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"Unlock Your Inner Strength: Martin Salama's Worrier to Warrior Blueprint"

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Transform your outlook on life by tuning in to our conversation with Martin Salama on the CJ Moneyway Show. Renowned for his transformative "Warrior LIFE Code" and the insightful book "Worrier to Warrior," Martin reveals his journey from anger and reactivity to a life filled with gratitude and purpose. Learn how simple practices like starting your day with positivity and jotting down three things you're grateful for can drastically reduce complaints and cultivate happiness. We even discuss how these strategies can be vital in CJ's upcoming anger management program, showcasing the interconnectedness of personal development methods.

Discover the revolutionary Guaranteed Seven Figure Warrior Program that flips the traditional risk paradigm by placing the onus on the coach rather than the client. Martin breaks down how belief in the program, the coach, and oneself is pivotal for success. You'll also hear personal stories, including Martin's loyalty to the New York Knicks, which adds a layer of camaraderie and shared experiences. This segment underscores the importance of mindset in achieving entrepreneurial goals, making it a must-listen for anyone seeking to elevate their professional journey.

Finally, we delve into personal growth, accountability, and the essence of emotional strength. Reflecting on themes like resilience after financial loss and the significance of seeking help, we highlight how asking for assistance is a sign of strength. Martin shares his moving narrative of becoming a divorce recovery coach and finding fulfillment through helping others. We wrap up the episode by discussing future collaborations and the vibrant, supportive community fostered through shared passions and mutual respect. Don't miss this treasure trove of inspiration and practical advice for both personal and professional growth.

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Unlocking Potential, One Dream at a Time on The CJ Moneyway Show

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Unlocking potential, one dream at a time.

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On the CJ Moneyway Show.

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Sit back and relax, you're listening to the Moneyway.

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Show.

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He says, okay, I'll make you a deal, we'll take whatever we can.

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We come up with a number.

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He says, but I'm not giving you certification until you pay it off.

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I said fair, fair deal, you know.

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So I started and went there and about two months before it was time for the school to start, Welcome my good people.

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Welcome to the CJ Moneyway Show and I'm with your host, CJ.

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Moneyway, let's get it.

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What's up?

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My good people, this your boy, cj Moneyway.

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Today I have on the show Martin Salama, the author of Warrior to Warrior and also the architect of Warrior LIFE Code.

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Warrior LIFE code Live incredibly full every day.

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Marty Salama, how you doing, man?

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CJ, I'm doing well, so glad to be here with you, man.

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I'm glad you're on man, excited to have you on.

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So, like what's on your mind, you know recently that you would like to share with the listeners today.

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Oh, wow, that's a great way to put it.

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Well, what's always on my mind every morning I wake up is how am I going to greet this day?

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Because in the old days I used to get up and say, oh my God, I got to get up, I got to do work, I got to do this, I have to do that.

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And now I wake up every morning and say how lucky am I.

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I get to do these things.

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Yeah, and I start off my day with appreciation and I write down three things I'm grateful for.

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Wow, every single day, and even at night very often, I write three things I'm grateful for and and this way I'm ready for the day.

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And then then I say life live incredibly full every day.

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Uh-huh.

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Because if I got that mindset going in, things will go right off the bat.

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Yeah, you know what I like that I might implement.

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I'm thinking about implementing that in my life now, you know, wake up every day and write three things down that you're appreciative of, that you're grateful for to see another day.

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And I don't just write it down on a piece of paper.

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I go out and I have a good notebook like this, like a nice moleskin type of notebook.

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This is the one somebody just gave me, but it's the same type of quality.

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Mine is next to my bed and I write down in there because if I put it into a quality notebook it means something to me.

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It's not me just scribbling some words down on a piece of paper.

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It's a little value.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's something that, like you say, I think I'm going to implement that, because I know that by the end of the week and the end of the month, that you got so many things that you're thankful for and that you're grateful for just to be here, that you can thankful for and that you're you know, you're grateful for just to be here, that you can go back and and check marks and things like okay, I'm grateful for this today or or that.

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so, uh, that's right, I think you know what it does, cj, it helps you to eliminate the complaining and we know that's a lot.

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that's a lot going on today, unhappiness, as you was talking about.

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Before we get into that, the program I'm working on, a program of anger management, a seven-course program of anger management, and so later on, whenever we get another chance, I would like to pick your brain on how these programs and things work like that.

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And so, on that note, can you tell us about this program, this seven-figure program that you're working on?

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But before I get there, right before I get there, that's where I was.

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I was an angry person.

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I was a people pleaser.

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I needed to make sure that everybody was happy.

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I needed to make sure that I took everything personally.

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I was a control freak and when all those things weren't happening, then I would get angry to the point I would react to everything like a nuclear reactor and I'd leave fallout old.

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So I get you when it comes to anger management.

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I get it.

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So, man, I'd love to to help.

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You could pick my brain all you want on that.

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Okay, thank you for asking me about my new program.

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It's called the guaranteed seven figure warrior program, of course, because everything I do is about being a warrior.

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So people say to me well, what do you mean guaranteed?

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Well, what happened is there's.

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I've been a coach for about 12 years now.

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Okay, and many times I've gotten into these programs.

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I'm going to say, okay, we'll help you create a lot, make an impact, make a lot of money, blah, blah, blah.

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And they say it's done with you, done for you.

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But you know what I found out, cj, they were really done to you programs.

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You know, at the end of the day they just wanted my money, yeah, and the more money they got up front, the better it was, because after that they're like okay, go figure it out on your own.

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Like, what are you talking about?

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So I put together a program and I use something called a risk reversal strategy, meaning I've reversed the risk and put it on me instead of you, my client.

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Wow, the risk, and put it on me instead of you, my client.

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Wow.

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Because I say give me 12 and a half percent upfront of the cost of the program, and then you don't pay me again until you start making money.

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And when you do, it's two to one.

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So you're giving me another twelve and a half percent because you've made enough that it's twice as much as what you paid me.

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And then the next time you pay me is when it's five to one, and then the last one comes when it's 10 to one.

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Wow, that is a risk reward type thing.

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Okay, so you're doing it basically like, like I'm successful when you're successful.

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And yeah, yeah, and, and I like that, that aspect that you know, like you say, because I've been in some of them programs that you're talking about too and I just heard a guy say that when you're in these type of things, you are the product.

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You know what I'm saying.

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You're the product and they're just selling you off to different people because they really don't care about you.

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And so, like what you're saying, which is very interesting, is that you're not in it to get over on people or anything else.

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You're in it so that people can actually prosper, which is you know which is cool.

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You know what, the people that come into my program I'm very selective who comes in, because I want to make sure that they believe in themselves as much as I believe in them.

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Right, because there's three things that make somebody successful in anything, especially these kind of programs.

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One, you got to believe in the program that you're getting into.

