What Is Your “Why” As a Creative?

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Hello, hello, everyone. You are listening to The Success Palette,

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a place to discuss how creatives can succeed in every aspect of our lives.

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I'm your host, Soda, and today we are going to talk about our why as creatives,

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why we create, and how that can help us get out of our comfort zone.

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So to help me out with that, I have invited Claire Garner, who who is a motivational

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speaker, primarily for women, but anyone can benefit from her wisdom.

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So Claire, tell us a little bit about your story and how you were able to come

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out of your comfort zone to reach your goals.

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Yeah, sure. And thank you so much for having me. It's a real pleasure to be here.

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And my purpose in life is to empower as many women as possible.

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So yeah, really grateful to be able to touch some lives in your space.

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So yeah, I'll just give you you a little bit of the background for my

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story so it's one of adversity to abundance

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okay so I was not born into a silver spoon I was not born with any kind of silver

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plate in my life it was very much the opposite grew up in a tiny little seaside

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town in in North Devon in England right so if you're not in England you won't

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even know where I'm talking about it's like that minute I knew.

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And it was one of those places where aspirations, ambitions were not big, to say the least.

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It was very much you get what you're given, you make do.

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And it was very much the kind of the survival mindset, right?

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The poverty mindset of this is our lot.

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This is the cards that we've been dealt this is

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my life and for me as a

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young kid kind of early teenager I always knew I always knew inside that I was

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meant for something more that I was meant for something bigger brighter better

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right but the world around me was very quick to put that light out they were very quick to say.

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Who the hell do you think you are?

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Who are you to think that you can be something? You left school at 16.

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You can't do that. That's not for people like us, like you.

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And so that light was dimmed for a long, long time.

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And even though I felt it, I felt the yearning, I felt the burning,

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the knowing that I was meant for more, that I wasn't here for ordinary,

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that I was somehow somehow meant for extraordinary

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I just didn't know how and life

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threw me a curveball and at 18 I got in an

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abusive relationship for the next 15 years and

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my life story then really consists of coming home from high-level meetings stepping

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out into that entrepreneurial world feeling like I was finally amounting to

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something right feeling like I was finally forging this path to feeling afraid

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to open my own front door.

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And what happened is year after year, it felt like there was a bit less of me.

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It felt like my dreams were being ripped away from me, like I had no control in my destiny.

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It was just like, it was out of reach.

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Until my daughter's 13th birthday, where

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she was opening her presents surrounded by packing boxes as

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I finally mustered up

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the courage to leave and it was in that

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moment that I realized that I needed

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to lead by example I needed to be the

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role model for my girls because I wanted them

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to believe that they could have a life of their dreams and that it wasn't just

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possible that it was inevitable and that they could make them their reality

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and so I lent into the fear and I I transmuted it to feed the yearning and to

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ignite the burning and to become the person that I was here to be.

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And that's the life of a visionary, right? And this is what I'm so passionate about.

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Empowering others to do, to lean into that fear, to transmute it as your fuel

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and to project you into the life that you're truly here to live.

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That hit me really, really hard, especially as someone who, you know,

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did, I came from a very abusive childhood and I've always felt that if I didn't

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get noticed, then I wouldn't have to go through the abuse.

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So I made myself unnoticeable. I made myself invisible for so long.

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And a lot of us in the arts, we are scared to kind of show up.

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What are some of the ways that we can kind of slowly step out?

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Because I know If you suddenly, speaking in front of millions of people,

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it might be a little nerve wracking, but can you talk about some of the ways

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we can slowly get out of that invisible mindset? Yeah.

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Yeah, I mean, there's so much kind of unpacking to be done, right?

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But it all starts with your, well, there's three points that I really want to touch on.

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So your big why, your purpose, and then transmuting the fear.

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So I'll start with the big why.

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So no matter what industry you're in, no matter what your gifts are,

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what you're here to do in the world, right?

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It doesn't matter your channel of how you do it, whether it's writing,

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whether it's painting, whether it's talking, whatever it is,

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I believe everyone is here for a reason.

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Everyone is here to fulfill a certain purpose.

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Now, your why, that purpose has to be so full body, powerful,

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all encompassing, all overwhelming because

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if that why is not

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big enough it will not be able to combat the imposter

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syndrome it will not be able to combat the fear of failure it won't be able

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to combat the fear of rejection the fear of criticism all of these obstacles

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that you will inevitably get as you grow as you expand as you put yourself out

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there so your why needs to be your anchor it needs to be be your North Star, your compass.

