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I sat in the grass for, I don't know, probably like four or five hours, just sat there.
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Then I felt into my body.
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Then I just felt it.
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I felt it.
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I felt nature around me.
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I felt it was like the illusion of separateness dissolved.
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I opened my eyes.
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I had like tears coming down my eyes as I looked out in the mountains and such.
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And I was like, and that was the moment I knew that there's more depth to me.
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And I previously understood there's more depth to every human Humans have gotten lost is where we have forgotten our oneness.
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All right.
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Welcome to the New Age Human podcast.
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I'm your host, Jonathan Astacio.
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And today we're talking with TJ Beaudette, who has served as a U S marine infantry officer.
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Officer and now is helping others as a presence coach.
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Now, if you're interested in a mindfully packed episode where we talk about the concept of letting go, the illusion of separation, the importance of being present and dealing with uncertainty, stick around, you're going to get a lot from this.
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And lastly, I'm actually looking for some feedback.
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So I'm looking to hear back from you, whether it's something about what you like, what you dislike, or just simply saying, hi, I check all my emails.
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Now, with that said, let's get to the show.
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Alright, T.
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J.
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Baudet.
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Thanks for coming on the show.
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How's it going, man?
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Thank you, John.
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It's going great.
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Happy Sunday morning.
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Right.
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Yeah.
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A presence coach.
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I definitely want to get into that, but more importantly, I want to know like who was TJ before being a presence coach?
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TJ.
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Well, I spent eight years in the Marines.
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I was an infantry officer.
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I grew up in New York, so I was affected by 9 11.
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All I wanted to do was carry a gun, go beyond the front lines, and that's what I did.
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I went to college.
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I joined the Marine Corps the day I graduated.
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Became an infantry officer.
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Did that for eight years.
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Deployed three times.
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Once to Afghanistan.
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Once all over the Middle East, once to Japan, uh, awesome experience.
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Then after that I moved on to the corporate world.
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I was a medical device sales for four years and I started to go through this transition of really asking myself what I wanted to do.
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Really kind of diving into the emotions that felt like there was something missing.
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And that's what led me on this journey.
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just enhancing my own life and then it got to a point where I felt confident enough to share my experiences, to help others, uh, through their challenges as I continue to grow myself.
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Hmm.
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Well, first thanks for your service.
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Really appreciate it.
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And it's really cool to have someone with nine years of service and, traveling all over during that time period.
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Was it, it was after 9 11 and that was what inspired you, right?
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To be like, you know what?
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I want to be one of the guys that helps this country.
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Oh,
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was a firefighter that passed away in 9 11.
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So that was around the time that I knew that I was going to join the military.
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And then a couple of years after that, I met a Marine that was like, that was so badass.
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I want to be like that guy.
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And then, then that's how I chose the Marines.
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And then the rest is history history.
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so I, I'm actually curious what, what everybody remembers.
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What were you doing when 9 11 happened?
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Like, where were you?
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I was in seventh grade.
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It was my first week in a new school.
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And my, my school was seven through 12.
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So we were like seventh graders, but there was like high schoolers as well in the same building.
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So it was super intimidating as is.
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And on September 11th, they didn't really tell us what was going on beyond like this announcement, uh, that the world trade center had been attacked, but we didn't like know how severe it was.
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And, uh, so we were kind of oblivious to it, to be honest with you, even though we were only like, uh, 15 miles away from Southern Manhattan, we were oblivious to the depth of what was happening.
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At least I was until I got home until I saw it on the news.
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Uh, then I was like, Oh my gosh, like, like the towers aren't there anymore.
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Wow, and I, 15 miles away, that's, that's close.
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And yeah, at that age, right, it's going to take you some time to process it.
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And then, and say, Hey, you know what?
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I want to, I want to do something about this.
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So I applaud you with taking action and saying, let's, let's go.
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I was in art class.
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I was in.
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I think I was a junior at the time or a sophomore in high school.
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So like what, 10th grade?
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And they turned up the radio.
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We had, I don't know if we had a TV in there, but um, we were like, we, we didn't have that much more At that age of an understanding what was going on, I just was thinking this is crazy and then find out that a lot of people were getting picked up from school and I was just happy to get out of there because it was just chaos where you have people like just being emotional and not everybody had cell phones.
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So the communication was a lot different back then.
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There was not any texts that people were getting bombarded by.
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There wasn't that crazy social media to up the ante for anxiety and stress.
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And nowadays, and we're definitely going to get into that.
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If that happens, or it kind of did happen in a different way and put more potentially similar situations that can cause anxiety are just simmering with the algorithms, depending on where you are with social media.
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So you went and became, you went pretty much corporate sales with medical devices.
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And it sounds like after that you were like.
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Something needs to change.
