Recipe For Finding Love With Chef Silvia Bianco

I'm Carrie Brett, and this is shot at luck. Today's guest Sylvia. Bianca is isn't absolute powerhouse. There isn't anything she hasn't survived. And she has the trust that the universe has. Your back. Sylvia is a highly regarded restaurant lovingly, and simply known as chef Sylvia. She garners the gifts. So the kitchen, and as a witness that anyone can cook once they gain confidence and the same applies to dating, I think we can all handle the heat and the kitchen and chef Sylvia is ready to bring it. When we come back, we'll be discussing the recipe for finding love. You won't want to miss it. So stay tuned.

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It is my honor to have chef Sylvia on the show today. Not only is she an award winning chef and brighter, she was also the co owner of biscotti. A much love Italian restaurant in Ridgefield, Connecticut, and the winner of Zagats award of distinction. For many years today, she gives cooking classes to private corporate groups for America's top companies. And before COVID-19 was the resident chef at Williams-Sonoma Sylvia has cooked on numerous national TV shows, including the today show on NBC. She's the author of simply satay and a contributor at simple reminders that has over 6 million followers. Today, she's going to teach us that we are strong enough to overcome all of life's hardships. Anything is possible once you step into your power and believe anything, your heart desires is yours for the taking welcome Sylvia. Hi Carrie. So good to

Be here. And it's an honor to be here as well.

Oh, you're so wonderful. I had so much fun spending time with you this weekend. I haven't been out of my house in about almost six months and you guys ran me to the ground, but we had a really fun time. I am so blown away by you. You are something else and I'm, I'm amazed by your story. And today I think this is going to be a perfect episode given the times that we're in. And I feel like people are so worn down and have almost given up on dating because weathering, this pandemic feels so hard, but you know how to navigate hard times and true that my head was spinning with everything you've ever come. And when you shared your story with me, I was like, Sylvia, how are you still standing? And you said it was a privilege to learn the lessons and that the loss you've experienced was the best thing that ever happened to you. And now you know that nothing can touch you. So before we start talking about your dating life first, can you tell us the story of how you first dated Rob your first husband then broke it off with Rob to date a man named Corwin and then went back to Rob. So you're basically like Reese where their spoon sweet home, Alabama. I never thought

I would have it that way, but that's true.

So it was like door number one and door number two and door number one and door, number two, you had to have in your life. So now we're, we're onto door number three, but why don't you talk about how that

How'd that transcribed? Yeah. Well, when I went, when I left Rob to date Corwin, rap was like my best friend Corwin was my heartthrob. Oh, that's yeah. Yeah. So he after, Oh, I don't know, half a year of dating. He wanted to marry me, but he was from California and he went wanting me to go back to California with him. I refused because I had, you know, family that needed me here. And so I didn't follow him out there. And for awhile he wrote letters to me every day. But then after that, I hadn't heard from him in 14 years. Meanwhile, I married Rob. We were married for eight years and unfortunately he died suddenly when my kids were two and five. Oh my God. Yeah. Yeah. So I will. Yeah. And that was, that was a really hard time in my life. But a few months after that, here's where it's like, you can't make this stuff up because this would, this never cross my mind, but Corwin ends up dialing a wrong number and, and gets my mother and my mother in her broken English managed to tell him that my husband passed away and he should call me. That is such faith. Right. It's totally. And so I come home one day and I turned on the answering machine and there's his message. And my first thought was, Oh, no. Right.

You knew it was going to happen. And it was going to be a Rocky road. Wow. Well, you know, you had, you had the two beautiful children from Rob, which is, that was meant to be, those children were meant to come to you totally. But I know being a single mom of a three year old alone and dating, I can't imagine having a two year old and a five-year-old and what a wonderful man to take on, you know, to step in. Yeah. And you knew right away that you would marry him. Yes,

I did. I ended up having, after a month on the phone back and forth of almost nightly conversations, it was like, we picked up the ball where we left off. We could always communicate really, really well. So we would have these long conversations and then it turned out. I had a business trip to California. He picked me up at the airport and we both knew that we were going to get married almost immediately. That's amazing.

