NAH 9: CRAZY DREAMS AND BREAKING REALITY

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I was like, I've had this dream.

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And it wasn't just a deja.

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I specifically remembered everything that happened, so it all came to pass and I wasn't reminded of it until I was put in that until time caught up to the movie in my dream

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all right.

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Welcome to the New Age Human Podcast, where we have deep conversations about life, question the norm, all with the intent to thrive in the new age when we have flying cars and all that fun stuff.

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Um, so today I have a very special guest.

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I've known her my entire life, and, um, It, it, the joke is it, it's my mom and, um, right here.

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So her full name is Elizabeth Weaver.

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But could you, um, well, here, let's, let's, let's roll it back.

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The reason why I have her on is I remember if anybody has listened to that episode where I said my red pill story, those were red pill stories.

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They weren't my red pill story.

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And it has to do with my mother sharing me her crazy story.

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Um, It seems unbelievable, but it happened and it's nuts.

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So I wanted her to share that.

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But before we get into that, uh, Mother um, could you, could you give people, uh, an idea of like your background, kind of what you're doing now and, and whatnot.

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Just kind of get an idea who, you know outside of Mom, you know, what did you do during the day?

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Cuz um, I think people would be,

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right now I'm currently, um, personal training.

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I own my own personal training business and, um, I've been training for roughly about 25 years now.

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I started working within a gym when the boys were young, and then eventually when the, I guess the, the, the way these programs were run within the gyms changed.

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I, I went out on my own and it's been a blessing, so it's a good thing.

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It's all good things.

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I get to help a lot of.

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Um, so what the red pill story is, is way back when you had a dream and you told me about this dream, and it was a crazy dream.

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So the floor is yours.

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What happens in that?

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Um, I, I guess I should set up the scene first, which was I was going through a really tough time.

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I wanna say I'm like a.

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Preteen going, getting ready.

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I'm in high school, which is a really rough age, right?

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We're all finding ourselves, blah, blah, you wanna be accepted.

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Um, shortly before then, she changed religions.

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and I was enrolled in a Catholic high school, and I was enrolled in that Catholic high school for several years.

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I had a lot of friends, so I was being pushed into a very crazy situation that I had no idea what to expect.

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It was very scary.

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I was gonna leave all of my friends.

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I, I didn't know what to think.

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She was pulling me out of this Catholic school into a public school in the middle of Manhattan, a vocational school.

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I had to get on a train by myself.

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um, at the age of like 15 and going to the city and figure it out.

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It was like a 10 floor school.

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So I was very anxious is what I'm trying to set up.

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And I was getting ready to start my day, my first day there, and I was pretty stressed about it.

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And I went to sleep and I had begun really heavily going into prayer before I went to bed.

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I, I was always exposed to prayer.

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You know, you have to say your prayers and my.

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Sit there with me and say my prayers.

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Um, and then when you get to your teenagers, you think, you know, observ over this.

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But I kind of kept in there whenever I was challenged and this was a challenge.

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So I really prayed and I said, I wanna remember my dream.

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I need my, He, I need help and I want, you can't tell me.

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I understand.

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I'm shown in pictures.

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I need a.

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Give me a picture or if you can gimme a mini movie, that'd be really cool.

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Think of this coming from like a 14 year old kid, 15 year old kid.

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So I go to sleep, and I would say this a couple times, uh, before I went to bed.

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I did this a couple days and then I, I guess I forgot about it.

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And that night I went to sleep.

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I woke up the next morning and I was completely destroyed.

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I knew everybody who was in my school very well and I hadn't gone to my new, new school yet.

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And I had this dream about, I was in a, my homeroom and I was very familiar with the people around me.

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I had a male teacher, and at the time currently I had known no male teachers.

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I only had nuns for teachers, but in this dream, it was a male teacher.

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There was a blackboard, there were kids around me that I was very familiar with.

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We were laughing and you know, they had those double desks that you had in school.

