really, really doubted it. Get what , guess what the net effect of that equation was. Zero on one hand want it . On the other hand, you doubt it. Well, those two net affect each other out.

Speaker 1: 13:49

Right? One of the things I heard you say, and I believed you when you said it, I believe everything you say , but the conviction around you saying this really got my attention. And I've heard you say, now you attracted Oprah. You never sent Oprah a book. You didn't have a publicist, you didn't even have a business card.

Speaker 2: 14:12

That's right.

Speaker 1: 14:13

But the one thing you did have was you never doubted yourself.

Speaker 2: 14:18

That's

Speaker 1: 14:18

Right. And when I listened to you in those interviews with Oprah deserve to be there just like she does. And you hear it. That's right . Because there is no nervousness. You're just vibing on the same energy.

Speaker 2: 14:37

There was no starstruck , uh, anything. She, you know, I she was, she was a , you know, what she was to me in that moment, somebody was, that was super enthusiastic about the same stuff I am .

Speaker 1: 14:49

How fun.

Speaker 2: 14:50

And we, that's how fun it was. She was Oprah Winfrey. But, but she treated me. She read the book. She said, oh , I love, I love how you summarized the end of the chapter. And we had fun. And then I teased her about using the work . Like it was a, you , you know, that was supposed to be a 25 minute interview, right? Yes. Yeah. And she kept me on the line for two hours doing that two separate occasions. So, right. And how did that, you know, my whole career, you know, I , I've been doing this even when I worked for the government , um, I would , um, do seminars in Victoria and by seminars, I mean four people, eight people, 10 people. And eventually I was getting a hundred people a month. And then I eventually left my government job. And, you know, anyway, to make that story , um, I would always say to the audience, say, yes, if vote was gonna love me, we would not . I mean, this is , this was 20 years ago, right? So even the word vibration was giggled at, nevermind the word Law of attraction. And nobody was teaching it but me. And it was very underground. My friend Linda and I started a little , a little group in my living room talking about law of attraction. And that's where I developed the clarity through contrast worksheet and the vibrational bubble and all those things in my book. Her and I did those together. You know, I had 44 people coming to my house once a month, once, twice a month.

Speaker 1: 16:10

I

Speaker 2: 16:10

Love it to learn about luxury . It was like a Tupperware party. People were bringing two people and four , they were reserving, can I bring sex? You're gonna have to bring some cushions and lawn chairs so you can bring sex. And before, you know, when I was having a packed living room, and you know, when you get 44 people coming to your house, you really need to take charge.

Speaker 1: 16:30

Yes,

Speaker 2: 16:30

I love it . And I thought, oh , I gotta leave this group. I gotta leave this group. But you know what, I did learn two things doing this for years. The questions are always the same, and the answer's always the same.

Speaker 1: 16:46

That's right.

Speaker 2: 16:48

And the answer is always this. Everyone right now listening about whether they like their dates or don't like their dates or anything that they're attracting is because of the vibration, is because of our vibes and the best news of all, we can reset our vibe,

Speaker 1: 17:06

Right? Absolutely.

Speaker 2: 17:09

Interesting. We be scope . And that's , you used the word deliberate. You know what deliberate means? Deliberately doing something deliberately including the vibration of what I want. So when lot of attraction's eavesdropping, what are people saying about their dating experience? Every time you complain about it, every time you tell another friend and another friend, and you post it on Facebook and you go in a club, you have to remember and talk about it. You'll include in the vibration of it your everyone's stories cause them to have a feeling about the story. So a lot of fashion doesn't know if you're telling me, writing it, typing it, reading it, making a movie, writing a song, telling your friends dear it , or writing it in your journal, it doesn't know where the vibration's coming from. It's just matching it. So here's my rule. When you come home from a horrible date , don't tell anyone.

Speaker 1: 18:03

I love that

Speaker 2: 18:04

Period. Yes . End it .

Speaker 1: 18:06

Right?

Speaker 2: 18:07

But you can learn a lot from that experience. And you know, you alluded to , we're gonna start to talk about that. So Michael, what do I do when I go on a date and I notice the things that I don't like? Well , first you gotta take accountability, which means you have to take, you have to have the ability to account for you attracted that Mm-Hmm, <affirmative> , listen , you don't have to like it, but you need to own it. You can say, wow, I cannot, and you're gonna catch yourself . Not everyone's gonna catch yourself saying, you're right, Michael. The last six dates were late. And that's all I talked about. I actually wore a T-shirt says , all my dates are late <laugh> . Well , law of attraction, listen, law of attraction couldn't buck that current if it tried.