That's such a unique story. I think people would find that interesting. So your life, it takes this tragic turn. I mean, you have this blessing where you get remarried, but during a short period of time, only eight months, years later, your home catches fire burns to the ground. So you lose your home and you had a restaurant for what, 10 years you closed down your restaurant, your mother dies and your marriage ends.

Yes. Within an eight month period.

I can tell you Sylvia, not many people could survive that much loss in that period of time. I mean, you had, I mean, trauma after trauma, after trauma. Right? Right. So what do you think, what did you learn during that challenging time?

Well, like everything in life, it's, it's our perspective on how we choose to view at, and for me there was this internal knowing that it was being guided and I had no outside reasons to believe this. It was just a knowing. So I decided I would rebuild my house. Actually, I actually, I tore the house down to its foundation and then rebuilt it, which later on turned out to be a major metaphor for so many things. Right. I have the piece. Yeah. And, and, and collectively, it also reminds me of, we can't build a new society on a faulty foundation. Right. It's the exact same thing. I learned that what we go through as an individual also applies to the collective and we have to go through our own dismantling process in order to know that. But for me personally, that didn't even begin to happen until after I built the house. I mean, ironically, all the loss during that eight month period felt like fate. And it was so beyond my control that I was able to deal with that. But then what really floored me. I mean, it just knocked me out, was after I built the house, this was in 2006. I lived there for a couple of years. My business took off like crazy. That's another admin story of manifestation. That's just wild. I don't know if you want to hear that, but it was, it's truly a incredible story. I, well, what happened is after I built the house, I put in a demonstration kitchen. Right. And you know, like for the universe to orchestrate things, they can do it in unimaginable ways that we could not possibly plan. So at the same, at the same time I had upgraded my website to be more SEO friendly. Right. And at that time, if you remember, in 2008, all of a sudden cooking classes and chefs were the big thing and corporations were using cooking classes as team building events in the New York times had a story about it and everything converged so that, Oh, and at the same time, I had donated a cooking class to my Alma mater, which was pastry university, where I had gotten an MBA. So all of a sudden I'm sitting in my kitchen in 2008, no, 2007, I'm sitting in my new home and my new kitchen and the phone rings. And the guy on the phone says, you don't know me, but I am the vice president of marketing for Barnes and noble. And right now the CEO of Barnes and noble and the CEO of time Warner or in a bidding war for your cooking classes. Wow. And from that moment on, I never, ever had to look for business. It was just my hook. Right.

Well, if you guys, if any, of any of interview look up her, or there's many videos of her hosting these cooking classes and she's just a star. I mean, you just have it, you're just, you were, you've stepped into your power. You had all this loss and you're like, listen, bring it. I am here. I still have my talent. Lots of things have happened, but I'm going to carry on. And that's, you're a survivor. You're amazing. You're absolutely amazing. And so, you know, you didn't build a house of cards, you built this beautiful home and you're not even having to look for work, but then I don't, I'm not sure if you've made a few bad investments. I know a lot of people did during this time. I remember how difficult 2008 was. I got divorced that year. It was like the perfect storm, right? Especially for the magazine that I worked for. It was so insane. And the market crashes and you find yourself in the recession of 2008 and the fire takes your first home. And now the bank takes your second home because you lost everything.

