We’ve all been there, caught in the moment of where a dream dies. It’s especially painful when you’ve put a lot of effort into what you were doing, made more so by how long you’ve held this particular dream.
The temptation when this kind of disaster ...
We’ve all been there, caught in the moment of where a dream dies. It’s especially painful when you’ve put a lot of effort into what you were doing, made more so by how long you’ve held this particular dream.
The temptation when this kind of disaster hits is to quit entirely. After all, why keep trying to put yourself out there? It might happen again. Or maybe worse will come of it. Might. Maybe….
The problem with living in the future is that none of us are great at predicting just what’s coming next. Of course, if we were, we would never have failed in the first place. Your better option, the one thing you should be focusing on, is to find your resolve, now, when it matters most.
In this episode you will learn 5 things you can do to reset when bad things happen to your dreams…
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1 00:00:00,750 --> 00:00:01,920 We've all been there, right? 2 00:00:02,070 --> 00:00:04,860 Caught in that moment of where a dream dies. 3 00:00:05,280 --> 00:00:08,430 It's especially painful when you put a lot of effort into what you were doing, 4 00:00:09,060 --> 00:00:14,310 maybe made more so by how long you've been at or help onto this particular dream. 5 00:00:15,240 --> 00:00:18,780 The temptation with this kind of disaster hits when this kind of 6 00:00:18,780 --> 00:00:20,550 disaster hits is to quit entirely. 7 00:00:21,360 --> 00:00:23,940 After all, why keep trying to put yourself out there? 8 00:00:24,000 --> 00:00:28,440 It might happen again, or maybe worse will come, might maybe. 9 00:00:29,450 --> 00:00:33,255 , we, we start to live in that horrible space of what if. 10 00:00:34,455 --> 00:00:37,815 Well, guys, on this episode of the Fallible Man podcast, I wanna share 11 00:00:37,815 --> 00:00:40,875 with you five ways to pull yourself up after our dream has crashed 12 00:00:40,875 --> 00:00:44,175 and burned because I've been there and I think this might help you. 13 00:00:44,175 --> 00:00:45,015 So let's get into it. 14 00:00:47,325 --> 00:00:48,915 Here's the million dollar question. 15 00:00:49,425 --> 00:00:52,935 How do men like us reach our full potential and grow into the men 16 00:00:52,935 --> 00:00:56,325 we dream of being while taking care of our responsibilities, 17 00:00:56,625 --> 00:00:58,425 working, being good husband. 18 00:00:58,830 --> 00:01:01,890 Fathers and still take care of ourselves. 19 00:01:02,790 --> 00:01:04,470 That's the question in this podcast. 20 00:01:04,800 --> 00:01:06,090 We'll help you with those answers. 21 00:01:06,090 --> 00:01:09,360 My name is Brent and welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 22 00:01:10,380 --> 00:01:11,789 Welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 23 00:01:11,789 --> 00:01:13,770 You're home for all things, man, husband, and father. 24 00:01:14,130 --> 00:01:15,600 Big shout out to the fallible nation. 25 00:01:15,600 --> 00:01:18,900 You guys keep us making shows like this and a warm welcome to our first time. 26 00:01:18,900 --> 00:01:19,140 Listen. 27 00:01:19,905 --> 00:01:21,854 My name is Brent and I am the fallible man. 28 00:01:22,785 --> 00:01:24,914 You see the problem with living in the future, right? 29 00:01:24,914 --> 00:01:29,115 With the maybe if, uh, my, it could have, right? 30 00:01:30,044 --> 00:01:33,315 It's none of us are great at predicting just what's coming next. 31 00:01:34,005 --> 00:01:37,274 Of course, if we were, we would have never failed in the first place. 