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If that woman makes more than you, as a man, you're nothing.
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You submit some time.
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As a man, you're nothing In reality, if a man makes $60,000 and that lady makes $75,000, does that make him less of a man?
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Absolutely not.
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In general, we have become weaker and so by becoming weaker, a lot of men have been put out of position.
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She went to the pastor pastor looking at her ass.
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Honey, you know what I'm saying.
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But here's the part where we talked about from the jump, you got to be the head of the house.
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Your wife shouldn't be going to pastor first.
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What's up, my good people?
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This your boy, cj Moneyway.
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Welcome to the Moneyway Show.
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I got a couple of my partners here today.
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Got my boy Rick, got my young man Jalen in here and we're going to talk about emotions period, saying that's going on both sides, men and women.
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So, rick J, which way y'all want to start this off, man, you know what I'm saying.
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I started off what's up?
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What's up Today, man 2024, I was just telling the guys this is just as emotional as the women and in these relationships today, that's why you got a power struggle.
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The chick want to be out front just as much as the man want to be out front and then to flip the coin, get tough.
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He give it back to the chick and it's always supposed to be the man supposed to be in front.
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You're supposed to be.
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That's your place, what you think about that, john.
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But these days you got women that want to be the alpha.
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If you want to be the alpha, how can that man be the alpha?
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You know what I'm saying.
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Also, y'all go always collide, for sure, for sure, because you got to look at it.
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These chicks today, man, for real, they like kids, they want to know where that line at.
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A new chick.
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She going to see where that line at when she grow up.
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Hey, look, I tell them, like this man, you better go muffle, untangle and slinky.
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You want to impress me?
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Untangle, slinky man, do something safe.
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You know what I'm saying.
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I'm not letting you you might could peek over that line, but we got a line here, true, you know what I'm saying.
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But, man, with these chicks and you know I'm shouting out to the chicks you got more entrepreneurs today.
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You got chicks working hard, but you still got a place and your place ain't in front of me as a man.
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We gotta lead, supposed to.
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We supposed to lead, but that woman gotta you gotta trust your man to lead that way.
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Now, just cause I'm leading in certain things as I'm walking this path, you gonna see before I do.
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That's where the partnership's supposed to come in.
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Well, I guess my take on that is and this is to a woman's defense me personally, I ain't leading you nowhere.
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Why am I following you?
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I can lead you anywhere.
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I'm just saying, though, but if you ain't got no good direction, if your life ain't going the way that you think that your life should be going, why should I follow you?
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Just because, no, I'm just saying Should I follow you and you ain't taking me nowhere?
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No, no, no, no, no.
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He got to have some direction, you got to have some direction.
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That woman should know her man has a direction.
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If that woman know her man has a direction.
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Again, it's certain things that you can have nine things out of it, but you might not see that tenth one as you're going through that field.
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You'll see it.
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See, I believe women, they observe a lot more than we do.
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Exactly, you see what I'm talking about.
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They'll just say a woman is in the house, and then you know a woman's duties.
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A woman that does what she does?
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Yeah, you know what I'm saying.
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Yeah, a woman that does what she does.
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That's what they do, and so there's a lot of things that they do that we have no idea, no clue of what they actually do.
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So my thing is so, being observed, and I'm seeing the direction that you going in, or that you going in.
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So it's standing out there in the streets all the time, drinking all the time, smoking all the time, ain't got no ambitions in life or whatever.
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But yet still, as a man, I'm not seeing the discord that I'm having with her, because a lot of times miscommunication gets lost.
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But at the same time, in my mind, I'm still thinking that I'm leading somebody somewhere.
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She's going to do all the heavy lifting if she got that mentality of low self-esteem.
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But as y'all said earlier you said this earlier that these aren't the same type of women, no more.
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You know what I'm saying.
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This is a different type of breed that we're dealing with right now.
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You want to know why?
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Social media that's a big part of it.
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Social media is telling women yes, everybody, love a woman who's independent, get their own money, blah, blah.
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But as much as we don't want to hear a woman need a man and a man need a woman.
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Well, that's how, traditionally, we can't say, like he said, can't say this.
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That's how it's supposed to be, but it's not like that, no more.
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You know what I'm saying.
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It's not because a woman feels as if she can do, and a woman can do whatever she can do, but when it comes to being a family, a woman can be a daddy.
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No, you can't be a daddy.
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But they think they can, though.
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Hold on, hold on.