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It needs to be the reason behind every single thing that you do.

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And it needs to be so important to every essence of your being.

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That you are willing to get uncomfortable, that you're willing to put yourself

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out there, to have stones thrown at you, because inevitably you will not be

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for everyone. No one is for everyone.

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And you will only achieve a level of success that you are able to allow the

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level of criticism and the level of failure, because no one is an overnight success.

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There are many, many, many failures in the background. I've failed more times

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than most people have even tried.

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And that's why I'm successful because I get up and I go again.

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And I know that my purpose is so important that nothing will knock me down for good.

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I will always keep trying because it's my magnet. It's my pull.

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It's why my soul came to this world.

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So the first thing to get really really clear on is your why.

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Not the big house, not the status, not the car.

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Those are all great. And I am an advocate of abundance and wealth.

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And if you want nice things, go for it. I love that. Female empowerment wealth, hell yes.

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But that is not a big enough why to overcome the hurdles, to overcome the obstacles.

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So what is the why for your soul?

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So I'll give you an example. For me, it is to

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empower as many women as I possibly

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can in my life to stop making do

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to stop settling to stop

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sacrificing their dreams for the life that they have and to start playing big

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to start following what they truly know inside that they're here for because

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when you know that you're here for something bigger, better, brighter.

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You know, you can't explain it to anyone. You just know.

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And those are the people that I'm passionate about making sure you don't give

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that, put that to waste, right?

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Don't waste it because your soul is here to fulfill it.

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So that's my first, my first step.

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Yeah, I completely agree with purpose being the biggest driver and that's what's helped me.

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But I know that a lot of the people who I've talked with in my community,

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especially in my art group, have told me that they feel stuck because they don't

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know their why. and haven't been able to figure out.

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So they feel that they don't deserve to step out and show their work.

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And I was wondering if you could talk a little bit about how we can discover

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our why, especially for those of us who have been in survival mode for so long.

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You know, we're just all about surviving. We don't think about why as much.

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Yeah, I love that. And that's really, really really important

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and I was that person right I didn't know my why

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and that's part of the reason why it took me 10 years to

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start my first business because I didn't know what I was

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meant to do I was like what if I get this wrong

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you know what if this is not the right thing and I

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knew that I was meant to be something

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to be someone but I didn't know what I would you know what

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that looked like what I was meant to do and so what happens

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is we kind of end up using that as an excuse

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to not take any action because it's just that fear of

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getting it wrong and the fact of the matter is

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is if you don't know your why now the path will

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be shown as you take action as you

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move forwards but it's very hard to know your why

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if you're sitting around wondering what it is and

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the clearest way that you will get that is to

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start moving make a move do

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something something and it will either feel good

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or it won't and if it doesn't then

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look to a different avenue look to a different

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path look to what lights you up i would say your why is within

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you right it's not something that you need to create

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it's something that is within you already you just.

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Need to really connect with yourself with

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your intuition with your soul with your you know

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know whatever you want to call it your spirit connect with that

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divine energy source within us all and

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feel into it like I

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always knew when I was at school I

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was always told that the one

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thing I was the most passionate about was the

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thing that I should be the most worried about it was the thing

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that would hinder me the most it was the thing that would hold me back the most and that

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was was talking always a talker always talking

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right in lessons in detention like all the time talk and obviously at school

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that's not what the teachers wanted but I had it drilled into me that my gift.

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Was something that was not a gift it was something that was a hindrance it was something that would,

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like block my journey and so

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when you're looking at what is my why think back

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to your childhood think back to what

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was it that I was always really passionate about or good at if you knew that

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you were good at the time I didn't know I was good at talking I just knew I

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loved it and that will give you clues you know the universe leaves you clues

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everywhere and then look at your hurdles look at at your mountains.

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So your why can change over time.

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So for me, my why before I was in an abusive relationship has always been about

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empowering women, but it was in a very different way when I was in an abusive

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relationship, obviously, because I was not empowered myself.

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So I was just doing what I could at the time with who I was at the time.

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Now, my why is in a much bigger bigger scale because I am a different version of me. I have healed.

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I've overcome my mountains. That's not to say there won't be more,

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but that particular mountain I've overcome and I can now stand on the other

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side and I can help others navigate that. So think about your mountains.

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Think about your hurdles and think about your natural gifts.