Speaker 1: 18:52

It's true.

Speaker 2: 18:54

So when you are on the date and all the things that you don't like about that person are in front of you, you can point at that and say, you're here because of me. Yeah , you don't have to like it, but you need to own it. And then you have to say to yourself, I can reset my vibe.

Speaker 1: 19:11

Right?

Speaker 2: 19:11

If you wanna get a different result, you gotta send a different vibe. So if you wanna get a different date, it starts with the vibe,

Speaker 1: 19:19

Right? It's so true. I coach and help women find love, and I hear the same things. There's no great guys in the pipeline. Look at all these people I gotta swipe through. It's a loser roll of creeps. It's so negative, I have to say. I have to catch them, reframe it, reframe it over and over again. When I manifested my boyfriend on Tinder, I knew the power of putting pen to paper. I had built a business using the law of attraction. I have been doing this for a long, long time. And I knew if I wrote down a list of qualities that I wanted, but I didn't write that list down and put it in a drawer. I wrote my top 10 list every single day. And not only did I write it fresh and have photographs of this notebook, at the end of the list, I would say, thank you universe for sending him to me. Or I'd write, and this is so, I'm so grateful. And what I didn't realize, I would write this list, and nowhere in that list was I was looking for a realtor, but I wanted a fresh start. And I wanted to relocate at the time as a way to kind of sever ties. And every day I used to say to people, I'm looking for a boyfriend and a realtor. So it's not surprising to me that I pulled in a boyfriend who was a realtor. <laugh>.

Speaker 2: 20:47

Well , that's a great story and let's share with our friends something that's really important because is that law of attract is eavesdropping and it's eavesdropping on the vibe that you're sending, the story that you tell yourself about the dates that you're attracting. It's just words, but those words cause you to think about it. And any thought that you have turns into a vibe. So if you're so, so for example, if you're feeling, if we're feeling tick off and angry, that didn't come from nowhere, we had to have been thinking about something or observing something that caused the anger, right? Or caused a disappointment. So here's people's homework. When they get home from a date, it's to build a list of the things that they didn't like. And we're gonna do one together. I've got a pen and paper, so let's pretend we're with one of our friends and we're at a restaurant. You know, my favorite restaurants , uh, the one that had those paper place mats that you'll right on. Mm-Hmm . <affirmative> . And it's you and our friend, and me and you and our friend did just get back from a horrible date. And we said, Michael, you gotta help my friend. She keeps attracting the worst dates ever. I already know what her vibe is, but we go to the restaurant, she's, she just come off of her date, right? She went from the date to us. I said, tell me the, tell me what you didn't like about the date. Okay? This is for everybody listening. This is your homework. After the date, what are the five things that you didn't like ? I'm , I'm gonna start and you can add number one. They were, they were late. I had a date. And , and he was, we're gonna call him. He, he was late. And what else might she say? What else didn't she like about this date? Well, you know what? He talked way too much. He talked too much. Okay , what else can we add to this list?

Speaker 1: 22:36

He didn't ask me any questions about me.

Speaker 2: 22:39

Yeah, he asked nothing about me. Okay, what else don't you like? Um, well, he lives with his mother, <laugh> . I heard him say that. So

Speaker 1: 22:49

He doesn't have a job.

Speaker 2: 22:51

He doesn't have a job. I'm learning lots of stuff. He doesn't have a job.

Speaker 1: 22:55

<laugh>, he's a chronic cheater. And

Speaker 2: 22:58

Yeah. And, and I don't think he has, he's got no money. So these are just six things. So imagine now we've got the list in front of our friend. And you know what this list is? This is their vibrational report.

Speaker 1: 23:15

Oh,

Speaker 2: 23:16

You know, when you get a blood work done and the doctor says, here's your blood results and you look at it and you believe it. This is, this is our friend's vibrational report .

Speaker 1: 23:24

Oh wow.

Speaker 2: 23:25

We're gonna call it, we're gonna call her Victoria , uh, vibe Victoria. See Victoria, your results are in , uh, we found out the problem. We found out why you're keeping attracting this kind of dates. Here's the vibration that you're sending about dates. They're late, they talk too much. They don't ask nothing about you. They live with their mother. They don't have a job. They're not motivated, they don't have any money. That is your vibrational blueprint. And then Victoria would say, well, that's not what I want. Well, that's not what you want. It's what you're vibrating.