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We didn't have those in this Catholic high school, so all of it was foreign to me.

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It was a very.

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Clear scene.

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The front of the room was the teacher.

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I knew the teacher's name.

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I looked to the right.

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I had an Asian friend.

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There was an Asian girl there.

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Beautiful girl.

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We spoke very close.

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Apparently in this dream I turn around.

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Haha.

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Our other two friends, I, I had another girl behind me.

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Um.

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A black girl and then next to her was, um, actually, was she Spanish?

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Yes.

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So we had actually but I just remembered their faces very clearly.

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And in the dream we were all really, really close buddies.

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I wake up and there's none of these people in my life.

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I don't have this teacher.

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I don't even know what the, the room, it, it's a very weird room.

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I'm blown away by it.

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I don't underst.

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And I tell my mother and she's like, Gee, that's really weird.

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Get ready for school.

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So I go on my merry way.

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I start my new school.

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It was really, really scary.

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About six months into it, um, I'm starting to get into the swing of sings and I'm laughing and I'm giggling with my friend.

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I turn to her and boom, there it is.

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My friend was an Asian girl.

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And I looked at her and I realized, Ah.

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And I turn and I look up at the front of the classroom and there's my homeroom teacher, and he was a male.

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I say, Oh my gosh.

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And she goes, What's it matter?

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I said, I've had this dream.

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I've had this dream.

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I turn around and my other true friends, a black girl and a Spanish girl, were like, What's the matter, Liz?

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What are you, what are you saying?

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And I was like, I've had this dream.

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And it wasn't just a deja.

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I specifically remembered everything that happened, so it all came to pass and I wasn't reminded of it until I was put in that until time caught up to the movie in my dream,

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That's

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forgot it.

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And I told them and it stayed with me forever.

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It was very bizarre.

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But I asked and I was.

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So the cool part is that you.

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You had the dream and it was almost like your future self was like, Here, right here.

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This

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here.

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Stop asking us.

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Yeah.

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asking.

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But then, uh, and then, and it happened.

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And um, the vividness that you describe it is very freaky because that is very specific to the people and to your left and your right and yeah, I've had dreams where I'm sleeping and I'm not sure if anybody else has had this happen where, you know, you, you're in your dream and you remember.

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Like your dream is, like, you have memories within the dream, which is weird and everybody's familiar with you, but once you're, when you wake up, you're like, Who was I talking to?

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Which is very interesting.

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It's almost like, uh, you had a different life, but, um, a thought, a question came up in my mind when you were, when you're describing it, um, have you kept in touch with anybody?

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Um, No, not of that.

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Not at that specific table.

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No.

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It was a, a very transitional point.

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And your homeroom was kind of where?

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You started out and then you branched out into your other classrooms.

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The way this particular, it was, um, a vocational school.

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It was actually high school of fashion in Manhattan.

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And so the girl next to me might have gone into photography.

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The girl behind me could have had a completely different major.

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So you kind of really can't connect beyond that 20 minute homeroom experience that you're gonna have.

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It's very bizarre.

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Um, they bring these people into your life.

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They go away.

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Oh, that's interesting.

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It's almost like, um, you were giving, because that wasn't ev an everyday thing and I have,

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P a picture.

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Yeah.

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Do you think.

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I know we, we've, we have conversations about dreams all the time.

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And I used to bug you in the morning, in the past.

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guess what?

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I had this dream.

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You're like, Okay, alright.

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What's, what's this loaded dream?

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Um, but as I'm reflecting and I'm thinking, you know how we've had those conversations where the dreams are usually short and quick, but they can't give you everything, whoever they are, right?

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Yes.

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I always used to say I wanted to, I didn't mean to interrupt.

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I always wanted to say, Listen, why am I getting, because I, I was so affected actually early on, I was still having it.

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It.

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It shadowed me, you know, ever since I was a kid.