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Jalen Can't do what we do.
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And this is not to say that not equal is less than being.
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Not equal is not less than they think that, like we said about the duties, they think, when you give them that title, that that's making her less than who she say she is.
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Oh, you want me to cook and clean.
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Yeah, I want you to cook and clean, because I just went out here and did this meal and did this 12, which you not about to do.
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I'm up in the middle of the night knocking this 12 out, which you not about to do.
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You know, like I tell my wife you come pick me up from a 16 in the rainstorm, we catch a flash getting out there?
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I ain't either.
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I'm calling AAA.
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I'm calling AAA them guys over there for the kids.
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Oh see.
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But see, as we've said, times have changed because where you work at and where we work at, we work with women, and so you got a lot of them working the same shifts that we're working now.
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They're out there doing the heavy lifting, just like we are, you know.
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So what do you tell that woman?
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She, the toughest woman in the court, what we call them, the court, the one we call the man at work, the woman of steel, that's good.
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But also being a woman of steel and if you have a man of steel, I'm saying a working steel man, whatever industry you still got to know your role.
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Regardless, your role is needed and I'm honest, because you go to the mill.
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You just did a 16.
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If you came here, your son didn't eat, your wife didn't cook you none, the clothes weren't washed, you would be like man.
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Now I got to do this.
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We got problems.
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That's a problem.
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As a team, everybody got a role, everybody got a role.
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I need to speak with Madison.
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I agree with everything that he's saying, but we're living in a different time right now, but the roles are supposed to be the same.
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They're supposed to be the same, but that's what society being suckered into it's saying.
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The times have changed, but the roles shouldn't.
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It shouldn't the roles, man.
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You ain't putting me in no skirt, man.
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Nah, I'm a cook, I'm a clean man.
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You know what I'm saying.
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I mean, this is how I cook.
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I do it.
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I even put the clothes in the washer and I hold them.
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It don't matter.
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Again, it's a team thing.
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If you put the clothes in the washer, I'll go downstairs and go get them.
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I'm knocking my own clothes.
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I mean me personally like I wash my own clothes.
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I wash and fold my own.
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Like I say she do hers.
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We got Jeremiah doing his by himself now, because that's responsibility.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, back in the day, mama used to wash everybody's clothes, my mama and grandma.
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She was washing everybody's clothes.
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But see, now today's woman is looking at that.
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Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
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That's why I'm saying things have changed.
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And how can you look when granddaddy and pops took care of mama?
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Because they're not worried about it.
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They ain't seeing that aspect, because a lot of them, if you talk to some women about some of these things, a lot of them are saying the way that they see mommy and daddy come up.
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They don't want to do that.
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Like it was degraded, like I said, mama getting degraded, nah, like, nah, I don't want to submit to no man to that type of capacity or whatever.
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So I don't want to, I'm not fit to do all that stuff that my mama was doing and the way that my daddy you know what I'm saying the way she treated my daddy.
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I don't want to be like that.
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Yeah, yeah, and so that's so.
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Let me ask this, and this is my perception like we got a big miscommunication with this word submit.
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Look today's woman thing.
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Submit means like we're in a wrestling match, like you tapping the floor, like you giving up to me.
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In my experience, man, submit.
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I might be wrong, but to me the word submit in the bible means to respect.
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You know what I'm saying.
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You respecting your man as the head of the household.
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They in class together.
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So you figure, man, if a woman don't respect you as the head of the household, well, honor and respect is, you know, they in class together.
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So you figure, man, if a woman don't respect you as the head of the household, ain't no way in hell she gonna follow.
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She should not follow.
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And that's the point, that's what I'm trying to say is, if I'm not giving you nothing to honor, to respect, then why are they gonna follow you?
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You see what I'm saying.
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Like, why are they going to follow you?
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You see what I'm saying.
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Like I got to be able to put something out there or I have to be walking in a direction.
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What she looking back, like I said they observe.
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She looking back like you know what?
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Okay, I see where this is going.
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You know what I'm saying.
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I like that direction, but because, as a man, as we're talking about, as men, we ought the head, not the tail, above and not beneath, but men, men, us I'm not saying you two or me, but in general, we have become weaker and so, by becoming weaker, a lot of men have been put out of position and we have allowed a lot of stuff.
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That's going on right now.
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What we're talking about, with how these women think, with their mindset, we have allowed them to come in and take off.
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It's over money, it's all because of money, money, Materialistic it is.