32 00:01:37,274 --> 00:01:39,884 So obviously we should already know this. 33 00:01:40,395 --> 00:01:41,065 Your better. 34 00:01:41,804 --> 00:01:45,524 The one thing you should be focusing on, focusing on, I can say the word 35 00:01:45,524 --> 00:01:47,774 focusing is to find your resolve. 36 00:01:47,955 --> 00:01:52,515 Now when it matters most, how? 37 00:01:52,634 --> 00:01:55,125 Well, let's try these simple tips. 38 00:01:56,085 --> 00:01:59,235 I know this is gonna sound weird for me, but start with optimism. 39 00:01:59,955 --> 00:02:03,975 Having the right attitude will help you find your enthusiasm 40 00:02:04,515 --> 00:02:06,345 that can restart the process. 41 00:02:07,260 --> 00:02:10,289 You're especially gonna need this if you're feeling discouraged by 42 00:02:10,289 --> 00:02:11,800 how things turned out previously. 43 00:02:14,790 --> 00:02:17,670 And like I said, it even sounds weird coming outta my own mouth because 44 00:02:17,670 --> 00:02:19,410 I am a pessimist by nature guys. 45 00:02:20,190 --> 00:02:24,630 But I promise you start with optimism and it will change your 46 00:02:24,630 --> 00:02:28,710 perspective and your outlook and help you through this difficult time. 47 00:02:29,610 --> 00:02:31,530 I know it's hard to be glass half. 48 00:02:32,700 --> 00:02:35,040 When you've just had things you've been working on for 49 00:02:35,040 --> 00:02:36,450 a long time, crash and burn. 50 00:02:37,350 --> 00:02:43,200 But I promise you, if you lean into some optimism, it'll be a whole lot easier to 51 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:45,840 refocus, readjust, and start going again. 52 00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:50,070 The second one I want you to consider is define the takeaway 53 00:02:50,070 --> 00:02:51,120 from what just happened. 54 00:02:51,870 --> 00:02:56,730 You know, I'm a big advocate for examining anything and taking away 55 00:02:56,730 --> 00:02:58,230 as much information as you can. 56 00:02:58,560 --> 00:03:00,489 So what can you learn from this situ? 57 00:03:01,680 --> 00:03:05,700 by accepting the failure and taking the experience away from it. 58 00:03:06,720 --> 00:03:10,320 What can you gain knowledge wise? 59 00:03:11,460 --> 00:03:13,950 I mean, you can gain a much needed perspective. 60 00:03:14,550 --> 00:03:17,790 You can recognize how things win to skew, right? 61 00:03:18,269 --> 00:03:22,829 It's easier to let go of what happened so you can grab onto what 62 00:03:22,829 --> 00:03:25,140 comes next when you can look back at. 63 00:03:26,175 --> 00:03:31,305 The takeaways and the lessons you can pull out of it and start to 64 00:03:31,705 --> 00:03:36,075 actually pinpoint the, the chinks in the armor, the flaws so that you 65 00:03:36,080 --> 00:03:37,935 don't make those flaws again, right? 66 00:03:37,940 --> 00:03:39,315 So you don't make those mistakes. 67 00:03:39,705 --> 00:03:40,455 So give the world. 68 00:03:40,980 --> 00:03:42,080 Find the takeaway. 69 00:03:42,085 --> 00:03:44,040 What can you learn from what just happened? 70 00:03:44,040 --> 00:03:46,890 One thing I usually don't share is how impactful the podcast 71 00:03:46,890 --> 00:03:47,970 has been for me personally. 72 00:03:48,600 --> 00:03:51,630 There's a lot I love and appreciate because I have the podcast. 73 00:03:51,960 --> 00:03:54,180 I become somebody who can approach people easier. 74 00:03:54,210 --> 00:03:56,610 I have a better network of people to call upon when I need 'em. 75 00:03:57,030 --> 00:04:00,750 I get to meet new people all the time, from all walks of life and all over the 76 00:04:00,750 --> 00:04:02,730 globe, and connect with 'em at a deeper. 