Right. It wasn't a foreclosure, but it was a short sale. And because I had, you know, with the fire, half the house burned. So I only got insurance for half the house. I built the other half with my own money. So now I'm in hoc for hundreds of thousands of dollars. And so literally I lost everything. I had to sell my apartment in New York to pay everybody back and so on, so forth. So that's what really floored me because that was the looking back. Now I know as part of the dismantling because, you know, I had to, um, it, it, it taxed my trust because I felt that, okay, why was I given all this opportunity where to build this new house to my business, taking off only for it to be taken away again, I, and it took me years to regain that trust where I was believing again, that it had purpose. It had meaning. And, and, and to the point where I can now truly look back on it and say, it was the best thing that ever happened to me, because I got to see and ask myself, who am I really? And who am I without all the props of success that, that make you feel good about who you are. Those are all external, they're external stimuli. And it's easy for you to show the world that you're a success when you have those things. But when those are taken away, how do you find your power? And when you do, then you get to a point in which no one and nothing can take it.

And that's a thing it's like when you're in demand, right. When you're in demand and you're on TV and you are getting these calls from these big CEOs, it's like, it just keeps manifesting more and more and more, and it increases your confidence. But I think it's a very powerful statement to say that you learn to live life without props. And you found yourself feeling that you weren't this big celebrity chef anymore, and you no longer had this beautiful home with this state-of-the-art kitchen or this handsome husband. That's a lot to navigate. And currently lots of people are experiencing loss and collectively, so many lessons are being learned in this time around with all this loss you had to complete acceptance.

Yes. Yes. I mean, it taught me the power of non-attachment and I think that's important in dating. Absolutely. Right. Because when we realize, wow, this guy is cool, I'll meet him. And if it doesn't work out, you know, that it's not supposed to.

Right. And I get these letters from people or DMS and they make me very happy. I will say it makes me really happy because first of all, my heart goes out to a lot of these people because I've been there. I lived there for a long time, but some people are holding on to a fictitious story line of someone they thought was theirs, but that person really wasn't able to commit. And so they have to let that go because that person wasn't meant for them. And that person didn't have the ability to be in a committed, and that doesn't have anything to do with their self worth. But they take that a lot of people and I, myself, you know, you tend to take that on. And so now another transition. So the place you rented and loved became no longer an option. And you knew you were healed because moving again, wasn't traumatic. Exactly. That's huge Sylvia, so huge. And you just looked at it. You said, I'm going to miss this house terribly. I'm going to miss this community, but you end up moving in with your son because his precious little daughter can't go to daycare because it's shut down. So now you're currently taking care of your granddaughter. And this has been the greatest gift. You say, you're determined to learn from joy, but I believe this little soul is making you more magnetic. And this little girl is going to be the superpower for finding love because you're young at heart. And you're full of love for this little girl and your son and his wife. So I think this was all part of the story.

Yeah. And it's funny, Chris, I told Jill a mutual friend of ours the other day that after years of living alone, it did cross my mind that maybe I really don't want a man in my life because I'm so comfortable doing whatever I want to do without having to compromise my behavior or what I like or don't like, and my preferences to someone else. And I was actually concerned about that. And so I know part of what's going on now, because when spirit does anything, it has many mutual benefits for everybody concerned, right? That's when we know the hand or spirit is involved. So this is great for my children. Cause they both working, you know, very high powered jobs and I can be there to help his help and support them to be with my granddaughter. But at the same time, I'm learning how to live by their rules and how to compromise my own preferences. I don't even have a closet now,

Storage. Don't you see? It's like, you're in the perfect position to like maybe grab a suitcase and then just go move in with this new person

It's crossed my mind. Yeah.

It's almost like a dress rehearsal.

Yes, exactly. And so I'm looking at this situation as you know what I, I'm a firm believer in what is mine comes to me and it's not like we sit back and do nothing. I'm on the dating sites. I have to put myself out there. Right. I have to give it avenues, but it can really come in any way I could decide to go on a hike and meet him on the trail. Who knows? I just know that, you know, cause I've had so many instances where I've had to trust spirit to provide, and I've been shown that, you know, you've had asked to trust blindly, you're given gifts along the way that show the universe has your back. Totally. Right. And so this is just another example of that. So I don't doubt it for a second, but there's the non attachment. If for whatever reason it doesn't happen, it's because it's not meant to, and I will have something else that will nourish my life.