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So I started going to the library and getting books and, um, one of the, one of the books had said, What if what you're experiencing now is your dream and when you go to sleep, that's actually reality and.

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hurts.

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I, I was just messed up for weeks.

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I just was, I think I actually had to put the book down for a second.

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I was like, Okay, we need to go and digest that.

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Come back and, and experience that again.

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But yeah, you, you just, it's, it can be so vivid that it really does make you question, you know, And then it kind of, the book went on to say that we're here to learn and that this is school and.

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That particular author's version was that when we go to sleep, we're going home and we're going home and we're saying, All right, boy, today was a tough one, man, and, and our helpers, our angels, or you know, whoever they may be or wherever home is, is there to comfort us and support us and.

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Yeah, it was tough, but you know, this is why, and remember when this happened and maybe you need to kind of go back a bit and focus on X, Y, or Z.

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Um, but the book also said that I always wondered, why can't you just give me a letter that tells me exactly what it is I'm supposed to know?

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I'm Dear Liz.

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And then I could read it in my dream and wake up and I'd have all my answers.

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Why are you giving me these clue?

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and they said The reason really is that, um, many more words are expressed in a picture.

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So you can tell a story just with a picture, but with words, we're kind of bound by these.

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It's kind of like we're crawling when we have wings.

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We have the ability to have those wings to communi.

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But we don't know.

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So we crawl and we use our words, which are like crawling on our hands and knees, you know, And we have the ability to, you know, to imagine or to, to form a picture to get our story across.

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And I think that's where art comes in, right?

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And a lot of, uh, movie ideas, right?

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Yes.

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Yeah.

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Inspiration, I guess, right?

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Do you think?

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Have you, um, I think you said, all right, rewind, Was that the, uh, only I call'em, I think they're called precognitive dreams, where you dreamt something of, of something that's gonna happen in the future and it happens.

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Did you have any other instance of that happening after that?

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Or is it that just one.

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That one was the one that really stuck with me.

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There were always some, um, weird things.

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Um, Always, I'd know what song was gonna come on the radio and then I'd go, maybe they just play that one a lot and I just assume that lineup and I know the lineup.

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Um, someone was gonna call and I know the person was gonna call things that way, like that.

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Um, someone, and then it became, then I started reading into actually taking control of that.

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Right.

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Cuz they said you could.

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So I read into that and, um, playing around with it and positive thinking, you know, and visualizing stuff.

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So I've tried the whole, tried to find a, a car space, you know, visualize it.

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You're gonna have that car space, it's gonna come up, you know, it's right around there.

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It goes, boom.

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And there it is.

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Um, so I've messed around with that a little.

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Um, I feel like that's kind of like a muscle, but I've also had a lot of situations where I've had, there was actually yes.

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I, when I was in my twenties, I went out with a group of girls and one of the girls that one night, and she was the, the girl that, that, she was the party girl.

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She was the one that, Come on, let's all go out.

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And we were like, I'm tired.

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No, no, no.

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We gotta go out.

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So this one night we all had the plans to go out, we're really geared up.

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And I get a phone call from, she goes, Liz, I just don't feel right.

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And I was like, What's the.

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do you not feel well?

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She goes, No, I feel fine.

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I just, I feel weird.

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I said, What do you mean fine, but weird?

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You're not making any sense to me.

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And she goes, I don't know how to explain it.

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I'm stressed.

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I feel anxious.

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I feel like, I feel like I said, Tell me what's wrong.

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She goes, I feel like something's gonna happen.

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So I was like, Well that's a really weird thing to say to me.

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Why would you say that?

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So now teenage girls and, and just girls suck.

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You know, we just So I'm like, she probably can't go out and she's probably trying to discourage us other ladies from going out, so, ha ha.

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Right.

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So I called up my other friend and I was like, Well, you know, you know, our other friend doesn't wanna go out, You know, she's feeling like something's gonna happen.

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I don't know.

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How do you feel?