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If you've always been good at writing, then your why is to share your message

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with the world through your writing.

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If it's you know art and that's

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something I actually used to be really good at art when

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I was a kid which wasn't a passion for me but

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if that's something that you're passionate about and something

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that lights up your whole body that's what you're meant to do if you desire

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to do something it's because you're meant for it you're meant to follow that

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path what lights you up that's such a good point that it doesn't always have

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to be this, I'm going to change the world or whatever.

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It could just be sharing something that you love to do.

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And what are some of the things that, I know you like talking,

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but what are some of the other things that you love to do that have helped you?

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Because I know you have several successful businesses and

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I would love to hear about some of the things

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you love to do that you've implemented implemented in creating

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those businesses so for me

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it's about connecting with your core values okay so my

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core values are fun freedom and fulfillment they

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are free non-negotiables for

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me so no matter what I do in any industry in any business in in even in my personal

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life if it doesn't give me fun freedom or fulfillment I'm out it's like it's

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just a no because I no no longer subscribe to doing things that people tell

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me I have to do or that I should do or that I'm meant to do.

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I get to choose what I do.

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Whether I want to do it. It's up to me, just as it's up to you.

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You don't have to do anything.

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You are the CEO of your life. No matter what you do, no matter what your role

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is, you are the CEO of your life. You get to hire and fire.

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You get to write your story, what it's going to look like. You get to dictate

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how the journey goes, ultimately.

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And we can give our power away to so so many things to so many people,

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to our circumstances, to our ecology, to our upbringing, to this, that, the other.

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But ultimately, it's all down to us.

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So fun, freedom, and fulfillment are my core values. So the first thing I would

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say is figure out your core values. What are they?

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And integrate those into everything that you do.

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Because I have three businesses at the moment. I'm birthing a fourth and potentially a fifth as well.

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So I'm a multi-passionate, right?

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I have lots of different interests, but they all come under empowerment and

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they all provide fun, freedom and fulfillment. So I have a corporate business.

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I delegate in it. I stay in my 5% area of genius, which is communication.

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Relationship building, being the brand, being the vision.

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The rest, I delegate to the team because I learn how to trust and let go.

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That business gives me fun, freedom, and fulfillment, gives me fun to do whatever

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I want to do in my personal life, gives me the freedom to do that.

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And it fulfills me knowing that I'm helping not only my team, but my clients.

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I have a crystal business. So we sell ethically sourced crystals,

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which we're now looking to scale on a quantum level,

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something I've never ever done before like we're talking this is

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me out of my comfort zone right but I

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love crystals they helped me heal from my

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abusive relationship they helped me manifest my first six figures

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in my first business they helped me do so many things and

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we're not talking about crystals but they they helped me so much I'm

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so passionate about them that business gives

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me fun freedom and fulfillment and what

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I love about that business is my eldest daughter now runs it so

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it's like I get to now watch her step into

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her light and step into her power and really

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embrace who she wants to be and well she's

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17 right the amount of criticism I

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got for her not being in college or going to uni because she wanted to be an

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entrepreneur to follow her mum who am I to say no you know look at me I left

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school at 16 but I get I get to

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watch my daughter do that and that's something that I'm so, so proud of.

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And then obviously my third business, which is Phoenix, which encompasses a lot of things.

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So coaching, online courses, speaking.

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And also we're building retreats for next year. So all about female empowerment, okay?

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All about empowering female entrepreneurs to step into their light,

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embrace their gifts, embrace their spirituality, embrace their divine feminine,

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embrace who they're here to be and become that visionary.

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So the three main things there are your core values. What are they?

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And then look at anything that you wanna do or that you are doing already does

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it give you those three if not it's time to reassess yeah and i'm gonna have

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to pick your brain about crystals after because i.

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Love need some crystals what are

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some what are your social do you

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have them on social media or where could we find you yeah

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we have um yeah i can

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give you the links after but we have the the website is full moon crystals

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instagram is full dot moon dot

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crystals 21 just like all we could have um but yeah

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i can give you the links to those after perfect i will put those in because

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i will nerd i could just talk like for hours yeah yeah i'm i'm planning on doing

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a full episode about crystals and creativity so So we'll have to reconnect.

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And I love what you said about being the CEO of your own life,

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because that's something that I tell myself a lot.

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And I think about some of these successful CEOs during the pandemic and how

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they were able to adapt when things went awry.