Speaker 1: 24:09

Interesting. Yeah,

Speaker 2: 24:10

That's right . The only way to get a different result is to change the vibration. So we gotta do that.

Speaker 1: 24:15

Okay.

Speaker 2: 24:17

So step number one, build this list of all the things that you didn't like about the date , and you know what's gonna happen. This is repetitive things. The last two guys are like that. The last three, the last fives didn't have a job. So now you've gotta , this is the, this is the biggest question you'll hear today. Write this down, everybody. If you take a note , stop the car. So what do I want? Now this is the reset sentence. So we're gonna do this together. Uh , our friend's there. So you're gonna be our friend answering the question. So you keep attracting dates that are late. So what do you want?

Speaker 1: 24:56

I want someone who's nice and kind and courteous and interested in me.

Speaker 2: 25:03

Okay, so you didn't answer my question. If you don't want someone that's late, what do you want?

Speaker 1: 25:09

Someone who's on time or early <laugh>?

Speaker 2: 25:14

Yeah , thank you. That's an ideal date . Let's cross off late. Well , he talks way too much. If you don't want them to talk way too much, what would you like

Speaker 1: 25:23

Someone who's a considerate listener?

Speaker 2: 25:27

Yes. A considerate listener. Balance of conversation. You know what? Hey, this is our dream date. Let's make it what we want. There's a balance of conversation. There's considerate input and back and forth. Number three, he asks nothing about me. So what do you want?

Speaker 1: 25:44

Someone who's interested?

Speaker 2: 25:47

That's right . It takes interest in, in my interest. Number four. Well , he lives with his mother. So what do you want?

Speaker 1: 25:55

Someone who doesn't have mother issues?

Speaker 2: 25:59

Okay, so you just gave attention to mother issues. Oh, right , if you don't want them , I know. Oh , I doesn't give mother issues.

Speaker 1: 26:07

I'm not helping Victoria here. <laugh> .

Speaker 2: 26:09

Yes. No, you're gonna give her more of that. So he lives with his mother Victoria. What do you want him to do?

Speaker 1: 26:16

Okay, so we can't have an Eddie Haskell. Let's see here. Someone , he

Speaker 2: 26:20

Lives on his own.

Speaker 1: 26:21

He lives on his own.

Speaker 2: 26:24

Yes , is your right. Listen, does your ideal boyfriend live with his mother? No. No . My ideal boyfriend lives on his own. Thank you. Next one. He doesn't have a job. So what do you want?

Speaker 1: 26:36

Someone with an amazing career.

Speaker 2: 26:38

That's right. A job, a career. He has no money and his money. So listen, when when our friend Betty, she was complaining, oh my God, they talk too much. They're always late. And now the now this is her ideal date. She's never said this in her life, by the way, this is her ideal date. They show up on time and they're early. There's a balance of conversation. They're considerate, they're interested in me. They asked me more about myself. He has his own place. He has a job and a career and money. That's my ideal date.

Speaker 1: 27:11

And that's all you say.

Speaker 2: 27:13

That's right. Now the words change. And when the words change, you know what else changes your vibration. What she gives attention. That's right. Because now she's giving attention to this. And law of attraction doesn't know that she's reading this list or telling her girlfriends about it . And thinking , I, after the list call you instead of calling your friends , not you, but instead of calling your friends and tell them what a horrible date is, here's what you can tell them . You can say this, Ooh , did I ever have a horrible date ? But listen to the clarity that I birthed since my date tonight. I put my foot down and say , from now on, I'm only dating guys or girls that are on time. They got a balance of conversation. And that you see how you birth the clarity, right? You had to , you had to go through that contrast of that stuff you didn't like to help you get clear. So here's the homework. Come home from a date . Build a list of what you didn't like birth, what you do like, and that's your new list. And now, now tell your friends about what you do want. And when you tell your friends about what you do want, when you write about what you do want, when you think about what you do want, you're giving it attention. When you give it attention, you include it in your vibe. And when you include it in your vibe, the obedient law of attraction can catch you sending the vibration of what you desire, not the way it was.