Absolutely. And that will benefit you. That non-attachment I think is the biggest takeaway of this episode honestly, is that non-attachment where if this guy or woman or whoever you're dating, it doesn't seem to pan out. You have to just be like, well, I'm just not going to be sad about that.

Right. It was happened a number of times already.

Absolutely. And it happened to me until I decided to change and really focus in on what I wanted. And I was just kind of, I wasn't as clear when I first started my journey on Tinder. So your, your experience with online dating, I know you've been on OkCupid and Tinder. I think OkCupid is starting to really change dramatically these days and you believe there's a whole other pathway and that there's this unconscious realm of possibility and that you don't have to plan. And you have so much trust that the universe has your back. And you could think to yourself, you know, and you've mentioned this too, to maybe for that. So you're 67 and you're, she looks, you guys, she looks just like Isabella Rosellini. I mean, she's gorgeous. She's the youngest 67 year old I've ever seen in my entire life. And she told me that she could say to herself, I'm just an old lady that no one ever want to date, but that's just conditioning society tells us that we are conditioned to think negatively about our age. And it really hurts people from finding love. And I agree with this, this is an excellent point that you made to me. Do you want to talk about your age and how you navigate that on line?

That's been really tough because I don't want to lie, but at the same time I found clever ways of doing that on Tinder. I say that I'm 103, so they know, obviously it's not the truth, you know, and on OK. Cupid. I say that I'm 59 for search reasons, but then within my profile itself, cause I'm always getting messages from guys that say you can't be 59. There's no way you're 59. So I make a joke out of it. And I'm like, well, if you thought I looked too young for 59, I'm going to blow you away by telling you I'm actually 67.

Right. Right. So that is a amazing tip. So I've actually swiped for people who are, you know, maybe 60, 61. And the trend on Tinder. What I noticed is that there's like 1,000,059 year olds. So this is a move that everybody uses when you get to be around a certain age. And I look at the pictures and I'm like, okay, they're not 59, but that's okay. And so you're, you're a swipe. You're getting them to swipe you on an instant where they see how beautiful you are. And then they're like, well, she's 59. And then you write this beautiful bio. And at the end you're like, Hey, age is just a number. And this is actually my age and they don't care. Right. I don't think so. No. Cause if they're going to swipe you in the first place there, right.

And plus, this is what else I do. I put a caption on all my photos so they know what year they're from or what month even. And like my latest one, my profile picture is from January of 2020. So they, you know, I'm not putting in a photograph from 20 years ago.

Okay. That's great. When we come back, I'm going to talk about some of the other clever strategies that Sylvia uses online. And I think they're going to be really helpful.

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And we're back with chef Sylvia, Sylvia, what did you learn in the kitchen? You talk about this managed chaos and how does it apply to dating?

Well, I mean, if you ever looked into a kitchen during the throes of service and you watched what the cooks and the chef and everybody else was doing, you would say it is completely chaotic. How do they even know what they're doing? And that applies to me. I mean, if I looked into my own kitchen, when I, if I wasn't on line at that time and I just, just looking in, it would just look uncontrollable. Whereas if we learn to when you're in it, you learn to focus just on what's in front of you and what your role is and that you are, you find at least I did. I sense of calm within the storm.

You're so you're very good at being in the present moment.

Yes, yes. Which I'm also learning with my granddaughter yeah.

Way. So I think being in the present moment, because people can get overwhelmed. It's like I have all these matches. All these people are writing me. We'll just zone in on that one person at a time. And I used to be a waitress and I was nice to everyone. And I always got my salads first and my beats as far as, because I, I talked to everyone, I was open, I was friendly and I was nice and respectful to everyone. And I think that's kind of how I have to be online because you just don't know who that person is going to be.