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What are some of the ways that you've been able to use adapting in order to

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succeed in your passions and career?

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I think adapting is an interesting word

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and I think for me I've never

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really classed myself as a an innovator okay

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so I when I remember being like a teenager and

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always saying out loud you know I'm not

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an innovator like I can't I'm not gonna think of

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like creating a camera right I'm not gonna think of

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creating like a telly like I'm not one of those like inventors and

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so I think we we can get caught up in

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that thought process of we have to reinvent the

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wheel and we don't have to reinvent the wheel

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because the fact of the matter is is that you are here

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to help certain people i'm here

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to help certain people you're here to help certain people everyone listening

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is here to help certain people in my opinion and so you can be doing exactly

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the same as what someone you know beside you is doing but you will attract different

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people because you have your you your own unique frequency,

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your own unique gifts, your own unique story. You could be doing it.

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You know, it's the whole reason of why two people can go and watch a film together

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and they come out, one loved it, one hated it, because everyone has their own different realities.

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Everyone has their own different perceptions, their own, based on their own journeys, right?

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So in regards to adaption, I don't think you need to be, in my opinion,

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I don't think you need to be too kind of worried about that,

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I think just stay true to what you're here to do.

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You don't have to know every step of the way. The way will be shown.

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You just have to move. You just have to see the next step.

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Because if you're always moving towards the next step, the rest of them will reveal themselves.

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So for me, I have a North Star. I have my next step.

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And the rest I release to the universe. verse and I

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trust that it will be given to me once I'm ready for

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that next level so in regards to adaption yeah I

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think I'm a little bit on the fence about that word and I think just

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focus on you don't worry about what anyone else is

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doing stay in your lane focus on your north star focus on your purpose focus

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on your big why and the path will be shown your job is to take aligned action

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to move you closer to that north star that's it don't worry about the rest yeah

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the reason I asked about kind of adoption,

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being adaptable is because earlier you were talking about core values and how important it is.

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And I know right now, there are a lot of genres and communities and platforms

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and such that are being canceled.

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I was on I was very successful on a platform that ended up going against my core beliefs.

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And I had to think about, again, reassess what are my values. And.

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It was hard. It felt like I was grieving something when it didn't work out.

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So I want to talk about kind of failures and how

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you deal with these situations where you end

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up having these setbacks and how you kind

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of get through that and don't let it affect your vision

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and go back into that small person that you

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used to be yeah so yeah so

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so important a topic because failure is part of success right no one achieves

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success without failing and if you're not willing to fail then you're not willing

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to achieve success because you can't you can't have one without It's the law of duality, right?

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They just don't exist on their own singularly.

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So what you were talking about there.

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It resonates with me a lot. And I'll just give you an example.

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So for me, I pivoted my Instagram handle, my main Instagram handle earlier this

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year. Okay, so it used to be for my crystal business.

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And then when I birthed Phoenix, for whatever reason, whatever divine reason

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be unknown to me, I decided to use that same account and to just,

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you know, change my messaging on it.

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Now, obviously, with algorithms, it doesn't always like change.

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And so I went from 10k followers down

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to seven and I would get

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stuck like my views went from

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thousands to like lucky if I hit 10 right we're

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talking like drastic change and for

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quite a while I did get sucked into that mindset of

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I would wake up in the morning I would look

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at my phone my nervous system would

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be completely shot it was was

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like that fight or flight right it was like everyone hates me

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and I would wake up with the

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feeling how many people have left me today and I

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would look at my followers and sometimes I would

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cry and I would it would make me relive all

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of those feelings of rejection of not being good

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enough why don't people like me you know I'm

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just trying to help people why don't they want me you know all

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of this like healing wound stuff it brought back

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up to me and that hit me for a

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good a couple months because I'm human okay we're all human and

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we all have triggers we all have traumas

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and we're never healed we're just healing we're just doing the best that we

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can as we heal no one's ever fully healed and she doesn't exist and so I finally

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realized that Claire hang on a minute it.

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You've built two six-figure businesses outside of Instagram.

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This is not the end of the world.

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You know how to grow a business. You know how you can help people.

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You know how you can reach people.

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These are just not your people. And it took that mindset shift to really kick me out of that.

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And And I actively went into my followers and deleted people.

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Didn't know them. Just if I, I swear to God, I would just scroll.

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And if I just landed on something, I wouldn't even look at their profile. If I just...

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Didn't resonate, I just deleted them. Because I needed to take back that control.