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And she's like, I, I, I'm fine for going out.

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How do you feel?

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I said, I'm fine.

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She's like, Fine, you know, then we'll go.

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I was like, Okay.

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And she was like, Are you sure you girls wanna go out?

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And I was like, Yeah, you know, we're fine.

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So off we go.

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Get old deeded up and we, we head out and we have a great time and we're coming home.

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And I'm not quite sure of the exit to take and she is not feeling exactly sober.

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So she's watching me drive and I'm telling her, Is this the exit?

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And she goes, No.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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So I jerked the the car wheel, and now we're doing this.

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You know, the car starts doing this weave, and I'm starting to flip out because I know that's a very difficult thing to pull out of.

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This particular exit, I think is off of two 80, the Cross Bronx, to get onto 87.

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And if anyone knows this, it kind of splits and when it splits, it goes to one highway and then the other direction, when it splits, it goes up onto a ramp that's about 50 feet off of the ground.

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It's up in the air and leads to another overhead highway.

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We're heading toward the split to make the decision, and she yanks the wheel of the car as I'm getting control.

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So now I've got, I, now I'm really losing control.

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I can't get control.

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I'm going this way, I'm going that way, I'm going this way, and I realize we are going to crash there.

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There was no way I can get out.

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So I brace, get my hands up on the top and I tell her, Hold on, here we go.

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And literally the car went up and teetered and flipped and slid on the roof of the car that night.

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And we are very lucky to be alive.

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Uh, the car slid for about a couple of feet and another car, um, two guys in another car came.

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And, you know, they came running over to us and oh my God, that was crazy with something out of a movie, you know?

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But, um, we did survive.

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We went to, uh, the emergency and she had a cut on her hand.

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Obviously it could have been a hell of a lot worse.

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And we did survive.

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And of course we had to hear our friend the next day go, I knew something terrible was gonna happen, you know?

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So, um, we're very blessed and we, we did survive that.

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But yeah, that was another time.

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We did not listen to that uneasy feeling, and we just were like,

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That's, I remember you, I remember you mentioning that story and it's, it's an insane story of how you can just have a bad feeling and if you're in a situation and you tend to have bad feelings about things or you, or prone to anxiety, it can get mixed up in that.

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And I can see people just pushing it off and that's why it's so important to do those exercises.

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Calm yourself down, so, Right, like, I know you're, you're pretty good at that.

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It's like calming yourself down and, um, having a long day and all that.

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my emotions.

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Yeah, I've tried very hard to better myself in that way, just to have a better quality of life and just for what we're here for, right?

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You can't live at the mercy of your emotions.

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It's.

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thing to do, But um, you know, you gotta kind of be like a guard.

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I feel.

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wrong with you?

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Why are you getting upset?

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What's happening?

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Yeah.

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now, um, speaking of that, may, maybe we can go into that.

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Is now people are hearing, well, if I have a gut feeling, I want to know if it's gonna be for something bad or not.

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And maybe some people are in that position where they are dealing with anxiety or, um, a victim to their emotions.

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Is there anything that you can share that you do as an exercise or maybe just exercising physically or, um, mental things, Meditation.

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Like what do you do?

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Cause I know you've been doing a lot of stuff.

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Um, I'm sure someone can benefit.

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I saw the benefit of how much exercise can help someone, both physically and mentally.

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When I became a trainer, I was, I was blessed to be working with a couple of people that actually really did need my help, being the age I was when I started, I really didn't realize how much of an impact I would have on their lives until it happened.

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Um, and that's a blessing, you know, um, when you're dealing with stress.

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I, I'd say to summit, the best thing I can say is I have people that come to me and a lot of times they have a.

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And when they train us, they say, You have to look for the pain.

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Well, when I was young, I was like, Well, what the heck?

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What?

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What do you mean?

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And they'd say, You have to find the real reason behind why they're coming to you.

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And I never really understood it because I, I guess I was doing it naturally and I realize it.