Speaker 1: 28:31

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Speaker 2: 31:05

Yeah . No, you're doing a good job. But , but here's the first thing that that's really important. When you were talking about your client, what you got was a vibrational yardstick. Do you know what I mean by that? Yes. You were able to measure some , you might meet somebody at a coffee shop or networking. You would know within a minute whether they were a match or not because you had a , because you had boundaries. Now , people imagine, people go imagine going on these dating sites with the vibration of, he's always like of that vibration. But when you set up, when, when our friend Victoria said her ideal boyfriend's on, on , on and on, that becomes her yardstick. So now when she's sifting through everybody, they don't match it. You can't match everybody,

Speaker 1: 31:54

Right?

Speaker 2: 31:55

You can't match everybody. Pick pick a vibration and you'll find it.

Speaker 1: 32:00

Right?

Speaker 2: 32:01

You know , it's like going to Google. How much information am I going to ? If I don't tell Google all of my things, then Google won't be able to find what I'm looking for. Same with law of attraction. If I don't define the way I want it to be, if I don't find that, if I don't tell Google, it's like ordering a pizza. If you don't say mushrooms, they won't put it on. So you've gotta say, my ideal date shows up on time is early. My ideal date has a balance of conversation. It's considerate. We talk back and forth. We're fun , we're funny, and we take an interest in each other. And uh , they , they have their own place and their own. You've gotta tell the story. Yeah. And Law of Attraction doesn't know it's a story. Now, your point was very well, which , what , um, people might say, okay Michael, but I don't believe this. So here's the, here's how you word that sentence. I'm in the process of attracting my ideal date. That's the first sentence. I'm in the process of attracting my ideal date. And then you go on to say, so my ideal date shows up on time and they're early, they have money, they're very considerate, you know, they eat healthy, they live with their, they live on their own. They like pets. You gotta define that.

Speaker 1: 33:20

Yeah . Yeah.

Speaker 2: 33:22

You might go on , I'm sorry, you might go on a date and the the next , the next date after this isn't all of those things. You don't have to marry them. Just , you know, on the way home, this is, you know , on the way home, on the way to the date and on the way home are really important because on the way home, most people say, well what a waste of that was. We get all the through the thing and I find out that he's moving or leaving or you know, that she doesn't have a job or whatever the story might be. So instead of focusing on what's not matching, focus on what did match. Remember this is after you've defined your ideal date, go on another date and on the way home and say, you know what I liked about that date. Well , you know what, he was early. Matter of fact, he was super early, like 10 minutes early. No one that . I love that. That was pretty cool. Wabage faction dropping when I'm noticing how early my date was and telling somebody about it . You bet. And here's what else I liked about the date. Oh , we had good conversation and he was a good listener. And you know, she gave me good eye contact. Just whatever the story is. And at the end, are you gonna date again? No, but I liked all those things.

Speaker 1: 34:35

Right?

Speaker 2: 34:37

When you celebrate all the things that you liked about your almost ideal date, it causes you to include of all these vibrations that you liked. And law of attraction doesn't know why you're sending the vibration about what you like . It's just unfolding and orchestrating to bring you more . So in my book, this tool is called Celebrate the Closeness of Your Desire. Most people keep score that they're not there yet. Oh, I still haven't found my ideal boyfriend or girlfriend or my ideal client . Still haven't found them . And I would say, how close are you getting?

Speaker 1: 35:20

Hmm .

Speaker 2: 35:21

You , you see they're keeping score that they're not there yet as , as opposed to including the matches of the vibration.

Speaker 1: 35:30

Hmm . Right? So let's say you don't have a lot of matches and you're tired of sifting through not a lot of these choices on dating sites. Now not having a lot of quality matches makes you feel bad about yourself. How do you change your focus when you're online dating, when you have to pretend you love it, but you down deep kind of hate it. <laugh>?

Speaker 2: 35:55

Yeah . Well you know what you gotta , you gotta follow your vibrational meter reader . You know what your vibrational meter reader is?

Speaker 1: 36:04

No.

Speaker 2: 36:05

It's your feelings.

Speaker 1: 36:06

It's your feelings, okay?

Speaker 2: 36:07

It's your feelings. If it doesn't feel good to use it, then don't do it. If it feels good to do it, then do it. You know , some people might like in-person speed dating . You don't have to like it then don't do it

Speaker 1: 36:20

Because you believe you can pull in any other way if your vibration is high.

Speaker 2: 36:25

Yes. I mean, how do people meet up in the past they didn't do it. So it's just a held belief that that's the way they gotta attract it . It's not true. It's one of the ways ,

Speaker 1: 36:37

Right ?