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Two, you got to believe in the guy that's delivering the program that's me in this case, right.

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And number three, you got to believe in yourself that you can get there.

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And that's where my whole warrior to warrior comes in.

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Because, besides all the nuts and bolts that I'm going to teach you that I coach my clients on, they also get my mindset course to go through and come back and we go coach it and we learn it.

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And you know my book book, my warrior to warrior book and my course.

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Because all those things help, you say I know I can do this and when you, when you, when you're not sure, come back to me, we'll work it through, because that's how it gets going oh, okay, so with your warrior warrior to warrior book, what does that mean?

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like that, right, no, no, I mean actually, no, no, actually it's kind of fitting, you know, because when I was going over it, when I was reading it, it's pretty fitting because you go from worrying about certain things in life, you know which you know we do at times.

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You worry about bills being paid, worry about your condo being paid, we worried about gas prices and things like that.

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And so how I take it as you know what I'm saying in my analogy, how I take it, is that I go from worrying to be a warrior.

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You know, with these things that I was worrying about.

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Now I'm worrying over those things where they're not an issue, like you said earlier.

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Well, I'm not complaining about this or that, you know, because I'm worrying over these things.

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Exactly, right, exactly.

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I don't mean stupid Crazy name like you're worrying.

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My Brooklyn accent totally speaks to it, brooklyn's in the house.

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How about them?

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Nets, man.

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So I take it that okay.

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Let me ask you this then Are you New York Knicks or Brooklyn Nets?

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I've always been a New York Knicks.

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I got to stay true to my boys.

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Okay.

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I've been a Clyde Frazier fan since I'm 10 years old.

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Oh yeah, Can't change that.

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Can't change that.

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I'm a New York Knick.

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I bleed orange and blue.

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Oh Well, I'm a Laker fan.

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As you can see, I've been Lakers since 1980, so 44 years of my life I've been a true Laker fan.

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I like the Yankees though.

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The first basketball game I ever went to was a Knicks-Lakers game.

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Oh yeah, and it was Clyde against Jerry West.

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Oh, I know that was a good one, dude.

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That was a good one, clyde and Earl the Pearl.

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I remember Earl the Pearl.

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I remember Earl the Pearl.

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I'm an old man, man, I'm an old man.

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And the Knicks won.

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Yeah, hey, I do like the.

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Yankees.

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I like the Yankees.

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I'm a Yankee fan.

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Yeah, they're my second.

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I'm part of the evil empire.

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Hey, I've been a Yankee fan since 96.

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Oh well, it's a good time to get on board.

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Yeah, with Gene and them.

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And you had Mariano.

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Mariano Bernie Williams, paul O'Neal, tito Martinez.

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Yeah, so, yeah.

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So I like New York.

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You know, I like some parts of New York and everything.

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So like what?

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So you say you're from Brooklyn.

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So what are some of the skills that propelled you in your younger life?

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You know that got you to the point where you are now, as far as wanting to be a consultant, as far as helping others.

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So I grew up.

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I was very lucky.

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My parents, you know, we were never.

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We never really struggled, thank god.

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So my father had a business and every whenever I had off from school, my mom would send me to work with my dad.

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Go to the factory he was.

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He manufactured tablecloths back then uh, so I was always around entrepreneurs and entrepreneurship and all that and I think I realized it took me into my 50s to realize why my mother always shipped me off.

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I finally got diagnosed in my 50s that I was ADHD.

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Like, get out of my head, go with your father, go to work.

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I don't want you hanging around the house driving me crazy.

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I have four older sisters.

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The crazy younger brother they don't want around when I go to work with my dad and it's not like I sat in the office and did filing.

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He's like okay, you're gonna be here, you're gonna work in the factory.

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Okay, today you're gonna clean the toilets.

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Tomorrow you're gonna empty the truck.

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The day after or the next day you're gonna make boxes to fill them up with the tablecloths.

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Every day something else, because he said you can't ask anybody in this place to do something that you're not willing to do yourself.

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Okay.

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If I'm going to tell somebody to clean the toilets, I better be ready to clean the toilets myself.

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Because if they look at me and say, who the hell are you, even if you're the boss's son, I say me, I'll show you, here's the cleaning, here's the brush, let's go do it.

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OK, so that entrepreneur, I was thrown into the fire.

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But you know, I guess, as you said, as you said and by you going like that, that it was something that was instilled in you and although you know, a lot of times when we're younger we don't think that we're getting certain things, but as you get older, those values that you had as a younger age begin developing, you know so.

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Question about it.

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I'd watch my father every single day.

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He'd walk through the factory and say good morning to every employee on every place.

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There was two floors, three floors actually the third floor was mostly just storage, but the first and second floor he'd walk through and he'd say good morning.

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And every day he would stop by somebody else and say hey, mary, how are you, how's your husband, how's things going?

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The next day it might be Michael, how you doing, michael, what's going on?

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How's your boys?

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How's this?

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Every day.

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Everybody.

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How's your boys?

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How's this every day?

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Everybody there loved him because he cared about them.

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Okay, and you know and as we know it being in, you know working for people or you know just working for yourself or whatever that that that's key.

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You know, because I I've always said this when I, you know, work for folks, or when I supervise or manage that the frontline people are actually the people that make you look good, and so if they're not happy, then things ain't going to go the way that you want it to go.

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So you always want to be pleasant, you know, even to people that you may not, may not be too fond of, you know, but it's still, you know.

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It's like you still have to present yourself in that manner, you know.

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So's like you still have to present yourself in that manner, you know.

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So that was a good lesson to be taught.

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Take the higher road, take the high road.

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Yeah.

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So I don't want to get too far, I want to come back to this.

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So explain to me, explain to us a little bit about the method of warrior to warrior.

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Yeah.

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So, as I told you, I was a people pleaser for most of my life and I didn't know that I was a people pleaser and, taking things personally, I just thought that's who I am.

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I like to make everybody happy.

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But then, you know, it all started to come out.

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I've been an entrepreneur most of my life, business man.

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I had my own businesses doing different things, the ups and downs of that, and in the early 2000s I was in a business that we closed and my wife said you know, you got to find something else to do, even though you have some other income coming in, residual income.

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She goes and I've been playing tennis lately and I can't find any way to play.

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By then I was living down by the Jersey Shore in New Jersey.

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So she says why don't we look to open up a tennis center and I'll put some more tennis courts.

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Now I got to tell you, cj, I am not an athlete.

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You could actually call me an athletic supporter.

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But not an athlete though.

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I get lunch with the best.

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But you know the people believe in me is like, yeah, okay, let's look into this.

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So we do some research and we find out, we do a feasibility study Is it feasible to do it?

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And the guy says, yes, you could put seven or eight tennis courts around here easy.

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But if you think that's going to be a moneymaker for you, it's not going to make the money you kind of want.

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If you think that's going to be a moneymaker for you, it's not going to make the money you kind of want.