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Because it wasn't people leaving me. It was me making space for my right people.

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And we have to sometimes release in order to allow, right?

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We have to release maybe people that are no longer meant for us,

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maybe people that are holding us back,

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maybe clients that are not aligned with us,

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you know opportunities that don't resonate with us all of this stuff sometimes

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we have to release that in order to move forwards and so it's the mindset shift

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of what you can deem as a failure in the first instance or rejection or you

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know all of these narratives.

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What am i being taught here what is the lesson here and for me it was about

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release because i I was always the control freak, right?

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I was always like, I need to control everything.

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And it was in that surrender that came my serenity. It was in that surrender that came my...

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Sense of safety that came my ease of mind

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didn't impact my income because I was already

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making the income my income has never

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come from my followers that was not even

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part of the thing it was just like

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the sense that it gave me of being

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a failure of for whatever reason being

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rejected and so when these things

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happen it's looking for the lesson what is the

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lesson that I need to learn here because that is what

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you need to know to get to the next stage of you

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you can't become who you want to be until

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you learn this lesson and every failure that

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you have i mean i don't even believe in the word failure the only failure

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is not to try right because then you never even know but the

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only failure that we deem is that because of whatever outcome we've placed on

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it that we desire that's all that it is it either matches that or it doesn't

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so whatever we deem is that failure failure what is the lesson what is the lesson

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in this failure because when you learn that,

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that's when the next opportunity will show up that's when the healing will take

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place that's when you will start to become the next version of you because the

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person that you want to be.

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Like you're here and they're here and you

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have to bridge that gap and the only way to bridge

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that gap is by slowly embodying different

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layers of their identity and that

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means learning things that they know that means overcoming things that they've

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overcome that means having different perceptions that they've learned through

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all of the failures that you need to go through that gave me goosebumps to think

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about I now I think about all my failures in the past and how much I learned from them so I love that.

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And I know we only have about 10 minutes left before you need to get going.

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But I had just two quick questions.

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One is how for those who are starting to see success and feeling plateaued, though,

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what are some ways that they can push themselves to get out of that plateau

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mode and continue to grow?

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So plateau is a form of self-sabotage,

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it's that uncertainty right of i don't really know what i want to do next so i'll do nothing at all,

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you know i'm just going to stay where i am until i feel more ready

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or until i have more more certainty and the fact is that never happens

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it's it's a form of self-sabotage of your subconscious keeping you exactly where

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you are because this is your new safety zone this is your new comfort zone and

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so to get out of that plateau we have to stretch that comfort zone right so

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i like to think of it as like a bubble like your paradigm is your bubble that

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you are in and if If you're plateaued,

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this is your subconscious saying,

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I want to stay in this bubble. I don't want to move anywhere.

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And so what we have to do is just slowly stretch that.

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Because if you try and just break it, it just rebuilds and brings you right back in.

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You can't do that. You just have to stretch it until a new bubble has formed.

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And so the way that we do that is by, again, looking at the next step.

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What is one thing, one thing that you can do today to take you closer to your North Star?

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To take you close to you. It doesn't have to be a big thing.

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But one thing that you've been putting off, one thing that you know you want

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to do, that you're meant to do, because the thing that scares you the most is

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the thing that is meant for you the most, right?

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Fear is the same as excitement in our body. It knows no difference.

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It's only your breath. And so what you need to do is really really

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lean into that fear and use it

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as your fuel because that is the it's the roadblock it's the it's the wall between

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you and where you want to be and the only way you get to where you want to be

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is by jumping over that wall or smashing through it so just start to take away the bricks,

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start to take away the bricks one at a time. And that is by doing one thing

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at a time, one step at a time.

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Don't think about, you know, the gap between where I am now and where I want

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to be is like a million pounds.

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Think about, okay, maybe how can I, I don't know, make an extra 10k next month?

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How can I get in front of 10 more people next week?

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You know, wherever you're at, whatever you're doing what is

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a smaller goal that you can start

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to now move towards because it's

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the compound effect right it's the incremental steps

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from now to where you

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want to be that's how you get there and that's

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when you wake up suddenly and you're

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like I've quantum leaped my whole world has changed when

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the real facts of the matter is you've been working on this for the last five

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years it's just like you suddenly wake up and you're like everything has changed

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yeah it feels like everything has changed but actually you've been making those

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changes incrementally for the last however long since you started consciously

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being aware of it right so.