Right. For me personally, the way I narrow it down. Cause I have gotten bombarded the way I narrow it down is I look at their profile. And if I feel a sense of comradery, if I sense a kindred spirit, somewhere in there, then I'm willing to explore someone who isn't necessarily great looking. I mean, for me personally, I fall in love with someone's mind first.

Right? We talked about this cause we're both. So her birthday is February 9th and I'm the 11th. So we are hard stop Aquarians and Aquarians are, um, you know, we, we like the mind. We like creativity. We like a higher ground. We want like a higher consciousness and someone who's open minded. And I like how you said you're not interested in being their teacher. That's like such a cool statement. And you are looking for someone to join forces with, to make a positive difference in the world. That's the humanitarian side of you and someone, someone by your side, a life partner, who's your equal. And you put this all in your bio. You're very specific of what you'd like to order up on the Tinder menu. And I think that being, you know, writing those words in the bio, it's going to manifest what you want. And it's

From what I hear, I mean, I don't look at other women's profiles, so I don't know. But what I hear from men contacted me saying, Oh my God, I've never seen a profile.

I've never seen a profile and believe me, I've read it multiple times. And I'm someone who doesn't like a detail, but bio and I didn't, I used very few words, like barely anything. And that worked to my advantage, but you're such a beautiful writer. You're challenging these guys to chase you. And when I would look at your phone yesterday and I saw these guys writing you, they're like, I'm curious, I'm open minded. I have my feet on the ground. I mean, they just verbatim spit it back to you. And I was like, Whoa, this is interesting Sylvia. And I think another thing that you did, this is a great tip. So you hold your value so strongly that it makes them chase you. And you wrote this and this is money guys. This is unbelievable you. Right? Of course I can appreciate that. There's lots of good men, but the man that can build an honest, intimate relationship with me who can navigate this next leg of the journey with me, the way that just fit. Well, of course is not any man. So that's amazing. And so you are the one calling the shots. Yes. Yeah.

So I find a lot of times I go on a lot of first dates and they won't even go on the second one for you to say, no, it's like, wait a minute. She ain't having me. I'm serious. And if I wasn't confident, I would feel really bad about it. And not saying that in an egotistical way, we just know there's a knowing. There's a knowing when they can. Yeah. I asked for a second day,

You definitely have, so you are a powerhouse, just like I, the first thing I said about you and you do older power and you hold back and you kind of make film one fight to get to know you, which is the most lovely and interesting kind person, but you just kind of hold your cards a little bit and you're not overselling. I think.

Well, I think I, I have learned to be humble in, in the most, I guess, natural way. You're just grounded in yourself. Yeah. Yeah. And so I'm a humanitarian. So that is, you know, makes me really curious about anyone that I'm dating. And so I can go out with a guy and realize, you know what, he's not for me, but I really value him as a human being. So while I'm here for these two hours, I'm going to be curious about him. I'm going to want to know him. I want to leave him with a good impression of just maybe dating and women in general. I don't know. I just value him as a person and that's going to come out. Right.

Right. And plus being a humanitarian is your number one thing. And you want to make a positive difference in the world. And you want someone who wants to do that as well. Yes. Yes. And collectively cares about everyone else on this planet, the planet that we're sharing with, you know, and I believe that too. And I feel like that too. So, but some people, you know, they have different goals

And that's okay. There are different point in life. But what, what I think is an important thing to mention to your viewers is that when you're dating later on in life, when your kids are grown, it's a great time to date. Because most of the men, I date are ones who have already made the impact of their career. They're not looking to, you know, work on advance and work all these hours. They're realizing, you know what? I was a success in my career, but that isn't filling my heart. What I really want is someone is a partner with someone to have shared experiences with, to travel the world, to really have an intimate relationship on every level. And you just can't do that when you're working 60, 70 hours a week or you're raising children, but now that's behind me. So I have every confidence that I will meet that kind of partner in which we can share our resources and our talents and find some way to really give back.