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You got to add things Put in a health club with membership, put in a spa, put in a basketball court, all these other things.

00:15:14.570 --> 00:15:21.495
Oh, okay, before I knew it, I went from just a couple of tennis courts to a $15 million project.

00:15:21.676 --> 00:15:22.096
Wow.

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Over 100,000 square feet and it took us five years to get through this process.

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You know, find the land, then go.

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You know, get an architect and an engineer and then go to the city and the city says, oh, you got to do civil engineering.

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How's it going to affect the traffic?

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How do you have enough parking, all this other stuff, like, okay, we keep going and we're raising money, borrowing money, getting getting investors and the bank.

00:15:49.741 --> 00:15:53.969
This whole time is like, yeah, man, don't worry, when you're ready, we love it, it's a great project.

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Now it was 2006 or 2007 when we finally got the city approval.

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Walking into the bank was like walking into Costco at lunchtime and going to the ends of the aisles and eating from the old ladies giving you the samples.

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Okay.

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They were giving money away.

00:16:14.466 --> 00:16:15.089
Oh, wow.

00:16:15.860 --> 00:16:17.787
In 2006, 2007,.

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Loans were nothing.

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They were giving them away like nothing.

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Unfortunately for me, it was the summer of 2008 when I got all the approvals.

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Oh, so I go to the approvals oh.

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So I go to the bank and I'm like, okay, I'm ready.

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They're like, yeah, we're not lending right now.

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I'm like what are you talking about?

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You told me come back when you're ready.

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Well, things have changed.

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A month later, bernie Madoff, subprime loans.

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The financial world falls apart and I'm broke overnight.

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Overnight, I'm broke and I've lost three and a half million dollars of my money, my family's money, loans, investors and everything.

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Just like that.

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I was broke down to nothing.

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I stopped paying my mortgage, I stopped paying my car payments.

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A couple of months later, my son says dad, look outside, they were towing away my BMWmw.

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That never happened to me before and it was, uh, it was a wake-up call, to say at least hey, hey, before I let you go with that one.

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I know that feeling, so tell me the feeling that it was when you sat there and looked out the window and watched them put the car on the tow truck, because I did it before.

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You know I've watched, I sat out the window, I heard the truck and I look outside.

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I say, oh man, they coming for my car and it's like your stomach just drops.

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You know what I'm saying.

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You run outside.

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What are you doing?

00:17:46.989 --> 00:17:50.965
Well, can I get the stuff out of the car?

00:17:50.965 --> 00:17:51.708
Nope.

00:17:52.250 --> 00:17:56.311
Man, now I can't even have the stuff out of the car.

00:17:56.311 --> 00:18:01.887
Now, I didn't have a BMW, I had a Monte Carlo.

00:18:01.887 --> 00:18:13.525
Now I can just imagine watching your BMW All of a sudden.

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These feet are made for walking.

00:18:15.349 --> 00:18:20.163
So yeah, so I know that was an experience, man.

00:18:20.163 --> 00:18:22.147
So through the triumph, you know.

00:18:22.147 --> 00:18:30.943
So you say that you know you lost $3.5 million of your own money, loans, borrowing things, uh, from family members.

00:18:30.943 --> 00:18:33.307
So the triumph.

00:18:33.307 --> 00:18:36.253
So you know saying how did you rebuild?

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You know the confidence that you had to rebuild, because I, I can just imagine how downtrodden one may be.

00:18:43.113 --> 00:18:46.589
You know to go through through a depression like that.

00:18:46.589 --> 00:18:50.749
You know whatever, so like, so what was the process of the trial?

00:18:50.749 --> 00:18:53.824
You know saying getting back to, like where you are now.

00:18:54.144 --> 00:18:55.448
I wish I could say CJ.

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I just woke up and everything was roses and tulips yeah no, that didn't happen.

00:19:02.824 --> 00:19:09.588
I went through a year of depression and you know the house was under foreclosure.

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Luckily, I lived in New Jersey, where maybe 50% of the houses went under foreclosure back then in 2008.

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That's how bad it was.

00:19:18.615 --> 00:19:19.855
Yeah, I remember.

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Everybody's loan to value went through the roof when I saw Topsy Turvy and it took them years until they finally processed the foreclosure.

00:19:29.646 --> 00:19:34.708
Oh, okay, okay that's a good thing yeah, that's great thing so here we are.

00:19:35.390 --> 00:19:39.765
So, but I'm depressed and my family's like you need to go to therapy, you need to get my.

00:19:39.765 --> 00:19:42.777
The doctor tells me you need to be on depression meds.

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I started getting.

00:19:43.460 --> 00:19:47.038
So therapy, coaching meds, all that, and it's about therapy, coaching meds, all that.

00:19:47.038 --> 00:19:53.105
And it's about a year later that I'm starting to get out of this depression, which was situational because of what was going on.

00:19:53.105 --> 00:19:57.483
It was all about the situation and I said, okay, now what I want to do.

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Right, nobody wants to hire a 48 year old guy.

00:20:01.269 --> 00:20:11.148
Yeah, you know, however old I was at the time 45, 48, almost 50 years old they just don't, especially when the economy was in the toilet.

00:20:11.189 --> 00:20:13.433
Yeah, the way that it was, yeah eight was bad.

00:20:14.319 --> 00:20:21.590
Yeah, and the people in my community were like I'm not hiring this guy, he'll learn my business, go to his family, get money and become my competitor.

00:20:21.590 --> 00:20:24.410
I'm like, no man, it don't work that way anymore.

00:20:24.410 --> 00:20:26.702
They didn't care.

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But so I said, okay, I got to think of something else to do.

00:20:29.520 --> 00:20:30.303
Now.

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My whole life I've always been involved in community organizations, okay, and I was always a leader.

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And the leader is the guy that people come in and say Martin, I can't do what you're doing.

00:20:40.882 --> 00:20:43.968
I'm like hey, cj, I don't want you to do what I'm doing.

00:20:43.968 --> 00:20:53.712
I want you to do what's good for you, what you could help us with, and I would encourage them and I would show them what their potential was and say whatever you can give us, we'll take.

00:20:53.712 --> 00:21:01.506
And I realized that I was a coach, without even realizing that's what I was doing, and I've been coached before.

00:21:01.506 --> 00:21:03.640
So I was like this is interesting.

00:21:03.640 --> 00:21:11.330
So I started researching becoming a life coach and that's what I decided to do okay and you know I walked into the school there.

00:21:11.551 --> 00:21:11.992
What happened?

00:21:11.992 --> 00:21:12.981
To be located near me.

00:21:12.981 --> 00:21:16.169
I said look, I gotta tell you your program costs this much.

00:21:16.169 --> 00:21:24.403
I don't got it and I know you can tell me I can go get funding, but nobody's gonna give me any funding because my, my credit score is in the crapper.