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Social media has made a platform to where, if that woman makes more than you as a man, you're nothing.
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You submit some time.
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As a man, you're nothing.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, in reality, if a man makes $60,000 and that lady makes $75,000, does that make him less of a man?
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Absolutely not.
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Like my wife, in general and we've talked about this a lot my wife made more money than me for a very long time.
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So it's not about making more money.
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Making more money, it's the mindset that they have.
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Are they going to hover that over?
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You, like I'm the one bringing home the bacon, you know, and fry it up in a pan.
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I tell you what to do, and so a lot of men have sidestepped because they feel you step aside and so now you're letting the woman run the household and you, because if you don't set no boundaries and say you know what, I don't care if you make more money, I'm still ahead.
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Look, look, look, take it off.
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That, take a strong time.
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You know you got to have a stomach for that.
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Like you said, you make a 60, she make a 75, 80.
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You got it.
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Just say easy, honey, you got to have a stomach to be able to control her.
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But it's not about control, not control her as a person.
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I'm talking about the situation.
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Yeah, yeah, because, like you say, I'm still a man.
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You ain't telling me when to come in.
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You ain't telling me when to eat.
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You ain't telling me who to hang with.
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Hey, jay, this is my thing.
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None of that.
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I do the stick.
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I ain't getting stoned, she do the taking.
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So that's what we gonna distinguish this through I'm the one humping, you the one taking the humps.
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You see that I'm the man, you the woman.
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But also, it's a difference when, if you made okay, if a dude made 60, let's say his wife made 100.
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120.
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120, right Now, say you're getting a meal.
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Now you make 140.
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Now, most 90% of men who, if you make 60 and you're trying to strive to get to that 140 or whatever that man be like man, you know what?
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Now I can do this for my old lady.
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I can do this.
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That was me.
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You're right, that was me.
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But if the man was making $100 and the woman was making $60 and then the roles changed and she made that $140 and he's still making $100, that woman would tell you hey, you need to do this, not even that.
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Hey, yeah, no, I know where you're going.
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I'm not saying how.
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Oh, you know what.
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He's been holding it down.
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I can treat him.
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Don't get me wrong, I know there's women out there that will do that.
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You see what I mean.
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The majority of the women will be like, hey, I'm making $140.
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You need to match it or come above.
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But that man who make that $60, he already dialoguing in his mind every day.
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Once he get that, man, I'm making $140.
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I, it's mine every day.
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Once you get that, you know what I'm saying.
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Man, I'm making $140,000.
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True, true.
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And then, jay you, I can take this off while I can do this.
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Look, jay man, you story man, because I swear that's what I went through.
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I was at the boat making $27,000.
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Man, I made months in the meal, Probably even more.
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And my mentality was what you just said.
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Man, when I do this, when I get in this, I'm going to do this for the old lady.
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We're going to bust this move.
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We're going to move it like this.
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But, like you said, I reversed that role.
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Will she think the same way?
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But now it's still you the head, because if she don't get that buck 40 and go get old boy that's making that buck 40 and 60, she just showed you that before and you just really didn't pay attention to it.
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But at the same time, same thing.
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You know what I'm saying.
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You can make it bad, dj, and some do Some do, some do Some do, some do.
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So now I've been struggling.
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Now I'm getting my money right Now I can go out and go do some of the things I want to do, but again that determined that man, yeah, want to do.
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But again that determined that man, yeah, everything is determined with the mindset of the man and the woman.
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You see, because I used to have the one out there that got that bag.
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So what they had now they had Pepe's, they had Pepe, she looking at me and everybody going to Pepe because they know that's what a change up to.
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But everybody not like Rick and that's like it's a hot spot, it's been a little change up to whatever, but everybody not like Rick and that's like, when I get this bag, I'm going to get the house in order.
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I'm going to get the house in order, my wife going to be straight for all the times that we did struggle.
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You see what I mean Everybody not like C, but also as that you want to take care of the house, but also you got, you got to know, as a man, the times that you was down Mm-hmm.
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So do I want to go get me a ride?
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If a man tell you he don't like a car or some type of toy, a bike or whatever, something's wrong with that man.
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Yeah.
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So if you make it 60, yeah, you want to make sure you get all that in order.
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But you also want to go get that whip.
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And if you want to put some shoes on there, I'm going to go back to the old hood and hit that corner.
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I'm going to put some.
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Hey, this is something my old man told me a long time ago.