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Yeah to get out of that plateau just stretch

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the bubble just take away one brick

460
00:31:28,095 --> 00:31:31,895
at a time by looking at your next tangible

461
00:31:31,895 --> 00:31:34,735
real i don't like the word realistic but your next

462
00:31:34,735 --> 00:31:38,515
it's also about a word that we can use like achievable

463
00:31:38,515 --> 00:31:41,795
goal don't make it unachievable because sometimes

464
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your subconscious will just reject it because it just seems too far away so

465
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what is your next achievable goal that you can work towards and focus on that

466
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because then you'll have less cognitive dissonance you're less likely to self-sabotage

467
00:31:56,435 --> 00:31:58,855
it and you're less likely to kind kind of get in your own way.

468
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That actually also kind of answers my last question I wanted to ask,

469
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but it kind of goes along with it.

470
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I know a lot of people do understand that they need to take that step out of

471
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their comfort zone, but they don't know how to.

472
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Do you have any resources or tips

473
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on how we can get help in

474
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that process of getting over this

475
00:32:26,608 --> 00:32:29,808
this fear of stepping out of our comfort zone and

476
00:32:29,808 --> 00:32:33,648
also any last thoughts before we end yeah definitely

477
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um and actually perfect timing because i literally just this morning

478
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finished making it so i had

479
00:32:39,388 --> 00:32:42,568
now have a real low ticket offer is 33 pounds as

480
00:32:42,568 --> 00:32:45,648
an introductory price to learn how

481
00:32:45,648 --> 00:32:48,408
to to actually transmute your fear so learn the science

482
00:32:48,408 --> 00:32:51,128
behind it become aware of how it shows up and then

483
00:32:51,128 --> 00:32:54,208
there's some tangible actionable tools that you can start implementing

484
00:32:54,208 --> 00:32:57,688
into your life into your business right now to get

485
00:32:57,688 --> 00:33:00,448
it out of the way right to smash through that brick wall to

486
00:33:00,448 --> 00:33:03,308
start moving those bricks to start using it as

487
00:33:03,308 --> 00:33:05,988
your fuel to propel you into the future that you want

488
00:33:05,988 --> 00:33:09,128
so i can give you the link for that yes 33 pound

489
00:33:09,128 --> 00:33:11,948
it's valued at 250 and it's lifetime access you

490
00:33:11,948 --> 00:33:16,188
get it it for forever and it's it's one of those things that you don't know

491
00:33:16,188 --> 00:33:20,928
you need it until you until you do the work and then you're like oh my god so

492
00:33:20,928 --> 00:33:25,068
I would love to um yeah to share that with everyone and I think just a last

493
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message that I would love to share would just be to believe in yourself.

494
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To believe that your dreams were given to you for a reason because you are the

495
00:33:35,968 --> 00:33:41,428
only person person that is able to live them, that is able to materialize them,

496
00:33:41,508 --> 00:33:42,628
that is able to fulfill them.

497
00:33:42,688 --> 00:33:46,588
That is why they don't make sense to anyone else, because they're only meant for you.

498
00:33:47,048 --> 00:33:51,688
So don't take advice from anyone who is not living the life that you want,

499
00:33:51,828 --> 00:33:54,368
because they haven't been where you need to get to.

500
00:33:54,488 --> 00:33:58,388
They don't have the tools, they don't have the experience, they haven't been

501
00:33:58,388 --> 00:34:02,968
on that journey to offer you any kind of sound advice that is going to be helpful to you.

502
00:34:02,968 --> 00:34:06,628
So put your earplugs in to anyone that is not on that journey and already living

503
00:34:06,628 --> 00:34:12,048
that life and follow your dreams, follow your North Star and believe it is all

504
00:34:12,048 --> 00:34:15,748
possible because whatever you believe is what will be true to you.

505
00:34:16,408 --> 00:34:20,328
I love that statement. Whatever you believe will be true to you.

506
00:34:20,468 --> 00:34:25,488
And if you don't believe in yourself, how could you expect others to believe in you too?

507
00:34:25,668 --> 00:34:32,448
So that was really powerful for me. I personally needed to hear everything that you said today.

508
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So I am extremely grateful that you were able to meet.

509
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And of course, thank you to everyone who tuned into this week's episode of the

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success palette about finding our why as creatives for social links and additional bonus episodes.

511
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Go to the success palette dot com. Thank you and make it a successful week.