00:21:24.403 --> 00:21:26.830
Uh, my house is foreclosed.

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I was close to bankruptcy.

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I could get without going bankrupt.

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I said but if we make a deal now, I'll pay you whatever number we come up with every month.

00:21:35.568 --> 00:21:39.183
And he says okay, I'll make you a deal, we'll take whatever we can.

00:21:39.183 --> 00:21:39.988
We come up with a number.

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He says but I'm not giving you certification until you pay it off.

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I said off.

00:21:45.405 --> 00:21:48.632
So fair, fair deal, you know.

00:21:48.632 --> 00:22:00.726
So I started, I went there and about two months before it was time for the school to start, it was my 24th wedding anniversary and my wife says to me I'm done, I want a divorce.

00:22:00.726 --> 00:22:02.667
Wow, I'm like.

00:22:02.667 --> 00:22:07.874
Looking back now you know there are 364 other days of the year.

00:22:07.874 --> 00:22:08.816
She could have told me this.

00:22:08.836 --> 00:22:09.415
Yeah, yeah.

00:22:10.259 --> 00:22:12.268
But you know the romantic that she was.

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She picked.

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You know.

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Luckily I can look back now, cj, and laugh.

00:22:20.198 --> 00:22:22.205
Yeah, it was funny then.

00:22:22.205 --> 00:22:27.131
Yeah, I guarantee it was funny, then I understand.

00:22:27.319 --> 00:22:36.068
But you know, what was going through my head was every emotion you could imagine fear, anger, loneliness, back to depression, even a little bit.

00:22:36.068 --> 00:22:41.409
And one of the things that went through my head was why does everything keep happening to me?

00:22:41.409 --> 00:22:44.289
And here's where I realize now what I was saying.

00:22:44.289 --> 00:22:50.432
When you say something like why has everything happened to me, You're looking to blame everybody else for what's going on in your world.

00:22:50.432 --> 00:22:58.394
Now I say everything happens through me, the good and the bad, and I take responsibility for it.

00:22:58.394 --> 00:23:03.111
And that came through now, going through all this stuff and going through coaching.

00:23:03.111 --> 00:23:07.131
And that first weekend of coaching they said you don't have to be who you think you have to be.

00:23:07.131 --> 00:23:09.125
You could be whoever you want.

00:23:09.125 --> 00:23:13.720
And it was about first working on myself before I can work on others.

00:23:13.720 --> 00:23:20.748
And I think God was sending me a message when my wife came and told me I'm getting divorced, Like, oh, you want to be a coach?

00:23:20.940 --> 00:23:25.257
Well, first figure yourself out yeah, you know that could be true.

00:23:25.257 --> 00:23:25.557
Figure yourself out yeah, you know that could be true.

00:23:25.557 --> 00:23:41.167
But, like you say though, sometimes I know that's hard, especially when you're going through things and you know you love someone and you've been through the fire and you've been through the trials and tribulations.

00:23:41.420 --> 00:23:43.027
And you think you can get through anything together.

00:23:43.119 --> 00:23:43.946
Yeah, you know.

00:23:43.946 --> 00:23:50.369
And then when that time comes where it's just like you know what, I don't want to be with you, no more, I don't love you more.

00:23:50.369 --> 00:23:56.169
When everything is down, like you say, when everything is down, it's like oh, you know what I'm saying.

00:23:56.169 --> 00:23:59.109
Like here go another obstacle.

00:23:59.109 --> 00:24:12.017
You know I took my copy and repossessed House in foreclosure and you know all these other things, but this one kind of stings a little bit more than all those other things that I have been through.

00:24:12.641 --> 00:24:13.744
No question about it.

00:24:13.744 --> 00:24:14.507
No question about it.

00:24:14.507 --> 00:24:20.102
It really hurt and, as much as I probably can say, I knew it was coming until it really happened.

00:24:20.102 --> 00:24:21.167
You don't really believe it.

00:24:21.188 --> 00:24:21.348
Yeah.

00:24:21.940 --> 00:24:30.835
But that's why, when I went to coaching and I started to understand who I was, I started to understand why you felt like, ok, it was time.

00:24:30.835 --> 00:24:40.884
Yeah, because, as a guy who had a short temper, I would be lecture her and I would lecture whoever was around me until they saw my side point of view and they said, ok, you're right.

00:24:40.884 --> 00:24:42.267
But you know what?

00:24:42.267 --> 00:24:47.748
It's not about being right, because you'll fight till the end, you'll lose.

00:24:47.748 --> 00:24:51.065
So you're right, big deal, take that and go to the bank.

00:24:51.065 --> 00:24:52.008
What's it going to do for you?

00:24:53.342 --> 00:24:58.626
So they'll just tell you you're right, so you can shut up, so they can just go on about their business.

00:24:59.107 --> 00:25:09.133
Right, here's the problem Most of my conversations turned into confrontations and I needed to change that back to being conversations.

00:25:09.354 --> 00:25:16.144
Okay, you know, I'm kind of like what I'm working on too.

00:25:16.144 --> 00:25:22.288
One of my things is, too, which I feel is, though a lot of men, because that's my focus base.

00:25:22.288 --> 00:25:33.203
I want to in my next podcast, I want to focus totally on me, and which I wanted to start this one on, but it, you know, turned into something else which I'm really enjoying.

00:25:33.203 --> 00:25:41.564
But my next one is going to be focused on me, and one thing that I think a lot of times that we lack is accountability.

00:25:42.365 --> 00:25:44.307
Oh my God, so true.

00:25:44.307 --> 00:25:45.788
So so true.

00:25:45.788 --> 00:25:46.750
You know why?

00:25:46.750 --> 00:25:49.954
Because we think we know it all.

00:25:49.954 --> 00:25:54.607
We think that it's all up to us and if we don't do it right, it's on us.

00:25:54.607 --> 00:25:56.752
And you know what Partially it is.

00:25:56.752 --> 00:25:59.945
But it's also okay to reach out and ask for help.

00:25:59.945 --> 00:26:03.902
We grew up, cj, in a time where asking for help was a weakness.

00:26:03.902 --> 00:26:07.959
It's not a weakness, it's really a strength.

00:26:07.959 --> 00:26:15.673
When you show your vulnerability to somebody, they're willing to help you because you're willing to ask for the help.

00:26:15.794 --> 00:26:53.589
Yeah, too, is that when I see you ready, that you have the will to do something, I will be there for you to help you and keep you accountable for what you're doing, because I believe in you, and that's, you know, sometimes in life, that's all we need is somebody to believe in us, Because a lot of times and I know that you, you know being in the profession, that you're in that a lot of times, and I know that you, you know being in the profession, that you're in that a lot of times people can see things in you that I can't see in myself.

00:26:54.230 --> 00:27:08.987
You're 100% right and that's why I love this new program I'm developing, because I'm using the nuts and bolts, but I'm also using the mindset and the accountability and saying I'm not going to give up on you if you don't give up on you.