77 00:04:03,825 --> 00:04:05,475 I have a voice to do what I love. 78 00:04:05,984 --> 00:04:09,584 I'm always put into situations where I'm having to stretch and learn something new. 79 00:04:09,915 --> 00:04:12,584 I've really grown as a person and a professional since I started doing 80 00:04:12,584 --> 00:04:16,454 my podcast, and that was even before my show really started growing. 81 00:04:17,385 --> 00:04:20,685 I hired a company called Grow Your Show, who's our sponsor, by the way, 82 00:04:21,284 --> 00:04:22,545 and I wanted to share them with you. 83 00:04:23,025 --> 00:04:25,914 The owner, Adam, has one of the very best podcasts for teaching 84 00:04:25,914 --> 00:04:27,164 you how to be a podcaster. 85 00:04:27,615 --> 00:04:29,175 I honestly wish I had found it sooner. 86 00:04:29,880 --> 00:04:33,060 One thing that they've done to help me is to bring me to a much larger 87 00:04:33,060 --> 00:04:36,240 listener base so that my voice is being heard around the world. 88 00:04:36,750 --> 00:04:40,200 There's a good chance, in fact that they helped us connect, but they 89 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:42,150 also do editing and post-production. 90 00:04:42,690 --> 00:04:46,080 They can even help you launch and start your podcast, which could 91 00:04:46,080 --> 00:04:49,170 really help you in your business or whatever you're trying to achieve. 92 00:04:50,070 --> 00:04:51,750 So I just wanted to give them a quick shout out. 93 00:04:51,840 --> 00:04:55,560 I love to share great people and companies that I believe in, that I use person. 94 00:04:56,594 --> 00:04:59,294 So that's Grow Your show@growyourshow.com. 95 00:04:59,625 --> 00:05:03,015 I have a link in the show notes and if you have a podcast or you wanna start 96 00:05:03,015 --> 00:05:06,315 a podcast or you're thinking about it, just scroll down there, click that 97 00:05:06,315 --> 00:05:08,385 link and go work with my friend Adam. 98 00:05:08,474 --> 00:05:10,125 He's gonna treat you right next try. 99 00:05:10,130 --> 00:05:11,655 Reassessing the original goal. 100 00:05:12,705 --> 00:05:14,265 Is the dream really dead? 101 00:05:15,224 --> 00:05:16,455 Is, is it really? 102 00:05:17,585 --> 00:05:18,614 It might be not. 103 00:05:19,995 --> 00:05:25,275 It might be, might not be , you might find out you only needed to adjust the 104 00:05:25,275 --> 00:05:31,395 vision somewhat to make it more workable if you start something entirely new. 105 00:05:31,395 --> 00:05:35,775 Is there anything you can take from the original goal that might 106 00:05:35,775 --> 00:05:37,035 serve this new purpose you have? 107 00:05:39,135 --> 00:05:42,195 You know, sometimes we have a habit of passing judgment too. 108 00:05:44,085 --> 00:05:48,755 It, it, I, I joke cuz my kids like to laugh about, you know, they, 109 00:05:48,760 --> 00:05:50,145 they make the joke from the movie. 110 00:05:50,145 --> 00:05:52,995 It's like, but I'll be like, you gotta do this. 111 00:05:52,995 --> 00:05:57,645 And they're like, but do I really, I mean, right. 112 00:05:58,275 --> 00:05:59,445 Is it really dead? 113 00:06:00,495 --> 00:06:05,745 Did, did it, was it a swing and a miss and you're just winding up for the next swing? 114 00:06:06,075 --> 00:06:07,965 Or, or is it actually gone? 115 00:06:09,450 --> 00:06:10,410 Really analyze it. 116 00:06:10,920 --> 00:06:13,350 You might just need a tweak or two to get you right back on path. 117 00:06:13,530 --> 00:06:18,540 Don't give up so easily leading into become more persistent. 118 00:06:19,290 --> 00:06:24,270 Nothing happens without hard work where huge advocates of just putting your 119 00:06:24,270 --> 00:06:26,370 nose down and putting in the rats here. 120 00:06:27,150 --> 00:06:29,100 So here's where resolve comes into play. 121 00:06:30,180 --> 00:06:33,050 You're going to have to throw yourself into the new project. 