That's so nice. And then they can have this beautiful chef, cook them, whip them up a meal and sit and talk for hours. Exactly. That's gotta be a selling point. So[inaudible],

And you know what else is funny? I've never seen so many men mentioned their love of cooking in their bio. I'd say 75% of the bio. Sorry. Reed mentioned cooking. Really? That's maybe it's just who I'm attracting. I don't know.

Maybe amazing. Well, I think a lot of people lie about cooking, you know, cause they're like I watched Moritz and I'm totally, you know, this and that. And then they get in a relationship and they're like, wait, why are we ordering pizza every night? But um, yeah. So do you think you could, like when a man's heart through their stomach or via dish, you bake them a bit. I'm curious about that.

I think that's an added bonus for sure. Right? Well, cause I'm such a nurturer by, by nature, right? I love taking care of people and what man is not going to want someone who's gonna take care of them in the most positive way. Right? Like how do you, what would you like? What do you feel like having to

Not even a famous celebrity chef with that for you today? Wow. That's amazing Sylvia. So yes, I think this is great. And I should probably do a little screenshot of your bio and put it in the show notes because it's the most fascinating bio I have ever seen. And so let's talk about this time during the pandemic and dating. And you said that your theory is that people are transforming very rapidly and if that person hasn't shown up, then that person hasn't gotten there yet. Like they haven't found the lessons. And I think that people are potentially limiting themselves during this pandemic that a lot of people think that until we get through this difficult time that this person can't show up. But what if they were there all along? I mean, this pandemic is showing us, we don't need the stuff. Like we can just have a home meal at home and sit and talk for hours or play a board game or let's go for a walk we're really down to basics. And so I think there could be a lot of people who are more evolved than you think. And like you said, you said Tinder, you found people were very well educated and, and very, you know, highly successful.

Yeah. More so than other platforms. Surprisingly, because like a lot of people, I thought Tinder was a hookup site until I looked into it a little more and it, it may be for the twenties and thirties crowd, you know? And certainly I find that, that there are profiles that say, listen, I just want to hook up. Okay. Left. Right. I'm not interested in that. That's why I'm very clear on my bio who and what I'm looking for.

Right. I think that's great. And you you're on other sites, but you said you had some problems. You didn't like match. And can you compare some of the other sites because people, there are people listening that potentially may be afraid to join Tinder because of that hookup site, site reputation. And I think someone who is 67, either 103 and two or 59 has experience on other sites. So I would, I would be interested in your experience.

Well, I did match years ago and then I tried it again a couple of years ago for a very short period of time. And what are the things I did not like at all about match was that you could, like, if I was checking out a guy and I liked his profile, let's say, and I went back a number of times because I forgot what he said about something or I forgot where he lived or whatever. It would show the guy, how many times I visited his profile. Right. And so we'd look like I'm stalking him. And I just found that a little creepy. Cause then I wouldn't go back to find a little bit more about him because I didn't want to give that impression. And then I found that, you know, because you can write a message to anyone. I don't know if it's changed in recent years. I'm not sure. I'm not sure, but I was bombarded by men who just obviously were not for me. And, and I, it would almost make me angry because I'd say, well, wait a minute, did you read my profile? You obviously we have nothing in common and you obviously are not for me. Why are you even messaging me? And then I feel like if I ignore them, I was being a mean person. And so it was really hard for me. And I felt that just that part alone just didn't sit well. And, but if I wrote back to them, then they would them and then I couldn't get rid of them. And it's just a, I'm like, no, no.

So I think that's why you got so clear on your bio, because that was a way a built in that ink system. Yeah,

Exactly, exactly. Whereas on OkCupid, which I'm a big fan of as well, you can't even message either they're back and forth, unless you both mutually like each other.

Right. So I don't think you're going to do well on Bumble because Bumble, you have to write the man first. And I don't know that

It's kinda not.