00:27:08.987 --> 00:27:11.055
And even when you do give up on you.

00:27:11.055 --> 00:27:13.060
Get ready for me to hound you.

00:27:13.730 --> 00:27:17.135
It's not about getting the money, it's about getting you where you want to be, and if you get where you want to be, even better because then I get the money.

00:27:17.135 --> 00:27:18.038
But that's not about getting the money.

00:27:18.038 --> 00:27:18.999
It's about getting you where you want to be.

00:27:18.999 --> 00:27:21.303
And if you get where you want to be, even better because then I get the money.

00:27:21.303 --> 00:27:22.786
But that's not why I'm doing it.

00:27:22.986 --> 00:27:31.025
Yeah, you know, like I heard you say that when you went to the school and you went to them about the program and everything.

00:27:31.025 --> 00:27:46.198
Now it gives me a broader perspective of how, when you say that you take the risk, you reversed it and you take the risk and you know the way that you break down the payment 12 and a half here.

00:27:46.198 --> 00:28:00.516
12 and a half there is because somebody, when you were in a position, somebody was willing to help you when you didn't have it, and so now it's like paying it forward.

00:28:00.516 --> 00:28:01.498
You know Paying it forward.

00:28:01.679 --> 00:28:03.202
Exactly right, paying it forward.

00:28:03.430 --> 00:28:05.257
Yeah, and I think that's pretty cool.

00:28:05.257 --> 00:28:09.730
You know because that shows me that you're a man that you don't forget where you come from.

00:28:09.730 --> 00:28:32.798
You know you're taking on your trials and tribulations head on and although you know you might have a mask you wrote books and you do this that you don't look at people as their lord and you are you know there was a saying a long time ago in the honeymooners Jackie Gleason bing, bing, bing.

00:28:33.392 --> 00:28:41.778
Ed Norton told him be kind to the people on the way up because you're going to see them on the way down, because you're going to see them on the way down.

00:28:41.838 --> 00:28:42.540
Yeah, that's life.

00:28:44.109 --> 00:28:44.874
But you know what.

00:28:44.874 --> 00:28:47.236
It's so true, it's a joke what he's saying.

00:28:47.236 --> 00:28:53.445
If you don't take, people are like are you going to remember me when you're at the top I go?

00:28:53.445 --> 00:29:07.263
I'm never going to forget you, good or bad, because if you gave me something bad where I was a failure and I don't like it anymore, I learned something from you, right, and most of the time, 99% of the people out there I've already forgiven.

00:29:07.263 --> 00:29:21.853
Whether they've asked me for forgiveness or not, and whether I've said it to their face or not, I've forgiven them inside myself, because it's a burden on me when I don't forgive them and that's holding me back for myself.

00:29:21.853 --> 00:29:25.335
You know so a hundred percent.

00:29:25.335 --> 00:29:35.180
You got to remember where you started and where you are now, where you're going and where you may end up back, because it all going to come.

00:29:35.180 --> 00:29:37.161
Life is is roller coasters.

00:29:37.161 --> 00:29:39.403
It's how big of the roller coaster are you on?

00:29:39.403 --> 00:29:43.305
I used to be on one that was to the tops, to the bottoms.

00:29:43.525 --> 00:30:03.096
Now it's kind of like like this OK, small waves instead of crazy, crazy, you know, and that's life, Like you say, the life experiences, you know.

00:30:03.096 --> 00:30:05.285
I've heard something, you know, it's a passage that say you know, I'm content in whatever situation I be in.

00:30:05.285 --> 00:30:05.787
You know what I'm saying.

00:30:05.787 --> 00:30:29.461
Whether I'm up or down, you know, or based or bound, I've learned to be content wherever I'm at, Because if I get too high on some things, you know, or I start thinking of myself too highly than I ought to and I'm looking down on other folks but not knowing that one day I can be that person, you know that could be me in reverse, as easily, god will kick the leg right out from under you.

00:30:30.211 --> 00:30:31.134
Hey, you know.

00:30:31.134 --> 00:30:33.821
So yeah, man, that's interesting.

00:30:33.821 --> 00:30:36.532
So a couple more things I'd like to ask you.

00:30:36.532 --> 00:30:37.953
So a couple of month days.

00:30:37.953 --> 00:30:41.758
I'd like to ask you the live, incredibly, for every day.

00:30:41.758 --> 00:30:45.240
You know the acronym IAOFI.

00:30:45.240 --> 00:30:47.623
How did you come up with that, like what you know, sam?

00:30:47.623 --> 00:30:49.444
What was the concept we're coming up with that?

00:30:49.684 --> 00:30:51.186
Great question, great question, cj.

00:30:51.186 --> 00:31:01.380
So here I am, I graduate from coaching and I get my certification because I paid off my bill and I become a divorce recovery coach.

00:31:01.380 --> 00:31:03.525
Makes sense, yeah.

00:31:03.525 --> 00:31:06.218
I just came through a divorce and the coaching helped me get through it.

00:31:06.218 --> 00:31:07.101
God was smart.

00:31:07.101 --> 00:31:10.961
He put me into the coaching course at the same time I was going through my divorce.

00:31:12.049 --> 00:31:17.478
He had a plan, even though I didn't realize that it was his plan, but now I know it's his plan, yeah, yeah.

00:31:18.030 --> 00:31:25.998
And it got me through that divorce and it got me to understand that I needed to fix my emotional rollercoaster and I wanted to pass it on to others.

00:31:25.998 --> 00:31:41.212
And I did that for a few years and even then I still wasn't making a lot of money and I was working a dead-end job, a really dead-end job, and I'd get home every night and I would eat crap and I would not exercise.

00:31:41.212 --> 00:31:48.818
And one day I looked in the mirror and I was the heaviest I ever was in my life and I couldn't even walk up a flight of stairs without breathing heavy.

00:31:48.818 --> 00:31:52.375
And I was like, okay, I got to do something.

00:31:52.394 --> 00:31:54.961
And a friend of mine that I went to coaching school was on Facebook.

00:31:54.961 --> 00:32:00.633
He says you know, I just did this program where it's 30 minutes everyday video in your house.

00:32:00.633 --> 00:32:05.932
I'm like in my house I can wake up early, I don't have to go and buy a membership to a gym.

00:32:05.932 --> 00:32:08.038
I have somebody who I'm going to follow.

00:32:08.038 --> 00:32:17.659
It was called sean t t25, focus, t25 25 minutes and then a couple of minutes of uh, you know, cool down okay.

00:32:18.180 --> 00:32:19.061
I'm like, okay, I'm into it.

00:32:19.061 --> 00:32:23.492
And my friend said to me I'm going to coach you on the side as well, for free.

00:32:23.492 --> 00:32:25.796
Just come in, do it and then we'll talk.