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I would basically sit down with someone and they.

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Go into, you know, well, I'm, I'm, I'm really, you know, I really need to get in shape.

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Really.

00:20:14.952 --> 00:20:17.292
Okay, well what have you done up until this point?

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Well, I've tried this, this, that, and the other thing.

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And I said, Okay, what were your challenges?

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It just doesn't work.

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Well, what did you try?

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I tried diet.

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I tried exercise, you know, I tried, um, you know, watching what I eat, I tried doing my cardio.

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I tried while you training, you know it, none of it works.

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And I said, But did you try them all at the same time?

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In other words, give it a balanced lifetime.

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Don't go out and, and, and try to do, you know, all your weight training and all of your this and, and you know, you have to have a little bit of everything.

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So you, in, with regard to fitness anyway, you have to have a little bit of cardio, a little bit of knowledge of what you're eating and watch that, and also knowledge of your, your exercise base and where you're going.

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But what I started to see happening was as I began to push these individuals, they'd come to me and I'd have to clear their.

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because I can't have someone who's stressed holding a 50 pound dumbbell.

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So I began to realize that I could get them out of their head as I spoke to them, and I'd get them to calm down.

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But what I was asking them to do was so intense that they were not thinking about the rent or that meeting that they had to go.

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Two, they're thinking about saving themselves from this 50 pound dumbbell that's gonna drop on top of them if they don't push the damn thing and listen to me So it becomes an hour of peace away from the constant mind joer you, you've come back to a place where nothing else matters, but you telling your body what you'd like from it and working through the pain and working through, I don't wanna do this or working.

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That one really was hard.

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That was only six.

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You know where you're not thinking about who pissed you off an hour ago.

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You're thinking about, I gotta get you eight of these, You know?

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And so it seems so simple, but it's so important because then you do get through your eight and you forget about everything else, and you're.

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I got through my eight and now you don't feel like a jerk cuz you made someone feel better or you didn't do your job the right way, or you made a mistake at work.

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You feel like a rockstar because you got through your eight.

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You know?

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And it doesn't matter to anyone but you because it's not gonna affect anyone else as much as it'll affect you, you know?

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So it's a good thing.

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you're, you're more focused on like, let's say, for example, what you're saying to summarize it, if I get it, if I'm getting this correct.

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If you're trying to do something difficult or, or just working out is good, or I think you, you're using, working out as an example where you're trying to deal with something hard and maybe having a conversation or doing something at the same time will make it easier.

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If it's a personal trainer, they can kind of keep your mind off of it, which ironically, training people would only think that it's all about just making sure they get the reps done.

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But you're like, No, I have to manage this person's mind so they can get through it.

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And so one of the things you do is, is yet their mind off of, off of that,

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Right.

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If they get off the train or they park their car, And very oftentimes they're on a meeting in the car or they're just getting off of a meeting at work and now they get in the car and now they gotta come to the gym.

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And now they're coming in the gym.

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And the gym is really proud.

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And the lady at the front desk, your car isn't reading and now they're like pissed off at the lady at the front desk and now they get inside and now they can't find a locker, you know?

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You know.

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And now they come to me and I'm like, Okay, we're gonna do balance exercises.

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They're gonna kill themselves, because balance is not just muscle coordination.

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It's about a state of mind, which is, I guess what a lot of people don't realize too, right?

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So I have to get people to understand, or I have to get that person without realizing it out of their head.

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And with me, just me.

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And the only way I can do that is to take the time to talk to them so I can get them away from it.

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They have to get it

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I was, I was actually remembering something.

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Remember when you were saying how you would absorb people's pain,

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Yes.

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That was another weird thing.

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Yeah, you just reminded me of that.

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It still happens.

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Oh, that's crazy.

00:24:33.502 --> 00:24:35.423
Well, let's, let's explain.

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What is that?

00:24:36.143 --> 00:24:37.343
Can you explain that to, uh,

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I've tried to look

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for the first.

