Overcoming Dating Dilemmas With Undateable Author Bobby Shanks

Today's guest is Bobby Shanks, and he's the author of the new upcoming book "Undatable." Do you think dating is the worst? If that's how you feel, Bobby believes you could be perpetuating your undatable tendencies, these same tendencies that afflict millions of adult singles all over the world. To help navigate this problem, Bobby wrote a humorous how-to book to address your blocks, fix them, and find what you want, need, and deserve. In this episode, we discuss the many dating dilemmas facing singles today, such as ghosting, one-night stands, lonely nights, frustrations around dating, and the steps we can take to succeed.

Bobby Shanks is an expert in residential and new construction properties and the owner of Shanks Realty Group with over 15 years of experience working in the Jefferson County & St. Louis area. He's also a podcaster and author of the new book "updateable." In his words, he's a regular, everyday guy who's single and ready to mingle but just hasn't had that "aha" moment where he felt like he wanted to spend more time with the vast majority of people he's gone out with. If you don't want to settle or go on countless dead-end dates to weed through all of the applicants to find gold, this book is for you! Bobby also shares hilarious and embarrassing personal experiences in this new must-read, including specific things to consider that will take you from updateable to an amazing dateable person! 

Bobby grew up in a tiny midwestern town with a high school graduating class of 20 people. He came from a great family, was always a hard worker and provider. He got married in his mid 20's and found himself married twice with three kids by the age of 45. He was hopeful and excited when he began dating but found he was naive about the challenges online dating brings. 

Kerry Brett and Bobby Shanks cover a lot of ground, topics include:
How to use sales and business skills and applied them to dating.
We both knew a lot about the opposite sex and were quick studies around online dating.
How Bobby went on 50 dates during Covid-19, and what he learned about dating during the pandemic.
The essence of contract law and how that compares to online dating?
Bobby's three pillars and his second list of bonus things.
The difference between willingness and worthiness. 
Why most singles have a negative experience around online dating rather than a positive.
To be dateable, you need to address your past relationship trauma and resentments of things not working out and find peace with your past.
Why dating isn't a waste of time, it's an investment in yourself and others.
Bobby's advice for people who feel like they are a failure, terrible at dating, or either unworthy or updateable.
The importance of being truly available, and if you think you are too busy to date, you're just not managing your time correctly.
What you focus on expands. If your focus is to date and find love online, you'll have it. It's that simple.How to go from updateable to an amazing dateable person!

To find out more about Bobby Shanks, follow him on Facebook under updateable The Book. He's also on Facebook under Bobby Shanks. On Instagram @askforbobbystl. You can also find him on YouTube or listen to his podcast updateable (The Book) everywhere you find podcasts. "Undatable, Why Singles Struggle with Dating and What to Do About It" will be released in August 2021 on Amazon.

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