00:32:25.796 --> 00:32:29.174
And in nine months I lost 65 pounds.

00:32:29.174 --> 00:32:39.494
But I also started eating better, reading, better watching better things, getting coached again and my mindset shift.

00:32:39.494 --> 00:32:43.855
And now I liked myself and I loved myself and I started dating again.

00:32:43.855 --> 00:32:46.000
And one day I was doing something.

00:32:46.000 --> 00:32:48.693
I gotta tell you, cj, I'm adhd.

00:32:48.693 --> 00:32:51.862
And somebody told me you should, you should try meditation.

00:32:51.862 --> 00:33:01.580
I'm like, okay, so I got one of those guided app meditations and I was was like for 10 minutes I couldn't even like.

00:33:01.601 --> 00:33:04.684
How do people not think about anything for 10 minutes?

00:33:04.684 --> 00:33:06.154
I couldn't do it.

00:33:06.154 --> 00:33:10.559
One day I'm doing this meditation stuff.

00:33:10.559 --> 00:33:16.837
I got this download of information that I was loving my life and I wanted to show other people to do it too.

00:33:16.837 --> 00:33:25.019
So after this 10 minutes of meditation and out of that I came up with the acronym life.

00:33:25.019 --> 00:33:45.218
I was loving my life and I wanted to show how people, how they can even a bit selfish Meaningful is selfless.

00:33:45.218 --> 00:33:47.336
What are you doing for others?

00:33:47.336 --> 00:33:51.380
What are you doing for the world, for your community, for the person next to you?

00:33:51.380 --> 00:33:57.202
That's when you have your living incredibly full, every day, when you incorporate both of those things in your life.

00:33:57.529 --> 00:33:58.299
Man that's powerful.

00:33:58.299 --> 00:33:59.048
Man that's powerful.

00:33:59.048 --> 00:34:00.414
You know that's powerful.

00:34:00.414 --> 00:34:03.058
Like I say, you know I told you before we came on.

00:34:03.058 --> 00:34:06.681
When I saw that, that you know, caught my attention.

00:34:06.681 --> 00:34:09.719
Like wow, live life incredibly full every day.

00:34:09.719 --> 00:34:13.360
And so you're breaking it down on what it actually means.

00:34:13.360 --> 00:34:16.298
Man, you know there's a couple of things you had said today.

00:34:16.298 --> 00:34:24.635
I'm going to put it to my repertoire, man, and I hope some of y'all that's listening Two, three times give me credit.

00:34:24.635 --> 00:34:26.643
After that it's yours.

00:34:26.643 --> 00:34:30.998
So a couple more questions before we leave.

00:34:30.998 --> 00:34:34.277
Man, so, what motivates you?

00:34:34.277 --> 00:34:40.351
You know you say you get up every morning and you know you jot down three things that you're grateful for.

00:34:40.351 --> 00:34:46.190
So, like, what motivates you to and what drives you when you wake up in the morning?

00:34:46.190 --> 00:34:52.070
Is it relationships, is it money, is it success, or is it something you know totally different?

00:34:52.110 --> 00:34:57.251
Well, first thing is I got to say you know, I told you I started dating again as I was going through that process.

00:34:57.251 --> 00:35:08.902
And I go out on these dates and I come from a small Jewish community in Brooklyn, yeah so, and I get a call one day from a woman saying are you ready to start dating?

00:35:08.902 --> 00:35:11.759
And I'm like Kelly, I know you forever, You're married.

00:35:11.759 --> 00:35:17.021
She goes no, no, no, no, I'm your matchmaker, Matchmaker.

00:35:17.021 --> 00:35:17.442
What is this?

00:35:17.442 --> 00:35:19.514
I start singing matchmaker, matchmaker.

00:35:19.514 --> 00:35:19.954
What is?

00:35:19.976 --> 00:35:20.797
this Fiddler on the loose.

00:35:20.797 --> 00:35:21.438
Should I start singing?

00:35:21.458 --> 00:35:23.262
matchmaker matchmaker, make me a match.

00:35:23.262 --> 00:35:29.733
Yeah, keep it on the down low, but we're here to help the single people find a match, okay.

00:35:29.753 --> 00:35:32.476
I'm like all right, and she starts setting me up on dates.

00:35:32.476 --> 00:35:42.822
I'm going out on these dates and when I'm on these dates, I take the things I learned from coaching like values and I understand now what values really are.

00:35:42.822 --> 00:35:57.030
And I realized in my first marriage our values were never aligned and we were in a codependent relationship for 25 years and then he know.

00:35:57.030 --> 00:35:57.510
You know what it was.

00:35:57.510 --> 00:35:58.351
So I'm not going to do that again.

00:35:58.371 --> 00:36:02.875
I'm not marrying the same woman in a different body and I go out on these days and one day she called me up.

00:36:02.875 --> 00:36:04.615
This is two, three, four years into it.

00:36:04.615 --> 00:36:07.077
She goes you got to take out this woman.

00:36:07.077 --> 00:36:15.123
She starts explaining to me I'm like, okay, great, if you tell me I'm going to go out with her and she's checking off all the boxes Next day, checking off all the boxes.

00:36:15.123 --> 00:36:24.235
A month later I turned to her I said I got to tell you something and I don't have to hear it from you, but I'm falling in love with you because I love who you are and that I love you.

00:36:24.235 --> 00:36:26.155
See me as I am and you're not trying to change me.

00:36:26.155 --> 00:36:28.074
Well, ps.

00:36:28.074 --> 00:36:30.936
Two years later we got married and we've been married for almost six years now.

00:36:31.030 --> 00:36:32.817
Wow, congratulations, man.

00:36:32.817 --> 00:36:33.358
Thank you.

00:36:33.358 --> 00:36:44.038
All, all that came from as she hears stories about the old me, she's like I don't want to know that guy.

00:36:44.038 --> 00:36:44.938
So let me ask you a question.

00:36:44.938 --> 00:36:56.398
So I know a lot of times we change and you know we put that flesh up under and so, but our personalities that you know say what's in us is just in us.

00:36:56.398 --> 00:36:57.802
So do sometimes the old Martin.

00:36:57.802 --> 00:36:59.067
Do we show up?

00:36:59.067 --> 00:37:02.757
Sometimes you got to like chill, martin, chill.

00:37:03.659 --> 00:37:09.481
Yeah, he does, but I got to say where it used to be 95% of the time that old Martin shows up.

00:37:09.481 --> 00:37:12.177
Now it's less than 5%.

00:37:12.177 --> 00:37:16.300
Okay, and when he does show up, I check on myself.

00:37:16.300 --> 00:37:18.936
I say why is that guy showing up?

00:37:18.936 --> 00:37:24.255
What's going on and what do I need to do to get me back to who I really want to be?