Speaker 2: 36:38

So instead thinking , oh, I gotta find my boyfriend or girlfriend through an online app. What if you just said, you know what universe, I just want you to unfold or orchestrate whatever needs to happen to me. Meet my ideal date.

Speaker 1: 36:49

I love that.

Speaker 2: 36:51

Let the universe figure it out. That's not your job. It's like going to Google and say , Google, I'm looking for one of these and here's the websites. Or Google would say, you didn't need me then. So let Google do its job. Tell Google what it is that you want with the input and press enter and , and not you, but stop trying to figure out where it's gonna come from. Oh , it's gotta come from here. No , it doesn't have to come from here. How limiting is that? You could build a list of a hundred places where you could meet your ideal date here . Here's the tool I'm gonna give away. Don't try to figure it out. Let law of attraction figure it out. That's the tool. Let law of attraction figure it out. Right? In other words, let Google figure out where to go find that thing that you want. It's not your job. Your job is to identify what you want, build a list of it and give it attention. Your job isn't to , to uh, find it. Your job is to attract it,

Speaker 1: 37:49

Right? Just set the attention, believe that it's possible. And keep your mouth shut. And let the log of attraction deliver, right?

Speaker 2: 38:00

That's right. Think , think about ordering a pizza. What's the first thing you gotta do? You gotta figure out what you want. You don't call the pizza people and tell them all the things that , Hey, I'd like to order a pizza and here's all the things that I, you don't do that. Number one, before you order anything, whether it's from Amazon or whether it's from the pizza people or whether it's from law of attraction, step number one is what do you want? And the best way to know what you want is what you don't want. Hence our friend Victoria, now she knows what she wants. It didn't place the order, it only identified the order. So now she's gotta place the order. How do you place an order? You gotta give it attention. How do you do that? Notice it. Talk about it , write about it, daydream about it.

Speaker 1: 38:39

Mm , I like that.

Speaker 2: 38:42

Yeah . Giving anything attention places the order vibrationally,

Speaker 1: 38:46

Right? So giving limiting beliefs, attention hurts your cause. So you say that, that's right. A belief is just a thought that you say or believe repeatedly.

Speaker 2: 39:00

That's right. Now your friend might tell, you know, the only place to find a date is from , um, you know, a Tinder or some kind of online website, right? They might say that. 'cause that's their belief. They're not wrong. That's their belief. Why? Because they heard it over and over and they thought about it over and over and thought about it over and over. And so now that's their belief. But you know what changes? People's belief is proof,

Speaker 1: 39:24

Right?

Speaker 2: 39:26

Hey, where'd your mom meet your dad? Where did your sister meet her boyfriend? Who else met? Where'd you meet your boyfriend? Oh, you met him at the laundromat, where else ? And now they're hearing proof that their story doesn't hold the proof, the belief as much.

Speaker 1: 39:41

Mm .

Speaker 2: 39:42

Like, oh, I believe you have to go to an online website. I said , oh no, I met my, I met my boyfriend or girlfriend at church or at seven 11 or you know, at the park with the dogs . It's like, and now they're starting to challenge their belief that they gotta meet them online. How limiting is that? Right? Yeah . Out of all the possibilities , imagine telling the universe, I want a boyfriend and it has to come from an online website and law have had a voice that say , that's too bad. You were gonna meet a hobby . It's a post office today. But I guess you don't want that, do you ?

Speaker 1: 40:13

Mm .

Speaker 2: 40:14

Don't tell law of attraction where it needs to come from. Don't tell Google where to go find it. 'cause it's not your job. Your job is to identify what you want and place the order. You know, that's, that's our job. You know, the , the whole notion that we can change our vibration by changing what we give attention to. That's what your friend's gotta hear. Yeah. Everything they're at attracting is because of the vibration that they're sending. A slight change in vibration will make a massive change in manifestation. I can't prove it. You have to yourself, you have to do this exercise with Victoria and birth your ideal date. And then as you notice it , you'll say, wow, look at this. This is such a coincidence. This is so serendipitous. This is so synchronistic. It came to me out of , I would've, this was so I would've never walked down this street and gone in that, that store and met this guy there. This is so synchronistic. Mm .

Speaker 1: 41:09

Right?

Speaker 2: 41:09

And all of those words are used to describe evidence of law. This is all evidence. Whenever you use the word coincidence or serendipity or synchronicity or fate or karma, when you use those words, that's evidence of law of attraction.