122 00:06:34,094 --> 00:06:38,265 Are the new version of the old project and just keep at it. 123 00:06:39,165 --> 00:06:41,475 Remind yourself, why does this matter? 124 00:06:41,475 --> 00:06:42,945 Why am I even doing this? 125 00:06:43,545 --> 00:06:47,565 Dig deep into that why, again, if you're feeling particularly discouraged 126 00:06:47,570 --> 00:06:51,795 by your previous attempts, you might have to force yourself until you can 127 00:06:51,800 --> 00:06:55,425 start to feel a little enthusiasm again, and that's where that why is 128 00:06:55,425 --> 00:06:58,125 really getting to just help strengthen. 129 00:06:58,980 --> 00:07:04,290 You, I, I've always been a big advocate of your why has to be really, really strong. 130 00:07:05,070 --> 00:07:07,110 And this is, this is the why. 131 00:07:07,110 --> 00:07:08,190 The why has to be really strong. 132 00:07:08,190 --> 00:07:08,280 Okay. 133 00:07:08,340 --> 00:07:08,790 That's funny. 134 00:07:08,790 --> 00:07:09,720 I didn't even try to do that. 135 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:12,360 This is why your why has to be really strong. 136 00:07:13,170 --> 00:07:15,630 So guys, just be more persistent with it. 137 00:07:16,740 --> 00:07:17,520 Dig deep into that. 138 00:07:17,525 --> 00:07:19,800 Why don't, don't give up. 139 00:07:20,440 --> 00:07:22,120 You, you can, you can roll through this one. 140 00:07:23,610 --> 00:07:24,900 And the last thing is jump. 141 00:07:26,489 --> 00:07:26,565 , right? 142 00:07:26,594 --> 00:07:28,155 I'm an all or nothing kind of person. 143 00:07:28,155 --> 00:07:31,635 Like I'm really notoriously bad about jumping in headfirst way 144 00:07:31,635 --> 00:07:33,825 over my head long before I'm ready. 145 00:07:34,125 --> 00:07:35,054 It might be a fault. 146 00:07:35,054 --> 00:07:36,044 It might be a blessing. 147 00:07:36,049 --> 00:07:36,674 It's been both. 148 00:07:36,674 --> 00:07:40,484 Sometimes give yourself a day or two to mourn the previous disaster, 149 00:07:40,484 --> 00:07:41,655 if that's what you really need. 150 00:07:41,984 --> 00:07:45,315 It's not gonna help, but you know, just saying if that's what you really 151 00:07:45,315 --> 00:07:47,534 need, then get started on the next try. 152 00:07:48,435 --> 00:07:50,594 Round two baby, jump right back into it. 153 00:07:50,594 --> 00:07:50,924 Right? 154 00:07:50,984 --> 00:07:53,174 They talk about getting back on the horse or back on the bike 155 00:07:53,174 --> 00:07:54,224 or whatever you like to ride. 156 00:07:55,125 --> 00:07:56,055 Now all this mind. 157 00:07:56,055 --> 00:07:57,075 Remember one more thing. 158 00:07:57,645 --> 00:08:01,275 Your disaster might not be the tragedy you initially thought it was. 159 00:08:02,145 --> 00:08:08,205 And even if you did have to readjust your goal, you're better for the experience. 160 00:08:08,505 --> 00:08:11,115 So as the song says, pull yourself up, dust yourself 161 00:08:11,120 --> 00:08:12,885 off, and start all over again. 162 00:08:12,975 --> 00:08:13,395 Why? 163 00:08:13,575 --> 00:08:16,185 Because your dreams really do matter. 164 00:08:18,555 --> 00:08:21,145 Guys, give these a chance now. 165 00:08:22,410 --> 00:08:25,740 I know as the pessimist this, this sounds funny, but this is, 166 00:08:25,740 --> 00:08:26,910 this is the tale of my life. 167 00:08:28,080 --> 00:08:28,800 Crash and burn. 168 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:29,430 Crash and burn. 169 00:08:29,430 --> 00:08:29,940 Try it again. 170 00:08:29,940 --> 00:08:30,450 Try it again. 171 00:08:30,450 --> 00:08:30,690 Guys. 172 00:08:30,690 --> 00:08:34,200 I've failed more times than I've ever succeeded in anything, and I 173 00:08:34,200 --> 00:08:37,950 think you're gonna find that with most people who are honest, right? 