00:37:24.255 --> 00:37:38.050
Okay, and it's part of one of the things I teach in my course, in my book it's having the emotional strength, building the emotional strength, and I mentioned to you one of the things I did is I came up with from my book a card deck.

00:37:38.251 --> 00:37:38.512
Yeah.

00:37:39.112 --> 00:37:40.094
Right and in.

00:37:40.094 --> 00:37:42.958
There is a card on this and it's about understanding.

00:37:42.958 --> 00:37:47.945
Is your emotions controlling you or are you controlling your?

00:37:48.005 --> 00:37:48.485
emotions.

00:37:48.485 --> 00:37:51.213
Okay, right, that's fitting.

00:37:52.014 --> 00:37:56.559
Yeah, and it's about recognizing there's a difference between emotions and feelings.

00:37:56.559 --> 00:38:00.246
Emotion is that thing that comes right away.

00:38:00.246 --> 00:38:02.331
I'm angry.

00:38:02.331 --> 00:38:04.713
Okay, what kind of anger are you?

00:38:04.713 --> 00:38:10.480
Are you pissed off, are you enraged or are you just a little ticked off?

00:38:10.519 --> 00:38:11.922
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:38:12.081 --> 00:38:19.192
And now, when you start to put words to it, then you go to the next level and say why am I feeling this?

00:38:19.192 --> 00:38:25.260
You know, basically, put yourself on trial and cross-examine why are you feeling this way?

00:38:25.260 --> 00:38:26.802
Did that person hurt me?

00:38:26.802 --> 00:38:27.570
Did they help me?

00:38:27.570 --> 00:38:28.813
What's going on?

00:38:28.813 --> 00:38:32.382
And then the last thing is what am I going to do to get out of this?

00:38:32.382 --> 00:38:35.617
Am I going to react or am I going to respond?

00:38:35.617 --> 00:38:41.494
And if I react, that's thinking first and shooting first and thinking later, asking questions.

00:38:41.494 --> 00:38:45.425
But if you know, in a metaphor, if you shoot first and ask questions later, you're dead.

00:38:46.050 --> 00:38:46.931
Yeah, exactly yeah.

00:38:46.931 --> 00:38:53.556
It's hard to talk from there.

00:38:54.811 --> 00:38:57.739
It's hard to talk to the dead Metaphorically.

00:38:57.739 --> 00:39:03.436
If you beat them up and you start yelling at them, even verbally, they're going to shut down.

00:39:03.436 --> 00:39:04.510
They're not going to want to talk to you.

00:39:04.510 --> 00:39:07.302
When you calm down, why should I talk to you?

00:39:07.302 --> 00:39:08.228
You're just going to yell again.

00:39:08.228 --> 00:39:09.809
So it's about.

00:39:09.809 --> 00:39:15.929
But it takes time and it takes shifting and understanding that you do it once, it's okay.

00:39:15.929 --> 00:39:17.119
You do it twice, it's alright.

00:39:17.119 --> 00:39:20.557
But it needs to build on it and that's building that emotional strength.

00:39:20.978 --> 00:39:23.798
Okay, I mean, it makes perfect sense.

00:39:23.798 --> 00:39:37.076
You know, like you say, part of it taking accountability, working on yourself, and then you know, then, after you do that and put all the pieces together, then you can start helping others as you do.

00:39:37.076 --> 00:39:49.449
So my last question is you know, before I let you go, Michael, I really enjoyed you, man, you are hilarious.

00:39:52.469 --> 00:39:55.320
So what are some of the goals you're pursuing and what can we expect from Martin Salama in the near future?

00:39:55.320 --> 00:40:13.186
So one of the goals I'm pursuing is getting my message out to as many people as possible about living incredibly full every day, because I honestly believe, if you understand the power of appreciation, gratitude and the power of a smile and making somebody laugh, that's the start of it.

00:40:13.186 --> 00:40:15.918
You shift that mindset from lack to abundance.

00:40:15.918 --> 00:40:26.858
Shift that mindset from lack to abundance, and then what's on the horizon for me is building even more of this program that I've got out there to help a lot of those coaches out there who've got some great things that they want to help people with.

00:40:26.858 --> 00:40:29.932
They want to make an impact, but they also want to make money.

00:40:30.554 --> 00:40:35.253
You know, let's not fool ourselves, it's not just about one or the other, it's both.

00:40:35.253 --> 00:40:39.061
But if you say I want to make a million dollars, it's not going to happen.

00:40:39.061 --> 00:40:46.773
But you say I want to impact millions of people and make money along the way, that's a better way to do it.

00:40:46.773 --> 00:40:48.271
So that's where I'm coming from.

00:40:48.271 --> 00:40:51.916
I want to help people and make an impact and that's what this program does.

00:40:51.916 --> 00:40:58.445
And if anybody wants to find out more about me, my books or whatever, they can go to connectwithmartincom.

00:40:58.847 --> 00:40:59.469
Connect with me.

00:40:59.469 --> 00:41:00.253
Okay.

00:41:00.253 --> 00:41:03.096
How about any of your other social media handles?

00:41:03.096 --> 00:41:04.432
Are you on Facebook?

00:41:04.432 --> 00:41:05.094
Yeah, you go there.

00:41:05.115 --> 00:41:05.677
You can find it.

00:41:05.677 --> 00:41:09.034
But you can basically look for the Warriors Life Code on Instagram on.

00:41:09.034 --> 00:41:10.900
I just started a TikTok page.

00:41:10.900 --> 00:41:12.976
I don't know what I'm doing there.

00:41:15.637 --> 00:41:17.282
I'm not doing the dancing.

00:41:17.282 --> 00:41:19.016
I'll do the dancing.

00:41:19.016 --> 00:41:21.246
I don't do the dancing either.

00:41:21.246 --> 00:41:26.141
Well, mark man, it's been a pleasure having you on the show.

00:41:26.141 --> 00:41:28.693
You know you come back anytime.

00:41:28.693 --> 00:41:32.202
Any of your other future projects that you're working on, man.

00:41:32.202 --> 00:41:36.201
If you want to come back on the show, man, and promote them, I'd be more than welcome.

00:41:36.201 --> 00:41:38.318
I'd be more than honored to have you on.

00:41:38.318 --> 00:41:39.141
Thank you so much.

00:41:39.141 --> 00:41:39.963
So, hey, I want you to than welcome.

00:41:39.963 --> 00:41:41.148
I'd be more than honored to have you on.

00:41:41.148 --> 00:41:41.610
Thank you so much.

00:41:41.610 --> 00:41:43.262
So, hey, I want you to stay on for a second, mark.

00:41:43.282 --> 00:41:47.494
Hey, you have been listening to the CJ Moneyway Show with my man, martin Salama.

00:41:47.494 --> 00:41:48.655
Hey, check it out.

00:41:48.655 --> 00:41:52.692
Peace, hey, man, I really enjoyed you, mark man, funny.