Yeah. So just keep doing what you're doing because it's working and I think you are so inspiring. And before we wrap up this wonderful episode, do you have any helpful advice for people out there dating or if you don't have any helpful advice? Cause you've already given us a ton during this episode, maybe some advice for the single mothers of the world who don't even know how to begin to start over,

Okay, this may sound cliche ish, but I found it to be very, very true. One of the reasons that I think dating doesn't work or even relationships don't work. I mean, there's nothing worse than getting into a relationship because you are lonely or, you know, you think it's what you want only to find out you're now living with somebody you don't want to be with. There's nothing worse than not. I would much much rather be alone than be with the wrong guy. I agree. I'm perfectly fine alone. I'm never bored with myself. So if my, my advice would be to really dig deep and certainly this pandemic is forcing us right. To dig deep.

Exactly. Cause it's very challenging. And life is hard enough aside from living through a pandemic that if you have to twist yourself into a pretzel and lose herself and be someone that you're not in order to make someone happy, well, that's an awful lot of work

And it's an awful position to be in. So I'm a big believer in really getting authentic with yourself and literally falling in love with who you are because you know what, we are all deserving of love in a, does it matter? I don't mean from somebody else just we are loved. And part of the biggest problem that people have I believe is that we don't feel worthy of that and that's never, ever true. I don't care what you've done, what you believe that is just not true because the essence of us is that we are divine beings period. And as the divine being, we are love impersonated. And that is what I believe is, is coming down on, on, um, on a vibrational level to this planet. And I think that's part of the reason why we're going through this period of isolation and pandemic. Cause this is the one thing in the history of mankind. Think about it in which the whole globe is sharing, right where this is showing us symbolically that we are all one.

And you understand this fundamentally because you experienced so much loss and rebirth and having to rebuild however many times, and it doesn't matter how much money you have in the bank. It doesn't matter if you have this fancy chef's kitchen. It doesn't matter if you have housing. Like it doesn't matter if you're living out of a suitcase because you are yourself and you're worthy of love. Whether you're 59, 43, 67, it's here, you can have it.

And when you hold that space, it's going to come to you right now. It's coming into the, me too in the form of my children and my granddaughter.

And it's going to come pretty quick. So yeah, I can't wait. Well, thank you for sharing that tip to love yourself, get authentic with yourself. And I love you, Sylvia, and you are just the best. So how can people find more about you? And I just bought your cookbook on Amazon. Can you share your website, Twitter, anything?

Um, I'm chef sylvia.com and it's Sylvia with an I that's my website on Facebook. I'm chef Sylvia on Twitter. I'm chef cilia, every platform, Instagram. I have not been all that active on social media lately only because I'm focused on other things, but, um, I do come back and forth and you could always contact me from there and I'll get the message.

Okay, great. So earlier you said it was a privilege to learn the lessons. Well, it's been a privilege to learn from you and such a privilege to get to know you and have you on this show. I hope we can be friends for many years to come. And I know you'll find the one very soon and I'm going to have you both on this show to inspire others. So thanks. Thanks so much for being here. Thank you for having me, Carrie. And for now this week's Tinder tips. Number one, age is just a number. We are conditioned by society that people are too old to find love. Not true. Everyone deserves love regardless of their age. If you meet the right person age, not matter, number two, don't be afraid to ask for what you want in the bio. Be specific and don't be afraid to call the shots like Sylvia did in her bio. Sylvia was crystal clear about what she wants. You can't pull in what you want. If you don't know what you're looking for. Number three, don't limit yourself during this pandemic. We have enough restraints. So don't add by having limited beliefs, think expansive thoughts and trust that the universe will do it. This is what shot at love is here for, to help you find love. Keep up the commitment to yourself and commit to helping someone else by sharing this podcast. Remember to stay safe and stay tuned for more episodes. If you'd like me to photograph you for your online dating profile, sign up for my shot at love promotion. Please DM me on Instagram or you can find me on my website, Carrie Brett, lifestyle, portraits.com. I'm Carrie Brett, and we'll see you next time.

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