What Men Really Want, With Divorced Dad & Co-Creator Of Divorced Over 40, Daniel Herrold

This week, we discuss what men want. Today's guest is Daniel Herrold and he's the co-creator of Divorced Over 40, a rapidly growing community with tribes in fifty cities and seven countries worldwide. Daniel provides a man's perspective on dating, relationships and just about everything women are straight-up confused about these days! He helps translate the difficult conversations you may have with guys. He gives insight into what men may be thinking and, better yet, what they really meant. He also helps us spot the signs to differentiate between good and bad behavior. Daniel encourages dating with a purpose i.e. knowing what you want in a partner and getting clear about your next chapter. Daniel finally offers tips for protecting your time around those who don’t align with you and how to be proactive by playing offense instead of defense.  

Daniel Herrold is the co-creator of Divorced Over 40, an online and in-person community of divorced women and men. This incredibly curated group provides support through content on its social media channels and hosts live events so that those navigating divorce can cultivate new friendships. Divorced Over 40 has over 10,000 members and has formed virtual tribes worldwide in just over a year. Daniel is also the founder of the Intentional Dating Club. He's a writer of all things divorce and known for his blog and his viral Divorced Dad Tik Tok videos, which offer dating tips. Daniel is a proud divorced dad of three daughters, who lives in Tulsa, Oklahoma, and is dedicated to changing the stigma of divorce.

Once Daniel found himself divorced in his 40s, he began looking for friendships and doing what most people do... diving straight into dating to avoid the pain of loneliness. In this episode, he shares how connecting with others, who are in the same situation, allowed him to heal and ignited his passion for helping others.

Kerry Brett and Daniel Herrold cover a lot of ground. Topics include;
Why women should stop accepting poor behavior from men.
When bad behaviors are shown early it’s better to cut your losses and move on.
Don’t make excuses why bad behaviors exist. Chances are, they are only going to get worse.
Slow and steady wins the race when dating someone new.
How to ask the right questions to see if someone is aligned with you.
If one person tries to push the agenda of the status of the relationship, it’s likely to blow up.
If someone ghosts you, they are showing a lack of respect and it is what it is, no explanation needed, the memo has been received – move along and consider yourself lucky.
Don’t be too accessible and watch the frequency of your communication. Don’t fall into the trap of burning the roast because you got too ambitious in the kitchen. If things progress too quickly either person is most likely to lose steam.
The importance of avoiding negativity in your profile.
It’s better to fill your profile of what you do want rather than what you don’t. And remember men love positive winners.
You can’t change men, make sure your expectations are aligned. A serious dater and casual dater are like oil and vinegar.
Stop putting so much pressure on the first date. Doesn’t friendship come before marriage? Use a date as an opportunity to find a new friendship.
The breakdown of intentional dating.
How to manage your expectations to avoid pain and heartbreak.
How to navigate dating in a healthy way when it’s too soon to date.

To find out more about Daniel Herrold, the Divorced Dad go to danielherrold.com or divorcedover40.com. You can find him on social media @daniel.herrold or @divorcedover40, and also on Tik Tok under daniel.herrold. He has a members-only dating club. There is a hyper link on his Instagram. Daniel also hosts clubhouse rooms. His clubs are What Men Want, Intentional Dating Club and Divorce Over 40, on Clubhouse.