174 00:08:37,955 --> 00:08:41,670 We, we knock ourselves out over and over and over again until we get it right. 175 00:08:42,930 --> 00:08:44,190 That goes a long way. 176 00:08:44,190 --> 00:08:45,450 You have that resolved. 177 00:08:45,540 --> 00:08:49,800 If you really are passionate about doing, it's why yours White has to be strong and. 178 00:08:51,135 --> 00:08:55,574 Five or six steps will help you just jump into that next iteration, 179 00:08:55,574 --> 00:08:59,204 get back on that horse and get going again and chase your dreams. 180 00:09:00,495 --> 00:09:02,954 Guys, it's Friday, so I wanna share our user review. 181 00:09:03,435 --> 00:09:06,765 Uh, I'm so just blown away when you guys do these things for, 182 00:09:06,795 --> 00:09:08,925 with us and share your thoughts. 183 00:09:09,344 --> 00:09:12,795 Joe Ryder wrote Five Star Review, great content. 184 00:09:13,305 --> 00:09:13,604 Great. 185 00:09:14,640 --> 00:09:17,490 Fa, fascinating topics I can't read today. 186 00:09:17,490 --> 00:09:19,050 Sorry, it's a little print on my screen. 187 00:09:19,350 --> 00:09:22,350 The fat man addresses everything from strong marriages to 188 00:09:22,350 --> 00:09:23,490 drug abuse and addiction. 189 00:09:23,850 --> 00:09:26,940 I'm a man who has a strong marriage, three brave sons, and a constant 190 00:09:26,940 --> 00:09:28,380 struggle with an addictive pattern. 191 00:09:29,310 --> 00:09:32,160 While I don't connect with all the meth methods the guests speak 192 00:09:32,160 --> 00:09:36,150 about, I'm deeply grateful for the work of men who help other men. 193 00:09:36,450 --> 00:09:38,760 Collaboration is always the foundation of victory. 194 00:09:39,300 --> 00:09:40,950 Thank you so much, Joe Rider. 195 00:09:40,955 --> 00:09:45,150 I am so grateful when you guys share your thoughts and feelings with us. 196 00:09:45,510 --> 00:09:48,530 It helps us to get in front of more people and touch more life. 197 00:09:48,720 --> 00:09:49,800 So thank you for that. 198 00:09:50,250 --> 00:09:56,010 And guys, if you are needed some help to conquer your goals, to build plans, 199 00:09:56,010 --> 00:10:03,610 to seek your life that you want, Then reach out at www.foulman.com/coaching. 200 00:10:03,840 --> 00:10:05,190 Schedule a discovery call with me. 201 00:10:05,190 --> 00:10:11,310 Let's talk about how to help you make that next step, guys, just that one next step. 202 00:10:12,210 --> 00:10:13,980 I don't do long coaching sessions. 203 00:10:13,980 --> 00:10:15,390 I do six or eight week sessions. 204 00:10:15,390 --> 00:10:19,620 I help you overcome whatever that hurdle is that is in your way, right? 205 00:10:21,165 --> 00:10:24,135 And then you're, you're out on your own again, unless you really want to go 206 00:10:24,135 --> 00:10:26,954 crazy, the guys, I wanna see you succeed. 207 00:10:26,954 --> 00:10:27,795 I believe in you. 208 00:10:27,795 --> 00:10:29,114 The world needs you. 209 00:10:30,255 --> 00:10:31,214 Thanks for listening, guys. 210 00:10:31,214 --> 00:10:32,505 I love it that you spend time with us. 211 00:10:32,714 --> 00:10:35,685 Be better tomorrow because what you do today, and we'll see you on the next one. 212 00:10:36,494 --> 00:10:38,925 This has been the Fellow Man podcast. 213 00:10:39,555 --> 00:10:42,944 Your home for everything, man, husband, and father. 214 00:10:43,694 --> 00:10:46,035 Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss a show. 215 00:10:46,875 --> 00:10:48,925 Head over to www. 216 00:10:49,275 --> 00:10:54,704 The Fallible man.com for more content and get your own Fallible man gear.
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