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Was there like a catalyst like, something specific that happened that made you think, you know what, I need to change something, because that's, what you're doing now is completely different from what you were doing before.
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What made you make that decision?
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And I'm excited to talk about the algorithms to and the simmering.
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I feel that, uh, but yeah, it was the fall of Afghanistan was all over the news and I was, you know, what was once my life's purpose was kind of crumbling and everyone was telling me like by everyone.
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I mean the generals and the politicians I saw on TV.
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They were telling me like you should be proud of your service.
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The withdrawals to success.
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And at the time I was very frustrated.
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I was like someone.
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Can someone tell the truth?
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But what I have come to realize is that like everyone's entitled to their own truth.
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They could very well believe that it was a success, that we should be proud of our service.
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Like I get, I get that too.
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So it took a year of like hitting this rock bottom and then going out to nature by myself and running, I started running ultra marathons.
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I went back to therapy.
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Then I experienced psychedelics and I started to really understand that.
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I was feeling better.
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So I was like, okay, so changing my own life is my own willingness to look right at my own fear and go into it anyway and open to the unknown.
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And then once I got more confident in that, I got more confident in myself and my ability to stay grounded in the unknown, especially in this world.
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It's so unknown these days with what's happening and there's voices coming at us from every direction.
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every direction and it's all driven by to get our attention because that is what's valuable.
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So anyway, once I became more grounded in my ability, confident, my ability to stay grounded, then I just start sharing my perspectives and that's led to coaching and reflecting with others in ways that can be helpful.
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makes perfect sense too.
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The power of nature, the power of self care and going within for answers and really tackling your, I guess your shadow side.
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And then for some right, psychedelics, you throw that in there.
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That kind of boosts some experience of some wild experiences.
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We've had a couple of people on the show to share their wild experiences.
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But yeah, let's, let's get into what's going on.
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Like this was pretty much the ramp up to let's start talking about like.
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What's going on in today's world.
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There's a lot of stress, anxiety between the economy.
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Like you said, a lot of voices and opinions everywhere, right?
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Should I eat the egg whites and then the yellow or just the yellow, not the egg whites.
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Like there's, there's, there's, there's opinions for health.
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There's opinions for finances.
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So, maybe we can start with.
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What are you seeing more with your clients that is bringing the most stress?
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Yeah,
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Fear around the uncertainty and a lot of it is derived from what they're seeing through their phones through technology.
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yeah
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degrees of uncertainty.
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What uh, so definitely uncertainty and Man, I think one of the biggest things that i'm seeing right now currently it's 2024 It's just turning into spring and Yeah Crypto is starting to be a hot topic.
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And now you also have, so crypto AI and the economy, I think those are like the three big ones.
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It, what, what are your thoughts?
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Which one do you want to tackle first or talk about first?
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Cause I want to talk about maybe what your thoughts are on one of each.
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And we can talk about how to deal with the uncertainty in those categories.
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totally.
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I think first and foremost, like my first disclaimer to myself every day is I am skeptical of everything that comes through my phone.
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Like I don't know what's true or what's not.
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And that's everything from what I see on Fox or CNN.
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When I glance at those coming through social media, There's like, I get like a lot of texts each day that's like spam and trying to get me to go vote for this person or that person.
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Like, there's just so much noise coming into my phone.
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Uh, and I take it all with a grain of salt, so to speak.
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And a huge part of all of this is just getting confident putting the phone down and going to be outside and experiencing my reality that's in front of me and being, like, being open, uh, To the challenges and the beauty that's in front of me without being too wrapped up in what's presented to me through my phone.
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Hmm.
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Hmm.
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And then another thing is also from what I've seen and just, it also helps to be a content creator of some sort because you get to see what the mind, what's going on in the mind behind the camera and how you prioritize content you put out as a creator and the battles that you fight because.
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There is this constant chatter that I've had with people where don't talk about this, talk about this, this is gonna go viral, this is not, right?
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And at that point, you're just a, I guess a slave to the algorithm, which, why would you create content to begin with, unless it's just purely to make the money?
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And then, I'm sure there's a lot of people out there, especially as, you know, the finances get tighter and inflation gets higher and then the pressure gets higher and then like you said the noise the chatter yeah you're going to or so i can see i can understand how some people will prioritize the financial gain over the message and the mission right what are your thoughts on that
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Whoo, I think, I believe that artificial intelligence can free humanity.
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mm
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And I also believe that it can entrap humanity, and I believe that's an individual decision.
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That's up to the individual, and I don't know how it plays out step by step, but How it relates to finances and crypto and money like, yeah, there's a lot of uncertainty in how this next season of humanity plays out.
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I do believe that the people that who are going to become free and leverage AI in a way that frees humanity understand the value of their own energy.