00:41:52.692 --> 00:41:54.418
Thank you, I had a lot of fun, man.

00:41:54.418 --> 00:41:56.268
Hey man, you're funny.

00:41:56.268 --> 00:41:57.793
Hey, man, you're funny.

00:41:57.793 --> 00:41:58.494
So, yeah, you know.

00:41:58.494 --> 00:42:04.391
So, like I say, when I get ready to put it out, man, I'll send you some clips.

00:42:04.391 --> 00:42:05.934
Like I say, however, you can take it.

00:42:05.934 --> 00:42:08.516
If you got Dropbox, I can send you the full clips.

00:42:08.516 --> 00:42:11.039
If you got a way, I can send you the full clips.

00:42:11.079 --> 00:42:12.061
I'll ask him about that.

00:42:12.061 --> 00:42:13.583
There's probably.

00:42:13.583 --> 00:42:15.806
I have a couple of people that work with me that do that stuff.

00:42:15.806 --> 00:42:18.014
Okay, so listen CJ a couple of people that work with me that thought that stuff okay.

00:42:18.014 --> 00:42:21.322
So listen, cj, if you know anybody that might be interested in learning more about my course.

00:42:21.322 --> 00:42:26.436
You know this, this program that I put together okay let me know, you know.

00:42:26.456 --> 00:42:34.847
If you know people who are looking to create a seven-figure profitable business within two years or less hopefully less so far.

00:42:34.847 --> 00:42:39.074
I think I'm going to be on the last part Let me know.

00:42:39.074 --> 00:42:44.583
Maybe yourself or someone you know and you've got a program you put together on angle management, it could fit right in there.

00:42:44.925 --> 00:42:48.911
Yeah, I mean, I'm going to look into it myself.

00:42:48.911 --> 00:42:51.333
I tell you what why don't you send me a link?

00:42:51.333 --> 00:42:52.896
Send me a link.

00:42:52.896 --> 00:43:04.206
So whatever I put out, whether it's on social media or, you know, my podcast notes or whatever, I'll be sure to drop it in on whatever I do.

00:43:06.389 --> 00:43:06.831
And you know what?

00:43:06.831 --> 00:43:07.755
We'll make it an affiliate link.

00:43:07.755 --> 00:43:12.978
So this way, anybody that gets involved, if they sign up through your link, right, you'll get a commission.

00:43:13.411 --> 00:43:19.117
Oh man, I appreciate that, you know 20% of a 2012,500.

00:43:19.117 --> 00:43:22.940
Hey, that will work, that will work.

00:43:23.041 --> 00:43:26.038
To get you to a million dollars costs 100,000.

00:43:26.038 --> 00:43:29.849
Right, but I'm not looking for the 100,000 up front, I'm looking for 12,500.

00:43:29.849 --> 00:43:35.235
And then the next money comes when they start to do the work, and we work together and it starts happening.

00:43:35.516 --> 00:43:35.797
Okay.

00:43:36.090 --> 00:43:38.297
Right, because you don't want to pay for information.

00:43:38.297 --> 00:43:41.347
You want to pay for information, you want to pay for results Okay, so that's where.

00:43:41.367 --> 00:43:41.909
I'm coming from.

00:43:41.909 --> 00:43:44.751
So yeah, I'll definitely take care of that.

00:43:44.751 --> 00:43:49.934
Yeah, so send me the links, send me your email address so I can keep you up with all things.

00:43:49.934 --> 00:43:53.235
Money Way, I'll let you know when it's coming down.

00:43:53.235 --> 00:43:59.400
Hey, and probably, man, hopefully in the near future, man, I can come to New York and we'll go to a Knicks game.

00:43:59.400 --> 00:44:05.384
Man, or it got to be Knicks and the Lakers or a Yankees game.

00:44:05.384 --> 00:44:07.724
Now, I've never been to a Yankees game, man.

00:44:08.164 --> 00:44:09.887
Oh, it's something good, yeah.

00:44:09.887 --> 00:44:10.987
Yankee Red Sox game.

00:44:11.568 --> 00:44:13.811
Oh, man, ooh, I mean I could.

00:44:13.811 --> 00:44:19.206
Hey, my heart was broke when they came, when they was up 3-0 and lost that and lost four straight to them.

00:44:19.206 --> 00:44:22.036
Boys, man, that was crazy, oh, that was crazy.

00:44:22.471 --> 00:44:32.936
I got to tell you that Juan Soto is looking pretty good for the Yankees hey hey, from the first day when he, you know, from left field or whatever and shot him at the home plate.

00:44:32.936 --> 00:44:34.070
Yeah, you know.

00:44:34.070 --> 00:44:35.213
Hey, they like.

00:44:35.213 --> 00:44:37.496
Hey, that's what we need right there.

00:44:37.496 --> 00:44:43.326
Plus, he brings a different type of energy, like you know, like yourself energy.

00:44:43.326 --> 00:44:46.177
He just didn't fit with the Padres man.

00:44:46.177 --> 00:44:46.980
You know what I'm saying.

00:44:48.552 --> 00:44:49.918
He's got good mentors around him.

00:44:49.918 --> 00:44:53.400
Guys like Aaron Judge could be a good guy.

00:44:53.400 --> 00:44:56.269
If Giancarlo could get his head straight, we'll even be better.

00:44:56.349 --> 00:44:58.653
Man, if that, hey, man, they line up.

00:44:58.653 --> 00:44:59.956
I was watching them the other day.

00:44:59.956 --> 00:45:07.375
I'm like man, look at that lineup that they got to go against Teams, got to go against you got the what's the name?

00:45:07.375 --> 00:45:09.440
That came from the Cub, the first baseman.

00:45:10.853 --> 00:45:11.474
Oh Rizzo.

00:45:11.615 --> 00:45:13.393
Rizzo, you know, you got Rizzo.

00:45:13.393 --> 00:45:16.309
Judge Santa, you got Soto.

00:45:16.309 --> 00:45:25.231
I mean, I'm like, man, they got a heck of a lineup that you got to go through, but our pitching needs to stay steady too, man.

00:45:25.231 --> 00:45:29.072
That's what always be our downfall in the postseason is our pitching.

00:45:29.072 --> 00:45:30.032
Yeah, absolutely.

00:45:30.032 --> 00:45:32.693
But, mark man, I really enjoyed you.

00:45:32.693 --> 00:45:44.896
Man, like I say, stay in touch, send me the affiliate, send me the link, man, I'll be sure to put it on everything that I put out, man, from here on out, and I wish you great success in everything that you do, man.

00:45:44.896 --> 00:45:45.536
Thank you, sir.

00:45:45.536 --> 00:45:46.376
Have a great day.

00:45:46.376 --> 00:45:47.277
All right, you too, man.

00:45:47.277 --> 00:45:52.458
Bye-bye, yeah, thank you.