Speaker 1: 41:25

Right? It's fascinating this topic of doubt, because I learned a lot from you talking about doubt. And you said doubt is a negative vibration. And so you gave an example of pulling in money. And I believe pulling in money is the same as pulling in love. It's pretty much similar or vibration or energetic. If you wanna make lots of money and your brain says, but you've never made lots of money before, that can't happen. And , and that's just doubt and a negative vibration. So it's proven that if you feel like it's easy to meet somebody, statistically you'll have an easier time meeting someone. Can you talk about doubt why it hurts our vibration and how to manage that?

Speaker 2: 42:16

Right? Well, doubt's a negative vibration. So the negative vibration of your doubt is diluting the positive vibration of your desire. You see how fast you attract anything is determined by how much doubt you have . If the only thing you had to do was build a list of what you wanted and visualize to the made a macaroni collage or did a dream board , if that's the only thing you had to do, we'd have everything we ever built a dream board for. But it's , but the only thing you had to do was visualize. We'd have everything we visualized that those two components are important. You had to decide what you want, you had to give it attention. And then the third step is you need to remove the doubt,

Speaker 1: 43:01

Right?

Speaker 2: 43:02

And the doubt is what a negative vibration that's diluting the positive vibration of the desire.

Speaker 1: 43:09

Right? And so you can identify doubt because when people say the word, because that's the limiting belief,

Speaker 2: 43:19

Right after that is their doubt . Oh, I'd love to do that, but I can't because I don't have an education or I'd love to, you know, whatever the because is yes. And it's, it's way more than this conversation, but it is about removing the doubt, which is the negative things or words that you're telling yourself.

Speaker 1: 43:37

You texted me a note, which is one of your resets, and it says why we should not use words, don't not , and know . How do we reset a regroup after we flip up and say one of those words?

Speaker 2: 43:50

Yeah, well, you will. And I do, but you know, every time I use the word don't, no and no , I just gave attention to something. Right? Right. For example, everyone's heard it. I don't want you to think of a pink elephant. Okay, big deal. You thought about a pink elephant. But what if I said I don't want my date to be at all ? What if I said that I don't want my date to be late? What am I giving attention to? Well , being late, oh , I hope I don't attract a date that , um, talks too much. What should I give attention? Talks too much. Mm-Hmm, <affirmative> . So whenever I use those words, I just gave attention to what I don't want to give attention to. So here's people's homework, is you have to reset your language. So whenever you use the word, don't not , and know here's the reset sentence. So what do I want? So what do I want? Oh, I don't, you know, we did that earlier, right? Oh, I , I keep attracting dates that talk too much. So what do I want? I guess I'd like them to talk, you know, no nice balance. It's gonna take a few minutes to learn how to do that, right? Mm-Hmm. <affirmative> . And that , by that I mean converting what you don't want to, what you're doing . That's a trained behavior. And everybody listening and writing right now, you are gonna catch yourself using the word don't, no and no , but it gets easier and you're gonna reduce how much you use them . Matter of fact, you might catch yourself thinking about using, just thinking you're about to say, don't forget and you'll do this. Remember when you think, ah , I caught one. Right ? And this is what today was all about. Catching yourself, giving attention to what you don't want. Resetting the words, and that resets the vibration. I love that. That's the homework.

Speaker 1: 45:40

Okay? Yeah . Well, my last question would be, what is your advice around releasing negative emotion and the value of removing the heart wall? Like how could you help people individually who are listening to the show?

Speaker 2: 45:57

Yeah, good question. Uh , the heart wall is , um, well first it's not part of law of attraction, but it's very nice because it's about emotion. So I have the ability to work with people and connect with their subconscious mind that knows everything. It's pretty brilliant. And I can go back to all the unprocessed emotions from previous relationships. Remember that Not you, but remember that time you were dumped and you were abandoned, or that time you were humiliated or embarrassed or you were angry. Remember those relationships that ended that way that you never resolved? You still have those unprocessed emotions and they're collected around your heart and they're part of your vibe. Oh . So even though you were rejected or that you were humiliated or abandoned 30 years ago, your vibration still includes part of that negative vibe. So that's why we keep attracting the same things, the same kind of people that abandon us, or the same kind of people, that whatever that emotion is. So I'm able as a , uh, and it's called Releasing Negative Emotions, I'm able to identify those emotions and delete them on your behalf using a magnet. The name of that website is , uh, www releasing negative emotions.com, releasing negative emotions.com, which is what I do for you. I release your negative emotion. So thanks for letting me explain that.