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Understand that their own energy is more valuable than the vehicles that humans have typically used to transfer value.
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Whether that be money, hard currency that was once backed by the gold standard, Now, it's as easy as clicking my phone and like putting it up next to the payment thing.
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So, yeah, that's still federally regulated money or cryptocurrency.
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That's another vehicle.
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I don't know how it plays out, but I do believe that if we take care of ourselves, and we balance ourselves and we're able to put the phones down, we're able to express authentically into it intentionally, and then intentionally close the laptop and go live.
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Like I do believe that those people will lead into the future, receive the abundance and become more and more free of the noise in the world.
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i agree and One of the main things that I focus on, and I think you're speaking similar to that, where I see it as that survival mentality versus thrive mentality.
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The.
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Animal, or I guess the reptilian brain of quick thinking, bias thinking, it's easy to control somebody and influence someone when they're in survival mode because you got very little time to make a decision, very little facts to work on, and you're just skimming the top of the surface of all data.
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And, What I see what you and myself and people that are helping people go within and quiet and slow down.
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I love nature that does that very well to your point.
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Yeah, you take care of yourself.
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Everything else.
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And so many words is going to be taken care of.
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And I see it as getting out of that.
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Survival mentality and then moving into that more expansive thinking where you're like, you know what?
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I'm not going to make a decision right now just because I heard this.
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I'm not going to make a decision right now.
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I'll get back to you in 72 hours, right?
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Because there's less you're going to sort through more opportunities.
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Your mind's going to be less scarce and it's decision making.
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What are your thoughts on that?
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So I'm with it.
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And I think the most challenging thing for me as I've come through this journey of healing, of self growth, call it what you will, is one.
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I realized that it's, it didn't just start a year ago or two years ago.
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Then it's like it's a lifelong thing and to how often I have been in fight or flight unknowingly when I may have been in situations where I was keeping totally calm, where I was trained to keep totally calm.
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Uh, yet my body was in a perpetual state of fight or flight from the moment I woke up to the moment I went to sleep for a long time.
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You know what?
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That reminds me or I'm actually very curious.
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You're training in the military.
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How has that helped you with managing your stress levels?
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I believe that if we are strong enough to come through the experience, we are strong enough to feel the emotions that we may have bypassed when we are experiencing it.
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And the Marine Corps is pretty badass.
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It's a badass organization, right?
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Like guys go into it and like, we do hard things and yeah.
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So it's, it makes me more confident in my ability to handle the emotions that are under there and my, my willingness to go run an ultra marathon or go do a very long cold plunge.
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It's, it's the same mindset as I honed or developed in the military of like, at all costs, you will get through the obstacle.
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Now I just see the obstacle.
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I'm just learning to flow around it, but it's the same mindset.
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I'm also thinking like these, I want to get into these tools, right?
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These methods, uh, practices that you go through to challenge the mind.
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But before we get into that, I want to highlight.
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What can go wrong?
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What are some dumb mistakes we can do if we're not in the right mindset and really drive that home?
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I, uh, I have a story that my grandmother told me about, and maybe this can spark some memories of something similar for you.
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She told me that one day.
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She was getting ready to, I think, go to work or go out.
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And so of course you go, she, she keeps her clothes and shoes and stuff in the closet.
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So she goes to the closet and she's looking for her shoes and she can't find them.
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She also knows that she noticed that there's milk.
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There's a gallon of milk on the floor next to her shoes.
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And she's like, what is this?
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So she picked it up and went to the kitchen and open up the fridge to put it away.
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And guess what?
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In the fridge were her shoes that she was looking for.
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And how many times do you go to put like the salt in the fridge, you know, like just the weird stuff because you're just not present.
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You're just an autopilot.
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And for me, I'm like, that's an extreme one.
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Like.
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A gallon of milk is, is not a small or light thing.
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So you have to be really gone, not present at all to put that in your clauses.
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So, you have any examples of something like that?
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And I'm, I'm thinking about stuff for myself too.
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I'd love to hear yours too.
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I think what comes to mind right now is like, I've had some, some experiences on mushrooms where I have, I definitely, I was like, most of the time when I do it, I'm alone.
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I try to set, uh, the intention.
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And yeah, it's just like I have had some bad trips, some bad mushroom journeys.
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I say bad, challenging.
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They have been very challenging.
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They're not bad because there's still lessons and strength that comes from experiencing it.
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But as I, as I was going through some of those, I'm like, what?
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Like you're, you're pushing it too hard, TJ.
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Like you're pushing too far right now.
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Slow down.
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Hmm.
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So in, in that, are you saying that.
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I guess using the same terminology being in let's say like that fight or flight or that scarcity mentality going into mushrooms, right?
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I'm thinking philocybin.
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Is that
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So it's happened.