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it.

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I've, I've tried to look into it because it, it happened so much.

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It's really started weirding me out and what would happen, and it happened really early on.

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Um, I'd have a person come to me and say, you know, I'm having this pain, you know, Um, my thought whenever I trained in, when I first learned training was, I'm gonna start training you, but if there's an injury or something, I have to learn about it and I have to figure out how to get you either around it or fix your pain to a level where we can continue to go forward.

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Cuz it's just gonna get worse.

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You're building on a bad foundation, it's just a training thing, so, I would often ask them, you know, do you have any pain?

00:25:20.742 --> 00:25:29.712
And people really enjoy talking about themselves, um, it's just natural.

00:25:29.712 --> 00:25:30.373
Yeah, right.

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So I would ask them their pain and they're very, you know, Yeah, sure.

00:25:34.333 --> 00:25:35.053
You know, Oh yeah.

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You know, I have this pain in my shoulder, you know, if it's a chronic pain.

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Um, if the person is very distracted, I've actually said, Do you have anything bothering you this week?

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You know, ankles, knees, it's like a customary thing.

00:25:47.353 --> 00:25:47.863
I do.

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Shoulders, ankles, knees, elbows, No, you know, And then I start treating'em and I see them limping and what's the matter?

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Well, you know, about a year ago I broke my ankle and I'm like, and they're like, I totally forgot, you know, so um, I would always ask.

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and sometimes they would remember, but it would also bring me to focus on whatever pain it was.

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So if it was a shoulder pain, I'd start looking into the shoulder.

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I'd ask them.

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I'd put them through certain stretches and tests to see.

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We'd go through certain movements and I'd learn how to get them through their workout without reinjuring or causing further injury.

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I'd go home and start to feel that pain that.

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And so at first I was like, Okay, this has gotta be like a sympathetic thing.

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I just feel so bad.

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I feel you, I feel your pain.

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You know, maybe it's a sympathetic thing.

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And then it happened again with a knee and then it happened again with an ankle and then it just kept happening.

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And then I said, Well, I gotta look into this.

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And it actually turns out that from what I'm reading, um, it's an energy thing.

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When I am working with the person, I guess to a degree, I'm absorbing some of that energy and because I am so sympathetic to their pain, um, I'm experiencing it because I'm trying so hard to understand.

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So it's more to the left.

00:27:15.282 --> 00:27:17.022
So it's only when you lift your arm.

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I'm really getting in there and asking a lot of questions, and I'm envisioning it, and the visualization and the detail of this, and I would inevitably feel the pain.

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Then it became, and so then I was like, Okay, something's wrong.

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And then of course, because we're human and stupid, we ignore these things and I go on about my life, and then it became why is my knee bothering?

00:27:42.718 --> 00:27:44.667
Gosh, I, what did I do in my training?

00:27:44.667 --> 00:27:45.657
Did I do something wrong?

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And then I go to work and then about three o'clock I'd get my client and she's like, You know, my right knee's been killing me.

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I was like, You're the one.

00:27:53.607 --> 00:27:54.688
And they'd look at me like, What?

00:27:54.688 --> 00:27:56.698
And I'd say, Where does it hurt my right knee?

00:27:56.702 --> 00:27:57.448
Under the kneecap?

00:27:57.718 --> 00:27:57.928
Yes.

00:27:57.958 --> 00:27:59.518
When did it start bothering you?

00:28:00.117 --> 00:28:02.998
Just, you know, like two days ago, what happened?

00:28:03.147 --> 00:28:03.387
You know?

00:28:03.387 --> 00:28:09.613
And they'd look at me incredulous, but, and then I would very jokingly say, I felt your pain.

00:28:09.613 --> 00:28:14.833
I don't know what it is, but I tend to get that, that pain whenever a client, um, has it.

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NAH 9: CRAZY DREAMS AND BREAKING REALITY

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