Speaker 1: 47:26

I think that's incredible and I know that you've done it for me. And you can do things around food, you can delete things around really anything. And I just think it's so exciting. And if, if it was a simple call with you just to delete those negative emotions around being wronged in the past, or a relationship that didn't end well, yeah , you can remove that. And that was a question that I heard from a lot of people. You can say the right things, you can have the high vibe, you can do all those things. But what about the subconscious? And that's right. And that's how you manage the subconscious thoughts, right? Is that correct? Mm-Hmm .

Speaker 2: 48:10

<affirmative> , yes . Now , I'll give an example. I worked with a woman on clubhouse this week that she was rubbing prospects the wrong way. She, you know, prospects, she was meeting potential customers and clients and they were just resisting and resisting and resisting her. And they, you know, they were stubborn and everything. So I did a session with her and here is two old emotions that she had with the prospect about a year ago. And when I found out the emotions, and I told her the date , she knew exactly. So this was an event she had with the prospect that ticked her off and she still was having this vibration. Not about specific prospect, about all prospects, but here's the two emotions that she still had about prospects. One was defensiveness and stubbornness. So imagine , imagine trying to prospect and what are people becoming to her? They're becoming defensive and stubborn.

Speaker 1: 49:08

Mm .

Speaker 2: 49:09

I found out, she told me about the time the prospect that she had, where that's the emotion she had, and she was so ticked off and they fired her and lots of emotions. And since that day, that affect all of her prospecting.

Speaker 1: 49:23

Wow.

Speaker 2: 49:24

It's called the heart wall. And it's very impactful. And lives has changed. And , uh, because they have a new vibe.

Speaker 1: 49:32

Absolutely. So I have so many people that I'm gonna send to you immediately of cleaning that up because like you said, it's affecting their vibration and it's affecting who they're pulling in based on their vibration. So

Speaker 2: 49:44

That's right . And that's why it's so nice with law . Imagine with law of attraction , uh, identifying your ideal boyfriend and going through all the process, yet there's some real old problems in the way that you can't even identify. But they're part of our vibe. So it's yeah , definite nice package to get , uh, is get the heart wall and the dating at the same time. I love that . Clean up your vibe. Stop attracting those un ideal dates.

Speaker 1: 50:09

Well, I can't thank you enough. And where can people find you on social media or follow you on Clubhouse?

Speaker 2: 50:17

Oh , I'm super easy . You just need to know how to spell my last name. <laugh> . It's L-O-S-I-E-R. It's Michael, L-O-S-I-E r.com . And if it's easier to remember, releasing negative emotions.com.

Speaker 1: 50:33

There you go. Well, yeah , I will be in your room tomorrow, <laugh> . And wherever you go, <laugh> . Oh ,

Speaker 2: 50:41

Tomorrow is gonna be, Hey, tomorrow I'm gonna be working with business people and I'm going to find out what their negative vibe is they have about Prospect. So I'll be doing a law of attraction on Wednesday mornings and emotional code getting the two together. It's very exciting.

Speaker 1: 50:57

So exciting. Well, I'm so excited that I used a Law of Attraction to get you to come today, <laugh>, you were such a gift and just amazing, and I just adore you. So thank you so much, Michael.

Speaker 2: 51:10

Thank you. That was a good time.

Speaker 1: 51:12

Good, good. And for now, this week shot at Love Dating Tips, which are inspired by our guests , Michael Lozier . Number one, when it comes to getting that perfect date, don't overthink it. Simply put your wishlist on paper and let the law of attraction do its job. Number two, keep your wishes and thoughts positive. Focus on what you do want, not what you don't want. Remember, the Law of attraction is obedient and will bring you whatever you focus on. Number three, don't tell your girlfriends about a bad date . Tell them what you just learned from it, and remind yourself you're in the process of pulling in that perfect person. I hope you found some of my tips helpful this week. This is what Shot At Love is here for, to help you find love. Keep up the commitment to yourself and commit to helping someone else by sharing this podcast. Shot at Love is now airing on iHeart Radio Live on Power Me Up Radio Talk 24 7 every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday at 9:00 AM Eastern Standard Time. Tune in to the station with Heart on iHeart. Stay safe and stay tuned for more episodes. I'm Carrie Brett , and we'll see you next time.